How do I get over /him/?
I don't want to search this question on google because I feel as if normies won't get it. I never met him in real life, we were purely an internet relationship with plans to meet up before he cheated on me. I'm 19 years old, it's been 5 months since we broke up, but I still think about him all the time. I find that I'll never find a replacement for him. I've been drinking more often than I would because of this depression and I'm wondering how I can truly get over my feelings for him.
Just time really, that's the only way to get over any relationship. How long has it been?
>>17915151
That's weird. I being have the same problem, she recently turned 19 and we haven't been together for about 4-5 months. God I want her back
>internet relationship
You need to go out into the real world. Online relationships are super unhealthy and unnatural. How can you love someone you never met? That is an extremely damaging mindset, it's no surprised you got attached.
Go meet REAL people in REAL life.
Stop watching porn, limit masturbation to once a week, exercise, watch inspirational videos, try your best each day.
>>17915186
fuck all that
If you are not going to be helping the rest of society get shit done you might as well kill yourself.
>>17915199
Yawn
>online learning sucks, or i am just learning the wrong things
>i was in the hospital for 26 months over a 3 year period and all i did was read, learn, watch lectures online. i went through all the lessons on MIT's website, code & khan - academy, and Lynda; learned rust, the c's, js, css, html, jq/sql, and all that, but i still have no idea how to put a program together exactly and make it work.
where do i learn how to make apps or programs without using another program to put it together for me? i thought i leaned everything i needed to, but when i went to make an app i didn't even know where to start
What am i missing?
>what am I missing?
practical experience. Make an app. Start small. Every time you don't know what to do google it. You spent too much time learning languages, you can start making an app a few months after you started learning CS, if you're serious about it.
I started by making a shitty android game (flappy bird tier) and I used some youtube videos of some guy making another android game as a "inspiration". Basically I followed what that guy was doing, almost step-by-step but I implemented my own shit instead. After you get started and have a skeleton it becomes so much easier. And after you make one app like that the second one will be so much easier, even if it's a different type of app and written in another language.
You should do the same. Figure out the kind of app (or site?) you want to create, the language/s (you should only make something that requires multiple languages if you're creating a site, making an app that complex as your first project is pointless) you're going to use and look up some tutorial that shows you the creation of an app, youtube is full of them. That will give you a place to start, if nothing else.
>>17915125
It's funny you say this. I'm starting a web developer apprenticeship tomorrow. I know different types of coding like CSS, HTML, Javascript and I have learnt most things in school but I'm worried it won't be enough to continue with the job. I find it difficult to learn things online, much easier with a teacher. I need advice man. For you I would suggest finding a friend who enjoys doing it, much easier to find solutions quicker.
>>17915160
It's an apprenticeship, they won't expect anything other than the basics from you at the start. Instead they'll expect you to learn along the way. And if you put in a decent amount of effort and aren't retarded you'll succeed.
Also for me it's the other way around, I feel like I can learn faster by myself because I have complete freedom. What helped me a lot was practicing every single thing I read about. I would put every new concept or lesson in code and make a function around it (or a page, in case of webshit). It's a lot easier to understand and remember it that way. Also in case you didn't you should make a dummy website. Nothing too advanced. Also if you haven't already take a look at SQL, it's really simplistic and you'll need it for sure in web development.
>>17915152
I forgot to mention, you should focus on only one language when you start learning to code. You can't become a jack of all trades before "mastering" a language. You should pick between web and software dev, pick a language in case of software dev and start creating apps until you're comfortable enough that you can easily figure out how to write any kind of app without having to google something every 3 lines of code.
19 kissless virgin hating-myself trash here. I can't stop thinking about love and girls. I have the weird feeling that I'm here on this planet to experience love and that it is the most important thing in my life. This is probably foolish and stupid.
So, redpill me on love. Is it real and THAT great ? Can I reach happiness without love ? What is the most important in life ?
My english may not be perfect, I'm French.
