How do I have confidence when talking to girls? I'm too shy to even approach girls. I haven't even hugged a girl since my girlfriend left me nearly a year ago now. If I do talk to a girl I have no idea what to say. Please help
TL;DR I have no confidence in girls since my girlfriend left me please help
>>18654820
There humans ya? So talk about anything humans talk about.
How do I spot signs of future hazing while rushing a fraternity?
I pledged a frat last semester and eventually dropped because I felt unsafe when they would haze individual pledges alone.
I don't have a problem with hazing entirely and I understand that some shit is bound to happen at most if not all frats.
However, I believe its goal should be growing the camaraderie among the pledge class and brothers instead of forcing pledges to drink and smoke until they're fucked beyond all help.
I don't want to waste another semester pledging a shit frat and being a lonely cunt when I drop.
help plox
>pls respond
Don't even bother with that bullshit. Just find other people on campus that share similar hobbies, and interact with them like an normal human being.
>>18654807
>I dropped...
Stay away, Geed
How do i stick up for myself and stop getting picked on? Im a 20 year old adult and my only key social factor is passive.
>>18654805
By practicing sticking up for yourself and say no. Also voice your own opinion.
>>18654805
Total isolation. No people, no problem.
>>18654828
Already there.
>>18654819
Ill try but i dont see a point to putting a facade of masculinity, you know what I mean? It's not me. I like to be abrasive in jest sometimes but that's it. I don't get why I need this big man's ego to hang with other guys. Why is this?
What can I do to stop smoking?
>>18654783
Carry a banana with you. Anytime you feel the urge to smoke put the banana in your mouth. It worked for me.
Keep smoking till you die, then you won't be able to smoke anymore.
>>18654783
You cant smoke if you dont buy any cigarets.
This is how i defeated obesity. You cant eat something you dont have. So instead of trying to force yourself to not smoke 24/7, you just have to force yourself to not buy cigarets when you are at some shop which isnt every day and last 1 hour max?
I'm a 19 year old desperate for a job, so when I saw an application my friend gave me at college I gave it a look. it was a stay at home job that gave me $710 dollars to buy the software needed. I needed to print out the check. However after depositing it, the company took back the money, and I had to pay a charge back fee. The locker is they took twice as much since I only had 200 in my account and now I have to pay the bank $500.
I called the company and the internship I applied for doesn't exist, mid are they affiliated with any colleges.
tl;dr
what do I do?
How are people like you getting into college
>>18654747
yeah you got scammed. You should go kick your friends ass.
>>18654747
>what do I do?
Get better friends, OP.
how do I get over my first breakup
Rather easily after time.
>>18654746
it's been 3 weeks
try really hard to remember one of the millions of times she was a cunt
I feel like the world is driving me crazy.
Friends of mine are getting arrested for petty shit that doesn't hurt anyone, and they're getting treated like garbage by these entitled dating site women. Some of them are even on the brink of madness, talking to characters in their head and threatening suicide. My mom lost her job, and is playing nurse for all of her sick/injured and no longer autonomous loved ones. She wouldn't even let me come over for dinner, because she's so "busy."
I feel like I'm going crazy, like this world isn't real. I don't have anyone particularly grounding to talk to. I just want to go to school and leave it at that, but of course life is not that simple - I'm out of work and going to food pantires.
I'm going over to my craziest friend's house, because he'd rip my head off if I brush him off. He'll probably rip my head off anyway, because I'm a "snake" or something.
How do I catch a break mentally? I already spend most of my time alone, so.
>>18654741
Meet new people, hopefully positive ones that might help you mentally recover from this stressful situation?
Things are not gonna be solved by themselves but it's easier when your brain isn't overwhelmed by negative thoughts.
That helped in my experience. Yours might be similar or different, you won't know until you try.
>>18654790
It's hard to make new friends with anxiety and no money, but you're right. Being around someone with a calming personality could help.
breaks from the real world?
watch some movies or series (anime if your into it). read a book, listen to some music etc.
this wont change anything but its good to get a break. no idea what actions you should take though.
How do you make a relationship last
My gf is extremely loving and sweet. She was a virgin before me, and basically i can do no wrong by just being myself with her; she's super into me. She's the perfect balance of naughty and nice, she's always in the mood for sex whenever i want, and she's always there for me. My grandpa just passed away this week, and she's coming over to be with me for the funeral, and she's baking desserts for me and my family. I lucked out with her like nobody else i know. I'd definitely marry her one day.
But i have a sinking feeling that the way i am now won't hold up with her. There are simply too many horror stories about women getting bored with their man and leaving or cheating.
It probably cause she seems to good to be true.
She is probably feeling the same as you do, I wouldn't worry about it
How long have you been together?
>There are simply too many horror stories about women getting bored with their man and leaving or cheating.
