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I've got a crucial situation going on atm. I need your help really badly. Here's the short summarized story.
>Be me 7 years ago
>have Schizotypal personality disorder
>Have close friend
>Taken off my meds without my knowledge
>Flip on my friend with this relationship ending savage text message after being off meds for a few months
>No prior history of being mean to them or anyone ever whie I was medicated
>7 years later
>Contact them on facebook
>They're not responding to any messages I sent them
I'm not sure how to interpret this. Because first of all when I finally contacted them again I made the texts a little melo dramatic and really long so the messages may have just been too awkward to respond to. And if she was just straight up ghosting me I think i'd actually be blocked. But I can post on her profile on facebook and I can send messages to her. So i'm not sure how to interpret the situation.
If they realized that I only flipped because I was off my meds I can't see any reason why they wouldn't want to forgive me and be my friend anymore. Wouldn't you forgive me and be cool with me if you found out this happened? I mean come on, I got totally fucked. My friend also had no idea I was diagnosed with this. So that's why i'm so adamant on trying to get through to them.
I'm just not really sure what to do from here.
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Hey /adv/ can I get help on this?
I know this sounds hard to relate to and give advice for. But it's essentially just regular "Am I being ghosted or not issue"
We don't have to take issue with any of the mental illness stuff I talked about. I just need to know how to interpret why she's not responding to me and where i should go from there.
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>Post thread for help on /adv/
>Nobody answers at all for hours
Wow. Well I guess consider this thread closed then. I'm out. Goodbye.
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>>18026786
Before you go OP:
>You are a cuck
That's is all
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How do you stop daydreaming constantly and living in your own fantasy world inside of your head and get back into reality?
Is there any real obligation to do so?
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>>18026355
well it depends how old are you are you? if you're legal and in US do you have plans for your future? are you gonna go to school? are you going to school? if so are you passing or failing? are you working and if yes is it a job you can move up in? do you have friends if yes do you hangout with them? do you have a qt3.14 of interest if yes do you talk to her regularly? do you work out or go to the gym if yes keep up the good work if not go for a jog.
it's the little things in life that people forget about personally my meaning to life is to make memories cause I want that flash before my eyes as I die to be awesome asf
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>>18026355
put the bong down for a minute or two and compose yourself, cheech.
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>>18026355
You might have MDD or maladaptive daydreaming.
I have it too, it's a really shitty coping mechanism.
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Should I chase passion, or money and power, when it comes to a career?
I have things that delight me that aren't profitable AT ALL (sports/fitness, art)... but I also have a competitive streak where I get my kicks by competing, training/preparing, beating someone, wining, and reaping the rewards. i want to be ambitious, go balls out with my job, jump at any chance to take more responsibility / more dollars. It makes me feel masculine to work hard, get some money, and achieve a higher status and be better than the day before.
But smoking weed, listening to music and painting something shitty all day is equally enticing.
What do?
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>get a job that pays well
>use the money to fund fun hobbies
>???
>profit
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>>18026316
It's hard to say anon. I wish I could say do what you want it'll work out you'll be alright but we both know the world ain't always like that. So I'd say do what you're best at. It's probably because you have a vague passion for it. Also pic unrelated.
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>>18026316
If your passion will provide enough to pay the bills, fucking go for it. You may never be rich, but you'll be happier doing what you love.
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What are normees like, are they all the same?
I'm talking to a girl over facebook, going to see her tomorrow, but she's pretty much a normie. And I don't know she'll think I am a weirdo.
I don't get along with normies much, and lately I've been a shut-in. My question is, do normies get along with all sorts of different people? or are they all somewhat homogeneous? I mean, I know everybody is different but to my eyes norms seem to try to adhere to some template, you know what I mean?
I am skinny, quiet, I don't like getting wasted, I like cinema and anime, I am fascinated by complex systems, I loosely follow a thaoist-chan bhuddist philosophy.
For what I know norms are extroverted, have some skin on their bones, lots of tatoos (I got one, and it's a shell script), love to get wasted (this girl in particular has mentioned it twice and I was like "meh"), do a lot of recreational drugs, don't have any interest in academic subjects at all, watch tv and sports, love to wear brand clothes (with the brand name standing out for all to see), and all pretty much seem to express themselves with rather standard expresions (dudebro talk I guess?), and they don't have any interest for philosophy whatsoever.
