Why do I get stressed out and repulsed by neediness? What

>>18168105
In this life, no one understands the very real thirst of the other. People who have gone years without being happy with someone, people dying of terminal illnesses, people with anxiety and so much love to give, but no one will take a chance. The years go by, the spirit slowly crushed.

Nothing, that's perfectly normal. Growing dependency over long term relationships makes sense and loving or liking someone so much that you get attached is also fine, neediness is not and belies insecurity and emotional problems.

Nothing wrong with you, carry on.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201212/overcoming-neediness

good article on it

>>18168173
Interesting read anon

>>18168185
I have had similar issues myself growing up. Dad cheated on mom, they broke up when I was only a baby really, since then, my mom was in and out of long term and short term relationships, so it kinda warped my brain. To think.. why don't people just stay together? As you get older you understand why. People want peace of mind, a reciprocal act. Now my issue is, that I haven't been in a relationship in years, so my desire to be in one manifests into this anxiety when I finally see the right girl, I sometimes fear repulsing or turning a girl off because it is so rare I feel an attraction so deep..

>>18168198
meanwhile, most girls have had tons of bf's and there I am feeling like an idiot understanding they no longer feel love in such a deep way.. and it becomes this disingenuous artificial dance. And the sad part is, that knowing this, I also know that's where my spirit is headed.. unless the girl finally reciprocates the attraction.