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>>17920649
>you're afraid of failing
>you're too fucking lazy to try
>you have more important things on your mind
>combination of all above

>>17920663
Not OP, but thanks for summing up my thoughts in a small, convenient greentext

For me I just dont care enough. I'm fully capable of making something happen, but it feels too damn good being alone. Other people can't stand being alone like how I can't stand going to bars every night

>>17920624
Be worth it. There are people you always love talking to, people you don't mind when they start talking to you and people you try to avoid but sometimes talk to out of pity. Don't be the last two types.

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Find Chad, and tell him to fuck off or you'll blast him with your Rasengan.

Chad might come along whether you're there or not. But his chances increase exponentially if you don't make a move.

If it's happens so much that it affects your everyday life you definitely need to seek a therapist. Everyone else has to deal with it but this is affecting you in an unhealthy level. Chill out man, you may also try seeking some religious leaders to talk. From a Buddhist to a Christian and everything in between. If you don't feel like it, that's fine but it wouldn't hurt to try anything to supplement the therapy.

>>17920606
Live a better life than you are now. Live in the present. No one's ever suffered existential angst during an orgasm. Your life is probably lacking in some way, work to fix that.

>>17920606
Watch Rick & Morty.

bump?

25 is getting a bit old to still be living with your parents. If you're happy, great, but in my mind there's nothing more fulfilling than independence.

>>17920574
grow up? would be my advice although it is what i am currently attempting not something that worked out well for me in the past.

>>17920537
No idea man. I'm starting to think that anyone past 21 has just been dealt so much bullshit from past flings that they just put in close to nothing.

>>17920537

heaven :)

but then you worry all the time about her & doing stupid stuff

at least that is what it was like for me

>>17920599

I can only imagine.

>>17920596
you are probably right. I feel like I like women way more than they would like me. They say someone always loves the other person more in the relatinoship.

The amount of love between the partners is apparently never even. One always likes the other more or less.

Try fapping

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Have you tried hitting the affected area with a Rasengan? That usually works for me.

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>>17920526
Why?

>>17920541
That sounds a bit extreme

>>17920474
Now I wouldn't be against cutting out a couple others, but this person in particular, I've always liked, and no, she and I barely talk, so I suppose it would make little difference, except I've had some bad shit happen to me in the past month, which I eventually posted about just to clear the air, and she immediately reached out to me and offered to let me vent, since I've been there for her before in the past. Made me go 'daaaw and shit. So it would be bizzarre and a dick move to just suddenly unfriend her out of the blue. I told my friend this, and I don't think he expected me to resist this much.

The compromise I thoubht of was to just delete my FB account, which I've been thinking of doing anyway, but this month has shown it is useful as a support network, and my philosophy has been that you never know who you might be glad to be connected with. At the end of the day, I am much closer to the original friend than his ex. We are about to live together.

So, help me out. What is the best course of action? I would still delete my FB account if it weren't that I'm part of several active Messenger chats (in which my friend is included) that I'm assuming I would have to be re-invited to if I deleted my account permenantly (and if I were to only deactivate it, my connection to others would still be visible).

tl;dr: My best friend wants me to unfriend an ex because it's a source of friction in his current relationship

I don't even see the problem here. You don't have to follow all of your best friend's decisions. You have the right to be friends with whoever you want. Tell him that you're going to continue being friends with his ex and that's none of his business. He's not hanging out with his ex is he?

She's your friend, and even though it may not be as "serious" as with your closer friends it would be silly to just cut ties.

I understand why your friend asked, but if he is your friend he should be comfortable with you saying no. Personally I wouldn't ask my friends to do anything like that.

No contact worked for me. Stopping myself from contacting my ex on Christmas and New Years really boosted my self esteem and confidence.

Looking forward to not texting her on her birthday this weekend.

Same situation tho, bro. No matter how many girls I hooked up with I couldn't get my ex off my mind. Had to go cold turkey. No contact, no friendship, nothing.

>>17920449

She's one of my closest friends and one of the only people I really enjoy talking to. I know how that sounds, but it's true. Also, she's my best friends girlfriend. 2 of my other best friends live with them. It's all such garbage. Every single day I approach another gorgeous girl trying to get over her, but it just doesn't work.

>>17920587

Look, the only good answer to this if you want to keep your friends in any shape or fashion is to distance yourself a bit. Don't tell them that you're doing it because you love your best friend's gf, that's stupid, dramatic, and would likely just make things worse.

Try new things and meet new people. STOP with the mentality that momentarily getting your dick wet is going to fix things - it doesn't and you're just lying to yourself to feel better and fill a hole. This isn't about meeting chicks, it's literally about just expanding outwards into new areas of skills, experiences, and friend groups so that you're not just slamming your head against the wall with your current besties trying to keep your lust under control.

>>17920419
Along with this, I grew up in a ridiculously sheltered, spoiled and yet still lower class life. Family issues (which I only recently finally understood) along with my dad trying to make up for his abusive childhood by being extra lenient with me didn’t help. I basically grew up on video games, anime, and an internet addiction (been on 4chan for nearly a decade now), and nothing else really. Ironically though, I used to be a “tad” bit more outgoing earlier since I was so ignorant and arrogant in my own narrow view that even if I was a dork, I at least had my smarts to fall back on. Now that I graduated, that comfort rug has been pulled right out from under me, and I have nothing to fall back on. I’m more shy and embarrassed than ever to either meet new people or see people I used to know. I don’t know how to face people and not come off like a gigantic fucking loser that I am.

