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do you have any hobbies where you create something? could be anything, music, art, writing. could help

>>18654604
Sport and get a job. Or gf.
https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

Do you actually think money and good grades will buy you people's respect?

>>18654592
Money and academic success would buy me my family's respect, yes.

>>18654699
I think you need to distance yourself from your family and live your life.

What do you consider a "high paying career?"

Electrician

>>18654577
Google online carreer test. Take 5 minimun.
Then decide where you want to live and search job market.
Pick something you semi like, has a lot of open positions and probably is well payed.

Good luck stupid frog poster.
https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

Fuck off 4 chan and get studying you got this

>>18654574
You sure senpai it's like 2 books in 2 weeks and it's stuff i gotta understand in order to do can't just memorize like i could with literature

>>18654620
With such attitude no you dont.

https://www.mcdonalds.com/us/en-us/careers.html

>>18654554

You fucked up for not being upfront right away, and then using some weak safe "fishing" response which makes you sound like an extremely nervous beta nerd.

The # of aha is irrelevant, are you in high school or something?

As for if there's a chance, we have no idea because none of us is her. Go find out directly like you should have done the first time. If it doesn't pan out, oh well, that's life.

>>18654554
These threads are fucking retarded. We don't know this woman. We don't know what the "right thing to say" is. We have no insight into her personality or way of thinking at all.

Also you sound underage as fuck.

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>>18654554
Ask her on date. ASK HER ON DATE! Ask hervon date.
>inb4 some underage bullshit
Park, icecream, dinner, fastfood whatever. Ask her on date. And buy condoms. Dont be teen and pregnant.

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>>18654540
>extrovert
>socially awkward
Does not compute. The more you talk to people, the better you will be at it. So yeah, go and talk to people.

Practice makes perfect.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

>>18654712
I like talking to people, but I'm bad at it and often embarrass myself or run out of things to say.

Focus on being interested in the people you are with rather than on your own shyness, ask questions. should be easy to become rather agreeable.

>>18654538
Have a record of you texting/emailing her to show proof if needed. Give her a final warning. If no response after a bit, throw out.

>>18654538
Do this >>18654544 but allow a month while trying to contact her by other means e.g. facebook messenger.

>>18654544
>>18654552
im thinking of getting ahold of her student affairs office first but i dont really want to get involved with the school. i feel like i should but its just a strange prospect having to chase down someone and get school staff involved.

knowing myself i'll have a hard time throwing her stuff away since i'm actually pretty responsible and wouldn't just do that to someone even though i should

i think she went back to school this week. how much longer should i give her?

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Try again faggot. If its what you want figure out a way to try again. Instead of being a little bitch study and prepare. You got this shit its calling ya.

>>18654537
It sounds like you've had an easy ride through life til now. Get used to it dude. Once you leave your parents house and highschool filled with your neighbors you will quickly get brought down to size and humbled in so many ways. You are nothing but a speck of dirt in this big world.

The only thing I can say is you're an asshole for breaking up with your gf because you got a little butthurt. It's a slap in the face but guess what. Even if you got accepted you think you'd be balling hard at a law firm as a partner in the first year? Get real you'd be a paralegal and then an assistant to a real lawyer begging to suck his cock...and that's after you don't even get an interview for 48 of the 50 places you applied to.

Seriously though do people not apply to multiple unis anymore? So you got shutdown from princeton and harvard. Maybe you'll make the cut for emory? We get passover and hannukah off! I'll give you 3 guesses as to why too.

>>18654566
>It sounds like you've had an easy ride through life til now. Get used to it dude.
Yeah, you're right anon. Got to admit that.
>Even if you got accepted you think you'd be balling hard at a law firm as a partner in the first year?
Nope, all I wanted is do what would make me happy. I never felt or acted like I'm hot shit. I just knew where my place was. I felt like I would finally feel alive. I said that everything was going great. The thing is, this train that was supposed to be first class departed without me.

>>18654533
Ask her on date spiderman!
>>18654702

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I feel kinda bad saying this but I'm worried about being stuck with a boring sex life. I am not going to break up with him over something like this, we've been together two years and he helped me have sex which was difficult because I have vaginismus.

He's so vanilla though it kind of dulled my excitement. I guess I kind of sensed this because he wasn't always open to things I wanted to try, or he'd feel awkward, or he would do things to please me but he wouldn't get into it himself. Is there any chance this situation can be saved and he can still open up even though he's supposed to have already explored himself by now?

