I've been working at a warehouse for 2 months, full time. I haven't been great at it. Often, I feel overwhelmed by my co-workers judging my work, that I end up fucking up on something (ex, forgetting my scanner gun all the way across the warehouse because I was to panic strciken). I get anxious to the point of not being able to finish an order in time, because my mind is all over the place. I even get anxious when interacting with my supervisor. Worst part, my coworkers can tell when I am nervous. I really don't know what to do.
Id suggest to stop giving a fuck, and realising its mostly in your head. And of that soesnt work find professional help. I have similar problems, and its easy to say, but hard to act, but don't forget that you are living your own life not they, and "IF" someone is judging you more then just the first impression kind of thing its bad for them, unintelligent people usually care more ofr others than for themselves,
I want to keep snuffing tobacco and I don't want to smoke instead but I have a deviated septum and after snuffing for a few days I struggle to breathe through my nose, ruining my facial aesthetics. What do?
you vape. youre deformed and cant stop abusing substance, so might as well vape and pretend youre part of something while youre at it.
>>18583471
I am not deformed cunt, I was hit in the nose as a teen. I don't want to be part of the fedora tipping vaping autist club, plus I like snuffing.
Are there some BL/yaoi light novels that aren't trash? where do I find them
>>18583441
what is that in your picture?
Hey /adv/, my mother just fell down in the ally cause her foot got twisted in a dip. Now she can hardly move her left foot. She saying het ankles been hurting for a while now, & now she hurt her foot. Says everything from the ankle down hurts her. Golf ball swelling on the foot.
What the fuck do I do? She's laying on the couch with het foot elevated on an ice pack wrapped around a hand towel. Sister just left to get some bandages (the wrap or whatever when you break a bone)
Any advice on what to do??
>>18583434
Poor Mexicans with no healthcare hahaha get me a coffee and a fucking scone.
I was in an accident last Wednesday, rear ended but unluckily I forgot to renew my 6 month insurance so I was uninsured. The party at fault is still required to pay the damages/towing but no pain and suffering. It has been a week and I haven't heard anything from said guys insurance. The, I suppose, issue with this is that the truck isn't in my name, my dad passed a couple years ago and I took the truck but due to financial issues, my mom was never able to transfer everything over to her/my name yet. Since its not in my name and I was uninsured, will I still receive money to fix my rear end, and should I contact the guys insurance company tomorrow?
Why is it so difficult to reach out to people without coming off creepy?
You usually have to limit your attempts to two at most (or three if you want to push it) in order to avoid coming on too strong; and after that, the lack of responses become quite telling. You also can't be too blunt about reaching out, otherwise you end up scaring people away, and come off needy and clingy.
And when you do see/hear from them again, you have to play it cool and nonchalant to avoid showing your desperate, miserable side. Otherwise, the second you show those vulnerabilities, that you wish to be around more people, is the second you become creepy, and permanently dropped by not only the person who had the misfortune of seeing that sad, but also everyone who knows them. Time and time again.
And despite my age, I've yet been able to figure out how to navigate and meander between the two. You either give people space, and become abandoned since they think you're doing well enough. Or reveal that you want people in your life, and be abandoned for being a needy, clingy weirdo.
For a quarter of a decade, I could never figure out how the nuances of balancing the two out. And each attempt always backfires and destroys the few closest relationships or have. While, weirdly, the lack of attempts ruins all your relationships anyway. It's a wonder why people our age eventually do themselves in; and becoming just another statistic in the end.
i think its about how much the person likes or dislikes you. through highschool i didnt have any close friends except for online. people use to respond in ways you described when i tried to message them etc.
when i went to uni and made close friends, they never responded in those ways. a message was always welcome and an invitation to conversation. meanwhile there were still people who did not like me as much and responded negatively etc.
i think its the assumption that if i respond to your message negatively, or barely. you should understand that i do not want to talk to you and you should stop
am i wrong? i dont think so
dont be honest
How many private messages do you send/get in a day on social media?
I'm very sure im in to low end of it with less than 0.1 messages per day.
some times 1-2, some times none
>>18583389
Why does it matter ?
>>18583389
Not on social media, it's retarded. 4chans all you need baby
My balls and bladder area hurt. I feel like having a harem with a personal army of sex slaves now.
Is this pain normal? And should one persevere?
Wow you're a little bitch.
>>18583399
Takes one to know one
>>18583383
No. One should not persevere. You should give in to your carnal senses like an animal.
Really though, if you're experiencing those things, you're probably someone who fapped multiple times a day so of course laying off of it is going to be challenging at first.
Also, if your balls hurt, you're probably blue balling yourself (edging, thinking of things you shouldn't be while in a nofap).
Go out, exercise, work, literally anything and your mind will become clear once again.
I need help /adv/.
When im horny (about 2 times a day) every thing around is at risked of being fucked. Family members, my hand, one time i thought of humping my dog (Thank God i didnt) my pillow, my sheet, bannana pills, my girlfriend even though shes not in the mood, you get the gist.
How can I control my urges, and do I need to get a therapist?
just fap you monkey, why do you think people do it?
Well do you actually go through with it and have sex constantly? You might just need a simple week or two long no fap to discipline yourself
>>18583343
most of the time I end up coming before I find my victim. It begins with me being horny, fapping, get hornier, then an urge to fuck something happens while im still fapping, so most of the time I blow before I find something.
