So I'm now officially a pledge.
I know a Brazilian stamp collecting forum isn't filled with people who joined a frat but I'll still ask.
What should I expect during the process?
Of course they're going to say they're against hazing but considering some of the brothers are dicks for no reason, I'm expecting the worst.
School is above everything for me so if I believe my grades are going to drop, I'm going to quit.
How should I handle the few brothers who are dicks for the sake of their own ego?
Should I go along with any bullshit tasks they tell me to do?
I'm not too excited, but I'm doing this so I'm not lonely for the rest of my college career.
>>18004940
I read that as pledging a fart.
I pledged a fraternity last semester and now I'm an active. Let me tell you this: get any preconceived notions of fraternity life out of your head. I talked about memes and harambe with my brothers all the time as a pledge. Just go into it with an open attitude and don't be a little bitch.
Fraternities are social settings, so yeah sometimes there are dicks. I don't like every brother in my fraternity, and that's ok. Just put with them till you initiate then cock block them whenever you can at parties to get em back
As for pledging: DON'T BE A LITTLE BITCH. A little bit of hazing builds bonds between your pledge class. They will some of your closest friends you will ever have. If shit gets out of hand (physical danger and stuff) sure talk to someone but my fraternity had very minimal hazing. They fucked with us psychologically over the course of 8 weeks, but in today's age, a hazing complaint can get Frats kicked off so they have to find some way to seperate the pledges from actives.
Above all, don't be entitled. You are a pledge, which inherently means you are under the actives. Show them the respect they deserve, cuz they went thru the same shit you'll go thru.
Being in a fraternity has been the single most fulfilling thing I've ever done with my life, and I don't regret it for a second, but I won't lie I had some doubts when I was a pledge. The answer to the question your gonna ask yourself is this: yes. It's worth it. It's very worth it.
Also, practice beer pong. You will look like a God if you can post shot after shot at parties. Bitches love that shit. And get good at chugging beer because that's gonna be one of your primary activities with these guys. If you can get good at Shotgunning beer then brothers will respect you.
I'm nineteen, living in a shitty and boring town. I've got no direction. Depression and anxiety have a powerful hold on most of my life. I'm enrolled in my local community college and have no idea what I want to study. I've failed my last two semesters because I can't bring myself to work without any direction.
Soon my friends will be leaving town. Four are leaving to transfer to new schools, one is moving to Europe, one is a drug addict who will likely be stuck in this town forever.
I've got no job, no school, no plan for the future, and soon, no friends. I don't know what to do. I think I'm asking here because I need someone to just TELL me what to do, then I can do it. If someone TELLS me to major in something, then I might feel obligated to because someone wants me to. But I have no idea what to do or what I should do.
Frankly, I'm terrified. I'm scared I'm going to be stuck here forever and never leave and fail or become homeless. If I fail this next semester I'll be on academic probation...
Please, anything. I need to do something. I was considering just running away to Portland or LA or something and just getting a shitty job in a coffee shop until I decide to go back to school, but I don't even know where to begin that plan. Not to mention I'm not sure I could do it.
Anything helps. Thanks in advance.
Bump. I know this is really vague and complex but I just need some support right now.
>I've failed my last two semesters because I can't bring myself to work without any direction.
Hoo, boy, do I know that feel. I'd say get a hobby with a clear end goal that you work towards whenever you can. For example, if your hobby is carpentry, come up with the plans to build a treehouse and spend some time working on it little by little. The key here is to have a goal every day or week or however often you feel its necessary to work on it. (Today I'm going to build this section of the guardrails! Today I'm going to build the door! etc.)
Honest, hard work creating or doing something is extremely fulfilling, it works wonders on depression.
>>18004894
What do you enjoy doing?
I recently told my female best friend that i´m in love with her and she said that she didn´t understand how could i like her and that she needed to think.
I used to talk everyday with her but now we barely talk, when i pointed out this she said that it´s because she is on vacation with her family.