Am I getting it all wrong? Is it okay if I'm ... you know, myself, or will I be much too different from her set of friends (and anyone's for that matter) that I'll just come out as some weirdo?
In the end I don't intend to become a norm, I'm really just wondering if norms are really all homogeneous or if they are actually used to people being all kinds of different.
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Normie is a meme. There's socially maladjusted/weird people that are extroverted, too. There's tons of types of people out there. You just need to expose yourself to them.
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>>18026325
said it better than I could
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>>18026312
Most people are boring and like all the same shit as one another. They live their lives unexamined.
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My whole family thinks I'm gay because i've never mentioned any women to them
Was loving these memes until they became true desu
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>>18026310
Mention some women to them, then
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>>18026327
Who? Hillary?
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>>18026333
If you're into political black widows, sure!
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Is the military a good career, or is it just for thick bootlickers who don't know how to make money?
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>>18026273
how are the two mutually exclusive?
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>>18026273
personally I leave for boot camp this coming up sunday and I'm widely considered smart by my peers and colleagues scored a 95 on my asvab and will be an avionics technician do I want to go to back to school for another few shitty years? fuck no. Do I know how to make money? clearly I do cause I'm joining the military where I'll get paid starting off at $17 an hour doing what I was gonna go to school for? Am I impatient or passionate? that's for you to decide
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>>18026278
exactly my point clearly 9/10 the enlistee is usually in it for the money so clearly that's one of the ways to make it
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How do you deal with normie "humor" 2017-02-06 07:11:45 Post No.18026228
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How do you deal with normie "humor"
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>be chatting up girl in Bio class
>eventually I steer the conversation to movies
>she brings up how she finally finished the Harry Potter trilogy
>she then proceeds to show me one of those "How It Should Have Ended " videos
>I fake a smile throughout the whole thing but feel like groaning on the inside
>can't force a chuckle not even once
>don't know if she bought it or not
Most of the people I meet I don't find particularly funny or interesting, but I'm trying to interact with them so I can become a more interesting person, improve my social skills, and hopefully find a gf someday. Should I just straight up tell these people that I don't like their sense of humor? And if I have to continue to pretend, what are some tips on feigning interest?
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>>18026228
No one ever finds videos that they're forced to watch funny
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>>18026228
She sounds like a bore, honestly. Did you indicate you were interested in Harry Potter whatsoever? If no, then she's just socially maladapted.
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>>18026228
Don't laugh at anything you don't find funny. Don't tell people outright that their humor sucks either. Humor is subjective, after all. Just carry on with the conversation as usual
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I have no problem whatsoever socializing with strangers in real life, but when I talk to people online I get anxious after a while.
Not really sure what causes it, so I'm not sure how to start dealing with it. Which is kind of a bummer, because there are some online communities I'd like to get into.
Wondering if any of you have ideas/insights on what the cause could be and/or how to get over it.
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>>18026218
why tf would you trade real world DLC for online communities the grass isn't always greener on the otherside and in this case be glad you're not a NEET/shutin like many people on 4chan you should really stay as far away from online chatting as much as possible in all fairness since you've been blessed with a gift from a god if they exist
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>>18026227
My intention wasn't to ditch real world socialization for online, there are just certain communities which can't easily be found by simply going outside.
But, you raise a valid point. Perhaps I should just count my blessings and accept that online communication will be somewhat troublesome at times.
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>>18026298
>there are just certain communities which can't easily be found by simply going outside.
OP is a Nazi. I don't see any other reason for a normie to say this...
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Hi guys.
About smoking. I never was a "real" smoker. I only had a few episodes in life where I bought a few packs in succession and smoked max 3 per day.
Now, I work at quite stressful job and had that episode again, for about 5 months now. Currently without a pack and not wanting to buy more, but thing is - I'd really like to. It's such a great stress mitigator. But after one starts smoking more and more often, I found it hard to picture a situation which could not be improved with a cigarete.
