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How do i ask a girl that i like to be my gf?
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Whip it and and ask her if she wants to suck you off on a permanent basis.
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Wait for her to approach you. Don't want to seem desperate.
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haha really funny guys, but i really want to know is when and how to approach her to ask her to date me
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How do you deal with PMS and that Anger? Like I can't recognize myself. It was planned that my boyfriend and me meet each other at the park today, because the weather is starting to be sunny and we wanted to go outside. So after I put all my makeup on, tried out like 3 different outfits I was ready to go and excited because I haven't seen him since a week too.
So then he texts me, he will be 2 hours late because he has to help his mom (that lives 5 min away) carry something from the basement.
So I just told him that this is a bullshit excuse and I don't get why he won't tell me outright that he doesn't want to come. It wasn't the first time though, like he is literally not able to pick me up from anywhere as promised. Whereas I 100% of the time am already waiting for him outside or at the traintracks when he arrives.
Anyways, I basically told him that this annoys the shit out of me and also his other friends, too. Where he just said "Oh it's a bit early this time?(he knows my cycle)"
I raged, because by now I've ripped up my favorite tights that I was wearing underneath due to anger. And tell him he doesn't need to come and I can enjoy the sun alone and don't need shit like this. He just replied with "hope you have fun.." I thought it was sarcastic, since I was feeling 0% fun. So I just said, "yes I will and maybe at least then I get a date lol."
Where he just reply "well, that on the other hand is some shit, that I dont need"
Did I fuck up this time? I just wanted to make him jealous and aware that I don't always jump when he says so and that I'm fed up with this behavior of always leaving me hanging like this. But did I just push it too far?
I know I'm a bit on the crazy side but something that stupid I haven't dropped yet.
Also my pride doesn't allow me to immediately apologize. Also I kind of want to be a bit more "hard to get". We've been together since almost a year now and I kind of feel like he's getting bored
tl;dr how to cure hysteria / crazy?
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>inb4 slut hopping on the next dick
It's literally just so he has that feeling that I'm something worth "chasing" and being after, so he doesn't take me for granted so goddamn much. Even though I told him I'm going anyways, I cried off my makeup, put on a pajama and ask /adv/ for help while choking on eating too much chocolate
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>>18168179
Have a chocolate bar and suck his dick. You'll feel much better.
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>>18168191
How am I supposed to talk again to him after I dropped this bomb?
Also I am indeed upset over this, and even though I overreacted I have to stand by the point that this is an issue that I kind of want to address.
And I don't want to just come back crawling like how I'm sorry and take it all back etc. Might be childish, but this is some kind of power thing there, and welp how can I say, I kind of want to "win".
;__; I really just want to suck dick though
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Why do I get stressed out and repulsed by neediness?
What is wrong with me?
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In this life, no one understands the very real thirst of the other. People who have gone years without being happy with someone, people dying of terminal illnesses, people with anxiety and so much love to give, but no one will take a chance. The years go by, the spirit slowly crushed.
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Nothing, that's perfectly normal. Growing dependency over long term relationships makes sense and loving or liking someone so much that you get attached is also fine, neediness is not and belies insecurity and emotional problems.
Nothing wrong with you, carry on.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201212/overcoming-neediness
good article on it
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My girlfriend is shit at texting and I get lonely when she doesn't reply to me.
What do?
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If you were Chad she would be responding very frequently. Just remember that
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>>18168083
Get a better gf
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>>18168083
>texting
You use that to have small talk and set up meetings in person so you can cuddle her and stuff.
Meet with her more often and find something else to do with your life in the meantime. And dont forget once you life becomes only
>thinking about gf
>meeting with gf
>talking with gf
You will become boring person and in the case she breaks up with you, you will be broken for a long time.
Read a book, play a game, fap, go out with friends, do some sport, study or work hard, whatever just dont center your life around one girl.
