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Hello there /adv/. Long time lurker, first time poster.
I was wondering if anyone could be able to come up with some reasoning regarding an awkward (and insulting) situation that's come up many times in my life. I would just like to preface this post with a little info about me first, so that we're on the same page! I am visually impaired. I use a really big monitor, along with a audio program to help me surf the web in my downtime. I live a normal life, but I just don't see very well. I have a job, some friends and coworkers, and an aid that comes once a day to help me do things I can't do on my own. I am actually really great ful for the things I can do, and I feel relatively happy about my life. It could be much worse.

That being said, several people have made comments to me that are sort of "untoward", and I don't understand where they are coming from. I feel like there is something I'm missing.

They always go something like this: I'll be in a situation where I'm alone with someone and we'll just be talking, then they'll either ask if I'm depressed or outright make a comment about how I am depressed. Most recently, I was at a family event and it was getting late, my home health aide came to pick me up and as I was leaving I heard my aunt say, "Aww, don't go, you'll just go home and be lonely." To which my family awkwardly laughed and told her to be quiet, but I could tell that they had talked about that at some point. Or another time, I was at work doing maintenance work when my boss pulled me aside and outright asked if I was depressed. I felt fine.

I get this a lot from various people. Why? In a way, I find it offensive, but it makes me wonder if they are interpreting sthing about me.

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I work for a small coffee company as a barista. A few months ago they started recording and withdrawing for tips, but I guess they didn't really. Today I was told that they hadn't actually been doing that, and would take the amount i was overpayed (?) out of my future checks.

Is this even legal?
If I quit, can I just walk away or will I still have to pay these taxes in some way?

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I think i have some anger issues. i used to be a very calm person around 2 years ago.
I think it might be the job i got around 1 year ago, or not, i'm not entirely sure.
People have become really irritating, especially when someone says something stupid or whines for a petty reason.
Also video games started making me angry.

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I replaced the cornstarch stressball I popped with a foam one, and I'm just about breaking my fingers. Still it's doing no good. What's a way to relieve the stress of jumping in blind into adulthood in a sociopolitical climate that stinks without causing physical harm to myself?

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After being unemployed for three months, I just got hired to work at GameStop. I start next week, but ever since I got the phone call, it seems my general view of life has gotten more and more depressing. Mainly, I feel like a lot of the people in my life (bar my family) really don't like me, and are only putting on face/putting up with me out of some sort of obligation.

Examples
> i tried to talk to my girlfriend about some worries i was having about my new job (GS is kind of known for being a shithole), but instead of trying to understand where i was coming from, she just defaulted to "it'll be ok anon"

> a while back i started a game dev/filmmaking """company""" with some friends, but everytime i try to make a suggestion for an upcoming project or some marketing thing, i always get "yeah, sounds great anon" but it never gets done unless i do it myself, even when i ask for help

It kind of feels to me like I'm the one autistic kid in the class that noone likes, but you have to be nice to him, otherwise the teacher will have a meeting after school with your parents.

Am i just overreacting, or should I just say "fuck everything" and go live the NEET life?

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Does anyone on /adv/ have experience with Complex PTSD? Whether it's family, friends, or you yourself. It isn't in the DSM, but it's basically emotional PTSD from prolonged exposure to abuse, emphasis on prolonged.

I'm not diagnosed (I'm not in the position to receive a psychological evaluation), but I've been exhibiting symptoms of CPTSD for a year after being in an emotionally abusive relationship. tl;dr I dated someone with borderline personality disorder for four years. Only discovered what it was during the final six months.
>Very avoidant of people and places related to my relationship
>Occasional panic attacks, dissociation, nightmares
>Very low self-worth
>Extremely self-critical
>Chronic feelings of emptiness and hopelessness
>Feel completely alien from or distrustful of people

According to friends and family I've done everything "right". Therapy, group therapy, reading about it, improving myself, but it feels like I'm making no progress. Or that the progress I make doesn't matter. I think I've internalized the things she said and did, and I'm basically beating myself up in her place.

I just don't know what to do. I make it day by day, but the loneliness and hopelessness is crushing me and making it harder and harder.

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I have zero friends.

Drifted apart from my friends when we all went to separate universities, I ended up dropping out.

Currently I'm 21 and looking for work, so I have a lot of free time. I have no friends at all and haven't had any for a couple of years. I usually don't mind being alone, but for the past couple of months it has been bothering me more and more, it's really depressing me now.

