I am in a relationship with a guy for six months now, we talk

On one hand, being insecure is going to kill your relationship. But on the other, shit like cuddling on the couch with someone else is completely inappropriate. While I do think you need to work on trust, I also think he has crossed a line and like you say, there's very little differentiating your relationship with him from hers.

However, at the same time, I don't see you coming out on top in this scenario. I am 90% sure that if he had to pick between the two of you, or even between stopping this behaviour and you breaking up with him, he'd pick her.

>>18167724
I have no choice but to trust him, but I feel like lines are being crossed and I just have to sit here and accept it because 'I should just trust him'. Up to what point do I have to trust him, he's literally cuddling with her with a blanket on the couch. It just blows my mind that I have to accept that, I would have told my friend to gtfo from the relationship because nothing good comes from a guy that is this close with another girl, yet here I am accepting this from my guy because I should trust him. He will not stop cuddling with her if I ask him to, I don't want to break up with him but I hate sharing him and feeling the way I do right now. Damnit.

>>18167758
Have you talked to him about this? If so, I see no options other than putting up with it or dumping him. Just the fact that he doesn't realise he's crossing a line is a huge red flag and I'd personally consider it to be a dealbreaker

>>18167761
We talked a bit about it, he said he is comfortable around her and has known her for 7 years, he doesn't want to act more distant towards her. Even if he would tell me he won't cuddle anymore, I don't think he will stop. I think she is very important to him and I will never come even close to her level of importance. I think I'm just his girlfriend because he can't have her.

you are dating a bullshitter
hope he atleast looks good
stupid bitch

>>18167800
Yeah he's hot and younger than me.
Please give me advice. What would you do in this situation?

You what him throw away seven years because it makes you uncomfortable? It won't happen, break up or get over it.

>>18167716
OP, talk to him.
He is right when he says you shouldn't overthink it and you need to trust him about this. But, on the other hand, you can ask him to stop doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable: tell him you feel really uncomfortable and you feel like he's crossing a boundary with her, and while you're completely fine with them hanging out and all, you'd like them to be a little less physical.

I had been very good friends with a guy for 13 years. I was very affectionate with him, even physically, but I never felt anything for him and he never felt anything for me. We were best friends growing up and were very close to each other.
Whenever my boyfriend had issues with our friendship, I talked honestly to my friend and we respected him.
If your boyfriend and his friend cannot respect you, that's a deeper issue.

>>18167766
He's either a lier or just fucking retarded.

If they know each other so well, he should be able to tell her that you aren't okay with the cuddling and to stop it now that he's no longer single. No reason to stop seeing her all together, just restrain from all that bullshit.

The best thing to do here is to talk to your bf about how awfully sad this makes you. If he's unwilling to change something as simple as a hug habit just to make to you feel safer, then he's not interested in you. Mind you that I believe that's as far as he should be limited, if you try and fight him seeing hee every Thursday, you'll lose.

>>18167867
>>18167834
Thank you :)
I'm going to tell him