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After many years of knowing someone, we finally ended up together. Happiest time of my life, absolutely zero regrets, I felt genuinely in love.
Here's the issue...this person makes me feel mentally ill and I'm pretty sure it's to do with how much I love them and how worried I am about losing them.
I'm normally a very calm and collected person but certain things happening recently have turned me into a terrible person. I'm aggressive, nasty, self deprecating and self destructive. I hate myself.
I think I already know the answer but in a situation like this, the only real option is to back off and leave the person to have a happy life without you, right?
I'm stuck in a kind of internal cycle and I can't see a way out of it. I'm worried I'm going to upset this person or make them feel bad and that's the last thing I want to do because I just love them so much.
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>>18168026
If you love a bird, would you cage it or let it free?
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>>18168026
Love can make us crazy. If you love her that much you're probably better than anyone else.
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>>18168026
Same boat
The thing that helped me was discovering that all of these traits boiled down to trust and insecurity issues. If you can work on trusting your heart and genuinely respecting them enough to trust them too, you can be with them while still being sane. Don't squeeze so hard, and keep working on yourself. You don't necessarily have to leave if you think you can do this.
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How do I write fast and legibly? I have this insane essay exam like at the end of the year where you have to write this essay on insane length. I'm taking a humanities major. Whoever can write faster has the advantage because that way I can spend less time writing and more time thinking. I'm currently training cursive, I'm used to writing print, stuck with print since young. But I fear I will not master it in time and it would just end up being an illegible mess. Thanks
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It looks you suffer of dislessy, pic of your calligraphic?
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>>18168028
My handwriting looks like this when I'm forced to write like 6 mini essays in 3 hours. But under normal circumstances like in the past for science exams with short answer questions, I write exactly like print, very legible. Is that a symptom of dysphagia?
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>>18168035
No, maybe dyslexia. You struggle in reading or to concentrate in something?
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So I ran into this girl I am interested in while she was working. It went very well, she was very happy to see me and showed many signs of attraction. Her pupils were so big you couldn't see the color and her face as red as a tomato, and she even ignored things other people said at the time while locked onto me. So we talked for like 3-5 min, I got her phone number easily and she was happy to give it. I texted her that same day asking if she wanted to hang out after work and got no response. I waited 2 days and brought up the event she said was attending that weekend, and since it was cards I gave a flirty, "You probably got your butt kicked ;-)," at the end. Still no response a day later.
So my question, should I try to text again, or go see her in person. She was very into me and happy to see me, and she is quite shy. I have known her for some time but have been out of contact, but have heard from a friend she liked me back when we met but I was committed. Very confusing, and I would really like to be with her otherwise I would just say fuck it.
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Sorry op she's ghosted. She's not interested.
To this day I don't understand why girls do this.
If she texts you out of the blue you're golden. But if I were you I would stop sending her texts
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>>18168014
I'd try a third time per text and if she doesn't respond ignore the fuck out of her. Something like "hey how are you, pls respond". No need to put in any effort and see her in person when she's that impolite.
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>>18168014
You may have picked up on false signals OP, or she may have been having trouble with her actual guy, and was flirting to try and get you as a backup or rebound just incase. Sorry OP, but your best bet it to cut all contact
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I was eating out with some family tonight because my aunt, uncle, and female cousin are visiting us in Illinois from New York. We stopped at a Chili's as they'd just gotten off the plane and we wanted something quick and casual after the drive from O'Hare
I ordered a spicy pasta dish and when it arrived I still hadn't gotten my first refill on my soda. I took one bite and decided it was too spicy to enjoy without something to drink. I tried stopping our waiter and asking again and he just said once again that he'd be right out with it. Ten minutes later and it still hadn't arrived. Everyone else was half done and I was pressured into eating the rest. After I was finished the refill finally arrived but by then I didn't care anymore.