It also doesn’t help that in every social circle I managed to get in, I usually was at the bottom of the hierarchy, the easy to make fun of target and the person people always could count on for cheap laughs. I’m bad at banter, get easily flustered, and just skulk. And any thing I can say is either too mean, too spergy, or just stupid and jumped on quickly. Again though, I only really put thought into this recently, mostly because that’s all I have had time for. Now I’m back home and only have my parents to talk with. Kind of. The few friends I have back here are those who live and die in their hometown as they haven’t done much since high school. They’re kind and all, but their life choices is something I finally realized I want no part of in the long run.

But I’m not sure how to fix anything. Started at least lifting 3x per week, and reading 1-2 more books a month, but beyond that I don’t know. Or maybe I’m too scared to admit it. Either way, I feel so naïve and I hate that it seems like all those who belittled me were right.

>>17920422
/rant

Any advice would be great. Or just make fun of me, its fine. I just needed to get this off my chest I guess.

>(been on 4chan for nearly a decade now)

start by leaving this site fucking fag

dips
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>>17920414

There are so many.

But this is a really good question for google.

>>17920368
At this point the shrink asks me if I ever feel like people talk about me behind my back, and I responded, "All the time". I am very paranoid about people talking behind my back. I told him about what happened to day and how a coworker mentioned that I punch the desk a lot and swear when my code doesn't work. He hinted that he and some of his other friends were talking about me on the our work instant messenger. I tried to brush the thought off, but as I was leaving work I begain to get really upset at myself for being so loud when I'm angry. I tried to calm myself down and tell myself that I am generally well liked at work. The incident made me really anxious, to the point where I felt sick to my stomach. At this point I started to get worked up. I had a hard time find words, and I was breathing more heavily. The shrink told me to relax.

Then I told him about when my friends don't invite me for lunch, and how it made me feel like they hate me or that I'm not good enough. At this point I was having a panic attack. This wasn't imagined. I actually had a panic attack talking to an imaginary shrink. My face, neck, shoulders, hands, stomach all went numb. I was breathing extremely hard. Even right now as I'm typing this I am feeling a little numb around my fingers. At this point I stop pacing and lay on the bed because I'm afraid my legs may get numb, and I'll fall over and hurt myself. I imagined there was another person in the room, not the shrink, who was telling me to calm down and everything would be alright. He (I) grabbed my hand and held it against my cheek, as if it was somebody else trying to console me. He (I) kissed it and said everything would be alright.

(to be continued)

I eventually calmed down and this other person was still here telling me not to think about it and to stop talking about it because I was working myself up again. I was still kind of talking to the shrink, but my thoughts kept being interrupted by this other person. I described this other person to the shrink. I said he was a robot. He was a personal assistant, like in the i-Robot movie.

At that point I had something to eat and started typing this. I need to tell someone who is not imaginary about this.

Hey there, I'm not sure what I personally can do to help, but here's a bump that may attract someone who can help you to this thread.

Yes, but he doesnt have morals. He just controls the natural laws.

>>17920371
Wrong

>>17920361
There is no such thing as karma, especially in the Christian worldview. Life on earth is full of suffering and persecution. What makes you think this makes God not exist?

>>17920371
Also, elaborate on your point of view if you don't mind..

>>17920308
Well anon I can't really tell you what to do, but I still want to give you some advice.

Think about what you want to do and if possible try it before you put everything into it.

I was pretty much the same as you a few years back, didn't know what to do, settled for a job where I didn't work much and still got paid well, only downside I had to work shift, but oh well at least I don't need to put much effort into it.

I ended up hating it.

Don't forget that you are spending a great amount of time at work anon, so might as well do something meaningful that you enjoy.

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>>17920352
I don't enjoy anything, that's the problem.

Thanks for the advice, though.

>>17920308
If you want a field with a guaranteed job and relatively high income out of college, go to a maritime academy and become a licensed marine engineer. If you don't want to be an engineer you can become a licensed deck officer, but I don't recommend it because for all the money you make the lifestyle is shit and at least being an engineer gives you more escape options when you can't take it anymore.

Pros:
>make $90-120k starting
>don't need to pay for rent, utilities, food, or gas so you save most of your income
>sometimes go to cool places


Cons:
>work in an industrial environment
>work 7 days a week
>work becomes your life because even when you're not working, you still live where you work and eat with all your coworkers and bosses every day
>you're away from home for 8+ months out of the year, have to decide which months/holidays/events you're okay with missing

Fuck louder.

Fuck louder than her. Lol

>>17920305
Honestly, where else are your neighbors supposed to fuck? Buy some earplugs or something.

>>17920267

because she thought you wanted to have sex with her

>but i didn't?

she didn't know that. you grabbed her butt.

She was planing on having sex.

>>17920267
Because she felt uncomfortable with you touching her there while she's on her period. I used to be like that when I was younger too.