Do things happen for a reason?
>>18584221
Yes. Some things are just a result of mere happenstance whereas others are intended or even orchestrated. All things happen for a reason albeit the reason may not ever be fully known.
A "reason" as in a series of physical reactions lead to a chain of events that eventually cause the particular event you're thinking of? Yes
A "reason" as in it was predestined by some higher force with a greater eventual goal in mind? No.
>>18584221
cause -> effect
( Sorry for my bad english).
Last year i meet a girl she was really nice , so we talked over a year we became best friends and shit , 3 months ago we were in my place watching a movie and i kissed her and then we had sex , but the problem is that she haves a boyfriend . 2 weeks ago she sent me a message saying that we couldnt talk anymore cuz she feels guilty , bit i cant be happy without her , since that day i've been depressed i cant be the same...
Please throw away the trilby, stop trying to form relationships under false pretenses and move on.
>>18584166
Stop being the retard going for unavailable girls. It will always end this way.
>>18584166
nigga, guilt is never enough of a reason for a woman to stop engaging in a hurtful behavior. she will 100% fuck you again if you catch her at a party after a few drinks, or just on the right night if she's feeling horny and lonely. slide back into them DMs saying you really miss her and want to get drinks or something "no pressure, just as friends", meet her at 9 and the slut will be back at your place sucking your dick by 11:30pm
I had sex with a girl I'm "friends" with after alcohol was involved. I use quotation marks because she is more like a friend of a friend but I see her around all the time when I'm with some of my friends. I basically haven't said or done anything besides give her my phone number the morning after and it's been 2 days.
I'm pretty sure I'm not interested in something beyond sex, so I want to know how I should take it from here while still keeping her interest. She is a very cool lady and all, and I would like to stay friends, but I can't imagine us being legitimately romantic with each other. A fwb potential would be cool but I don't care very much particularly about it. I just don't want to completely close that opportunity.
Should I just casually snap her or start a conversation? Should I text her and set ground rules? It just seems so unnatural and unattractive.
It's inevitable that I will see her around again where my friends are hanging out. She also is going to be going to my bands show next week.
If I see her in a group of people should I bring it up at all? Or even make a joke about it? Or is it cool if I'm super casual and almost act like it didn't happen? I just don't want to be rude about it
You're making a very big assumption that you seem to be unaware of. You're assuming that SHE'S the one clamoring for YOU. Do you have any idea how big of a douchebag you'll make yourself look like if you imply that sort of thing? Just making the assumption in your head says a lot, saying it to strangers says more, but saying it to her or anyone who knows her means you may as well get frosted tips and a spray-tan. Since there was alcohol involved, odds are high that she regrets the whole thing and just wants to pretend it never happened.
>>18584156
Just talk to her normally. If the conversation goes that way try it.
Just fyi; you sound like a huge cunt for making assumptions like she wants you that badly. She could easily want to forget it or its just a one-night stand.
>>18584193
I mean we kissed in the morning and she is going to my bands show which sort of implies she wants to see me again, but I'm not sure.
My bad honestly, I'm only 20 and have had sex with less than 10 girls so sex still feels like a big deal to me even though it isn't
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i know compared to most topics this is dumb but my gf of a few months told me she wasnt a virgin obviously early in the relationship and idk why but it continues to dig at me beacuse of the kind of guy he was how can i deal with this so im not constantly a mess about it
I've been feeling weird feelings in my head
>burning sensations
>poor concentration and memory problems
>de-realization
>face twitch
>moments of dizziness
>feeling of not breathing while sleep
>pain in back left of head
>weird feeling on left side
is this my health anxiety playing tricks on me again or is this serious ? should i go to the doctor ? i've been having panic attacks every night thinking about this
You are fucked OP sorry lad
This sounds uncanny, to be blunt. I'm 26 and have been dealing with an anxiety disorder in a class of its own. The symptoms you're listing sound like the day-to-day bullshit that I sometimes suffer long periods of. It might feel like you're literally dying from some nonsense or another, but you're not. Ditch any and all caffeine, get affectionate physical contact when able, do some simple cardio to burn off excess adrenaline, and just do some random shit that helps you to relax in general. Diphenhydramine can be a decent, nonaddictive, OTC day-to-day crutch.
>>18584164
I keep thinking it's brain eating parasites
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what the fuck
this goes in /d/, not /adv/
im so bored about myself .... the girl i used to like me idk if she still like me ... she gonna go to other city coz she gonna study in different college so idk What is supposed to do? Help fellas
So I'm a chem major that's going to be applying to PhD programs in the fall. Need some evaluation of my application so I know what level of school I should be applying to.
GPA: 3.82 cum, 3.91 in major (including Advanced Organic Chemistry)
GRE: 162 verbal 165 quantitative, waiting on essay
Research: 3 years total including summers by the time I graduate, last 2 years will be in the same group on the same project
Teaching: two semesters of 'mentoring' (glorified proctor/grader) and this fall will be full TA
Letters of Rec: Will have one really strong one from my PI, no idea what to do about the other two
Will be doing a poster presentation at an international conference in two weeks
Extracurriculars: Captain of a club sport team for a year and president of a club for a year
Is this enough to get me to interviews at top 10 schools? I feel like if I can make it to interviews I can present well enough to get in. Won't have a publication before applications are due unless some some miracle occurs and my reactions speed up from 20-50 hrs to 2-5 hrs each. My biggest issue is having no idea who would be good to ask for letters of rec. Possibly one of my professors for one letter but at a loss for the third one unless I hit it off really well in the first month of TA'ing in the fall.
