Hey /adv/ I'm at the verge of breaking up with my gf, I want to leave but she has bad depression and hardly any friends. Staying with her is messing me up, but leaving her would most likely fuck her up even more.
what do?
just leave her, she doesn't need to be with someone who doesn't love her and abandons her when she got severe depression
>>17914795
Been with her for the last 4 1/2 years. She has had depression when I first went out with her. Am I meant to wait around until she gets better, then leave? Thanks for the input, but I don't understand why I should be reprimanded by a decision that is mentally affecting me as well
My ex left me at the lowest possible time in my life
Now i hate her for it. even though i am doing better
>make 3D models/mock ups
>want to go pro
>portfolio is outdated and not the best
>client finds me
>they know I am a newcomer
>asks for my rates
How do I handle this? I feel that I shouldn't go with the regular rates at this point but also I want to have a good relationship with the guy and not do it for free also.
Go 75% of normal rates and tell the client it's a discount. That way you aren't stuck w low rates but won't feel like an imposter
Hey OP, I'm pretty much in the same line of work as you, except I do a lot of 2D also.
Figure out how much you think an hour of your time is worth and charge accordingly, I don't know what country you are from but when I started out I was charging somewhere between $35 - 40 an hour.
The client may be asking for your daily rate, in which case decide how many hours you want to work in a day and multiply by your hourly rate.
If you have any more questions ask away and I'll try to help.
>>17914799
I was thinking to figure out a price per project, not days/hours. Would that be a bad idea?
Is it okay to be 28 and have no idea what to do with your life?
In a few months, I'll have been an adult for a decade, and I'm genuinely terrified.
Actually, you had to be an adult at 18.
I met my dad for the second time and he told me that he's been happy with his life despite never doing anything with it. He works at a cashier at a strip club making minimum wage but his coworkers have been his second family for 20 years. He said that he's actually happy to go into his job even though he makes no money. Don't put high standards on yourself if it doesn't make you happy, you can be happy living a simple life if that's your style.
>>17914701
I just wish I'd given up before I wasted so much of my life going to college.
She got only 1 relationship of 6 month before me, it's not a lot but it bother me a lot
My questions are
1.) How do I deal with this and accept her past so I can concentrate on just us?
2.) Why am I having these feelings/thoughts?
Is it insecurity/immaturity/selfishness/passing judgement
? If so, how wrong of me is? Is there a right or wrong here?
3.) Knowing myself, having a hard time letting go of things (stubbornmess), could this be something that inevitably haunts the relationship for as long as we’re together? Or is it just a speed bump that has come about because I care for her so much?
>>17914629
It's just being a male and territorial. You feel slighted because someone already claimed her and left their mark.
So /adv/, my gf of 10 months recently broke up with me because she "doesn't feel the same anymore" which is complete bullshit because I did everything right with her (i.e. buy her gifts, chocolate, do whatever she wanted, made her feel happy) and it's not fair.
At first I was really fucking depressed but now I'm really fucking mad so I'm looking at a way of getting revenge.
I'm a 20-something year old guy who is almost finishing my masters in Bio-chem, I want to ruin her life by creating a new virus (something nasty) that can be used as a bioweapon for terrorist activities. I have all the resources needed for this because I work in a BSL3 lab, all I would need is 1-2 years to create it.
I plan on naming this new virus after her name (name is pretty uncommon) so that she'll be stigmatized for life as the girl who shares a name with a virus that killed over 3000 people.
Thoughts?
>>17914638
Just pay some niggers to molotov her car.
How do I lower my standards?
I've not had agf or any sexual contact in years, but I've definitely turned some down, like a fat girl.
These standards are holding me back!
Just try to stay alone. Sounds sad but in the modern world it's rationally the best thing you can do
>>17914627
Improve your appearance so you don't have to.
>>17914656
If only that was so easy.
I'll be exercising more, but I'm not fat really. Sure could lose a couple of pounds, but I'm not going to drastically change.
I guess I could be a bit more /fa/
>>17914655
Yeah, no.
>>17914553
Go for better options..
I wish I had the balls to do it.
>>17914553
As tempting as it is, it's probably better to just stick it out and see what happens.