I play a lot of PC games in my spare time and still have a few of my old friends on Steam. I tried talking to a few of them and I either got totally ignored or fobbed off, which is making me feel even worse.

It seems as though I need to give up on trying to re-connect with my old friends because it isn't happening. what do I do and how do I make new friends?

tl:dr
No friends, lonely as fuck, giving me depression. What do?

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I quit my old cook job b/c of it becoming unprofessional since the new owner came in. I also smoked weed regularly while working there (mainly to wind down for bed and to relax). Im 6'1 and 150 lbs and quit smoking about 3 1/2 weeks ago. I'm only applying for part time cook positions b/c I'm still in college. I'm not as worried about consistent/random since I'm just part time; however, I am worried about pre-employment testing. Should I even be worried?

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no results ... no matter what cathegory ... even if i login ...v i got win 8 and no adblock ... problem happens on all browsers

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Hi /adv/

Having a bit of a morale dilemma here:

I'm 22 and talking to a girl who is 17, met her on Tinder and she's really nice to talk to.

She's definitely up for sex and stuff but I'm kind of questioning if it's right morally, she turns 18 in September but I'm leaving the country by then so I'm kind of unsure what to do. I live in the UK so it's all 100% legal

I know we're both consenting adults but is this actually morally right since I'm probably way more mature than she is?

piggo unrelated

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How do i save images in a thread up to the point where the thread expires?

in firefox i can use stuff like 4chan-x (greasemonkey script) that can auto refresh a thread and use a batch downloader such as downthemall to manually download them, but if the threat 404s and i forget to download them all the images are lost

is there a way just to tag a thread and i all the images are saved automatically somewhere?

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i'm bad with pc, so pls give normal answers
i have ad-block on, but when i go to particular site to watch drama online, ads keep popping out in new windows (adult game, gambling ect), I always turn them off imediately, so question is can I get virus in my pc this way?

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Answer my strawpoll, if'n you please.

http://www.strawpoll.me/13607218/

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I've been working in a Bar for the passed 3 months and I'm not completely over my ex. When we broke up after a few weeks I got a text from unknown number (Guessing it's his number, she blocked me) - It was a photo of her and her new dude. Been trying to get over her asap. Some how she found out where I work and keeps coming in with her bf. I play it cool like I don't care but after a while it's starting to get to me and I'm not 100% over her yet. Every time they come in I can see them at the corner of my eye staring at me, playing those games like laugh then look at me. I'm certain they're doing this just to piss me off and get a reaction but I could just be paranoid. I've played it cool every time they come in and I don't let it phase me but really it's chipping away at me. What do? Keep this up and hopefully they'll stop coming was my initial idea but it's been 3 months. On the bright side, seeing how childish they are has made me go off her more. I'd like to know your thoughts and suggestions.

A:26
S:M
L:LA, USA

TLDR - Work in a Bar
Ex and her BF keep coming in
Not completely over Ex
Playing mind games with me (or so I believe)
Always playing it cool, giving no reaction
3 Months of this
I'm Pretty sure I'll be seeing them again Friday

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Hey ents, I'm literally traveling home right now to get the verbal smackdown for smoking bud. Im currently in a design program, which took a turn for the worst when my depression came back for the second time. I use sativa strains to combat the depression, as well as for its creative benefits on my designs. If I get sativa, it really does help!

But since I'm not in a medical state, it's hard to know what I'm getting. When I'm expecting sativa and receive Indica instead, I can be pretty useless and unable to get up and doing what I need to do .


Apparently my parents aren't pissed about the marijuana 100%, more in regard to my inability to get shit done this summer.

How should I approach this? I want to explain the difference between sativa and Indica, and show them how it can really work against depression if it's the right stuff. But obviously. It will be hard for then to understand due to the whole reefer madness initiative they w3re subjected to while growing up.

Another argument they use is that IT'S ILLEGAL! to which I want to help them understand the subjectiveness of state basted marijuana legislation.


This may be an opportunity to help them reach a turning point on their marijuana views, and I would love any suggestions for talking points that might help them land on my side of this thing. If I need to take a break from smoking to readjust my priorities, I'm okay with that.

Sorry for typos, on mobile. Please h3lp asap, I'm an hour a d fifteen minutes away from this discussion !!