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My first serious relationship was at the tender age of 14. We were both 14, but we knew from the moment we met we wanted to be together. A week later we ended up dating. We were together for 3 years, and I grew a lot as a person within that time frame because of her. I was already a very grounded, down to earth kid, I was kind of mature for my age and she was too. We didn't pay any games like the emo scene kids and shit or cheated on each other. It was lit having a real relationship. I learned to trust in people, as well as to be more social because we would hang out with a lot of each other's friends. We respected each other as well. Now the girls I date are always impressed with how respectful but chill I am. We broke up when I was 17, and it wasn't really that bad. We both just feel out of it, we didn't fight or anything but we just knew we outgrew each other. It was the most peaceful breakup ever honestly. Were still friends, and we know we have each other's backs for anything. Haven't talked to her in a long time but I know she's doing fine. 18 years old now, kind of miss it since all the girls in my high school are lame and just want to play games.

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>>18588702
I guess it did, I dated a girl on and off from freshman year in hs until we graduated. Up until last year (now a 3rd year in Uni) she would still cross my mind. But I guess the best thing about having an experience with a relationship is you learn what you want, what you don't want, and how to cope with moving on. I do think it helped with other aspects of my life and I can see a visible change in my behavior over the last few years. But remember, you shouldn't be seeking out a relationship for the sole purpose of helping other aspects in your life. I think it should be about genuinely caring about your partner and helping them improve themselves while they can help improve you. A relationship that doesn't help both partners grow is a bad relationship. Now at the moment I fell in love with a girl I met abroad and now the distance is causing her to pull away each day a little more. It's a little heartbreaking but after going through some other relationships I just accept it and don't get too bummed over it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zprCVgMKXT0

Make new friends and move on.

do not stick with someone you are absolutely not compatible with. Only you can know this by thinking rationally the pro's and con's.

Just don't fool yourself because you are afraid of being alone. Imagine you found another girl who trusted you, who is caring and kind to you on the same level with different character? Would you go with her and break with current gf?

Be honest to youself

>>18588769
I think I would.

I mean, on short term she made me truly happy but on the long term... I don't really think so. Maybe this sounds strange... but I just don't see it working out for the years to come... thanks anyways for your advice.

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>>18588598
Ask yourself: what do i want to do? And then do it.

Easy. Csgo?

>>18588772
This. Just do what you enjoy doing. Enjoy lazying around? Then enjoy that last month lazying around, who cares.

>>18588589
You are really articulate about it...

This is weird advice but: let the anger into you, feel it, let it pass through you, and try to feel other emotions deeply. Let other emotions overtake your anger, don't supress anger but don't get agitated/annoyed, just FEEL it, let it in and let it go.

Or count to 10

>>18588589
everyone is a smelly poopy head. Try watching documentaries about the worst of the worst and realize that most people around you are average and are not like the people you think they are (kids living in the sewers to hide from police with no education, people that still live in villages in india or africa etc.) you can also look in a mirror and find your imperfections and think hard why you are not a billionaire and realize that you are not the best and that people can be good at somethings that dont always show at first.

Collect other ubermenschen and dont waste your time with those people you are angry about.

If you are saying there aint none its false. Just surround yourself with people you enjoy being with.
and ignore 95% of the retards around you.

>>18588557
Its harder than a normal relationship, sometimes it doesn't feel like a real relationship. It takes a lot from both sides to make it work. If she isn't truly special, it's not worth it.

>>18588560
How do you know if she's special or not?

I do not want to give off a bad impression to anyone, I just really need help, but I want to do it the right way.

If you can help point me in the right groups, I'd appreciate it.

I'm currently setting up my crowdfunding platform (Not GoFundMe as I do not live in the states), my WordPress Blog (Migrating a PhotoBlog of my daily life) and others.

EDIT for additional information
If anyone is wondering, I live in a country where traffic causes a daily 15 minute trip to end in 1 hour and 30. This isn't an exaggeration. It's either you're faced with heavy rains or with the scorching heat, which is why it's a problem for me to go to work, and then go to my graduate school at night without a car (Dangerous and tiring). Plus I also need the car I as I plan to be an UberDriver on weekends when I can, and then transfer cargo for a small business that my friend has, that pays moderately well for each trip.

I only make at max, 280$ minus the Tax, monthly. My Bachelors Degree didn't get me far, which is why I feel lucky I passed a Top University for my Graduate Studies. The tuition is already subsidized, totaling to 1,600 $ total (Computed for all my semesters), I'm not a scholar nor am I a straight-A Student. My tuition is actually already considered the most expensive, even though it's actually quite cheap compared to the other non-subsidized Top Universities which cost almost 1,600 $ for just one term.

