How do you stop needing external validation?
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>>17355942
It comes from the realization that what you want already lies within
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>>17355944
I want to stop needing external validation.
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>>17355942
By working on your penmanship.
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Yo so this chick like I was talking then I stoped because well things got confusing, and I'm pretty sure she wants to steal my virgin seed I need help 4chan please...
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>>17355932
Stop bitching.
Ask her if she wants to hang out.
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Wow look at this robot, "steal virgin seed"... ANON FUCKING LET HER TAKE THAT SHIT NO ONE WILL THINK YOU'RE SPECIAL IF YOU'RE STILL A FUCKING VIRGIN!!!!
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Dubs says I say this.
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Should I tell my gf that one of her best friends kissed my neck at her friend's party?
>Been with gf around six months
>We both live away from 'home'
>It's her friend's birthday party, so she decided it would be a good time to introduce me to all her friends
>Everyone was drunk and my gf left me to meet people myself whilst she caught up with others
>Got talking to her best friend
>She's very smiley, chatty, and touchy
>Suddenly kisses me on my neck (her head level)
>I can't believe what just happened
>"Ha, I should go and find my gf" I say
>Go find her and stick with her
>See best friend later - both of us act like nothing happened
This was in an open space with other friends of my gf around, so hardly hidden... But it's been five days and clearly no one has told my gf. It happened so quick and people were so drunk, I wonder if no one even noticed
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she may have just been drunk and had no idea what she was doing.
does she even remember that this happened? If she does it again, i would say tell your gf.
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>>17355894
I haven't talked to her friend since... And we're back in the city now, so I'm not likely to for a long time
I'm sure that was the case... I mean it was in a room full of people and I was clearly the 'new guy'
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your gf probably just cucked you and fucked a nigger that night while you were chatting with her friends and worring about a little kiss in the neck from a drunk girl
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Anime-phone in public 2016-07-14 09:05:06 Post No.17355860
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How "safe" is it to put an anime girl as my wallpaper for a 19yo male? i.e. Would people judge me for it? I'm currently thinking of putting pic related, although it might change depending on how creative I am with Android ricing.
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This other picture is what I was going to use until I stopped myself and reassessed.
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>>17355860
As long as they're not lewd, you should be fine op. Anime is an interest of yours so no different from having a sports team logo as a background or something like that. Moreover, it's your phone, other people shouldn't have access to it anyway
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>>17355860
People will probably judge you but unless you're trying to get some corporate job or a normie girlfriend then who cares. I used to have them on my phone/computer all the time because they made me happy. Despite judgement, most people won't care and even some girls didn't seem to care.
You should pick a better Saber though.
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Partners with Depression 2016-07-14 09:00:06 Post No.17355858
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So I've recently started going out with a friend, and she revealed fairly nonchalantly that she suffers from a variety of minor physical ailments, as well as clinical depression. She's currently undergoing some medication changes with her doctor, and regularly sees a psych every week.
She's a fun-loving and genuinely friendly person to be around, but she brings up her depression a lot in a joking way and is generally pretty self-deprecating in her humour. There are times when she'll make a joke, and I'm not sure how to react because I'm worried I'll trigger some emotional landmine and deal real damage to her.
Other times, it's obvious that she's hiding genuine sadness or exhaustion under a thin veneer of sarcasm and humour.
Honestly, I just try to be as friendly and supportive as possible, but I'm not sure if I'm supposed to or able to help in any way. It feels like it's out of my hands, but as her partner and friend I feel somewhat responsible for her happiness.
Does anybody else go out with someone who's depressed? How do they feel about it and treat it? Do you treat them any differently because they have it? Do you joke about it?
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I'm depressed and I can tell you that it's not very fun for my boyfriend or me. We seen to be in a similar situation, except that the roles are switched. The best you can do here is to continue to be supportive and tell her that If she's feeling down or needs someone to talk to that you'll be there for her. You can't really do more than that, unfortunately, but it might help her alot.