Because you're on fucking /adv/ and /r9k/ where people come to moan about how shit women are. This isn't an environment where you rave about how great your partner is. Use your brain.
>>18654729
I feel similarly about my boyfriend. I've seen so many relationships fade or crumble, I've seen so many miserable marriages even if the people started off loving each other. I'm always on the hunt for relationship therapy, tips, advice, anything to give me as many tools as possible to keep this relationship strong, even though we've been together over 6 years and it doesn't look like we're stopping any time soon.
For us, working on communication skills has been the biggest help to keeping us emotionally close to each other
To get a date with a girl who you like very much, which of the following is the best option:
(1) Ask her out immediately on a date
(2) Ask her out after getting to know her after a few days
(3) Ask her out after getting her to warm to you after a few weeks
(4) Ask her out after she's comfortable with you after a few months
>>18654722
ask her out immediately but
1. after briefly getting to know her
2. after getting her to warm to you
3. after she's comfortable with you
all within the span of idk 5 minutes or so
Hey /adv/ I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't think I'm able to enjoy things as much as other people do. For example I find not a lot of stuff funny. And if I do find something funny I usually just get a small smile or exhale harder through my nose. Very rarely do I laugh out loud.
I can make other people laugh though so I guess I do have a sense of humor.
That's just one aspect of my problem however, I just don't have anythng I really enjoy and that has caused me to play a lot of videogames for most of my life because it's easy to devote a lot of time in those. But even when playing those I don't feel anything and it's more something to pass the time.
I guess I'm desentisized to most things in life? It's hard to describe it but I just don't really feel alive most of the time since I don't enjoy the fun things in live as much as I feel like I should.
I have felt surges of hype/enjoyment but these moments are far and few between and I really wish I would experience that feel more often.
Anyone able to help me unfuck my shit?
>>18654721
Sounds like classic depression. You must have things in your life that are creating this. If you have a place to sleep and food in your stomach what are you yearning for? These things you describe are common feelings of depression. Are you self conscious? You have to create something you feel happy about INTERNALLY. There is no one piece of advice where you will go eureka. Age is a big factor as well cause most young people will feel this way at some point in their lives.
>>18654895
I'm a NEET so it might have something to do with that. It's getting better but I just feel like I don't connect very well with other my age and I hate that.
hi 4chan i need ur help.
i hav a sister called grace and she is rly rly rly fat.
she is always eating fings + a few days ago i saw her eating da neighbours plastic slide. da fact dat it was made out of plastic didn't stop her. she ate a good chunk of it before we made her stop. den we had 2 take her 2 da doctors bcos she got sick from Eaton da plastic.
wat shud i do 2 make her stop?
(pic related: dats a drawing dat i drew of her eating da slide)
>>18654708
kil her
OMG DAT IS HORIBL! U SICK PERSON! Y DO U WANT ME 2 KILL HER DATS RATE HORRIBEL U SHUD B ASHAMD!!!
>>18654708
I thought this kind of posts were found on /s4s/.
I'm going to get a tattoo. I know what I want, I just want to find a good designer to draw it up for me.
I've never commissioned somebody before, though. If I pay them an agreed amount of money, can I ask them to not share the image? As the artist, are they 100% allowed to share regardless? I dunno I just don't want my design to be taken by everyone else within the community I have in mind.
TLDR want to pay someone to draw something but don't want them to share what do
I don't know, have you tried asking the artist who's doing it for you if he's cool with not sharing?
if he says yes, do the tattoo
if he says no, find another
a girl who knows I secretly have a feeder fetish came to a party I hosted looking like pic related abet with shorts visibly undone half the time. she got the entire belly on a trip since last time I saw her. generally shes more conventionally modest
mostly i'm just asking the subject question but this is the context
they're about 200 times more aware than you can ever hope to be
Simple question:
How to become a normie?
Imagine/Pretend you are confident, you will eventually BE confident.
Practice good hygiene. Get a job, or education. Don't be a NEET.
Get fit if you are fat. Gain muscle if you are a skelly.
>>18654688
It's all genetics. No matter how hard some people try they cannot be a normie.
Leave 4chan
I don't know what to fucking do. Back in the spring some girl accepted to go to a dance with me, and then later flaked on me and just stopped replying to me after asking her out. It shook me up a bit but I go over it.
It's now next year and we keep fucking running into eachother and it's painfully awkward. I'm a gym rat and now she's constantly appearing in the gym when I'm there and we just try to avoid each other. We constantly run into eachother at the dining hall since we eat at the same time and just look at the floor. I constantly run into her to and from classes since we live in the same building. It's just painfully awkward and I'm tired of looking away from her every time I see her. I don't want to be creepy and smile at her to be less awkward but I have no idea what to do. Should I just stop her to talk some time? What would I even say?
How do I remedy this? We see each other like three times a day and this is just annoying
plz
Move on and get another girl dude
>>18654678
Just ignore her, dummy.