Just get good letters and have firm reasons for why each program suits you (i.e. pick a prof and make a case as to how your interests align and you can benefit their lab). If that part of your statement is weak, the grades and numbers don't matter nearly as much.
Also, desu, helps if you have a BS from a program of note.
I'm in one of the #1 ranked programs. Getting in is easier than you think. Just know it's a dice roll so apply to a good number programs.
>>18584405
>>18584405
I'm hoping my professors remember enough about me to get another one or two good letters. Going to try asking pretty much any of the ones I've had in the last year and seeing what they think. Going to pick through professors and work before sending in an app so I know if I'm actually interested in the places. I'm guessing I need to go a bit more in depth than just "i am interested in this field because i think it will result in x and have experience in doing y"?
Eh, my school is an engineering college / research institute. Better known for engineering but overall top 50 nationally. Don't really have any name recognition for chemistry.
I'm only taking 12-14 credits this fall so I have the time to send out apps, but its pretty expensive isn't it? I doubt I could afford more than 8
>>18584080
As a chemistry major myself, you are a inspiration. Good luck with grad school.
So I asked an acquaintance of mine that I got along with well in high school (about to go to the same college now) on a date casually in conversation and didn't get a response. It's been a few hours, and considering she was replying immediately to my texts before I think it's safe to assume the silence is a no. I wasn't weird about it either. Talked about a book then I asked her her work hours and then asked if she was free after work to grab a bite to eat.
Anyways, is there something I should say to make it less awkward when we meet again? We will probably see each other a lot in college. Or should I just not even say anything else?
focus on your breathing and try to make it as slow and relaxed as possible
Convert to Islam and be a jihadi, it's a proven theory and will benefit the right in the long run.
I have a habit of making really detailed and practical plans for personal projects, but afterwards, I'm always to tired to start the plan. Any tips for overcoming this?
>>18583996
Do you have this problem with smaller projects?
I feel you on this and what i've been trying to do is every now and again put something on my to do list i know i'll want to postpone and do my best to really do it and carry it out until the end. I still have trouble with long term things but this has plugged that habit of getting it done right away into me.
>>18584046
Yeah, even with super small projects, like say, I want to make a small post to my Facebook page today. It just never got done. It'd take like 5 seconds, but I couldn't muster the energy to do it. I dunno what's wrong with me.
>>18584052
Then don't think about it. It's easy to get discouraged if you think about the effort it will technically take, the possible outcomes, etc. None of that matters and you can't accurately predict something like that so that overthinking will only sabotage what you want to do.
Don't think about it or postpone it to some other time and just get it done as soon as possible.
So after dating my girlfriend for 7 months long distance i'm driving 1,700 miles to see her (25 hour drive). I have never had a relationship like this and have not met her in person before. We agreed that were going to be hands on with each other so to make it less awkward on me due to my social anxiety. The problem is that shes 16 and i'm 19. Theres a chance I may get my dick sucked but not completely certain. I will be spending 4 days there, is there anything I should know or do before this seeing a LDR girlfriend
Why don't you take a seat right over there?
>>18583991
Don't force yourself on her like a piece of shit. Listen to her have fun hug and kisses are prolly fine no more than that for your first meeting unless she kicks it up a notch while making out.
Treat it like a first date and remember she isn't going to be super comfortable around you at first since it is your first time so do not be pushy.
Other than that spend time with her and hang out.
I had a similar experience. Was horny and fucked up relationship because I was also a piece of shit. Don't be me.
Good luck treat it like a first date
I'm 28 years old with no work skills, no social life and no real strength to better myself. All I have are missed opportunities and failures and at this age the writings on wall, I can't get better. I have medication but none of it will kill me, I have no money so I can't purchase a weapon and I have no knives so I can't call the police and have them shoot me, I don't even have a garage and a car to poison myself with. I just want to die and not feel this way anymore.
I have family and they've been wonderful but their kindness only makes me hate myself even more for being worthless garbage that can't be useful to them.
Don't know if you've read this, but really informative, see the statistics.
>http://lostallhope.com
Ultimately I don't think there's a completely painless and infallible way to go, there's always a risk involved that you might survive and come back even more fucked up from the aftermath and live a worst life than you had before. That's what i tell myself anyway, i also lack the resources for an alleged painless death aka gun.
I feel like it's not worth the risk, might aswell keep living and survive what i can and learn to take life for the shit it is and things will get better.
Please don't harm yourself Anon. Outside of general societal norms, there is no right or wrong way to live life. You are alive, the sun will rise, and you dont have to live up to any ridiculous expectations. It cant rain all the time.
I have a few projects I want to work on in my spare time as a poor college student. What are some cheap ways to acquire, cut, and work with smaller pieces of metal or carbon fiber safely yet relatively accurately?
>>18583919
Does your college have shop classes?
>>18583952
Not as far as I know, or at least none that a student in an unrelated major can use. I'm more looking for at-home/DIY methods anyone might have.
>>18584017
Though I'm more than open to buying whatever cheap tools might help.