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Yes
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You're alright looking, will probably get even better with time. Will definitely get better if you hit the gym.

>>18586325
Apart from changing ISP, no. Try 4G. 200ms is a pretty low ping for satellite

Sorry mods.

>>18586373
Yeah 4G is even worse out here. Im screwed then.

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>>18586440
when you live far away from a city or a suburb, it's only natural that other activities are better suited.

I've been in your shoes, OP.

Incredible ping of 160, which was constant when I still lived with my parents and moved out.
I stopped playing multiplayer games and found myself sorrounded with a new niche of games, strategy and bullet hell games.

I don't think there is anything you can do, the best thing you could do is to try new games which don't have a multiplayer focus or are mainly turn based.

>calls the girls he takes on dates bitches
>wonders why they don't want to go somewhere more private with him

am laffin

>>18586278
If it goes well, say you guys should meet up again sometime.

If that goes well, mention the night doesn't have to end just yet.

If a girl says you're a player, just reassure her that you're not that kind of guy.

>>18586301
>If it goes well, say you should meet up again sometime
Not bad
>If it goes well, mention the night doesn't have to end just yet.
Try hard kinda. Make it seem like the night is just going that way, OR be the one trying to end the night early
>If a girl says you're a player, reassure her that you're not that kind of guy
WRONG!!! Be ambiguous, way better. Joke about it. Don't give a solid answer, be playful.

Anyways OP
>How do I get them to go to x place
So idk about you but I kind of get them to agree to something such as walk to x place however I do it, but if they get "scared" I just keep walking, or if they get "mad" and walk away I don't follow them. They come back, or they'll follow you if you lead. Idk. I know that doesn't exactly answer your question but sometimes girls just mess with you to test you and you have to stand your ground. Maybe frame it
"I'm going to x place" walk away, see her looking, say "You coming with or what?" and if she doesn't follow she doesn't follow. Politely say goodbye and have better luck next time.

Could be a friends phone. Message her on Instagram about it.

so you want to get divorced? why? have you really tried everything you could to solve the issues before you give up? did you both went to therapy? did you get couoles counseling? have you actually made an effort to understand what's not working?

the only really worthy thing you tell someone by marrying them is "i won't give up on us so easily".

If you don't have kids it'll sure make it easier

Remember you are still anonymous so feel free to include some details so we can actually help with an answer here.
Relationships are never simple, and as long as you are both faithful to each other its usually worth working on. Maybe he is going through a rough patch or its a matter if circumstances or depression.
We certainly should not be recommending divorce without details.

I will add that while divorce has its stigma, its not the end of your life and even if you aren't young, you can still try again.

>>18586261
Specifically what vows are you referring to? Are you feeling like you can't commit any longer? Or is he just not working with you?

It's not a burden. I think anyone would enjoy a handwritten letter. If the truly were bothered by it, they would tell you or just not write back.

>>18586193
Bad b8 m8

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>>18586193
Eye contact makes women sexually excited.

Its true, but its a craft to do it in a way that won't get you labeled a creeper.

https://www.amazon.com/Get-Anyone-Anything-Again--Psychological/dp/0312270178/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 (learned that from this book, will cure autism)

https://www.amazon.com/YOU-READ-ANYONE-David-Lieberman-ebook/dp/B001J6OV0Y/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 (/Pol/niks will love the cover)

https://www.amazon.com/David-J.-Lieberman/e/B001IO9LI4 (If you want to cure your autism, you will buy all of these books)

>>18586193
Smile politely. If she likes you, hopefully she'll maintain eye contact and return the smile. If she doesn't or she's concerned about giving the wrong impression, she'll probably turn away.

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Bump. Any apartment-searching advice is welcomed.

>>18586185
have you checked craigslist in the map view for any apartments near the college? I was a bit slow so it was snatched up but there was a really good one near mine in orlando. $600 per month for a private bed/bath in a 2/2 with utilities included. You can also go to your college campus and see at the answer/information center if they have a board for roommate searching.

>>18586536
I'm real leery about Craigslist considering my college is basically in a ghetto part of town. I'll give a go though just to see.

I've seen some roommate searching, none lately but I'll keep an eye out. There's some "students searching for students" resources online through the college but nobody uses them, maybe the office will know.

