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If by "dating" you mean "occasionally inserting penis", it wouldn't take much.

If it means "serious relationship; possibly marriage", never ever.

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>>18025690
i mean "spend the rest of your life with her"

i know that's not true. you're way to lonely to risk such a high horse

>>18025683
The 1 in a million trophy wife milf in terms of looks forever woman. She also has to be a 100% sugar momma who is about 6-10 years older than me with all of the stable income and benefits in the world, doesn't want to live with me, doesn't play games, knows without anything being said that I'm hooking up with girls my age and is fine with it, pays for me to go to school as well as travel and enjoy myself regularly without me needing to do anything but keep a part time job to entertain myself.

That's about it, women with kids don't bother me as an overall, it's the idea of kids at all. I'm the oldest of a brood, I'm done with kids and do not have any wish for any in my life.

>>18025674
fast forward about half a year
>band has taken off like crazy
>still miss her every single day
>still a virgin and keep comparing girls I could have fucked to her
>get our first decent Midwest/west coast tour opening for another larger band
>have a date scheduled in Oregon
>literally feel like I'm going to puke
>play the date there
>she comes to the show
>she acts friendly with my bandmates like they're old friends
>hugs them
>gets to me
>just stares at me
>looks away awkwardly and says hi
>try to hold her hand and pull her in for a hug
>she pulls away
>tell her I've missed her and that I want her so badly
>gives me the coldest fucking look
>"no, you want me now that I'm convenient for you. But when I wanted to know if you were serious about me or not and I really needed you, you weren't there. you don't get to do this to me now"
>people in the headliner are staring at us now
>have to bite my tongue to keep from crying
>after the show bandmates invite her to go drink with us
>"no, I think it's best I'm not here. It was good to see you all"
>hugs everyone except for me
>fuckingkillme.jpg
>messaged her but she never replied

what the fuck do I do

Forget about her, she's being immature.

Nothing but trouble is going to come out of this if you continue to talk to her, she's crazy, don't stick your dick in crazy.

>>18025685
I suppose I should give more context

we talked seriously about dating. Hell, we did every day. I kind of led her to believe that I wanted her to be my girlfriend, well, I did. I did actually say that. Many times. But when she wanted a LDR just until she moved there with me (I was 100% on board with the move part) because she was worried about losing me, I kind of just shut her down. And I said I also didn't want to do that because if she met someone else then she could still pursue them and not be tied to me, and I could do the same. Idk. Looking back it sounds harsh

>crazy
Kek, that's kind of why I like her. I'm crazy too. She dealt with it well tho except for this

Like seriously I have no other natural explanation to how I'd gotten to 123 lbs by an accident without noticing it.

>>18025666
Shit man, i guess it's possible. Did you shit or puke in addition to all the pissing? How much weight did you drop?

You could've definitely just lost a bunch of water weight

>>18025701
Well I did last weigh myself a couple of weeks ago, and was like 59-60 kilos. Decided to check again this morning and it's fucking 56. I've been living off beer and junk food.

Eg. I should to be responsible and find a job, but figuring out where and what is the problem since I have no experience

you should cut all contact and delete her number

why cant i do it, /adv/

>>18025587
because you are emotionally dependent on her. invest yourself no more.

>>18025561
>aunts
Fix.

Practice.

Yes you'll look and sound like a creep a few times, but until you go out and talk to women, nothing is going to change.

>>18025577
i do talk with women without sounding like a creep, sometimes, but i dont know how do you evolve to something more intimate. When to just kiss or touch without looking like a molester or having to ask... but, like you said, it must be practice.

>>18025553

I am in a similar position.
> Girl friend of 4 years
>Emotionally cheats on me because she was unhappy
>Leaves me for the other guy
>We live together till March

Shit has sucked bad and this all happened a month ago. But here's some shit that helps me.

> Going to the gym and doing cardio/lifting weights
>Getting sun for vitamins
>Taking vitamina in general
>Eating healthy
>Working on studying coding so having someone to progress on
>Spending time with friends

Those are things that work for me. Also try not to dwell on it. You have to catch yourself when u do and remind urself it doesn't matter anymore and start thinking of something else.