I'm still scared shitless of not existing despite being miserable (severe OCD, insomnia, depression, anxiety) so maybe this is just me, but I genuinely believe it's better to see what happens, how much better/worse can it possibly get?
because you want to be the little girl
Because u a pedo
Hello
I am a young healthy socially well adjusted man, with a good job and a good economical situation.
The problem is that there are two girls in my life and I don't know witch one to choose.
Right now I'm having a relationship with both (don't judge...) but I want to be serious and commit myself to one !
help me Anons, I will describe both.
The first one lady A:
Physically she is thin and athletic, small breasts very pretty.
She works as an entrepreneur and co created a call center. She is always on the move and loves the challenge and thrill of entrepreneurship. she inspires me to always give my best in everything I do.
She is romantic and becomes horny very easily when she is with me.
In bed she is a beast, she goes wild has a lot of initiative and knows how to have a good time. At parties I never get bored with her.
The off side is that she has way too many exes, and most of them are assholes, one even tried to rape her recently
she is also very emotionally unstable, she can shut herself away from the world easilly
She also pressures me to have sex with her friends, for me that's a turn off.
>>17914542
We're gonna need info on that last bit OP.
>>17914542
>She also pressures me to have sex with her friends, for me that's a turn off.
kek ok
good story OP
Warning : Long Story Ahead. Not begging you to read but if you have the time, please do read it. :D Thank you.
Had a boyfriend for over 4 years and it wasn't a good journey. I'm writing this in green text just to make it more easier to understand for you.
>we met because his girlfriend's best friend was me and I was sort of a mediator between them
>they broke up and he slightly showed an interest on me and I didn't like it
>he started to ask me out or certain occasions
Suddenly one day,
>he got admitted to hospital due to a lung problem from excessive smoking (not weed but just cigarettes)
>after he was dismissed form the hospital, we became more friendly
>he asked me if I like him?
>I said "I need time."
>he said okay but make it before this day ends.
>Arghhh...okay I said a "yes" the next day.
>went on multiple days
>blinded me with his love and care and took me out on places
>he seemed like a very good person and I thought he's the one for me
>his ex(best friend then) started keeping a distance with me
>I understand and I felt guilty but he actually left her because she was an "Angry selfish bitch" according to him
......
CONTINUED!
Later he started telling me he needs more from me and I understood what he meant and told him that, "once after we get fixed on our lives and we get married, I'll do it with you because that's how I prefer and you gotta respect that."
Even after saying all this, he still gets angry whenever he picked this topic and I said no. I just didn't want to do it because I preferred that way. Instead of understanding and respecting my decision he wasn't ready to act cool.
Then, I get into a college and he didn't because he had other plans.
Whenever I post pics or say how cool I'm with my friends here, he gets jealous and says "Look, you shouldn't talk to them like that. I have kept a distance with my friends and I'll be this way and not talk to them but you also should be like me."
It's stupid and I did say that's stupid but he gets angry at me for that.
He was also very jealous of the male friends I have but I even kept a distance from them and was that silent girl in the class. I thought to do this because I didn't want an another fight.
Then I met this dude and he seemed really nice and I said to my bf that he's a nice guy and is really helpful with me. Now this dude isn't trying to hit on me and I'm cleared at that part because a few days ago just before the new year, he told me that "People over here are saying we are in a relationship but I know I'm not because if had planned on asking you, I would had done it a year back when we met because I don't like keeping things in for a long time. I currently have other plans and am currently focused on studies."
Even tho all of this, he constantly kept on having doubts on me with this dude I met and an another dude that already has a gf. He had serious trusts issues on me and I told him it directly that I'm still in love with him and I need a bit of freedom.
He kept on getting angry at me for even the smallest things.
>>17914515
Later I understood that he really just wants sex from me because he gets really happy when I just agree for the sake that I'll do and then he'll be soapy.
Discussing general things were actually less because fights became one of the primary things that happens over the chats and phone calls.
We both like each of our interests(I don't know if he liked them for me.).
My parents are well aware that I'm in a relationship with him and my mom almost sees him like her own son, dad is the same too.
Then we slowly started to keep distance and we often met up that ended up in arguments by him saying;
>"I was acting all these times just to keep you happy."
What do you mean by that?
>" I stopped interacting with people just for you."
Why?? Did I restrict you from talking to them?
He started saying dumb things which has no logic.
Also I didn't actually like(did like him as a best friend like my bf considered) his best friend for reasons.