I asked my dad in a hushed voice if he could reduce the tip but since he's someone who believes in always tipping at least 15% since he used to be a waiter himself he flatly refused. I thought it was a reasonable request. If I was in charge of the check I honestly would've tipped zero. It was the worst service I can remember having.
Was I right in this situation? When is it appropriate to reduce tip, and by how much depending on the situation, or leave no tip?
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Your father was paying the bill. He gets to decide on the tip, and it sounds like he has a legitimate policy.
When you pay, you get to apply your standards to tipping.
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>Was I right in this situation? When is it appropriate to reduce tip, and by how much depending on the situation, or leave no tip?
Yes, you were right. Zero tip can be justified. The waiter may actually be out of pocket due to mandatory "tip share" based on sales, but that isn't your problem.
Tip what you feel like tipping. This, coming from a former server (water) at Outback.
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That was seriously the worst service you can ever remember having? Not getting your drink refilled? Seriously, dude?
It's not great, I agree. I'd have reduced the tip. But if your food arrived promptly, and the check came reasonably quickly, then a 0% tip would have been absolutely unwarranted. Honestly, you sound unreasonable.
I'm sorta one of those "always tip at least 15%" people, though I'll reduce it in really egregious cases, but I can still admit that what you described was sorta crappy and might have warranted reducing the tip by 5% or a few percent more if you're feeling really ornery. Not down to 0. Jesus.
And it's kinda crazy that you're still dwelling on this afterwards.
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Been dating my virgin girlfriend for a year. I'm her first boyfriend. We are going on a romantic summer vacation on in a tropical cove with minimal people. Should I make love with her under the moonlight on the sand? Should we do it in our tent? We told a little lie to her folks that friends would be with us on the trip so it feels a but adventurous.
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Have sex on the is one of the most uncomfortable experiences I've ever had.
Sand everywhere.
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Do not, I repeat, do not, have sex on sand. It seems romantic until you do it. Tents are okay.
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thanks I guess. Would a cloth blanket on the sand help? Should I propose to her also? She's one of those rare religious girls who isn't a fundie but is still reserved and conservative.
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Girlfriend cheated on me with friend
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Hi /adv/, /fit/izen here.
Ok so long story short my girlfriend of 2 years went out with our Uni coursemates, got drunk, and kissed one of my 'friends'.
This guy has acted like a friend for ages, supporting me before my girlfriend and I got together and knew how much she meant to me.
Thing is, this isn't the first time something similar has happened. Another night out when I was there, she gave him a peck on the lips. I was ready to kick the shit out of the guy and ended the relationship, but I put the blame on myself for overreacting to what happened. In the end of the day though, they both knew how fuming I was and I made that very clear.
What makes things worse is that the most recent thing happened about a month ago and everyone decided to hide it from me until another friend and coursemate told me what happened. He told me the guy regretted it instantly and when I talked to her she said she doesn't know how it happened but it just did.
I don't care what she says though in my eyes it was not an isolated incident and so I have left her for good now.
Question is, do I beat the living shit out of the guy? In my eyes, he knew what I was like the first time and still decided to repeat it (and significantly worse this time). It is complete disrespect and as far as I'm concerned I have all the cards in my hand. I have said I'd keep what happened quiet for the sake of my ex, and so if I do decide to confront the guy he'd have to admit to what happened to all our mutual friends as well as having to explain to his girlfriend what he did.
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God that's fucking hot.
Ask her how he fucked her. greentext that shit.
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Dude, holy shit.
Dump the girl, tell everyone what happened, tell your friend's girlfriend.
Stop talking to your friends, too - they're cunts.
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Nope not worth it. The legal repercussions could be severe. I'd just dump her ass and never look back. Ignore the faggot and all of involved friends but if he does rub it into your face then don't take shit from him.
Don't invoke it. If he invokes beat his ass softly so there are no bruises on the face.
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So yeah, long story short I have fallen in love with an arab girl. The thing is I have despised of non whites my entire life, but I cant keep away from her. I cant tell anyone about our relationship as she would for sure disapprove. I am confused with myself, but I really do love her. Feel free to ask any questions as I really need advice. Pic not really related
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/pol/ please.