I just wanted to place this for transparency and just how much I really need 4chan's help(I also asked Reddit, no help at all) to point me to the right people and the right place for me to basically...beg for help.

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Network. Create a fb page and shill your funding there. Create a youtube and make content around your life. Make your cyber footprint fucking huge so more people will yoss shekels at you

>>18588488
I'm just worried people might actually end up shitting on me, but yeah FB and Youtube Page sounds good.

But it's basically just gonna be about my life. And I'd be keeping my identity secret lmao. Someone might actually try to dox me.

Do whatever. The important thing is that no matter how things go you learn from the experience.

dude that text you wrote sounds autistic. Try to be casual, it's just a date, you aren't marrying her yet. Girls don't like it when a guy is supper pressed either

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First, Don't ask her out on a fucking voicemail, first of all. Second, give her time to talk. Third, don't say she is so pretty and so smart and would you go out with me? Just say 'I would like to take you out to do X' or 'would you like to go out together and do X'.

DO NOT say 'maybe', ever.

Don't wait until Sunday, some other faggot will do that. Try to call her again sometime on Saturday morning, and arrange to meet before church on Sunday for coffee. If you get lucky you can sit next to her in church and then you can ask her for a second, proper date.

Text her tomorrow around 1PM local time and ask wish her a happy Friday, and tell her that you would love to give her a call sometime on Saturday and say hello and to talk a bit.

If she says yes and gives you a time for a Saturday phone call you are set. If she doesn't, say thank you politely and sincerely, back off a bit, IGNORE HER, and wait about a month and then ask her again in person at church.

Any other questions?

It's wide enough, but if it works it works. You be the judge, and act according to your core values it'll be fine.

But don't expect him to gel with your friends who want to socialize with people their own age. (My biased suggestion is that you try an open relationship, or at least one where you're still allowed to hang out with your social group without him giving you shit for it. It's important to your development at a young woman.)

t. 33yo dating a 24yo, even I feel too old for certain things she wants to do on weekends

>>18588430
My parents married with a 10 year age difference, and have been happily married ever since.

You shouldn't care if you are happy in the relationship. Just realize and accept it more than likely means one of you is cashing out well before the other.

>>18588430
It's fine, it works when the dude is older.

I work at a pizza shop, although I'm a """"cook"""" and not a driver. It's great, I love it. The drivers all like it too. Idk what Dominos' tip policy is like but everyone at my store has ample pocket change.

Expect everyone you work with to be a stoner, though.

>>18588418

I'm a semi-stoner too, so its aight, and Dominos is in Australia, so not tips. Thanks for the insight tho senpai

>>18588404
bump

Go columbine on them sandnigs

>Sit down or lay down, whatever is more comfortable.
>take a deep breath in through your mouth, out through the nose
>do that 2 more times and on the last one gently close your eyes
>resume breathing how your body naturally feels like it should, don't try to adjust it
>focus on the contact between you and what you're laying on, feel the pressure between you and the surface
>try to visualize the shape you're imprinting on the surface and look at it from different angles with your mind
>now listen for noises around you and let it surround you
>then gently think about your breathing again
>feel the air rush into your body and see how it changes with your breath
>last, let your mind do whatever it wants and note where it goes. If it goes somewhere dark, gently nudge the thought away and think about the surface you were imagining earlier
>do this for a while and open your eyes

>>18588379
First, anyone in his right mind has the same fear as a beginner, and some of it all through his driving life. It's when you stop being aware of the dangers that you'll be in trouble.

Second, practice, practice, practice. The best place is a big, deserted parking lot, like for a shopping center that's closed. Knowing that there is nothing there for you to hit, you can practice all the maneuvres that scare you.

I had this exact issue a couple of years ago after a car accident I had the week I got my license. I thought I would never drive again. My suggestion is to first drive short distances to routine places on roads you know well. With me, it started with driving to the library that's a short bike-ride to my house, and eventually placing myself in otherwise scary situations where driving is inevitable, like offering to pick a friend up from the effort. It will seem daunting, and you'll shake and sweat bullets when you start, but you just have to do it. Driving may as well be second nature after a month or two.

>>18588394
*airport

>>18588306
Depends on the seed, if it was castorbean(mamona) and you ate more than 10 you're pretty much dead.

>>18588349

I know what castor beans look like, and other outright deadly seeds, doubt whatever I ate was too poisonous, I just don't think it was fit for human consumption

>>18588361
Only thing you can do other than going to the hospital is drinking activated charcoal or waiting it out. Also, did you look up the seed online?