May have to try nofap
>>18583340
that's how it starts
Be me
>Currently 25, single and not into drugs/heavy partying/etc but I'm a social person.
>Pretty much makes good decisions and isn't a fuck up (unlike others in family).
>Get degree in Petroleum Engineering & Minor in Math
>O&G Industry goes to shit
>Go back and gets MBA
>Willing to work any job in any industry (prefer Technology/computers tho cause it's my hobby).
>Still can't find work despite numerous people helping me by being referrals/contacting others and sending out around upwards of 750+ applications.
What do I do?
>MBA
>Still can't find work despite numerous people helping me by being referrals/contacting others and sending out around upwards of 750+ applications.
This doesn't add up.
How many positions have you interviewed for? Do you trust that the references on your resumé aren't saying negative things about yoi?
I think the title is wrong.
>>18583298
>O&G Industry goes to shit
Wait did this really happen? I know the price drop from last year got companies downsizing and all, but the prices are back up so I assumed it went back to normal.
As for your advice, if you're a pretty social guy then ask some friends who have jobs in the industry and see if they can get you an interview.
Networking is the shit
29 been working at the same job since I was 18. Been promised several promotions but those positions were given to other people. Applied to different places and never got a call back. Thought about going back to school but all the majors I'm interested in require calculus or physics and I'm horrible at math. Should I stick it out at my current job or attempt college and possibly waste money bc I don't know if I can pass the math courses.
>>18583284
Do you believe you could get another job in the same field at a different company?
Tried never heard back from the the other company
>aloof demeanor
>girls are initially attracted because I act like I care, but it's seems a little not genuine, mysterious
>get serious with girl(s)
>personality backfires, all of a sudden upset that i seem too aloof/uncaring
What do?
Find the right girl.
>>18583271
Or communicate a little better once you're in a relationship. Not as a "keep the lady happy" thing, but as a "always work on improving yourself" thing.
If things you're doing piss people off and make them leave you, you can either say "it's just my personality" or you can work on the problem.
>>18583255
You can be aloof but you have to gradually begin to give a bit or she's going to feel like she isn't connecting to you and move on. Even stoic badasses need womanly affection so let go a bit
I've been interning in some IT office for about 2 months now. The job, as described by my manager, would be just to set up computers with software for all the departments. He said that inbetween that I may be able to take some calls and other random tasks. Only problem is now there are hardly any computers left to set up and I've been getting no work the past few weeks. So I basically just sit at my computer the entire day doing next to nothing spare the few times I went up with a coworker to physically set up computers.
My boss gets annoyed any time I ask him a question about extra work and my coworkers are almost always in the middle of a call. When I do ask them if theres something I can do they usually just say idk and offer nothing.
Am I in the wrong if I just sit there doing nothing? I've gotten a little discouraged from asking them anymore since my boss is always "busy" and the other guys are just really low tier support guys that can't give me any actual tasks to do.
just chill there, or go to other place if you feel like wasting time here
>>18583200
check in with your manager once a day in the morning and ask if there is anything today you can do to help out. Then sit at your desk and keep quiet.
I was the same when I started my new job, find the right balance between doing nothing and doing what you've been asked. Once your boss realizes your competence he will delegate more to you. Hopefully.
So after years no car, finally got a car and my license. My question is regarding speed limits.
In my area, residential is usually 25, and highway is 45.
Doing under 25 is easy with red lights, etc.
On the highway, I usually go 45 on the dot. For me, speeding is going 55.
Then I have people fly by me, changing lanes without signaling, doing probably 70.
I dont like to speed because i leave early enough to never be late for work, and i recognize that im not dying to get home 10 minutes sooner.
Is this normal to go this fast? Or are these people that will get pulled over sooner then later?
>>18583174
Generally speaking, you want to keep pace with the general flow of traffic, and drive as fast as you can safely keep yourself under control. If you're on an open, straight highway, 70-90 mph is acceptable. But if you're weaving through traffic and taking turns way too fast, you're driving like an asshole.
You're a new driver so you should do whatever feels safe & comfortable. But sometimes, it's actually not good to drive at/below the written speed limit if you're going slower than everyone else. Go with the flow.
>>18583174
In my state it's generally 10mph over is the standard speed. So everyone just goes 65 here.
I generally go 70 since it's a straightaway with minimal curves.
So basically I've been having these thoughts that I'm not breathing the right way, it is almsot like I'm in constant hyperventilation I legit feel the need to take FORCED breaths, the problem is that I when I take a breath sometimes I feel my chest pushing out, sometimes inside the chest like between the chest and back air filling up my lungs or something, sometimes I feel my abdomen muscles only pushing out, and this freaks me out, I legit feel like I'm not breathing the proper way as funny as it sounds, yes I'm not dead, I don't cough etc, It seems fine but there some mental thing behind this and I need to calm down, I need to know how to breath properly. It sounds absolutely trollish but it's not, I legit might be this retarded. Sometimes I feel like people treat me differently based on where I feel the sensation in my body etc. It's really weird
go to doc
tell him/her
will show you
or go youtube
Both ways are fine. The muscle in your abdomen is your diaphragm and it does that normally. Your chest is another fine place to put air. Anyone who learns proper singing technique learns about these.
He posts this thread every other day, and ignore all advice. Don't bother.