I don't want to become an addict. Everyone says it's best not to start at all, but I currently see no negatives about it (apart from stink).
Are there any smokers here? How much do you smoke daily? Or any that succesfully quit? Is there any option like "healthy" dose of cigarettes, without slippery road to addiction?
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Why don't you just pick up literally anything else to cope with stress? Go for a walk or a run or something
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>>18026231
I do that, but it's not always available and of course not so instant.
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Any other experiences?
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In a great relationship for 1 1/2 years now. Sex is amazing. We do it atleast twice a week. But our personalities are polar opposites. We have nothing in common other than great fucking sex. She blows my mind out everytime. Should I stay for the sex? She's pretty and smart too btw. Anons chime on, need you bros.
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>>18026203
Having things in common doesn't matter dude, if she treats you well and respects you and the sex is good and you aren't arguing constantly then that's a great relationship.
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>>18026203
how do you FEEL about her?
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>>18026203
Do you really have nothing in common? How did you talk to her for 18 months and realize ya'll have nothing in common? Is a chad who doesn't realize he's a chad even a chad to begin with?
no but seriously if ya'll have been together for 18 months sex twice a week doesn't do that unless you work all day 5 days out of the week. a 2nd input is if she were to be fucking you and then the next day she were to fuck someone else behind your back and tell you about it after and she got upset then clearly you have an emotional attachment/connection to her but I refuse to believe a relationship can only be based on good sex even great sex or the best sex you've ever had will eventually be dull in comparison and I wouldn't want to date someone with a complete reflection of my own personality it'd be like a weird form of masturbation but the last question is do you see a future with her OP and would it upset you if you saw her with someone else if yes stay with her cause clearly it's more than just lust it might be love
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How to stop relying on others for self esteem? 2017-02-06 06:40:34 Post No.18026161
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How to stop relying on others for self esteem?
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Sup /adv/, I don't know where else to ask about this beyond counsellors and that's a 6 month waiting list
I have a problem where the majority of my self esteem relies on others approving of me/ liking me. This is usually a sexual thing too. I'm infrequently sexting two guys (yes they both know, its fine) and whenever we go too long without talking I realise that I just feel so hollow and bored. I used to go on omegle just to see if people would compliment me but I thankfully broke the habit.
How can I be 'myself' and learn to value myself out of a sexual setting, without the need to rely on others?
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>>18026161
everyone needs some sort of external validation, the problem is you aren't incorporating it into your confidence.
you arent relying on others for self esteem, you are relying on them to feel good. there is a difference. if you relied on them for self esteem than the frequent sexting would have built up yourself esteem and you wouldnt feel bad when they aren't responding.
peopel who rely on others for self esteem get told 'good job' for something they did well. then when soemone else says 'this sucks' they aren't hurt by it because they already know what they did is good thakns to others.
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>>18026161
Turn your life into a narrative where you are an edgy loner or a damsel in a noir adventure.
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>>18026182
Thanks for your input, I've looked at it that way before so it's a start to improving :)
>>18026392
damsel it is i guess?
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Hi /adv/ocates.
Let's talk sex... and the things I need help with.
Cutting to the chase I've been fucking with gf lately. I haven't fucked her that many times in total, and in fact she's the first person I ever got to. And some shit is happening.
I get tired really fucking fast during the act. I'm litteraly dripping in sweat before ever feeling close to climax and I have to fully stop or I'll fucking die out of breath, which kills the climax.
Haven't cum inside her yet dispite having, idk, done it 6 times? Every time I have to finish off myself. Not even oral can make me cum, tho I think it's because she uses too much teeth. Could be porn addiction, idk.
So yeah, I need advice on how to sex all the way 'till I cum without killing myself out of breath.
I'm really skinny, workout twice a week (thinking of 3) and gf is shy, so if I'm not the one doing the fucking it's hard to convince her to do "on top" stuff.
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>>18026125
Do some cardio, cut down on fapping, change positions more often. Done.
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>>18026132
So do I fap like, once every 3 days just to take the edge off?
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>>18026139
No one can/should give you a certain number. Whatever your daily/weekly count is, just reduce it a little bit.
