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>>17916738
What did you do Freshman year?

>>17916769
I did not play as I was new to the school system

>>17916771
Play any sports that year or before?

Sounds like you're choosing between a small company that pays well and sees you as a human being and a large company that will treat you like another cog in their machine

What about this "brand recognition" could possibly even benefit you?

>>17916707
thiiiiis

Jobs that make room for your quality of life are RARE, op.

>>17916701
Take the message of the commercials with a grain of salt. There's no way you'll have any big influence in a big company unless you're in upper management or something.

No, it shouldn't be an issue. They might not even have all your paperwork processed. You can explain to them your situation about your financial position and hiring a lawyer but you need to do as soon as possible. You should have just signed the paper when you first went to court saying you didn't have a lawyer. Or if you haven't been to court and this is your first time that's when you'll get the chance to hire a public defender. That paper I was talking about, they hand it out and you let the court know if you have an attorney or need an attorney. Nothing happens the first court date, unless you straight up plead guilty and take whatever charges they hand out.

You won't beat this. You failed a breathalyzer, and are literally twice the limit in Texas, and you failed the field sobriety test. I can guarantee when you get the report back it'll say you had X amount of indicators that let the officer know you were too impaired to drive. Your best bet it to get an attorney and let them work out a plea deal with the DA. Expect to get probation for a year, at least 24 hours of Community Service, have to attend a few different classes related to drinking and drinking and driving, have your license suspended for 90 days (you can get an occupation license, the attorney can help with this if you need help), a fine, and a surcharge on your license for the next year years. To avoid the probation you can just go to jail for a few days but you'll still be hit with all the other shit.

Lastly, you don't have to tell your job anything, but it might be hard to cover up due to missing work for probation meetings.

>>17916720
>surcharge for the next year 3
You can pay everything in installments. They'll get their money and they don't care how long it takes as long as they get it.

>>17916668

My advice is to don't do it again.

Can I have the money if you're not going to use it?

What the fuck are you rambling about, OP? Please rewrite that whole mess.

if you can 100% afford it, go ahead. you already think it's nice to do so

>>17916618
What about her is so unforgettable

>>17916618

Man, it's never easy, especially if it's your first.

Just occupy your free time with things you enjoy or shit you need to get done. Get rid of any reminders of her. Focus on getting to a better state of mind.

Yeah it sucks and seems like the end of the world, but somebody else will inevitably come along. Don't stress about it too much.

Booze helps.

>>17916618
You will get over her. Has it been a month, or has it been like 6 months already.
Took me a few years to get over the girl I was going to marry. She was a con artist and scammer. Some women see their husband as someone to steal from.

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In order-
>trustworthyness
>pleasant to be around/spend time with
>cute
>purity (in general, not just avoiding the bbc)
>similar goals or at least willingness to compromise
>cook/clean
>sexual compatability
>willing to lick balls and be peed on
>supportive
>likes cats

>>17916611
Loyal, supportive, not obnoxious, not a cheater, not an alcoholic/druggie, doesn't reek of cigarettes, wants to alternately go out and do things and have our downtime together, hasn't slept around too much, hygeniec and tries her best to stay in shape, at least semi intelligent, reads books.

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>>17916611

The thing about being in college is that its a time in your life when you have no idea who you are or what you want. You have absolutely no experience with adult relationships or even being independent from your parents. In essence, you're still a child.

I'd say its nice to start thinking about the kinds of things you want in a long term relationship in college but in reality you're not old enough yet to even know what you want in a lifelong partner. You might think you do but you definitely don't.

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>>17916597
stop wasting time on an anonymous Korean hand knitting website for starters. SO many of these feels threads are the same. Im lonely, I dont have a GF, Im unemployed, no friends, so ideas, what should I do?
the best thing to do is to get off your ass and go looking for it. Go to school or get a job if you want to succeed. go to a club or bar or join some kind of social event if you want to meet people. You need to put yourself out there and experiment, even if youre not sure what you want. If anything thats better, have a few ideas and be willing to try them. If you dont like them that consider it working your way down the list.
Dont bother comparing yourself to others, I know its hard but the grass is always greener. That kid might seem perfect, but thats because hes not going to tell you the things that are going wrong. Nobody will. And even if he doesnt who gives a fuck? Go at a pace youre comfortable with to figure yourself out, some people do this before you, some after you and some never at all. Dont slow yourself down with the image of others, they dont care.

Most importantly, after youre done reading this and this thread 404's, dont sit on your ass and wait until you get this feeling again and make the same thread to have some confirmation bias that youre either ok, or not alone in your problems. Get off you ass and fix those problems. You can do it, just as easily as you cant do it. So be the change you want and deserve or shut the fuck up

>>17916597
>>17916597

Some people just have more ambition and stronger will.

>>17916934
>Most importantly, after youre done reading this and this thread 404's, dont sit on your ass and wait until you get this feeling again and make the same thread to have some confirmation bias that youre either ok, or not alone in your problems. Get off you ass and fix those problems. You can do it, just as easily as you cant do it. So be the change you want and deserve or shut the fuck up

Not OP but this really hit me. I have to start taking all the classes I failed tomorrow due to not attending anything this past year.

It's really going to suck and I'm sure my friends are going to think Im retarded but this is the only way I can fix the mistakes I made. Still though, sometimes the thought of "is it all really worth it" comes up and I can't help comparing myself with all my successful friends.

I just don't want dying to feel like reward anymore, I want to be scared of death like everybody else...

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mine actually happened on new years. Just had to have one fuck big up before the year was out
>got invited to a party with some people I havent seen in years
>dont get invited to parties that much, super excited that im not spending new years at home on my computer like my original plan
>as im getting ready to leave Im literally giddy with excitement, grab my stuff and run down the stairs
>trip over the cat, fall down the stairs and break my ankle
>spend new years in the hospital watching king of the hill while my ankle gets fixed

Failed at everything.