Arabs are the closest thing to whites unless she has some black dna in her.
So, unless your parents hate arabs or you got shot by an arab terrorist, you got no excuse to hate.
Just drop off that pride of yours and try to know her and know if she is into you, but you would become muslim if she is muslim as well.
IMO, if you're alpha you can become a good muslim, but if you're a beta ass wimp that browses /r9k/ you wouldn't even handle her or her family.
This is up to you OP, but no excuse to hate on her, she could be the love of your life.
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And why the fuck did I thought I wrote a lot?
I guess I'm going to sleep, god damn it.
But seriously OP, drop that racist shit man, she could be the perfect woman.
Hell, even mothefucking Hitler loved some Arabs for some reason, I don't know.
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She is Christian born so that is not an issue. She has told me that she has feelings for me. But it is difficult for me to change views that I have held my whole life
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I got fucked up by a car pretty bad and while I'm expected to recover, I really can't do jack fucking shit for at least until next autumn.
It turns out being disabled is really, really, really fucking boring.
How do I keep myself entertained until that, don't panic and freak out and do something stupid or just spend the entire next 6 months blackout drunk?
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>>18167777
You check those fucking quads boyo
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>>18167777
Noice.
Anyway, you could always read some books you like, especially the university ones with +1k pages, watch a fuckton of movies, finish your backlog if you watch anime, etc.
Sadly there isn't that much you can do right now, but you got the fucking internet, there is a fuckton of things so you can do in the meantime of your disabled time.
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That one time I thought I'd been rejected from EVERY school I applied to, I freaked out and tried to kill myself out of fear I'd be stuck at mom's for another year.
I don't handle being stuck very well.
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29, seriously considering killing myself.
I've done nothing but be a failure my entire life. Took me 6 years to get a bachelor's. Didn't graduate til I was 26. Have no skills. Fucked up my chances to live my dream 6 times now. Single. I've seen the statistics, I've basically fucked up any chance I had of being any kind of success.
Fantasize about murdering a certain person I've never met, but he's caused me an enormous amount of pain over the past 3 months, in no way does he deserve it, but god I want him dead more than anything. I can't sleep I'm so fucking angry.
But killing him won't make me happy, or improve my life, so I might as well just turn it all off right?
What should I do?
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You should talk about it, why do you wanna kill this dude? Tell me about how you've fucked your life. Don't mind the statistics, they mean nothing for you, you will do fine if you actually put forth measurable effort.
You can hit me up on kik if you need to talk, IscariotRising, I'm a fuckup myself but I'm sort of slowly getting it together.
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who gives a shit if you have achieved anything or not
i work in a lumber mill and dont have a gf :D
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this american notion of you must achieve steven jobs tier success and such is damaging to ppl
cant you just, do what you like and enjoy your life?
i guarantee a female will want in on that sooner or later
failure means you have been trying, thats good, keep failing, keep trying
killing yourself doesnt help you anyway
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I am in a relationship with a guy for six months now, we talk on the phone every day (he calls me every day) but we have a LDR. So I see him a few times a month. He's honest about the people he meets up with and one friend is his female friend he has known for 7 years. He meets up with her every Thursday, sometimes skips a day when he is busy. He goes over at her place to cook and eat together and watch tv and than leaves. He has a guy friend he does this with every Monday, so it is not exclusive to her I guess.
Still, it upsets me how close they are. She has a boyfriend and I've read some conversations between them on Whatsapp and watched them together once. It is 100 percent obvious she has friendzoned my boyfriend, I recognize the behavior. So she is cool in my eyes, I trust that she won't put a move on him.
But I wonder if my boyfriend's intentions are to be trusted. I fear that if she would like him, he would drop me for her in a second. They hug on the couch together while watching a movie and tickle eachother on the couch and they are just so comfortable together. I believe he would want to be more than friends and I have a feeling I am sharing my boyfriend with her.