Whenever I told him to come alone, he brought his best friend along with him.
Whenever we had a fight, this guy comes up in between in chats and tries to solve our shit. I mean who told you to this? Aren't we both grown ups? Are you patronizing us?
He tells to me on chats "Are you guys fighting because of me? Okay, I'll go."
Okay man, I don't have any enmity towards you but why do you have the need to interfere in our relationship stuff?
Also, when these both have fights and don't talk to each other, this guy puts the topic of his(my bf) ex and these both are once again okay together. What the fuck is wrong here? I can't understand.
He and his ex has had sex and I know that happened because she told me because I took a fucking sex ed for them just because I scored good in Biology.
My bf has also told me he's trying to forget her but when his best friend puts her topic up, he's interested like a bee to a flower.
>>17914521
Later I started keeping a distance from my bf and still we had fights between, and because I could not take this anymore, I told I'm breaking up with him.
He tried to apologize. But no, he isn't that trust worthy.(I have an explanation to that.)
I', perfectly alright with him drinking and shit but I told him more isn't good. Then he still promised me that he wouldn't drink and he broke that promise a multiple times(2 times me catching him in the act.).
I started opening up with the dude I met because I was always that silent girl and never really talked to anyone but this dude, which I told earlier and he told me "From what you've said, that wasn't a smooth journey. I think you did the right thing. And you should not feel over-bad and should over come stuff like this." He's an open dude and a great friend. He also told me that I'm like a sister to him and I give him the care. He regularly thanks me on stuff even though I tell him not to thank like excessively. But then he says "This is how I do. Deal with it." He's also a really funny guy and kinda a memelord and constantly makes me laugh from the stupid shit he said that he admits most are from memes on the internet. Now this guy's a regular visitor on 4chan and if you understand who I am, hello! You stupid monkey. ;D
So now that I've told my story, I regularly find myself crying to this stuff which I'm trying to overcome with as many as methods I learn of. Meditation, taking extra classes, etc you name it.
I sometimes ask myself "Did I do the right thing?"
"Should I go back to him?"
I still like him but I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me.
>What opinion or advise can you form from reading this 1 million worded story of my relationship(first ever) and the questions I asked at last?
If you have reached here, thank you for taking your time reading this poor girl's story. May you have a wonderful life.
My best friend died yesterday and i don't feel sad. I know it's normal to not feel anything when a loved one dies, but i want to grieve, i want to feel sad. If i'm subconsciously repressing my feelings, how can i allow them to come out?
>>17914428
Get crossfaded and reminisce.
>>17914433
Will try
Give it time. You're probably in shock and when you least expect it or maybe when small things begin to pile up or when another big thing sets you off you may get a sudden rush of feelings. Just know that this is normal and be paitent with yourself. Talk to someone about it if you find it really concerning.
hi /adv, how often do yous who are in a long relationship have sex or fool around? been together for many years now and got married a few years ago so its just us living together in a small house.
we both have full time jobs then theres things like shopping, making food, tidying up and chores so when we feel tired we go to bed and sleep. maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks we'll do something sexual but that doesnt feel enough. as she works more than me i find myself wanking every other day.
its been the christmas holidays too so its been quiet at home, but find ourselves just playing vidya or watching tv then bed.
guess im still too shy to initiate anything even though weve been together this long!
any tips or advice on doing it more?
>>17914427
Everyone knows sex becomes less frequent when you become married, dumbass. She doesn't have to dangle it like a carrot on a stick now that she has you on lockdown.
>>17914427
Tips or advice? You've got her at home, she's your wife. Just put your hand on her ass and make your move. See if she responds positively. S'amatter with you?
>guess im still too shy to initiate anything even though weve been together this long
Wat. You mean she initiates every time?
Today I was completely blind sided by my ex boyfriend breaking up with me right after we got home from a new year's party. To him these feelings and thoughts of trying to find excuses to break up with me had been there for a while without my knowledge until he finally let me know about them today. We talked very rationally about this and despite my efforts to let him know that I'm still invested and willing to change if it at all helps the situation he made it clear to me that he's not willing to try and work things out.
