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So is there any reason to keep using dating apps after only getting one date from 6 months of use and no messages sent to me to initiate a conversation? My problem is I'm not in school currently and my work doesn't really expose me to a large flow of people

>I'm too old for this shit...
>Oh its starting to show :P
>Did you just call me ugly...? lol

So then I just send a last message: "Wow you took that the wrong way, you know what I think about your looks (kissing emoji).

Was that awkward as fuck? I want to date this girl not creep her out.

A girl said yes to going out some time this week but we had to text to decide when and where. Texted her and she coldly replied that this whole week she's busy with X thing. I know it doesn't matter if it sounds legit, I should not ask her something like "what about next week?", and just move on right? She's kind of awkward but I should just assume she doesn't want to right?
It just sucks a lot since she said yes before but oh well.

>>18168655
You have resting bitchface. Learn to emote and change your tone and inflection, it's a lot easier than changing your facial expression all the time.

>>18168655
Some people cannot stand when others shows various kinds of emotion. It all depends on where you live.

For example, in my country if you want to piss as many people as possible, you just walk a street and smile a LOT at random people.

I guess you have the same power with your sad face. You trigger them simply by existing. It is like shitposting, but in real life!

>>18168655
This is one of the things I hate about America, and the fact that if someone does something that bothers you, if you confront them they think you're enemies. Just let them suck it up.

>>18168628
Thx bae

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>>18168628
Are you intelectual girl without a bf?
Are you boy who tried to date stupid girl?

What kind of horrible life experience forced you to make such thread?

>>18168598
I'm confused.

Did you initiate this break up? Because you sound surprisingly emotionally composed for someone whose gf just left them, but I can't understand why you'd end a the relationship if regular sex is as big a concern to you as it seems to be.

>>18168598
You're not too autistic-- stop selling yourself short. You were able to keep girls happy enough for regular sex for 4 straight years. That's damn good, son.

Get out there and slay, you can do it, you've already proven that you can

>>18168601
We both decided to end it due to unrelated issues, so wasn't really fully my own decision. The sex had always been really great though.

Payday advance loan. Your job is your credit!

>inb4 no job despite having a plane to catch

>>18168509
Quick bj for $20 ;)

donate plasma

>>18168447
I feel funny, you sounds like my cousin.
You need to realize relationship is two-way connection. You must have something to provide the others besides your self-interest.

Honestly it sounds like you want relationship for the sake of wanting one, thar's selfish.
If you did that, it''s kinda signalling to the other side that you only wanted to be taken care of.
Nobody's really want to be a nanny to their partner, they want their partner to supplement and walk with them in life.

>>18168447

I'm with you, but from a guy's side. Every date I go on is like "why the fuck am I bothering here?"

I have to drive along the conversation, there's no spark, it's just this boring dance of getting to know this person and the fact that they're more or less just as bland as most everyone else out there, and that's not even trying to say that I deserve something special or anything, just that it all seems pointless.

Thing is, at my age (30), unless I actually take someone out, I'm not going to get to know anyone that I develop feelings for, so it's basically just this useless cycle until someone's interesting enough, if they ever are.

>>18168508
I don't want to be taken care of, I want to have the feeling of wanting to take care of someone else. But I can't seem to develop feelings for any of these guys, even if they want to be in a relationship with me

You're expected to be clean cut until you have some time put in. You're still in the first impression phase, the proving yourself phase.
>thin stringy mustache
Why does it even exist, Confucious?

Depends on the type of job. If it's customer oriented, you at least want it clean and trimmed. If it's a labor/trade, it doesn't matter.

>>18168391
Usually yes, and frequently your boss wants you to ask if it's cool to stay growing out facial hair. If you look like shit in front of customers, your job could be at stake

To be blunt, it sounds like he may have found someone else.
He feels alot of guilt when he's around you. He feels bad for what he's done or is thinking of doing.
You haven't done anything to warrant this behavior I assume? You haven't flirted with someone and left your phone around to be pilfered?