Honestly, love is great. But please do everyone a favor and start with loving and bettering yourself.
Be kind to your body and soul, respect your own boundaries, learn when to say yes and when to say no to someone, pick up a hobby or three, read, get good at something, build strong friendships, get fit. If along that journey you still haven't found someone to be with, you can then start looking for someone to invite into your life.
How can you be a virgin in France?
>>17915144
What does that mean ? What reputation have French girls ?
How do you properly reconcile when starting over?
>taking it slow and not jumping it like where you left off
>not bringing up the past
>treating it like a new relationship
>communication
What else? Any experiences?
>>17915098
It won't work. Move on and stop being lazy and falling back into a failed relationship because you're not independent enough to not.
I honestly don't think there is anyway you can successfully return to a relationship, in most cases. If things were salvageable, you wouldn't have ended things in the first place.
The difficulty is that both people are so desperate for it to work, that they'll put a tonne of effort in at the beginning. It won't be too long before you fall into old habits and the same behaviours repeat themselves, only it will probably go on for longer because neither one of you will want to admit you fucked up by trying again.
It sounds terrible to hear if you have any hope left that things could work out, but they more than likely won't. The best thing to do is completely cut contact, move on and focus on finding somebody you are more compatible with. Keeping in mind of course that going through a breakdown will inevitably change you and the type of things you look for in a partner.
im interested in this too. been out of a relationship 7 months now and theres other girls interested, but im not emotionally ready to be interested back in them.
how does one find the gumption to do it
So I've been single for 8 months now after 2 long relationship (I'm 20). I have no issue talking to girls but I just can't seem to figure out how long I have to wait till I can ask them on a date. Also anyone got some general dating tips.
If you're interested in them, then just go for it. There's no point in playing games, because if you do, then as quickly as they had any kind of feelings for you, they'd disappear just as quick.
>>17915085
totally depends on the situation
at a dance nite if you only see people there once then after a few minutes ask for her number, if the dance nite has regulars then try to talk to her a few times then ask for number
and keep practicing - worst that can happen is you get a no, unless you're a total tard and try too hard then you're a creep
see ?
Don't waste any time talking just go for it
Is anyone else living in the constant fear of being farted on while spooning or doing it in doggystyle?
It's only happened once and it didn't even bother me that much, but its still preventing me from sleep (to a lesser degree) while spooning and a turnoff while doing it.
Do you experience the same? And even if you don't, do you have any advice how to get rid of this?
>>17915028
Why're you afraid of it? It's just gas in the end.
>>17915028
Oh god, now you got me worried about farting ON someone while spooning. Thanks a lot, Obama.
>>17915033
It's just slightly offputting and I know it wouldn't ruin anything but still I can't get it off my mind whenever I'm in either of those situations. I'd wish I was able to focus more on other things instead
>Whenever I experience an Orgasm, no matter the time of day, and no matter if its with my girlfriend, or masturbating, Im completely 100% drained of all energy for the rest of the day until I have a full 5-8 hour sleep.
Is this normal? is anyone else like this? I feel like I should ask a doctor about it. Male btw.
>>17915012
Some details I forgot.
>Eyes feel weird for the rest of the day, can't focus on anything, sometimes they burn for a second.
>Muscles/joints in arms are super lazy/stiff
>>17915012
It's normal to lose a little energy, but not THAT much. Not sure what is happening to you exactly. If you know you are like that you should only ejaculate before you can go to sleep or at least can stay in for the rest of the day until bed.
You're out of mana and have to rest.
Increase your mp.
