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it will be shit. don't bother.

Of course they don't have a billboard advertising because they're illegal in most places that they operate. Any signage is discreet.

>STDs
Nothing you can't fix with a pill, most likely
>police
It's a slim possibility
>it's in a good area
No it's not, the only reason those places are where they are at is because it's not a good area.

Go for it though.

>>17916872
>a billboard advertising it

then won't get sex there

Here's what I NEED to have:
- a way to gain just enough money to have (but not necessarily own, obviously) a home, have my privacy, eat, wash, use a computer. I don't need to be rich, just to be able to dream, think, create.
- as much free time as possible. Time is freedom, and I need freedom more than anything else. Working 8 hours a day all week long will mean my death, unless I have big vacation times like teachers usually do.
- stability. In other words, the rational hope that all these conditions will last until I'm old. This means that a profession where I would have to sell my work all the time without any guarantee that I will find clients is out of the question; I'm not and will never be a businessman, whether I will it or not. This also means that I need a sedentary life.

Here's what I NEED to avoid:
- physical jobs, as well as repetitive, boring, uninteresting jobs. If I need to work, and I probably do, my job needs to be at least a bit intellectually stimulating. I'm not saying that it has to be a dream job, but yea, I WILL very quickly be psychologically unable to live a life where I became a machine.
- contests with a lot of competition. They anguish me to the point of making me physically sick. I'm being serious.

That is all.

(cont.)

Now, here are my skills:
- obviously, philosophy, and all that comes with it: I write very well, I'm logical, I explain complicated things easily, I know how to structure a scientific paper and reference it, I have a very good general knowledge (including history, art, science and religions)
- I'm good with students as well as with children, and I even have some experience and a small diploma to show that
- I have a very creative spirit and never cease inventing things
- I'm good with the internet and computers in general, even though I certainly can't code
- I'm fluent in both French and English
With a bit of luck, I may still have 2 years before me to develop a new skill.

Obviously, it looks like philosophy teacher would be an ideal job for me, except for the fact that it seems impossible to be one without passing hard contests or living in a very unstable situation (for private lessons).

Any other idea?

1) You're not entitled to an easy life.
2) You shouldn't have gotten a useless degree.
3) You need to work to survive.
4) Stop being a lazy shit.

You're a whining cunt.

>>17916804

I only whine about this shit like a faggot online though.

How did you get that first girlfriend? Did you ask her out?

what is america aout?

what is america becoming to?
and what does america believing in??

i

I work in US immigration.

90% of the people I do visas for are in programming.

Learn to program/code/speak English and go to school in the US so you have 3 years to whore yourself out for an H-1B and then whore yourself out for a Green Card/I-140 if your Indian/Chinese.

thanks for the advice

i see more careers in technology
Learning to program/code/speak is what im into now.

i always thought i can help the military and civilians somehow in creating ideas to win any war and to help the civilians within the job.

>>17916748

learn how to use the internet

search for - most secure email

Bumping, also want to know.

My work email is pretty secure because the IT nerds are constantly up to date on any threats and pretty good with security doing whatever they do. Then again I don't dick around on it like I do with my other email accounts.

youtube surely has some good advice for that
but generally, try to push your hip, tighten your butt, and pull your belly. The idea is to have your lower back be as vertical as possible, this will give you the foundation for the rest of your posture.
Pull your shoulders back but keep them relaxed, pull your chin back, and your head up, as if it were hanging from the ceiling.
You chest should come out as well.
What I do is I stand against a wall, with my back and my head trying to touch it as much as possible. Also when walking on the street, whenever you remember about your posture, try and stand up straight and stay like that. This is the hardest part but the one that's most likely to benefit you.

>>17916746
Stand like a super hero. Not even kidding. Feet shoulder length apart, but tucked under, shoulders squared, chin neutral, fists on hips. Do that for 2-3 minutes at a time, several times a day(after a bathroom-break is good).

Once again lifting weights is the answer. Much like it is the answer to many questions in life.

I'm being serious. It will help with your posture.

>>17916728

Sure, why not?

I have a sugar momma, and it's cash. All I have to do is fuck her, which is awesome.

>>17916733
Seconded. Seems like a sweet deal as long as everyone's respectful of boundaries and good with communication, but that's true for any relationship.

>>17916733
Is sex expected? I hate myself a lot and it would be hard for me.

>>17916716
prefers guy friends. then female

>>17916716

If you go around thinking that every girl with dyed hair is an attention whore you need to go to a hospital and get treatment for your stage 4 autism.

Interesting. I don't find that a red flag at all, because I think wanting to stand out is fine.

For me:
partners who get defensive or shut down the conversation if you tell them about something they do that upsets you
partners who give shit tests (which, for the record, is to create an artificial problem just to see your reaction to it)
partners who react with disproportionate anger at small things
partners who try to subtly punish you for spending time with other people (like, for example, canceling dates or "forgetting" to do something they said they'd do)

Also, these are equally awful in partners of either gender btw

masochism

>>17916659
That's fine, anon. Some anons might call you a cuck, but you seem like you can actually take a joke. I assume you're just confident and relaxed enough that you don't feel such teasing is going to change your relationship in any harmful way. I don't know what else to make of it other than you enjoy being teased as well as being around and open to verbal sexual explications, probably because it imprinted on you when you were a horny teenager. That's when you first start developing your personal taste.

At least you're not sad about it. I'm not how to turn women who aren't serious into women who are genuinely attracted to you. Probably be a bit more forward, and don't just wait around for them. Liking forward people is easy because they do the work, but you need to work to reel them in

What kind of things do they say?