I'm- completely shocked and wounded by this, both by its unexpected nature and the fact that he didn't tell me how it felt until it was far too late to try and fix that situation before it got to this point. He needs to do what's best for him and if he thinks that's breaking up with me I can't stop him, but it feels like I'm letting this long term relationship go without a fight. It feels like he's still keeping his thoughts and feelings gaurded from me and only really saying he wants to break up without explaining why or where things went wrong.
I woke up from a nap today thinking it was just a bad dream. What's transpired hasn't really sunk in yet, it just feels so surreal and I found myself reaching out to hug him as if he was still my boyfriend.
We will be living with each other for a little while and I need help figuring out how to not make things further awkward while we are still in the house together. We're both pretty mature and I don't think either of us will be pretty with each other throughout the break up, but what are some of the things I should avoid doing asides from the obvious?
As well time will help fill the pain, but I need to find coping methods to help deal with the emotions as they come. What do you suggest?
No one can tell me how to feel, everyone is different and each break up has varriables hard to explain, but should I feel mad or betrayed that this is happening with no warning?
I don't thing either of us will be petty*
Hey OP
Sorry you had to go through this. Even with warning most people would feel mad or betrayed, especially if the reasons he's given you for wanting the breakup seem insignificant.
I would talk to him about it again and make sure he's really certain about his opinions. I might even ask you what reasons he gave? If you two had a long term relationship then breaking up suddenly could be weak, suspicious, groundless, or any combination.
If he's extra super totally sure that he's done and can't work through any differences, then one of you needs to move out asap. And you'll need to gradually accept the change, find emotional stability and confidence, and pursue new outlooks (or not, your choice).
>>17914342
Don't be passive-aggressive, explore new hobbies and hang with your friends.
I just had sex with a girl and then she looked like she was having a panic attack in bed and almost crying. So I just rubbed her back and said it was okay. Then she hugged me while she was still apparently freaking out and I just told her it was cool and then she calmed down.
I feel aweful like I took advantage of her or something. And to make matters worse this happened to me once before with a different girl and I felt like such an asshole for having a fucking plan in case that happened.
I don't know if she thought of something fucked up from her past or what. But I feel terrible about it.
Anybody got any experience with this?
Stop raping girls
ask her what's wrong you autist
>>17914319
Three possibilities - you'll have to deduce which seems most likely in your situation.
1. The intensity of her orgasm overwhelmed her, and the jumble of emotions was largely just a physical release.
2. The intensity of her romantic emotions overwhelmed her and the jumble of emotions was largely an emotional overload.
3. The intensity of her guilt, for whatever reason, overwhelmed her and she just felt bad for what has happened.
Hey /adv/, I need help with convincing a female friend to live. I really like this girl and she has twisted humor like us (4chan) but seems to be hating life.
She hates to talk about politics, music, world events, many games, etc... Seems all she likes is food and animals, and always diverges the conversation to wanting to die.
I try telling her to change a few things in life or to do whatever she wants, but she refuses and just wants to die.
I don't want to lose another friend to suicide.
>>17914270
>tfw no suicidal gf
why even live?
Buy her a kitten, some food she likes and then give her the D. It's the only way.
Well maybe don't do the dick thing, but try talking to her more. Maybe humor her and keep talking about her wanting to die. Joke about methods or something.
>>17914270
If she cant talk about anything else, refer her to a therapist or a suicide hotline. That way she can get help if she actually needs it. Otherwise, dont fuel what could very easily be attention seeking.
How is it done? I accept that the vast majority of humanity are social creatures, all the more so women, but looking for any resource specifically to find what few homebodies are out there quickly got me facing a brick wall.
It's as though even though humanity has long since broken free of the shackles of survival of the fittest, the only ones who strictly haven't done so are voluntary shut-ins.
luck
>>17914287
Luck is multiplied by effort. I admit I'm barely putting in any effort but if there was a dating site for hikkis my attitude might change.
>find introverted gf
Here's the problem op, like it or not this is what will happen.
If this girl is introverted and doesn't do Jack shit she's not very motivated and that probably means you won't mean as much to her and she does to you.
You'll get fucking bored quick, it's not fun to just do the same thing over and over, what are you just gonna sit there and watch movies and cuddle? I mean that's all she does already, she will suck you in. Girls like that aren't fun. There's being a shut in social retard and shy but willing to try shit. You want a girl that wants to go out and have fun with you, not a body pillow that feels nothing.