I need advice on my situation.
My best friend of a long time is in love with me and wants to fuck me silly. I feel the exact same way and we are both perfect for each other. We've even discussed this and nearly fucked. But, she has a boyfriend who she's been with for 7 years that she also loves just as much as me. She won't cheat on him and I wouldn't ask her to but at the same time she wants to fuck me so badly it's ridiculous. She'll grind on me and basically do everything short of ripping my clothes off.
I'm not sure what to do with this situation.
>>18010211
Put yourself in the boyfriend's shoes. I know it's hard to do, but do it. If you had been dating her for 7 years, how badly would it devastate you to find out that she cheated on you with one of her friends? You can't convince her to break it off with the guy? It would still suck for him, but at least she'd have the decency to not go behind his back while he still thinks he's in a loving, trusting relationship.
Uh, she did cheat on him. In what universe is grinding on you and telling you how much she'd be with you if not for the other guy not cheating?
She's been with him for seven years... as painful as it is, I'd make it clear that you need to cut out the friendship. You're not going to feel free to fall for another woman while this friend is literally rubbing herself on you and you have deeper feelings for her already. And even if you would, how would she like you being taken? Not to mention that both of you are disrespecting her very long term relationship.
If she really loves you and wants to be with you, she'll break up with you once she realizes she WILL lose you over this.
She has a boyfriend and had him over 5 years, end of the discussion. Dont be dick controled and screw her, be a man and tell her unless she doesnt break up with him, you wont do her.
And then it depends on her. If she really loves him, shell stay. Or she'll get extra horny because you played it cool and breaks up with him.
About two months ago I had unprotected sex and ended up getting symptoms of an STD. Having been thru two courses of antibiotics (the 1st shown to fail almost immediately), the symptoms have resurfaced after a few weeks thinking I was cured. In that time I have found a new partner and we have had sex (with protection). I'm going back for treatment but I feel as though I have to tell her, but I'm worried I might fuck things up by doing this. What do?
Be honest. Honesty is what makes successful relationships.
>>18010188
Dubs of truth
>>18010188
Problem is I'm at college and I've only been seeing her for a very short time so I don't know what the reaction will be. If she freaks and tells others then lige could suck. I'm fucking pissed off at myself that I may have put someone else's health at risk
I find myself really conscientious of the dynamics of power in the "getting to know you" stages of a relationship these days. Little stuff like when to respond to texts/calls or the language used when looking to hangout has me constantly aware of not looking needy and not delivering the wrong message.
Things is, for years I just went with the flow with no worries to such things, and it eventually became clear that what I took as "just treating people with basic common courtesy" was taken by them as "lol this guy is a doormat."
Am I overthinking it, or is everyone else just naturally in a "meh, I do what I want and if your presence in my life is fun and easy, cool. Otherwise, not devoting any energy to you" mode that for me just takes a concerted effort?
>is everyone else just naturally in a "meh, I do what I want and if your presence in my life is fun and easy, cool. Otherwise, not devoting any energy to you"
pretty much, yea. it's only after months of being together that you should actually give a shit or feel invested in them at all.
>>18010159
So then how is anyone supposed to ever get a relationship off the ground if no one is going to put any effort into it in the beginning?
>>18010170
because while you're cumming on her she experiences oxycontin release which stimulates pair bonding
fix me
Look fine to me.
What's the problem?
>>18010138
You're a qt but for the love of god get a better haircut
Seems like you need to work on your self esteem. Find something you like about yourself every day and give yourself a compliment. Positive self talk even if it is forced is the first step to a better self image.
My husband is now changing what he thinks my role in the relationship should be. Initially, we agreed that we'd both have careers, get more stable and then discuss who will do what, and whether we can have some sort of balance as we go into the 'children' phase of the relationship. I've never been keen on being a homemaker, as I doubt I would find it fulfilling and love my work and other parts of my life.
Ideally, I would want some kind of half and half thing, and both of our workplaces are pretty flexible.
But lately, my partner has been very 'tradition' focused, and has started asking when we're going to have kids and when I'm going to quit my job and the like. Our salaries are on a par, so its not like he's earning any more than me.
Whenever I try to say that that is not what I want, he just gets dismissive or angry, and won't talk to me. He is having none of the measured discussions he SAID he would, while we were getting serious.