>>17916710
One time they told me that they've become strippers and they want me to be their pimp. Usually when they text me I say more normal things and they turn it into something sexual. Like I say "swell" and they say "did we make you swell?" Stuff like that. I say something like "You're all very nice" and they say "We think your dick is nice". "Thank you," I say. "Don't thank us with words, thank us with your cock."

That sort of thing.

>>17916640
Basically you just have to quit being a little bitch. You have to realize just how ridiculous the level to which you're overthinking and worrying about things is. Get some self confidence and start doing shit, and quit worrying about what random people that are only in your life for a second or two think about you.

You sound paranoid.

However. No one is going to judge you if you go for a jog. Just don't be a sperg

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OP, I want you to realize that everyone you walk past every day has got a ton of shit on their own plate to deal with. The person that you think is looking at you is probably thinking about what to have for dinner or whether to call a plumber to fix the leaky faucet in his kitchen or do it himself.

Sure someone might look you up and down and evaluate you based on your demeanor but it is a fleeting meaningless thought process that everyone does on a daily basis.

When I look at a passing jogger you know what comes to mind? I don't actually remember and I doubt anyone else does either.

It looks like you have social anxiety which is a loose term that applies to everyone to some degree. If your social anxiety starts to have an adverse effect on your life you should seek help (preferably not from booze or prescription drugs).

If you don't have friends to open up to, speak to a family member or anyone you can trust.

If you feel like you don't have anyone in your network to do this read a self help book or chose a piece of fiction to read that might inspire you.

GET THE FUCK OFF 4chan and social media for a couple of months and think about yourself , who you are, why you are the way you are and what you have to do to change.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hER0Qp6QJNU

No one is out to get you. People judge everyone to some degree, its programmed into us. Relax anon

1.5 years

Man Op she lied to your fucking face for 1.5 years. You never knew anything was wrong, she played you. Maybe she didn't mean to but she still played you, and robbed you of your choice in continuing things with her. Idk if i could trust her after that. What else is she going to lie about? And this was only about her age which is a small thing. You can never trust her completely again.

>>17916570
Wow, she must have the fountain of youth genetics if she's passable for 10 years younger than her age. While that is a big age difference to lie about, it is more common than you might think. Plenty of women in their 30s/40s feel the need to lie about their age when they're first dating.

This is because they believe that men are immediately less attracted to women in that age range - which is unfortunately true. It is not the age you should be concerned with, but with how long she kept the lie up for. For example: You must have celebrated her birthday in that 1.5 years, which means she lied about her age to you on her birthday.

She should have told you the truth sometime after you both told one another you loved each other - that would have been appropriate. You should tell her that. Don't be afraid to hurt her a little by saying this - because this is the truth, she should know that what she did is wrong, and you shouldn't let her use her crying to manipulate you. I don't believe this is something to end a relationship over however, especially one as serious as yours.

>>17916590
I agree, 1.5 years seems absurd. And my trust has been shaken but I'm not entirely certain that i cant trust her again. I've dated many different personalities and ethnicity's over the years but I dont think I've ever loved someone as genuinely as I do her. I do feel played.

>>17916619
Thanks for the advice. Yes its the length of time I was lied to that's the crux of the problem. I've told her what she did was wrong and how much it hurt and embarrassed me. She is begging me for a second chance and says that it was the dumbest decision of her life.

I'm not the kind of person to make hasty choices so there's a lot to process. Thank you for your opinion. I feel better for at least having told someone. anon or not.

>>17916532
>renting at 21

Bruh why waste all that money while you can still live at home and save up for later

>>17916532
Their house, their rules. As long as she is working and possibly going to school as well, then she is on the right track. I'm sure she has days where she feels overwhelmed - as an adult I'm sure she feels torn up by not being 'allowed' to do things as deemed by her parents. As her s/o, you should be supportive of her. Encourage her to save as much money as she can, remind her that she is a good person just trying to get by best in life like we all are.

You haven't given good enough reasons here for why you want her to be renting some overpriced apartment. If she was 'independent' the way you want her to be - she would probably be living with several other people, and they'd be depending on each other for rent; she might end up finding a place to live alone - which is just stupid; she would probably be struggling to make ends meet when she has living relatives who are willing to help her out - also stupid; etc. And on top of it all, she would be spending nights with you, or you at her place - fucking. What would she gain from that besides getting dicked?

Do you see yourself marrying her some day? Do you love her at the very least?

>>17916591
I definitely understand everything you said, which is why I'm trying to deal with the situation. It's when it prevents us from being able to see each other is when it's frustrating. Today we were supposed to spend the day together, but she texted me saying "my mom is really mad at me. We can't hang out today, I'm sorry." I had planned for us to spend the whole day together downtown and at my place after not seeing each other in over a week. I do love her yes, but I'm also considering how happy I actually am in the relationship.

Don't do it? What the hell do you want to smoke for?

>>17916495
It isn't that enjoyable and it really isn't worth the time commitment.

>>17916506

Or the moola

Stop hanging with manbabies

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>>17916393
This.

Bust your friends balls every now and then. If you can't handle that then do the typical chick thing.
>Ha...
Most guys will take the hint.

Actually no most guys are pretty thick skulled, just don't laugh and let em know politely.

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From what I observe I'm wondering if I'm socially obligated to giggle like a retard all the time, or there is some sort of hidden sense of humor that I'm lacking.

>>17916393
But the majority of my friends are manbabies :(

How would you feel if he wanted to divorce you over your sexual past

How did you discover it? Did he tell you that?

Anyway if after all this time it hasn't affected you in any ways, I don't see why bother now

>>17916333
He deserves better than you.