He told me they hug and cook and hang out but just as friends, he says he has never felt attracted to her at all (yeah right) and they even talked about dating once but both laughed saying it is impossible so I don't have to worry.
But this is tearing me up, if he cuddles with her on the couch and shit, where is the line between a girlfriend and just a friend. Only we have sex and they don't?! I don't want to share my boyfriend with her, she has her own boyfriend, how is HE okay with his girlfriend hugging on the couch with my boyfriend every week?! My boyfriend told me not to overthink it, but I feel horrible. I even think about breaking up but I don't want to break up, I love this guy, but this is jusy way too complicated for me and it makes me so unhappy.
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On one hand, being insecure is going to kill your relationship. But on the other, shit like cuddling on the couch with someone else is completely inappropriate. While I do think you need to work on trust, I also think he has crossed a line and like you say, there's very little differentiating your relationship with him from hers.
However, at the same time, I don't see you coming out on top in this scenario. I am 90% sure that if he had to pick between the two of you, or even between stopping this behaviour and you breaking up with him, he'd pick her.
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I have no choice but to trust him, but I feel like lines are being crossed and I just have to sit here and accept it because 'I should just trust him'. Up to what point do I have to trust him, he's literally cuddling with her with a blanket on the couch. It just blows my mind that I have to accept that, I would have told my friend to gtfo from the relationship because nothing good comes from a guy that is this close with another girl, yet here I am accepting this from my guy because I should trust him. He will not stop cuddling with her if I ask him to, I don't want to break up with him but I hate sharing him and feeling the way I do right now. Damnit.
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>>18167758
Have you talked to him about this? If so, I see no options other than putting up with it or dumping him. Just the fact that he doesn't realise he's crossing a line is a huge red flag and I'd personally consider it to be a dealbreaker
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My life is thoroughly fucked. I have been in a dead relationship for a few years now with a guy who is a decade older than me and is financially irresponsible and has basically no life experience because he is very charming and has influentual friends and family who take care of everything for him. (Never delt with debt, legal repercussions, has never had to pay rent, etc.)
We initially had a fun relationship but I have felt used because he "lost his job" after we moved in together, and didn't get another one until 2 years later. I have supported him and he has put me in serious debt and wrecked my car(s), so I have been severely depressed for a very long time. I'm the one who gave up my life so he could have this job and now I'm having to pay for everything he has destroyed.
He is extremely callous toward me, and we are basically still together because he owes me a substantial amount of money. I have no friends of my own, I quit college and life in general because my classes and hobbies did not fit his work schedule and then he destroyed my car, so I can't even take an offer for a great job.
I am financially drained, isolated, and have had severe problems with anxiety and depression for most of my life, so the thought of starting over is so overwhelming that I'd rather kill myself. I was on the path of restructuring my life following a physically abusive relationship, reintegrating socially, had a 4.0 GPA in college and felt like I had a chance at making something of my life.
I'm in shape because I work out way too much to work off my frustration and I am a talented performing artist, but I have given up on my interests, feel dead inside, sleep as much as possible, and have no confidence. I have been used for years but I am absolutely terrified to start over again.
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>>18167674
I have no advice. But i hope you not worry about money so much
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>>18167674
All I can say is that you've hit rock bottom so you might as well take a leap of faith and start over. It can't get any worse, right? Starting over will be hard and might take a long time to get the ball rolling again. But regardless of how difficult the journey will be, just remember that it won't suck nearly as much as your life currently does now.
I don't know if you can afford to, but if you can, I'd suggest seeking professional help. There are also free services online and numbers you can call.
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Jesus, don't know what to say to you.
I could've told you to live the hobo life but you must be a girl.
No advice here as well, but you could contact your family(?) again in case some shit happens to you or him and you could go back to their home again and start a new life alone(?).