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So you're a guy. And there's a girl.
You're close with the girl. But so are many other guys.
These guys are all over the place. Smarter than you, dumber than you. Fitter than you, fatter than you. More outgoing than you, not outgoing at all.

And then there's you. You talk multiple times a day, most of which comes from her end, and the two of you are all laughs together, most of which also comes from her end.
She talks to you about those other guys, about things she's all laughs about with them.
Some of them flirt, even bluntly say "I love you". She neither rejects nor approves of it, and prefers to "just go with the flow with nothing taken seriously".

But in the end, there's you. What makes you stand out here? You, Average Joe, with some mix of characteristics that all of them have to some extent? You, whose flirting and asking out has been attempted (and failed) by at least a dozen better guys for her? What's so special about you that it could work?

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how do i remove blackheads? squeezing doesn´t work for me, just wasted half an hour trying to squeeze one on my nose and nothing happened

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Should I try and homewreck this relationship? Kinda a long story but I'll do my best to shorten it.

I'd been talking with this girl I liked for quite some time but, being the beta introvert I am, took far too long to ask her out. Someone else asked her out, she said yes and now they are dating. I knew they were dating before they were actually official, so as a way to get some closure I asked her out anyways. She obviously told me she was dating someone else but said she really liked me. She still talks to me just as much if not more now that she is in a relationship. She gives me numerous compliments, shares pretty private information, and compares me to her boyfriend every once and a while. So my dilemma is, am I just on a new level of beta orbiting or do I have a shot??

It seems to me I have a semi decent shot, he's a normie and boring as they come. I know I don't have much a shot until the puppy love phase is over, which shouldn't be too much longer.

What do you guys think I should do, and if you think I should, how would I go about destroying her current relationship?

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Hey guys, I'm starting my second quarter of uni tomorrow and I really want things to be different from the first.

I don't have any friends or people to do things with.

I just spent first quarter doing homework, reading, and playing PC games.

I have a girlfriend back home but I don't feel super emotionally attached to her.

I think I'm depressed and I'm going to be working on food/sleep/exercise/less drugs, but I really just want people to do things with so I can stop living in my sad little head.

Does anyone have any concrete advice?

Thank you guys.

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this girl i've been getting to know throughout the semester finally invited me to her place. she has a boyfriend. she told me she loves her boyfriend and she invited me over because she knew i wouldn't make her cheat. key word MAKE her cheat. that means she wants it, right? should i fight for her? or just let it be and wait for their relationship to run its course/look elsewhere

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I've just lost my best friend forever.

How do I stay happy?

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For people who have actually gone to their doctors for help with anxiety/depression, what did you say to them and what did they ask? I feel like mines gotten out of control recently but I'm genuinely scared of talking to people and I get extremely awkward and tend to let people just put words in my mouth so I'm afraid of either underplaying it and just getting told the same old "b urself" shit or them not believing me like my parents have always done.

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I got mad at my girlfriend because she was talking to one of her exes without telling me.
Not only that, but she made an effort to buy them an expensive gift that was sentimental to them for this Christmas.
While we were on a trip recently we stopped by some gift shops and she kept looking at things that they would like too.
Now, up until yesterday, I only knew this guy just to be a friend, but I did some snooping around and found out they had dated two years ago for a pretty long time.
When I confronted her with this she said I was over reacting and that there's nothing between them. She told me if I would have asked she would have told me he was an ex, but I feel like that should have been something she should bring up without me having to ask. She basically kept thinking she was doing nothing wrong, but that she would stop talking to them. I asked her if the roles were reversed and I had done the same would she be ok with it and she couldn't give me an answer. I told her how I felt, and we talked things out and made up.
I woke up today and I'm still upset by this. I feel like I can't trust her especially because If it had not been for me snooping around she would continue to talk to them.
Another thing that bothers me is that early on in our relationship we were going to go to a Halloween party that I later learned was hosted by another one of her exes. At the time she didn't tell me they were an ex. All I know about this guy was that he was shitty to her and cheated on her, but she still kept in contact with him enough to be invited to his party. We'd only been dating for about a month at this point so that led me to think she might have just been using me to make them jealous.

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I am still unsure of whether or not AUC is right for me. My original plan was to study nursing and get a job here in south florida in order to be able to fund medical school and the prerequisites necessary for a Neuroscience careerpath specialized in psychiatrics and cognition. Nursing in south florida with a BSN (bachelors in nursing) can fetch me from 40-45k a year, but ive always considered it as a deviation from my true aspirations. I am very much interested in Neurology in general as a foundation for my career choice and would like to know if there are perhaps other more suiting universities that are able to accomodate my interests, or if you believe AUC would do well in preparing me for a masters in the field. I am unsure of whether or not I will be returning to the Unites States to find a job or enroll in medical school there and would appreciate some guidance regarding the compatibility between the program being offered in AUC and the preferences in the US. I graduated with my associates with a 2.75 GPA, which is overlooked by AUC depending on the intellectual capability expressed in the self asessment submitted along with the application (which i more than likely am able to articlulate).