>>18654520
>>18654521

If this bothers you now, it's going to magnify if you don't talk to him and hammer things out.

Despite what vanilla faggots will tell you, sexual incompatibility is a legitimate reason to end a relationship. You'll always be dissatisfied and your eyes and mind may start to wander.

Whether he should be more open-minded or not is irrelevant to his experience. There's no logic behind that. People like what they like and don't like what they don't.

Let him know that it's important to you that he be a bit more open and adventurous in bed. The relationship won't be a long-term one if he can't change that.

Just try to introduce him to it slowly. If he is truly infatuated with you, he will slowly go to your likings.

Be advised however, that more extreme things such as masochism/sadism or non-monogamy especially, can either take extremely long or never even aspire because they go past a sexual level, and into other things such as personal health and loyalty.

Last thing you should do is FORCE him, or cheat on him. Not saying you will, but cheaters are utter scum, and you'd be better off just leaving him.

>>18654514
I'm in the same boat, about to start distancing myself emotionally. Mainly yo screw with her head.

>>18654514
You can't always tell. Or atleast I couldn't the first time. Sometimes it's obvious but it isn't always.
If she brings genuine joy into your life, and not just casual happiness that your could get from anywhere else or in some different form then there's a good chance it's the real deal.
If not, then it isn't necessarily that you're attached and holding onto something that isn't really about love, but it could be.

>>18654530
Edgy

>>18654514
Only time, OP. Seriously. It's the only thing that reveals the truth about any relationship.

I know what you mean. People always say 'take deep breaths and it will be fine' but it's scary when that doesn't work.
I would say drink some water, breathe slightly slower than usual and try to ride it out.
When you're feeling more relaxed work on your breathing technique (Make sure you're breathing into the bottom of your lungs) and with practice, breathing will help a lot more when you feel anxiety
Also get onto meditation if you haven't already

Hope this helps

>>18654502
During my worst anxiety periods I would do anything that would distract my mind from thinking about... well about anything. I found those stupid easy stuff to be pretty helpful like playing stupid facebook video games, watching fun movies, swimming, browsing the web etc

I've been dealing with extreme anxiety for the past 16 years now. It used to be so bad I couldn't even walk into a store or do things that are essential like getting gas.

Its still pretty bad, I also have paranoid delusions and bipolar disorder. I can usually go into a store nowadays but still have my bad days. I take some supplements that help me relax but nothing is an absolute cure. I also have do some form of cardio or weight training to keep me balanced. Hobbies help too.

Prescription drugs just make me feel like a zombie. However, I have not tried everything so maybe something out there would help me. My relationships are always extremely dysfunctional ( mostly because of me) and I can't hold a job for longer than a couple years max without getting fired for freaking out constantly. Its also difficult for me to sustain friendships. I have a good sense of humor and always .ale people laugh, but I panic when people want to get too close and start inviting me to things, etc. Everyone's different and you have to explore to find what works for you. Shit I'm 30 years old and I'm still struggling but I'm doing better than I was 5, 10 years ago.

If anyone sees this I would really love some prompt advice

When I took it, most I did was 2 days in a row without sleep. I don't know about a third. But, I mean, why not?

>>18654546
I said 3 pills, not days
I just had half of one, hopefully it won't push my brain/heart too hard

>>18654468
Ye, that sounds too much. Don't think I could pull that off for more then two weeks and I'm used to 9 to 5 all weekdays work.

>>18654468

It's not sustainable long term.
You will get burnt out pretty quickly.
Do what you need to do to earn money and make a living.
I would recommend quitting the part time job when it becomes too much to handle.

>>18654468
Yes. At one time I was desperate and poor enough to force myself to work 7 days a week for 2.5 months. It's not worth it and it's the reason why americans legally allocate one day of rest minimum (per workplace)

it's not even worth considering brother trust me on that

I'm suffering through this pain myself bro, you're not alone.

In these brief moments where I feel somewhat optimistic and at peace I'm telling myself that this is an experience that millions before us have gone through. It's not permanent and you can take it as a challenge to improve yourself immensely and eventually fall in love with another girl. Your ex seems perfect right now but she really wasn't bro. There are lots of interesting women to date out there.

I havent completely let go in 5 years, so do it as fast as you can because it gets harder and worse as time goes on.
cant tell you how to do it bcs i havent done it myself but try to find a way

Over a year now for me. It's not that I want to be with her, it's that I hate the idea of not caring about her at all. I'd actually rather feel something than nothing. It's just unfortunately not healthy to be that way over someone you aren't in contact with