>>18586116
Hello Im bob and I'm not a doctor or any kind just your typical guy who has ptsd depression and anxiety from past trauma.. I also have friends who suffer from mental illnesses kind of like what your describing... I am telling you all this simply because you need to know unless some one says there a shrink or dr take what have have to say lightly as with mental illnesses you can fuck some one up worse then whats going on for them now with the wrong moves..
With that sad I recommend you continue to be there for them by there side, letting them know they did not drag you in to a relation ship for there own terms hat its a two way street and both of you are in this together... allow them to understand you do care and show them that you do. This will mean a huge amount to them... Speak of perhaps getting some help together as you feel you have some issues as well you wanna work out... Even if you don't .. Now if they say no then don't push the issue! allow them to get a better mental hold on things and then try asking them again.. But DoNot push this issue... no one wants to seek mental help, Trust me I spent years fighting it and once I hit rock bottom I was forced to and honestly I have no fucking clue why I did not do it sooner... But thats decides the point... Just make sure you continue to be there for them, just being there makes a huge difference and watch out for there well being some times we all need a hug or a kick in the ass just make sure you know when you need to kick some one in the ass.. Meaning if they start getting sucidel .. Just keep in mind this persons not damaged, they are just going through a hard time in there life and look at it like a cut.. Some times all you need to do is kiss the ouch, other times clean it and bandage it and when its past your ability to care for it you go get stitches by a dr... Just know where you lie in all this and never push the person unless its a emergincy then seek help..

>>18586151
what a cute response

that sounds just like me.
in a way, they are right, most relationships aren't as "romantic" as some would like them to be. they serve very real purposes, like "i need someone to mommy me" or "i need you to feel like i improved my status", "i desperately want kids". it's also completely ok to have such motivations behind entering a relstionship. most often the reasons are something along the lines of "to escape lonelines, to have frequent and convenient sex, to have kids, to feel validated in my desireability". the issues obly arises if the relatio ship suddenly no longer fits that initial purpose. for example: you wanted frequent sex snd now there's none. you wanted kids and they can't have any. you wanted someone to do the household for you but they turned out to be lazy slobs, etc.
it's important to think about those dynamics and how they are at work in your relationship.

your partner does have issues they need to solve. they aren't capable of real intimacy, they keep you at arms length. i do that, too. i'm a "lone wolf". but at the core lf it is plain and simply the fear of not being good enough once the other person sees all of you. you are sure they can't deal with the truth. and the fact they have that feeling might also be your fault to some extend. maybe you over reacted to something they classified as "minor". now they don't think you are capable of handling the heavier stuff. this creates huge walls, which distances both of you. it kills all intimacy and makes this relationship obsolet if the purpose of it was "someone to care about me". they wanted to find someone who can deal with them completely and not freak out over stuff that was only "scratching on the surface".

i suggest you go to couples therapy. if they won't go, go alone and see what the therapist tells you to do.

good luck.

Check if you're scheduled to work

>>18586157
This

take a deep breath. it automatically calms u down. make you more relaxed. that will help a lot. and make sure you learn what you're doing wrong so you can practice it. learn from what points you didn't get during the test and try to practice those and get them the next time

>>18586101
I got my license from third try and the 3rd guy was really chill and led me through an easy path. I wasn't bad as well just stupid mistakes. Tbh the learning rly starts when u get license and drive by yourself. Dw ull get it. A rly bad girl driver got it from 5th try and Im sure a billion chinks a day get theirs so keep on trying

>>18586101
Stop treating it as a test. If you're as good of a driver as you say then you have no reason to even be worried.

Do it whenever you're prepared for the purpose of having her number.

*The purpose of having her number is to invite her out for something fun. That's it. (Unless she makes small talk too.)*

Wait and in the evening send, something casual to start conversation. It doesnt realy matter, dont overthink trivial things. Focus more on what after, where to go, what to say, wear etc.

texting really isn't that important m8, she's really not going to think "wow he texted me so fast, I'm not going to date him"

I dated my current gf "yo" an hour after I got her number so she had mine

>>18586077
I mean I've heard before that there's always "1 person that occupies your heart", is that something i just have to deal with?

>>18586186
> 1 person that occupies your heart

that's called oneitis, anon. please sit and think it through. why waste your time waiting for someone who will never feel the way you feel for them? why miss all the other girls/guys you can meet and have great time with?

>>18586234
>im not sitting around and waiting though. it just seems like i've always liked one person, and then would never really fully get over that person until I liked someone else, but I would just like to get to a point where I don't really feel any of this towards any girl period so I can focus on like school and work and shit. I don't intend on going out of my way to meet new people and whathaveyou at this time