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Hey /r/,

I need to know how I let go of something that is literally eating me up inside.

I used to be beta as beta's get, you know the type, the shoulder to cry on for the girl you're in love with as she gets absolutely ploughed by the "douchebag" that women constantly complain about.

I loved a girl, she said she loved me. She said I "saved her when she was about to end everything". She was the only girl I ever fell in love with and was virgin before her (I was 27 when I lost my viriginty... yea that kind of beta). She even had a kid from a husband who treated her like shit and the kid didn't bother me, I just thought she was "the one" and I would do anything to be with her.

Unfortunately for me, she was an insufferable attention whore and the only times I would get anything from her was when I treated her like shit. That's when I realised the cheesy but inevitable truth that nice guys do definitely finish last.

Since then, I've been a complete fucking douche and lost count of how many girls i've slept with. So many scenarios where me and another like the same girl, he buys her drinks and compliments her whereas I barely pay attention to them.
The only problem with this life is I'm 30, single and have no trust in women whatsoever. I've done some things I'm not proud of, slept with girls & women I shouldn't have and now I feel dead inside.

I used to be so nice...

Anyone else have a similar problem? How did you get past it?

P.S. Excuse the grammar, I've had a few to drink...

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>be me
>last year of high school
>look at girl in my class
>feel something weird in my stomach
>damn stop it stupid brain. You retard fuck.
>next day girl starts talking to me
>heart beating fast
>fuck no not this time retarded heart
>days go by and we talk occasionally
>during classes I feel like she is looking at me
>just probably my imagination focus on the class faggot
>one day in [insert my country's official language] class
>everyone hates it and retarded teacher
>damn bitch starts to annoy me
>get triggered and say she's wrong our country is fucked up by ((them)) and I start dumping /pol/ latest memes
>girl calls me and says why are you doing it anon?
>I'm pretending to be autistic to fuck with the teacher and wasted some class time
>her face: smugpepe.jpeg
>some days after she asks me if I really meant it when I was talking shit of my country
>there's lots of wrong shit with it but I am nationalistic as fuck
>good to know anon
>decide to tell my closest friend I cough like her cough (I'm embarrassed as fuck to express muh feelings)
>friend tells me he caught her staring at me during class
>fuck no it wasn't my imagination
>one day I found her in school start talking to her for about 15 min.
>was going to ask her out
>motherfucking classmate says greetings anon
>thanks for fucking up my chance arsehole I though (he was a cool dude however)
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Graduated last year with an outstanding 2.09 GPA in finance.

Skipped classes, procrastinated homework and studying, and did JUST enough to get a C in my classes.

Now I'm 25, still at home, and working some low paying lab tech job I found through a recruiting company with no career growth.

I fucked up. I don't even know where to go from here. My GPA is basically a block to any relevant job or grad school. I wish I could go back, but honestly I think I might do the same thing. I feel like unless I become famous through YouTube or some other social media, I can't go anywhere.

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So i think i need advice how to get my life better.

I am 19, male living in the border of europe. I am going to university, living alone in another city from my family. 2 months ago my grandfather who is the father figure in my life became very sick and combined with my stressed and depressed life in last 2 years and my thoughts on consciousness and existince, i had a very hard week, i had panic attacks. Gone to doctor and he gave me a medicine, cipralex. It works but makes me sleep 12 hours a day. Using it for 5 weeks now. Anyway.

My brother stays with me to make sure i don't get worse. He will go back in a couple weeks. I always liked being alone but now i don't want to be alone anymore. In school I have a friend and talk to a few guys but that's it. I think i can hangout with them but i actually want a girlfriend. I think i need to love and be loved. I am also a virgin so sex would be great too.

If anyone knows MBTI, I am an ISTP. I don't have any experience with girls. I am a really funny guy though my humor is twisted but i can be normally funny too. I also think i am good looking but i am fat, like 110 kgs fat. I gone to gym in the past so i am not really like a ball either but still i am almost obese and i don't have a lot of self confidence. I can talk to guys with no problem and if i don't want to impress girls i can talk to them easily too. But when i want to talk to a girl in a flirting way, i don't know what to do. My face gets red and i act like an imbecile. I don't know what to do. I know i should lose weight, i know all i need to know to lose weight, i even gone to nutritionist last week but i don't have any motivation at all. What the fuck do i do anons?

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So, I have been cheating on my husband for the past few months. I feel really guilty but at the same time he just cannot satisfy me. What should I do? Should I divorce him?

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Me and my boyfriend got in a fight because he was being rude to me on the phone and making me feel stupid. Our fight blew up and he was like I'd rather just go out with a guy because fuck women. So I was like alright sorry I don't have a dick. Then he told me he wished I was dead, and later said I hope you die. That's the last I've heard from him. He may get his wish because I've been getting tests for a tumor I have and it might be cancer. Do i fake my death?