He's also becoming more lazy around the house, and won't do many chores, and we're both working full time so it's exhausting to have to do everything. I ask him, and he says he will, but it doesn't get done so I have to do it.
TL:DR My husband is suddenly deciding I have to be his good little housewife and won't negotiate, and I'm starting to doubt my marriage.
Having a panick attack just reading it.. im so sorry for you. Hope yall fix it..
>>18010132
Try to get some professional help if he's willing... if he's not...
Well it's better that you find that out now and be able to respond, rather than when you've had a child and your choices are no longer JUST about you two.
Children are awesome, but you DO NOT want to be trapped 12-18+ years in to a relationship with a partner that isn't willing to work with you.
>>18010151
Thanks. It's just the change that is so awful. He said he wasn't like this, and we did the sensible thing and discussed all this stuff BEFORE marriage.
I'm in a LDR. My boyfriend just told me that his ex (that broke his heart) called him and said she wanted to meet him. He said he might do it. Is it wrong for me to ask him not too?
I might be over reacting, but she moved away and that's why they broke up, so I'm a little scared at the moment.
>>18010060
>ldr
>>18010064
Thats helpful, thanks.
>>18010099
What do you want? LDR are a meme.
Unless you're living in the artic, meet people in real life
So I told my husband a couple of weeks ago that I didnt want to try to get pregnant next month. We had been trying for about 4 months.
And guess what... now I am pregnant. I am not really a baby person, kids are ok, but I am concerned I don't want this enough. I like my body and my life now, and I haven't really achieved what I would want to. and sleep. and quiet. I definitely fluctuate a little on my feelings so it is unfortunate that I got knocked up at such a low point.
Any advice from those that have been there before?
>>18010054
Should I be watching the news a year from now for the headline," Mother drowns child in lake, blames Father for not helping change diapers!" ?
>>18010054
>I didnt want to try to get pregnant next month. We had been trying for about 4 months. And guess what... now I am pregnant.
So why didn't you use protection?
>>18010067
I hope not lol... Plus he would be a great dad and would def help with diapers etc
>>18010075
The point of conception was before (but not that long before) I told him i wanted to stop trying for a while.
>My girlfriend wants sex every day.
>Sometimes even twice.
>She becomes ... restless(?) when I refuse.
What should I do? Everything else is fine, but to me it is too much.
Satiate her needs when you do have sex
Seriously I wish my problems with my gf were like that... fuck you
get her a bull
Would you rather have a girlfriend that never wants to have sex?
Right now, anon, YOU are the problem. Everything is NOT fine. The fact that she gets "restless" when you ignore her is a RED FLAG that she WILL become dissatisfied with you eventually. Unless you don't give a shit about her, you better learn how to fuck twice a day fast.
Be a man. Pleasure her.
>create today a profile on lovoo
>get a match with "qt" pic related
>text her, she seemed to be very sweet and interested
>talk about university, city stuff and hobbies and get well along
>agree on meeting for a coffee tomorrow at 3pm at a café next to the campus
>I'm very excited and never doubted about her veracity
>decide to take screenshots of her profile pics anyway and do reverse search
>her pic appear on several twitter accounts
> her pics are even from different girls from different countries that look quite similar
Well I guess it's quite obvious that I shouldn't go to the date tomorrow but I just want to know what you guys think or if you have experienced similar situations.
What's the most likely thing to happen if I go? Nobody's gonna come right?
I live in Germany, in a very peaceful students town, so I don't think it's some kind of criminal that wants to rob me or something. That's why I've been thinking about giving it a try for Keks and giggles.
What do you think?
Why do people do fake accounts and promise dates, what is even the point?
>>18010027
Send a friend of yours on the lookout before you arrive.
If it's something fishy you both can bail without consequences.
>>18010027
Probably just a desperate butter golem catfishing you.
>>18010027
bring backup
How do I move on from a girl that I know my love for her isn't special. Do I just go by the out of sight out of my mind approach? She doesn't reciprocate any feelings for me but I still can't stop thinking about her and it feels shitty and childish
Pic related that is like a really young version of her and has similar hair
>>18010015
Meet more girls. Find some that like you. Realize there's no point in going after someone that doesn't like you back. Move on with your life.
>>18010041
I don't talk to women much cause I'm what people call beta. Would cutting contact with her help?
>>18010088
>Would cutting contact with her help?