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>>17355858
Treat her the same and just be available should she find herself at a particularly low point during the day
She's receiving treatment and seems to have insight into her depression, so let that run its course
>I feel somewhat responsible for her happiness
This is probably a bigger issue for you right now. Stop thinking about it this way
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>>17355866
>Stop thinking about it this way
You're right, it's not healthy. I suppose it's more of a reaction to seeing her vulnerable or hurt. Like an instinctual need to make her happy.
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How can you tell the differences of someone disliking you / disliking talking to you, not being very talkative, or legitimately feeling untalkative?
Not really being able to tell triggers my paranoia.
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Austism / asperbergers
You need a therapist, kinda like a body language etc coach
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It's all about context, but sometimes you can just try asking them. There are people out there that think it's too rude to outright say they just don't like you or just don't want to talk, but will jump at the chance to admit it if asked directly because they actually really want you to know the truth.
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>>17355771
I'm sorry, I should have mentioned it's more through textual communication (chats, etc.)
/Int/ was useless.
My friend, t, went to teach English is Dalian, China, A city close to North Korea. He sent our group chat that he's coming home immediately. A friend he was talking to said that he was either being threatened by locals or by authorities, which he seems to suspect the latter. He's mentioned a few times hanging out with hoodlum types to me though, so it's tough which is true.
what further suspects me of it being locals was that he was talking to a different girl who already had a boyfriend but would have made her guy and the new guy fight for her pussy.
however, China is China, so its easy to get abused by authorities. But he's not a trouble maker and keeps to himself politically, so what the hell would they want business with him?
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>>17355760
Sir, I recommend you purchase a tin foil hat and to stop being so fucking weird.
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I'm sorry but what?
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>>17355760
If he's "coming home immediately" why not wait and ask him?
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Is it weird to jack off to Facebook photos of your teachers?
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YES ANON VERY WEIRD. Be a normal guy and jack off to porn wtf
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Yes, but there's not really any harm in it. It's just a better alternative to jacking off thinking about them.
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>>17355693
If thst were me teacher, I might be tempted too.
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Doctor Help! low iron, swollen feet. 2016-07-14 06:51:16 Post No.17355585
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Doctor Help! low iron, swollen feet.
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tell me, doctor my close one has swollen feet, low iron as he didn't eat meat for 1 year or very seldom.
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Doctors don't come here and if someone here says they are a doctor they may be lying. Go see a real doctor.
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doctors do come here.
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>>17355585
I am a doctor and you have aids
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did 4chan fuck me up or did i always have these fucked up thoughts of apathy and despair?
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Depends where you lurk, some threads definitely will fuck you up in ways life wouldn't have.
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You were already fucked up, staying here and wallowing in it isn't helping and is slowly making it worse
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It's more you than anything else.
You are the one seeking out those threads, arent you?
I know what you mean, but it's up to the individual person how someone is affected by the "negativity" around this place.
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Is it a productive use of time to argue with others online about politics?
Why or why not?
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Arguing with other people can help you hone your own ideas, open you up to new perspectives and lead you in logical directions you never considered before. It's called the dialectic.
It's worthwhile doing it because it changes you.
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>>17355513
There's no way possible that talking about politics or religion could lead to something good.
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Sometimes. If there's a healthy back and forth it encourages new ideas and helps you argue existing ones better. On 4chan specifically? That's rather rare in my experience, and I tend to just ignore it.
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Only true if people treat criticism of their ideas as attacks on their character.
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What's the best one/ones you've ever read? Like the one that actually had a huge influence and helped to change your life for the better? Bonus points for emotional trauma stuff (I'm in serious need)
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That thread about the dude who's wife dies after giving birth and his daughter has the same big blue eyes she had. I had the screen shot but lost is. Gets me every time.
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>>17355528
That's hella sad broe, not gonna lie
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>>17355533
The pics make it so bad, the wife's git these big blue bug eyes then you see the daughters pic next to it heart breaking I'll go ask /b/ if anyones got it
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I'm honestly at the end of my rope here, so I guess I may as well try asking here.