All this was a week ago.
What should i do ?
>>18004873
learn your lesson to show your true intent from the beginning.
abyss jumping only works if you are a chad.
protip: youre not
>>18004873
>mfw OP is a beta orbiter
>>18004879
Abyss Jumping, I dig that term.
>go out with girl drinking
>i cant drink too much because im sick
>keeps calling me a pussy, etc. etc.
>she keeps taking secret snapchat pictures of me
>only reason i found out is because a mutual friend told me
she's done this 3 times now. What is her deal? She's always calling me names too btw.
>>18004842
It's bantz dude she's probably trying to fuck
is this a meme thread now?
she's into you. The drinking was the first indication but the snapchat fuckin closed the deal
So I'm failing almost every class this year and I doesn't look like I will move on to the next grade. I've been thinking about dropping out but I'm scared that I won't be able to find work because I'm not skilled or talented in anything. What should I do?
>>18004838
Nobody is naturally talented or skilled, they work at it.
You need to work harder and/or smarter
Find whatever is stopping you from suceeding. For me, it was mmos/mobas.
The sad truth is a bachelor's is equivalent to a hs diploma nowadays. Put 100 percent into school. Even if you can barely manage Cs going full blast, you will still get that degree. DO NOT DROP OUT NO MATTER WHAT. NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR DEGREE
>>18004838
Don't drop out but maybe withdraw and take the semester off to avoid nuking your GPA. That way you have the option of going back when you get sick of whatever retail job you land, and you can study with a renewed sense of purpose.
Unless you're in high school in which case just try to fight through that shit, only retards and pregnant teens drop out of high school.
When you order something online like pic related, do you show them it or wait till they notice it
For the sake of your parents, hide it.
>>18004837
you don't display it in a place where they would see it
>>18004837
I have a "culture flag" as my brother calls it hanging in my room. My father just looked at it, said "ok" and left now when he comes in he just stares at it sometimes. They won't question it nor care it's your money waste that shit on what you want
>Girl dated friend for 4 years
>she was part of our friendship circle
>they recently break up
>me and her start talking
>spoke everyday for past 3 weeks
>yesterday we started talking about sex
>we really want to sleep with eachother
My other friend who i told about the situation said I am a dick for even talking to her because her ex is part of our friendship group and a friend of mine
What do i do? am i a bad person?
>>18004803
>My other friend who i told about the situation said I am a dick for even talking to her
He's right
>am i a bad person?
Yes
>>18004803
>Dated guy for 4 years
>Now wants to bang you
You're a rebound. If you care about your friend, you shouldn't do this.
>>18004893
im not looking for a relationship, i just want to fuck her. But feel bad for friend.
Is it technically possible to get 50% on every aspect in the 16 personality types? For example, I can't tell whether I'm an INFJ or INFP since I'm 50/50 on judgement and perception. What would it even be like to be completely evened out in every category?
>>18004798
The test is stupid anyways. Everyone fills it out in the way they see themselves and not actually the way they are. If you want to know who you really are, have 10 people who know you very well take the test for you and average the results.
>>18004798
Don't read too much into MBTI, and yes you can get an indecisive result. The paragraph will chide you for being wishy-washy.
>>18004798
Myers Briggs is about as scientific as your astrological sign or even one of those "which Gilmore girl are you" personality quizzes. I find that the binary nature of some of those questions is one of the biggest flaws.
I really like this guy at work and I honestly can't tell if this guy at work likes me or not. I sometimes(sometimes) feel his hand sliding past my butt when he walks near/past me. Just the other day we were doing something, and he had to do something. So I said okay, and as he left he put his body against my ass. I was literally able to feel his legs and crotch up against me. What do you guys think?
Also I had sweatpants on when that happened. Do you guys think he felt me up a lot because of that?
>>18004787
He sounds like he's into frottage.
