After many years of knowing someone, we finally ended up together.

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2017-03-28 12:34:17 Post No.
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Anonymous 2017-03-28 12:34:17 Post No. [Report]

After many years of knowing someone, we finally ended up together. Happiest time of my life, absolutely zero regrets, I felt genuinely in love.

Here's the issue...this person makes me feel mentally ill and I'm pretty sure it's to do with how much I love them and how worried I am about losing them.

I'm normally a very calm and collected person but certain things happening recently have turned me into a terrible person. I'm aggressive, nasty, self deprecating and self destructive. I hate myself.

I think I already know the answer but in a situation like this, the only real option is to back off and leave the person to have a happy life without you, right?

I'm stuck in a kind of internal cycle and I can't see a way out of it. I'm worried I'm going to upset this person or make them feel bad and that's the last thing I want to do because I just love them so much.

Anonymous 2017-03-28 12:44:53 Post No.18168037
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>>18168026
If you love a bird, would you cage it or let it free?

Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:02:25 Post No.18168066
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Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:02:25 Post No.18168066 [Report]

>>18168026

Love can make us crazy. If you love her that much you're probably better than anyone else.

Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:11:51 Post No.18168080
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Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:11:51 Post No.18168080 [Report]

>>18168026
Same boat

The thing that helped me was discovering that all of these traits boiled down to trust and insecurity issues. If you can work on trusting your heart and genuinely respecting them enough to trust them too, you can be with them while still being sane. Don't squeeze so hard, and keep working on yourself. You don't necessarily have to leave if you think you can do this.

Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:26:52 Post No.18168114
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>>18168026
OH MY GOD, literally in the exact same position right now. My situation has escalated now though and I have other people telling me to leave the relationship. What helped me, was talking to other people and them being real with me and telling me I was treating my partner like shit, and now I am slowly starting to let go of the anger and treat him better, and in doing that I am trusting him and thus not so anxious about losing him all the time.

Anonymous 2017-03-28 01:57:15 Post No.18168158
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