>be me
>be 15
>be kind-of shy
>be foreign
>go to international house for about 6 years
>speak english fluently asf
>time to take a cambridge exam, flyers level
>preparations for it, they combine two different groups into a single one
>the lessons are paid
>be in the "inferior" group, the other one was a higher level
>first time there, sit parallel to this chick
>dayum.jpg
>pretty dank 10/10
>black long hair, generally good looking
>open minded, rebel-ish, articulate and social
>her nickname was Paris, i thought that was her real name for like 6 months
>was 12 at that time, obscenely timid, anti social as fuck
>fall in love after 2-3 weeks
>literally stare at her the entire class
>we were the best in that group
>we take exam
>i get full score, she gets full score
>module ends, summer comes
>during 3 months all i did was stare at facebook photos
>2nd module is here
>enters classroom
>first thing i do is say hi to everyone
>she greets me, tells me that the teacher is british and doesn't know our first language
>okcool.jpg
>she cut her hair to shoulder length
>can't remember shit from the 1 hour and a half i was there
>all of us exit classroom
>we go outside, i wait for my mom
>everyone in this circle, rambling about stuff they did this summer
>i try to stick in a bit
>she pulls out this white looking tube
>white looking tube is a cigar
>stares confused for about 5 seconds
>she starts smoking
>isthisreallife.jpg
>at that time i subconsciously made a opinion of anyone who smoked
>i legit start pinching my arm
>amifuckingdreaming.jpg
>everyone is surprised as fuck
>everyone asks "you smoke?"
>i back away
>i look at the street, almost breaking down
>mom picks me up
>i stay silent the entire ride home
>i look out the passenger window, dropping tears
>get home
>jump in bed
>have a mental breakdown
>ihatelife.jpg
>i refused to believe that it was true
>next week comes
>she still smokes
>i accept the reality
>this time i really hated everything and was hostile to everyone
>i am hardcore depressed for half a year
>i was still shy as fuck, couldn't dare talk to her
>occasionally she would smile when looking at me
>in the rare cases in which she would talk to me, my response was "yes" to everything
>1st module of new group ends
>exams
>college
>passed.jpg
>module 2, she doesn't come
>she quit
>i almost want to die, but in the same time, i learn to not care
>the "i don't give a single shit" state i induced myself into works
>i don't like any of my school mates from college
>still thinks of Paris on a weekly basis
>goes to this programming event
>meets former secondary school colleague
>i sit down with a bunch of random fuck heads around this table
>pulls out laptop, chats to my ex-colleague
>howslife.mp3
>random girl sits down on the chair next to me
>finds out that the girl is in the same class as my friend
>a few hours pass, i find out she's a gamer
>she's shy as shit
>never knew that i liked shy people so much
>i wasn't as shy because i didn't know i would fall in love with her yet
>nor was i shy in general at that point and time
>coolbeansmate.jpg
>8/10 could look better
>she had more or less the same appearance as Paris
>her name was Leia (not really but close enuff)
>Leia had long black colored hair
>after 9 hours of continuous interaction, i find out i fancy her
>forgottogethernumber.jpg
>2 days pass since the event, texts secondary school buddy
>"yo dude what's her number"
>gives me her number
>me and my buddy talk over text, he convinces me to call her
>calls her
>retarded 50 second long cringy call in which i ask her out
>"yes sure, just after the finals"
>2 weeks pass, she texts me first (did not expect)
>we establish date on sunday
>we go to the mall
>firstdateever.jpg
>she looked decent
>we talk
>we know eachother's birthdays (desu i forgot hers)
>we go to a movie
>then walk around the mall
>date was cringy because we are both shy as fuck, i could've done better
>date ends, she hugs me
>fuckyes.jpg
>days pass and i start thinking more about Paris, less about Leia
>i don't like Leia anymore even though my buddy said she likes me
>howthefuckdoichangemyopinionsofast.jpg
>mind=fucked
>don't know what to do next, as i didn't text her at all
>not even to say "merry christmas" or even "happy new years, 2017"
>i think she doesn't like me anymore either although I have no fucking idea
>don't know what to do
>my birthday is in 2 days, if she messages me saying "happy birthday", i'll be down for another date
>Paris changed a lot, i can tell from fucking facebook pictures
>partially dyed her hair green
>theFUCK.jpg
>still looks good tho
>she probably still smokes too
>the lack of communications between me and either of them was insane
>haven't seen Paris for like 6 months
>haven't seen nor talked to Leia for 1 month
>do i back out and stop giving a shit because there's virtually no means of meeting either
>do i countinue trying with either of them
>i like how Paris looks more, even after all the shit she did to herself
>i can't say i like Paris's personality too much
>Leia looks decent, just kind of a big nose
>has best personality ever
>and plus she likes me
>i honestly don't give a shit so whatever you nerds say is better for my pathetic heart
>even if the option is to back out, there are plenty more fish in the sea
>hopefully........