>>18168390

Guy here. I can think of a few possibilities.
Have you changed physically in the last year or so? Put on weight or changed hair color/length. Something that might have made him less physically attracted to you?

Has something significant changed in his life? New job, town, death in the family. He could just be super stressed and not letting on why?

And of course he could be having an affair and feels guilty.

Oops, forgot the important answers to the inevitable questions.

>didn't get fat
>no real issues with money, friends, work, only issue is the sex
>I don't think he's cheating, at least not physically, if only because he doesn't have the time

>>18168366
Kinda looks like you depend on others for your happiness/well-being. You seek validation, and when you got it and it didn't live up to your expectation you feel betrayed.

That's how it looks like from your post, or perhaps I'm projecting since I could relate with it a bit.

The thing is to help yourself you have to understand that nobody but yourself who will be able to make yourself happy and fulfilled.
It's all from within, not from outside -- others(external).
Try to expect less from others, only help them as much as possible without asking for gains/returns AFTER you're already helping yourself.

>>18168376
I dont think I depend to much on others I feel happy when I am home alone listening to good music. Its just the constant paradox of being constantly around people , yet to feel alone

>Try to expect less from others
Is what I am doing currently, but lately I just feel like I dont want to rely on myself only.


Helping them isnt that much of a problem desu I am just like that I like helping.

>>18168366
Your feelings are arbitrary and not representative of reality. Don't listen to them, and conscientiously focus on the facts, which are that you have friends and aren't alone.

Also take note that you have no way to tell how committed your friends are to their efforts, and you are most likely applying some confirmation bias to justify the way you feel.

In short, forget your feelies.

>>18168348
This is one of those few times where mentioning what gender you are and your orientation is both acceptable and necessary.

I'm going to have different advice for you if you're a fag or a whore.

>>18168348
I used to be just like you.
>Always waiting for "the one"
>Bad at keeping Interest
>Telling every girl she was the one for me
>Not even planning to call
>Was just making loose ends really
>Meet a chick
>She's different
>She wants a traditional relationship
>I have to woo her
>And then I got hit with aids.

>>18168385

I'm a straight male, I'm basically finding most girls assume my original position where they require the opposite sex to put in all or most of the effort, just wondering what the best way to put in effort would be without being overbearing or annoying. Say if a conversation that I initiated dies out or comes to an amicable end do I continue starting new conversations day after day? At what point do you wait for them to initiate back.

It was always so much easier letting girls that liked me chase me, no fear of rejection and having them always initiate contact gave me the power.

>>18168345
>girl who is about 36
Look this is not a girl or young woman but a fucking adult who has made bad decisions and you should stay away if you're smart.

>>18168361
I don't really blame her for wanting to date them. I question it, especially since she's been raped like once a decade, but she's in a good spot in life and manages to stay positive so I don't think her life decisions are that terrible maybe a bit too trusting of a person

>>18168372
Stop it OP. Again this is not some late teen, early 20 something girl just starting out. This is a battle hardened woman nearing middle age and got a naive boy on the hook. Don't do it. She knows the ropes and you don't and she'll tie you in knots. You've been cautioned.

>>18168302
how long can you remember stuff?
2 years back? 10?

>>18168304
Can't remember stuff that happened yesterday need reminders parents have better memory than me

>>18168302
>I took a Mensa test got 24 out of 33
Free online tests/quizzes don't count for much, anon.

>>18168221
You're a major contender for “most pathetic /adv post — 2017“ best of luck to you.

>>18168224


look where we are m8, are you actually retarded?

use your imagination

>>18168216
Have you tried letting a man with a penis she can feel fuck her while you masterbate in the corner? At least that way she'll stay with you.

>>18168222
I thought about using a penis sleeve but that seems kind of pathetic to use it just to have normal sex, plus then it would be weird as shit when i'd need to take it off to get mine

In my experience, the best moves for then aren't the in and out most of the time, but when you're all inside and keep humping your crotch on hers.

So I'd guess you'll do good with any that allow it. Also try missionary with her legs closed for a thickness feeling boost.

Like a sneeze only better.

Really good.

>>18168243
>>18168243
Could you be more specific?