A guy I like was sitting very close to me the other day and I thought it was a good sign that he wasn't pulling away. But then his elbow accidentally brushed against my arm and he jerked it away like he had just touched something slimy. Should I kill myself?
sounds like he's testing the waters.
How do I minimise all contact with snails? to be around as few snails as realistically possible.
Where is the least snaily place to move?
>>18004777
>Where is the least snaily place to move?
In a volcano
Ok Junji Ito
>>18004777
The powder deserts in the middle east.
You're a decent looking guy. It looks like you have clear skin, a nice face, and nice hair.
The long hair may be a turn off to a lot of girls, though. It's not quite the anathema that short hair on girls is, but you may be limiting yourself just a bit. You may want to look into getting something more stylish.
It looks like you're not fat based on your face. This isn't as big of a deal to girls as it is to guys, but it definitely helps to be skinny. If your body is not up to snuff, start lifting and go for ottermode. That will maximize your appeal to girls.
Can't tell how you dress. So long as you're not dressing completely awful, you should be attractive to some one.
In short, it doesn't appear that looks are your issue either. So we can rule out looks and we can rule out intelligence.
How is your personality? What hobbies do you have? What do you talk to people about?
How is your personal life? Do you have a job? A car? Where do you live?
if you have a private messenger link then i'd like to talk to you on that; last thread was blown up by a couple of trolls.
all i have is fb and my personal email anything else is fine too
>>18004759
hey sorry anon, i never talk to 4channers outside of 4chan, but if you want criticism here, i'll be happy to help. just remember i'm one person with one person's opinion though.
I am very skinny, but I am strength training everyday, and eating more. I have no social life outside of school. I have no job. I am about to buy a car. My hobbies are self-teaching, contemplating about the world, and writing sometimes. I am very critical of people, lack self indulgence, have a fairly low self-esteem, and doubt everything I hear. I realize I portray myself as the usual 4chan nerd with slight austism, but I have not dug myself that deep, yet. Any insight would be graciously appreciated.
Please, can someone tell me a decent site to stream new movies.
I keep going into sites and maybe the movie starts but will stop and asks you to sign up.
Also, are most of the torrent sites gone now or what? When I went on extratorrent the other day it was just virus after virus....
>>18004734
Everyone now either uses Netflix, Amazon and/or movie apps.
>>18004749
But for new movies just out in the cinema! I want to see Split.
Helllllooooooo, please like, I just want to watch a movie
House:
>can live in it
Car:
>can live in it
>can travel with it
>cheaper
>no property tax
I'm leaning towards the car desu, are there any downsides I'm missing?
As a homeowner: get a car. You can always rent an apartment.
>>18004730
Sex and chilling with homies
Also, showering
Some teenager on their cellphone can total your car. Not as easy to get your house fucked.
That said, don't buy a house in a place you don't want to settle down in.
I just did something that ruined my life, any hopes I had are now gone. My question to /adv/ is what do I do now? I can't do much but what do I do?
>>18004711
>hurr-durr
Either give us the whole story or bugger off.
>>18004717
I'm in grade 12, just turned 18. And just got my marks back and I flunked both math and physics. I won't be able to get in anywhere now. I can't join the army due to a disability so now I got nothing to do.
>>18004724
GED
How do I make my wife feel better about things she has done in the past? She hates herself for sexual things she did when she was 17-18 and single before we met. She never full on had sex, but she did sexual stuff when she had smoked and or was drunk. It's never really bothered me but it still haunts her I guess. Ive tried to tell her everyone has a past and it's no big deal but it doesnt seem to help.
TLDR: how do I help my wife get over past regrets?
>>18004691
buy her a therapist
>>18004726
Tried that but it never really help her. I dont really know why
>>18004729
Therapists are not a magical solution. She has to open up to them and help herself, and this can take time, specially since it's sexual
She seems to have a bad image of herself more than she's worried about what you think of it, probably because it's related to substances.