no one is going to read all this garbage
Broke up with my ex a couple days ago. I already have taken interest in this new guy. He seems quite shy. I don't know if he likes me or if he's annoyed by my prescence but he's one of the handsomest men I've ever seen and I get the feeling that he's single. As far as I know, he seems like a cool guy, however introverted. My friend knows him better than I do and she told me he's nice. Problem is, I don't really know him and after the holidays, I won't see him in a long time. I have 4 days left. How should I approach him? I never see him in a one-on-one setting and he seems nervous (or annoyed?) when I say hi to him. I'll be back in his hometown in a few months so it's likely that I will see him again, but there are no guarantees that both me and him won't have found other partners by the time.
>>17914983
How old are you both?
Are you sure what your friend told you is true?
>>17914983
>seems nervous (or annoyed?)
If he can read you and knows you like him, it's probably both. Make conversation, try to find out his interests and ask what he's doing later (tie it into the conversation). If he asks for your number he's interested, if he ignores the question he's probably not at this time (if ever).
Quite an unusual circumstance you've found yourself in. I'm a relatively handsom, introverted dude, so I'm jealous as fuck right now lmao.
In all seriousness, even I am a bit confused on what to do. I mean, if I were that dude, I'd love it if a girl approached me, rather than having to worry about approaching you. I'm guessing the dude is just nervous and a bit surprised for being put on the spot like that, as introverted people obviously aren't used to it, so I sincerely doubt that he is "annoyed by your presence."
Just talk to him, and try not to intimidate him if you can help it. Get to know him. I'm not sure how he would react if you asked him out within the 4 day span of time you have left, though personally I'd probably be a bit psyched out by all this coming so fast, and thus turn down a date simply by shock and worry that I'll fuck this up somehow. Maybe try and take it slow (or as slow as a 4 day due date will allow you).
If all else fails, get his phone number and get to know him more over the time you're away. When you think you are both confortable with eachother, tell him (don't just ask him, TELL him) that you guys should meet up sometime (as a date, or simply just say "meet up sometime," though if he ends up liking you at that point, he'd absolutely LOVE being asked out on a date, trust me) during or after the time away.
Hope this helped.
My boyfriend has kind of a strange relationship with his sister.
They are sort of close in age so I can see how they would be close siblings (he's 28 and she's 31). But they do things together that I think are inappropriate (although this could just be me, I don't have any siblings).
Like...
1. They go to movies together/spend a large amount of time alone together
2. I saw them together in midtown last week and she was sitting on his lap on the train even though there were plenty of seats available
3. On new years she kissed him on the lips right in front of me (not in a making out way)
4. She really does not like me for some reason, Despite trying my very best to be friendly and nice to her. She acts like total bitch to me
5. She rests her head in his lap
Tell me I'm just imagining all of this being inappropriate. Please
She looks almost identical to Amanda Knox which makes it even more creepy
>>17914952
At least she doesn't look like a young Helen Mirren
archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/17006745/
They are fucking.
>>17914952
Although I can see where you're coming from, none of this crosses the line. There just close and they're obviously physical people so naturally this is the outcome.
Sisters always give girlfriends shit at the beginning too, at least they should.
Can we get a parent advice thread going? Any general parenting tips/advice you feel are important.
I'm a young mother with a toddler and would like to hear any advice, regret, or things you feel other parents should know.
Im a anxious person and my son is already becoming his own person and I would like to be the best I can for him.