Chose not to study anything because I thought I'd land a job as a 3d modeler/animator.
Goddamn how retarded I was.

Some work like that, some don't.
They may come back if they break up, but don't really count on it. I used to talk to this girl a lot (even at night, when messenger was still a thing) but then she got a bf and everything changed, then she went to one boy to another and I barely have the chance to see her.
My advice would be to let them just be and just look for one girl who doesnt only think about his boyfriend, or you can always try to get one for yourself.

>>17916749

>My advice would be to let them just be and just look for one girl who doesnt only think about his boyfriend

it's just hard. Even this one girl who promised me our friendship wouldn't change after she got a boyfriend, that stayed true for a few months. But now we talk maybe once every few weeks :/

>or you can just try to find one for yourself

Well that's not going to happen

>>17916760
I know it's hard, nobody said it was going to be easy, but it's not as simple as that.
I wish everything was as easy as making a single promise, but time changes people, sometimes slowly, sometimes not.
The worst thing you can do is giving up, try to focus on whatever you want to do, then women will come after that.
It may be hard, it WILL be painful, but you can do it, you can either man up or continue suffering.
And by telling you to man up I don't want to offend you or something like that, it's just that its easier to realize things kinda work like that.
Hope this helps you.

>>17916463
no bullshit, ive gotten some pretty good advice from 4chan. The anonymity probably helps and theyre free compared to going to a real therapist.
Id rather have several opinions then one guy with a degree who's probably biased anyway

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just curious, what did you discover about yourself?

>>17916463
I do this kind of thing every night as I fall asleep and I can say most of the time it does not make me feel better.

The asylum is just a front by the government to pull lesser known scientist to doing free controlled black op research.

I like the idea of involving government and some shady researches. But somehow that goes into sci fi that is one of my weakest side. Right now i am strictly having my own mini research about mental disorders to make patients more realistic.
Btw the story takes place in undecided year so i am still free to change it from 100 years ago to today or anything between.

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Also my strongest side is philosophy and philosophical ending twists about good being bad and vice versa, balancing between bad actions but having a good purpose and shit like that. But now i am out of ideas because they all seem to sinilar to Stonehearst asylum or Shutter island

>>17916267
Go to a coin collector and pay the small amount to have them checked out. It's a worthy investment if they do give you money. Otherwise it's a sunk cost.

Remember to do an inventory of the coins before you go--just in case they try to jew you (which I doubt they will)

>>17916367

either this or take digital photos closeups of all the coins and email the file somewhere

do internet search for - coin appraisals

this is the internet age, no need to drive all over town etc

>>17916267
Brasher half doubloons are gold coins. For one, gold doesn't tarnish, whereas this looks like old brass; and two, you can clearly see that this coin is was plated, with a different metal showing in spots where it's been nicked and dinged.

>>17916154
not my cat btw

Is your cat an adult? If it's young enough you can train it to know that small animals aren't food.

>>17916207
she's around 6 or 7 I would say, not sure. she was a stray that I took in 3 years ago.

1. Christians see sex as perfectly natural and not at all a sin, its a beautiful thing God designed, so since he has no problem with it we don't see any reason to avoid it, (I personally would say that teaching people to view sex as sinful is biblically wrong, and also pretty stupid). Christians (at least, people who actually follow Biblical teaching), see sex as special, it's meant to be the fullest pinnacle of what two people can do together, so it's meant for two people who have united themselves in every other area. Christians believe that establishing only a physical connection with another person (and not also being connected emotionally and otherwise), is ultimately bad for both people involved, and for the health of the relationship too. In summary, Christians don't see any problem with sex so long as it's in the proper context: marriage.
2. Most definitely, and I don’t have a Christian friend who has told me otherwise.
3. For most couples, (Christian, Buddhist, Atheist or what have you), physical attraction is the first step towards building a relationship, it obviously cannot be the only bond between two people or the relationship will fail, it just acts as the catalyst for drawing the two of you together. Christians agree that it’s okay to have a physical attraction to the person your dating, you just shouldn’t let that attraction consume you, focus on their other traits and value them for that as well, because the physical is temporary, but the other stuff will last.
4. One of the Christian married couples I look to as role models have sex on the daily, and that’s not something they’re shy about because they really do love each other, so each is willing to do pretty much anything for the other, and that’s how they’ve made the relationship work for 10 years. So most of us don’t see any problem with sex in marriage so long as its fully consensual (obviously) and takes place between two people who are married.

5. We want to be healthy, the Bible tells us to let our bodies be temples for the Lord, so we should take care of them. But we also want to look good for each other, I don't think that's sinful, we shouldn't be prideful and believe that because we're "fit" we're better than someone else, but we can still enjoy looking good for the one we love.
6. For many Christians (and this does change based on where you're from, or if your some other denomination that doesn't care about Biblical teaching so much, like the Anglicans or PCA), dating is the process of looking for someone who you really "click" with, someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life with, this is referred to as "intentional dating", and someone following this is someone looking for a marriage partner, Christians still love their friends, but it's a somewhat different kind of relationship.
(This is from the Baptist point of view, which is pretty much the most basic stance on the Bible, no extra toppings)

I kind of repeated myself a bit there, but I hope that answers some of your questions.

Bro's before hoes, never forget the golden rule passed on through millenia my good sir

>>17915645
I mean, I don't know how male friendships work but just try to avoid her?
When you talk to him be sure to warn him, though.

>>17915645
>It's been obvious for a while that she's into me
are you sure? like in she has flat ass told you or grabbed your dick or something because if this is in your head and you say something to your bro it will explode.

Best if you just stay away from her