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>>18012710

i'm not single, i don't want to cheat on my girlfriend. but goddamn this girl is hot and it just gets my mind racing. please convince me to not ruin what i have with my girlfriend for one random ass shot at THE Girl From High School. sorry if this makes me a callous douche but i need more backbone than i have

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Fry, if you don't say yes I will lose all respect for you and punch you

You forgot to describe how your relationship and girlfriend are

Honestly any other day I'd say don't do it, but since I had a big fight with my gf I kinda wish I was in your shoes...

>>18012675

normally i say get over it but 8 years is quite a long time, thats almost a decade, potentially 1/10th of your entire life. thats a lot to put behind you.

she hasnt forgotten about you though. i think about my great EXs almost every day, even if i instigated the break up.

>how can i move on fast like her?

by pushing yourself to have fun. prove to yourself that life is good, and shes not required. then you'll realize that partnership isnt required, but if partnership ISNT required that means moving on to a new girl is no big deal, because who you date doesn't define your happiness. you do.

>>18012679
Yeah, I'm trying to get out a lot and meet new people, go out with old friends. Even slept with a new girl an hour after New Years. But when I'm lying in my bed at night or sitting alone in the evening at our old flat (she moved out) it hits me like a truck full of feels and I realise I'm not over her yet. I'm just trying to block thoughts related to her and not think about the other guy fucking her or putting his tongue in her.

>>18012699
Been there.

What would definitely help is if you meet someone interesting. One night stands, fucking random women, it will NOT help. It makes you feel even more lonely. But what helped me forget about my ex was when I met someone interesting, someone I truly got along with. I slowly developed a crush on her and we are in a relationship now.

Did I completely forget about my ex? Nope, you can't forget someone. But I don't think about her anymore.

>>18012664

by telling him. hes your boss not your master.

>>18012669
I don't want him to relieve me of my duties here yet. I'll have no job and it's pretty tough to find one in my field.

>>18012680

well thats beyond your control unless you're willing to forego GF.

your temp position ends in may. so you have the job til then regardless. hes not going to replace you before then.

if you want to stay on til october you have to just go talk to him. he might help you. he might not. you cant control him, so the only thing you can do is either ASK, or SACRIFICE.

>I am currently in high school I think
>I think

either you are or you aren't. Are you retarded?

>>18012627

if at first you dont succeed, lie, lie again. take any small moment of community service and stretch it out.

i took one night of waiting tables for a charity and turned it toa 3 month seasonal position on my resume.

I took one day of helping a rich guy with his computer and stretched it to a 3 month internship.

>>18012661
I am not English, I don't know if its called that sorry

>>18012619

you dont. by the time a girl realizes you havent had sex, you'll already be balls deep

>>18012619
>lack of experience with girls
>several hookups with girls

REEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>18012619
REEEEEEEEEEEEE

Also I once called myself fat but she said "You're not fat just cute ;)"

>>18012603
dude fuck her. slowly start breaking the physical barrier by touching her arm/gently roughhousing until shes comfy touching yiu at rest then start getting closer and closer till you can have yiur hand between her legs without discomfort. (you want to build up really slowly like over the course of two weeks) then tell her you think shes really cute. then get laid.

capcha: head avenue

>>18012628

uh what

yeah but I mean I'd have to get some dates organised first etc. I need something indirect to confirm her interest.

>>18012437

You are dripping with insecurity here. What does it matter if she says "I love you"? Is she or is she not dating you? Isn't that a good enough sign of her interest?

>>18012437
It depends on the people and the relationship. There is no rule.

I fell in love with my boyfriend after the first time we talked. I knew he was the one. But it took me a year to say it.

>>18012440
/adv.. so wise.. so much truth..
yes I am insecure. it is trust issues. i had a bad experience in a past relationship where i gave a lot and i guess i'm a bit paranoid. Thanks for gd advice!

>self diagnosed PTSD

Its possible for someone to overblow their issues and cause themselves PTSD by the sheer fact that the slightest "triggering" can be overblown to trauma.

Yes, someone can delude themselves into thinking they were traumatized by an event.

Unless you were sexually abused, were in a life changing event, or was in a battle field, your 'PTSD' is likely a self-fulfilling inaccurate diagnosis.

>Hi ya all, anyone else here who is diagnosed with PTSD?
Got diagnosed with PTSD 3 years ago because I've seen someone die infront of me, still affected by it. It doesn't have a major impact on my life but I often become sleepless because of it. Made me very anxious about death and existence.

>How do you feel about all this self-diagnosing teenage cancer?
I don't really care.

>What do you do to cope with anger? Especially when relating to people who did you wrong.

I'm rarely ever angry.