>>17914943
good luck with this here
mostly dweebs
try reddit
Don't have any.
No matter what you do you'll fuck them up somehow so don't stress over it too much.
You'll never be ready to have them and when you are you won't be able to.
Just when you're all settled life will throw you a curveball and fuck it up.
Act like a teacher not a friend.
General tip: Relax, it is easier than in the first year.
Dos: You want to let him do stuff, fall and hurt himself occasionally, run outside a lot as soon as able, play games with him, particularly the ones which encourage imagination and creativity, teach him and show him lots of love, but give him limits and enforce them.
Don'ts: You DON'T want to show your anxiety by becoming an overprotective parent. You DON'T want to give him too much attention (you should watch him, but he can't know you watch him all the time). You want him to become emotionally secure, strong and independent. You don't want to make him a brat. If at all feasible, kick the tv out of your lives.
That is a start. My kids are both doing great, but they have a world champion mom. I do my father bit too, but she is the wonder which makes everything tick.
Well I am fucked. I am a 20 year old uni student and I am in my second year - got a big exam tomorrow but I have done 0 studying for it and didnt attend any classes because I have been trying to cope with depression, so I have been abusing drugs instead. What can I do now to maximise my chances of not failing?
I am a fairly competant student usuallt and came 3rd in my year last year, not happy with the direction my life has taken.
>>17914914
what subject?
do you have access to past year exam papers?
>I am a fairly competant student usuallt and came 3rd in my year last year
lol
You can't stop yourself eating a face full of dirt when you're already falling over.
Your only option is damage control. Do you have a counselling service you can talk to? Do you have any material relevant to the exam? Can you discuss your situation with your professor? I doubt they will have much sympathy for you (because you didn't ask for help when it would have been more effective) but at least ask what your options are for it.
>>17914918
Law, and nah I do not have access to past papers but desu I do not think I would benefit from them as I know how to write any law exam and get good marks - I just lack the knowledge necessary for this module - in other words I know how to apply the law but do not know the law here
Am I crazy?
I live in the northeastern part of the USA.
Over the past few years I've seen so many white girls in interracial relationships. This grosses me out and has been turning me off from white women over the past few years.
It's not that I can't get girls, I can rather easily. Im fit, 8/10 face, upper middle class, and about to finish college. I can make plenty of women like me, sometimes without effort.
This just keep getting worse, I find my own race the best looking and Im most attracted to them. I also find myself hating them more and more.
What do? This is driving me up a wall and I wish I was asexual.
>>17914895
Nothing you can do, just be glad black males are only 7% of the US population or you would see many more white women with black males. Also know that these are the white women willing to go into public with a black guy and in no way represents the number of white women fucking black men. If the white woman is under the age of 30 it is probable they have or have had black lovers.
Something is wrong with you buddy, they don't need your approval to date other races.
Why does it grosses you so much? Perhaps you feel inferior to other races? Insecure much?
>>17914895
>Something is wrong with you buddy, they don't need your approval to date other races.
>Why does it grosses you so much? Perhaps you feel inferior to other races? Insecure much?
Gross*
I honestly think I'll be alone forever.
I always get attached to people who are either taken, are in horrendous relationships that they can't leave, or people who aren't interested in dating at all, let alone me.
The only good thing about this is that I think I'm slowly accepting it.
>>17914868
Pic unrelated
>>17914868
>I always fall for emotionally unavailable people
Dude you're the problem here. You unconsciously seek them because they're zero effort: you know that you will be rejected and that the fault won't be yours. Hence you avoid committing emotionally.
>>17914868
This is a fairly common problem, yes. Accepting it is wise, because some people never do find a worthwhile relationship, so maintaining a realistic approach helps you direct your energy towards more productive goals. However, also keep an open mind about it. Accepting and giving up are two different things and if you let defeatism to get hold of you, then you'll miss every chance you could have. You don't mention how old your are, but the chances are you have plenty of life left to meet someone, so don't give up completely. You never know.