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Best friend changing genders
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So, my best friend of over 10 years dropped the bomb on me. They're deciding to go through Hormone replacement therapy. (male to female)
It was completely unexpected, since his personality didn't leave many hints towards this. I still want to be friends and support him, but I've never known anyone who has gone through with something like this.
Does anyone have any experience with this that could help me, and in turn help my friend? I really do want to help, but I have no clue where to start other than the obvious thing of not treating them like an invalid.
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>>18026058
real talk, he's batshit insane and you'll see this in time
for now, say I support you mate and I'll still be your friend, try to keep the relationship normal
inevitably he will start hitting on you or using you as his emotional dumping ground, but that's something you'll have to see yourself to believe
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>>18026066
Honestly, I'd prefer any girl that I know to drop this on me. I'm not completely sure how I feel about the situation, but I don't want to ditch my friend over this. It's like I'm losing my best friend and what lies ahead is some sort of crazy unknown jumble of emotions.
Bonus: He's not exactly the most attractive dude and it's a little scary thinking about him being a girl.
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>>18026058
Just be there for him and support him. It's probably hard for him too. If you do feel that they hit on you now or something, be clear.
Also don't be an asshole and treat them differently because you don't agree with being trans or whatever.
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I was date raped two nights ago. I'm not extremely upset about it, I feel like I should probably be more upset than I am. But my real issue is that I was a virgin and I held a lot of significance surrounding my virginity. I can't believe I lost it this way and my question is, should I tell future partners that I am a virgin or not? I still feel like a virgin since the sex wasn't consensual, but I know in reality I am not. What do you guys think?
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this is above 4chans pay grade
go to a counselor
and get a damn police report/rape kit if you haven't done it yet. don't let that person walk free, and don't let yourself walk around with STDs or pregnancy (if you're female)
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>>18026051
what gender is anon what's your age and yes contact police if this was really date rape and if you're a female get a pregnancy test and don't feel ashamed regardless of your gender date rape is messed up dude
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>>18026051
just tell them exactly what happened. they'll understand. most guys (unless they're virgins themselves) will not care one iota either way. and you shouldn't look at virginity as some big deal. What is sex? Just masturbating using someone else's body. Try not to be so down about it, but you should let the police know. And if this thread doesn't help you, yes, go get professional help.
I'm scared I'm too old to find a new boyfriend. I just turned 25. My boyfriend will be 24 in 2 months. But I feel like our relaronship is probably gonna end soon. We been together 2 years now, but he's been wanting to be more independent and go on trips with his friends without me, he still lives with his mom and plays video games and doesn't even do his own laundry or clean. I live on my own and do everything/pay everything, trying to learn how to cook, blah blah, I just feel like he's probably gonna live as if he's a teenager for like 5 more years, and I'm ready to grow up now. I kinda feel like he holds me back from growing, bc he's scared of being an adult and trying to hold on to that teenage non adult life which I understand I did it for a while too but I know that I'm only getting older so mind as well embrace it at this point, I don't think he will ever really grow up.. I feel like he will just keep starting new relationships with young people and keep him feeling young for a very longtime that's just what I predict kinda I guess. I know he wants to leave me most likely because he's been acting kinda single now and doesn't treat me like I'm the one anymore, doesn't try that much etc. I feel like he will end things for good very soon, and I feel really bad about myself. I'm 25 now. I wish I spent the last two years living my life and not being a good girlfriend to someone being loyal to someone who's gonna dump me anyway. How am I gonna find a good guy who's older than me who isn't taken? I'm feeling hopeless right now. :(
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Have you talked to your bf about any of this .. ?
You're 25, you have plenty of time.
But you need to talk to him and make a decision.
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>>18026041
Talk about what?
I mean I talk about him how I feel
About things. He's even said he wanted to break up a couple times in the past few months bc he feels bad about going on trip without me and stuff, says I'm difficult and irresponsible and other shit. It's clear he doesn't wanna be with me anymore for whatever reasons. I wanna be with him, but he doesn't feel the same and I'm pretty sure he's gonna breaks up with me for good very soon.
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>>18026032
I'll be your boyfriend bb.