It depends. Are you gonna focus on something else or are you gonna keep obsessing over her?
Need help.
Recently got in a relationship with a girl who's into BDSM and orgasm denial in particular.
I need to know as much as I can about it.
Any help is deeply appreciated.
Picture unrelated, Annie is hot.
>>18009918
Fetish communities would be way more helpful than us.
Talking with her about what she likes would be even more helpful. Just saying.
>>18009918
Are you the dom or the sub, is she into denying your orgasm or is she into you denying her orgasm?
>>18009935
Agreed. I should have added I'm trying to surprise her.
I've treated my best friend like shit. I've destroyed the most special relationship in my life. Now he says he will never ever forgive me. Serves me right, but I'm devastated. I don't have the motivation to do anything. I feel desperate. I feel I'm not myself anymore. I feel like a shallow reflection of what I used to be. Happiness is the strangest feeling in my life now.
I'd love to go back in time and fix this mess.
We'd stopped talking for a while, but he contacted me a few days ago. Still says I'm not a friend and he won't forgive me.
I know I can't force him to forgive me. I'm trying to be good to the people in my life but what else can I do?
>>18009914
Learn that your actions have consequences. Accept said consequences and move on, or don't and wallow in your self created misery. Also tell us what you did so we can laugh at you kek
What happened, anon? You can tell us.
>>18009930
>>18009938
It doesn't matter. I was selfish. I was confused. For a moment I thought he was the bad guy and he wasn't.
I doesn't matter what I did.
Does anyone have any experience with support groups? My doctor suggested I try it.
What are my chances to meet a cute girl to make each other feel less miserable about our illness?
>>18009912
Do you really want to date someone as mentally unstable as yourself?
>>18009947
I'm not mentally unstable, why would they be?
>>18009975
Who do you think go to support groups
I've been experiencing recurrent cases of pinworms over the past 12 years of my life.
I'm at my wit's end over this. Sometimes I get it regularly (couple of times a year), other times I can avoid them for a year or so. All I know is they make my asshole incredibly itchy at night time when I have it (like unbearably so, it's driven me close to tears at times) and that it leaves my digestive tract rumbling and feeling awful.
I've tried various over the counter medications, but it keeps coming back. To soothe it at night in recent times I've been shoving a peeled clove of garlic up my ass to stop the itching.
I'm sick to death of being extremely uncomfortable and not being able to tell anybody about it as it's fucking disgusting having a parasitic issue.
Before anyone asks I'm a clean person and have to tried washing everything I have multiple times.
>>18009911
Gr8 b8 m8.
Go see a doctor.
>>18009911
I am told there is a profession dedicated to understanding and solving problems of the body. Perhaps you should seek out one of these sages, who go by the name "doctor."
Seriously, there are deworming drugs. Go ask for some.
You have to be getting them from somewhere.
Do you have a dog or a child or are in contact with them? Do you buy your groceries/food from a dodgy ethnic shop? Do you live near something that could be spreading shit in the air (e.g. fertilizer, sewerage, etc).
Alternatively you're not treating them properly and they're just coming back each time.
My grandma let me stay with her for four years to finish up school which I did. I got a job and was getting ready to leave when I had a freak accident, broke my ankle and had surgery 6 weeks ago.
Now my grandma wants me out and I wish I could. I've secured a new job I start on the 15th.
The problem is I can't move my stuff and I don't have a new place yet. She is all the way pissed.
I don't have a lease with her nor am I paying rent. I do have a cat. Any advice? I'll take any whether it's condemning or encouraging.
I'm looking for a room for rent and have a few leads but I'm all the way out of time with grandma and she's threatening to toss my stuff out. I hate this.
>>18009806
even without a lease,in the US at least,you have rights. someone can't just kick you out on the street without formal notice.
Why does your grandma want you out? Sounds like she has a reason
>>18009829
Like 30 day vacate or something? >>18009833
My grandma is a pretty nasty person despite her being nice enough to help me. Someone told her it was a good time to sell her house and she wants the money. She lives in a different house right now. She told me she wanted me out after school and I was on that path until I broke my ankle and lost my job. Even though I got this new job relatively fast it conflicts with her schedule to have the house professionally cleaned and painted. Furthermore my grandma has never worked a day in her life and is a little out of touch with the world. I don't think fox news and oxycodone are helping either