>>18012439
I agree. I thought the same, but my symptoms were clear and a history of physical abuse by an islamic household is enough for me to believe that. I was once diagnosed with borderline, but enough docotrs reassured me that it is bullshit, but I almost bought into it.

>>18012449
Understandebly. Have you received treatment? And how is it helping so far?

Just drop it dude. You were probably a rebound.

>>18012467
The problem is that I see her everywhere and her social group knows I have a crush on her. I don't know how to socially recover from this gracefully.

>>18012525

...by pretending that it didn't happen. Seriously, it's the best route to go.

>>18012411

Get away from her, and start hanging out with people that respect you.

>It's her fault I feel this way

Sooner you man up and claim responsibility for your own emotions, the sooner you'll move on

>>18012415
This. What is "I have feelings and it's her fault" bullshit.

>>18012400
Acting is a craft at least as much as a matter of innate talent, and you will get nowhere without some formal training. London is home to the greatest acting schools in the world (RADA, Central, Guildhall, LAMDA, etc) and there are others in Bristol, Edinburgh, etc.

Respect your chosen profession enough to learn your craft. Not incidentally, these schools are constantly scouted by agents and directors, and many grads go right into work.

>>18012420
thanks very much for your response anon, im going to start taking a few classes and reading stella adler, other acting books like that as soon as possible. and i guess work as hard as possible for as long as i can maybe eventually as you said go to one of these acting schools as soon as i can.I was a little discouraged by the fact that i was born in the UK and not us but i guess theres still some really interesting stuff to learn and work on here too.

>>18012400

just because you want to act doesn't mean you have to be famous. they tell actors that you cant rely on hollywood to write the roles you wanna play which is why actors are all producing their own indie films these days.

so unless your goal is just to be famous, you dont need to be a famous hollywood actor. you can have a day job and do acting for fun.

>>18012399
>and miss me when I'm not there

Wow. If she doesn't miss you already, then you aren't gonna make an impact with a few choice phrases from /Adv/.

Is she into you? Are you you two JUST classmates?

>>18012399
Current or classic movies, music, TV shows, local gossip, coming campus events, etc. Any of these can open a whole new line of chat, and also set up possibilities to invite her to something.

>>18012405
We're classmates but I only started talking with her around two weeks ago. I wish I knew wether she was into me or not, she's a very polite girl so it's hard to tell if she's attracted to me. I try paying attention to the whole body language/signs of attraction meme but it's not helping I'm only getting mixed signals which confuses me further. I want to ask her out but I don't think we're close enough yet and as I mentioned she's the quiet studious type, I don't think I've ever seen her hanging out with a guy

>>18012362
yes

>>18012362
Given that she was willing to go out with you twice, it would seem to be that her excuse for not wanting to date you is not actually how she really feels.

She doesn't want to date you. She's giving you an excuse that isn't the actual truth of "I don't like you in a romantic way" probably because she's trying to spare your feelings.

Move on. If you can't do that while you're living with her, stop living with her.

>>18012362
Don't give a valentines box, but a box of chocolates with a "For a Good Friend" note

>>18012170

i wouldn't worry about it yet. you're happy and enjoying life, so unless you need kids right this fucking minute, you might as well wait. even if he doesn't change, you'll at least enjoy waht you ahve while it lasts. its bound to end at some point. if not from something else than eventually this kids issue will reach a breaking point.

>>18012170
If you are ridiculously happy, then stay together and don't have kids.

>>18012170
>How do you bring yourself to break up with a guy who is your ideal in almost every way?

By realizing "almost" is not enough.

Kids are not something you can compromise on. The person who doesn't want them, even if they give in to your request, will never be the kind of parent you want them to be, because deep down they didn't want them. It's unfair to you, your kids and your partner.

You need to have one final, long conversation about this with him. Find out every reason why he doesn't want kids. Talk about those reasons, and see if there's a chance he will want them later. For example, if his issue is that he wants to own a home and be married for 5 years first, that's easy. You can work through that. If his reason is that he hates kids and kids suck and he simply doesn't want anything to do with them, that's not something that is likely to change.

After that conversation, it's up to you to know whether he will eventually come around and have them with you, or if there's no chance. In which case, it's time to leave.

>Tl;dr girl wants my D but has bf, we're all in same class. Feels hella weird when i talk to him. What do

>>18012143
That girl is a ho my friend. Do not engage.
But that doesn't mean stop letting her send you nudes. Ho deserves it

People like that are trash anon, don't fall for them. If you let yourself get along with her, 100% you'll find yourself the one getting the short end of the stick.

>>18012151
Also, do you want to be friends with her boyfriend? Or is he just talking to you and you feel the need to talk back to him?