A few years ago, I decided to get my shit together and stop being a NEET leeching off my parents. Unfortunately, I had no idea what to do, but I figured getting my GED would be a good start, so I took the test and passed it without too much trouble. It just so happened that the place I took my GED test at was a nearby vocational school, and desperate to get my shit together, I entered. It wasn't exactly what I wanted to do, but I decided it was better than sitting on my ass all day. I graduated, but I wasn't able to get any real employment aside from one or two extremely short-lived temporary contract jobs (one of whom paid me in cash and had no real paperwork, so I have no means to prove that I ever actually worked for them). That was the end of it, and for a couple months, I was basically unemployed while sitting on a $10,000 debt, pretty much worse off than before. Every other interview I went to ended up producing no results.
Desperate to do whatever I could, I ended up getting a shitty job at a local supermarket. I'm making some money, but all things considered, it's clearly not gonna help me move outta my parents' house, especially considering the debt. I have no idea what to do or how to improve my situation. I'm job-searching every day, going through craigslist and whatever jobsite I can find, signed up to multiple job sites, basically just doing anything I can think of, but at the end of the day, I'm forced to realize that I really have no idea what to do. I have no prospects, no experience, no connections and the education I received was worthless. Am I just completely fucked?
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>>17355494
You are not completely fucked up because you are still living and you have where to go to sleep; Keep looking to a job, don't lose your way.
Maybe you want to do some extra cash, try getting some in the net.
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I agree with the other guy. "Your impending sense of doom is nothing but emotional residue - there is nothing wrong. Even when something is wrong. nothing is wrong. You deal with problems as they arise, no big deal."
Keep going OP, look for a job while working. If you can't do that just keep going you'll see a purpose or opportunity soon.
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I suppose. I dunno, I feel like I've been trying so hard to pull myself out of the stagnation I've been living under for so long, but I have nothing to really show for it.
I don't have any delusions about my situation, though.. I know this is all just the result of all the poor decisions I've made. But I just feel so hopeless all the time.
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So I saw some compromising texts on my boyfriends phone and asked him to help me understand as I didn't want to jump to conclusions. He was able to douse any doubts I had but now he's mad that I would even think of him cheating on me and yeah he has a point there's no way he could even if he wanted (he's basically with me 24/7) and now I feel like shit. What can I do to regain his confidence in me? We haven't spoken in 10 minutes since then.. to be fair once I did catch him sending an almost nude (he would've continued had I not stepped in so he just sent an underwear bulge shot) once before and today he was acting strange so that's why I peeked and saw the messages. He basically told me "how can I make you understand that I love you, anon?!" I don't deserve him I think
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>sends nudes to other people
He doesn't really love you.
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>>17355464
Have you ever made a mistake, anon? We already had that fight and I thought we were over it until he was acting strange today but it was literally my imagination
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How could you possibly feel better just because he sent an underwear bulge shot?
Why would he act so defensively after you've clearly caught him other times attempting to send nudes to others? He's guilty.
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Soooooooo I found my crush likes me back. By hacking his phone
>friends with guy for 2 years
>randomly starts talking to me more a few weeks ago
>hang out with friends at my apartment
>forgets his phone
>I am crazy obsessed with him so I have been watching him sign into his phone
>so I know his password
>I read all his text conversation and some fb
>"it's been a little better recently, I like [op] so much that I am fine just being her friend"
How do I tell him I know without seeming crazy? I don't want to start the relationship on a lie
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I don't want to live on this planet anymore
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>>17355460
Why????
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>>17355455
First, you're a terrible selfish person who violated his privacy.
Second, do not under any circumstances ever tell him you hacked his phone. Do it and he'll never know whether to trust you. At this point no harm has been done and you can move forward with the resolution to be a better person.
Finally, if you know he likes you back, just give him back his phone and hang out like normal. When it's time to say goodbye, just go in and kiss the oblivious fucker on the mouth.
It's not brain science.