I also recommend youtubing videos by Elliot Hulse. He gives really good perspective about break ups and heartbreak as well as personal devopment and his thoughts on it help me cope.

It's gonna be a while tho from my understanding so time will heal it. Just can't focus on it or dwell in it. I am not feeling perfect but definitely not crying like before but you will find someone better as I know I will too. Even if neither of us truely believe that.

So hang in there bro. You are not alone by any means.

>>18025751
>Spending time with friends

this is the problem. I can't find friends.

>>18025767

Well meet people at the gym or school. Or if you are into certain things see if people are meeting up locally. Or talk to ur co worker's.

Gonna have get yourself out there . Which in turn will help you meet someone new. Its gonna be hard to push past that comfort zone the better.

I've been shifting back and forth between Lucky Strike and Camel for a while now.

Camel in my experience has a smooth taste goes really well with coffee, so I usually bring them to work.
Lucky Strikes are harsher and stronger which can be nice, especially when out drinking and your taste is a bit numbed.

>Viceroy
>good cigarettes
Pick one.

>>18025551
Viceroy is 0/10

You can never go wrong with some flowers and chocolate.

Unless she's allergic of course.

>>18025552
she isn't but i don't want it to be as plain as just flowers and chocolate (was gonna get her that either way)

>>18025547
fill an album with her candid photos and give it to her.

>>18025524
I'm bipolar II and my ex girlfriend is borderline so I can give a bit of insight.

So, for the most part, you're completely fine as long as you're both open with eachother about how you're feeling. I have a real problem of purposefully misinterpreting what people say/taking it the wrong way, just so I can wallow in it. This happens when I'm depressed and manic, but mostly depressed.

When I'm manic, I'm like a train without brakes. Normally I'm a quiet/laid back person, but I can get intense and if I'm feeling upset, or if someone upset me, I'm really in their face about it.

idk. It's hard to give insight since how people act while they're manic versus depressed is a mixed bag. There are commonalities between people with bipolar disorder, but those are just trends.

My best advice is to take things slow. Like, really slow. Especially if whomever you're dating is in a manic phase during your first few weeks. It's gonna suck (I get super horny when I'm manic and taking things slow is torture) but it's worth it. Same goes for being in a depression because it's gonna be a real eye opener once they go manic and are completely different.

People who are bipolar have trust issues, and aren't sure if you're gonna just come into their life and fall out of it in an instant. I'm usually pretty guarded when it comes to being expressive/open about how I feel, which makes starting relationships a drag.

Seriously, best thing to do is show that you aren't wasting their time and actually spend time getting to know/understand them better.

Have you ever seen that show malcom in the middle? There's one episode where they're at a fair, and the blond haired brother goes through an entire relationship over the course of the fair (with the initial wow!!, to fighting, to breaking up). That's how most of my relationships go when I don't take things slow as fuck.

They're over before I knew that they were really getting started. It sucks. Good Luck!

>>18025524

>anyone have experience

Yep, me.

>any tips

Never again

It's really going to depend on the bipolar. Even the bipolarity will depend. Some bipolars swing more manic more often, some swing more depressive more often. Some only experience mixed episodes, some never experience mixed episodes.

Some are bubbly, extroverted individuals even before they develop bipolar disorder. Some have mood swings before they develop it, and these personality traits continue to show through the illness. Some experience psychosis. Most don't. You're talking about a highly polygenic, highly variable illness that can go in a lot of different directions as the person ages, ESPECIALLY without treatment.

>>18025517
>punch keyboard

Done.

I would if my keyboard only help the letters of one word at a time. If there's no program that can do this I have to do it the old fashioned manual way though.

>>18025531
Have you tried googling it, retard? Because I've already found something that does this.

>>18025502
"Hey, can you please use headphones while working on your music? It really makes it hard for me to work if you play music so loudly"

>>18025504

This is probably what I'll have to do, but I don't want to be that guy who 'bans' him from using his obviously professional grade audio equipment that he uses to get his career off the ground.

Seems like he's actually got quite a professional website etc with a relatively well followed soundcloud, so I dunno.

I'm stuck between not wanting to cause beef and not taking what's clearly lack of regard from his side like a fucking pussy.

polite bump

>>18025468
OP here, also had a dream about fucking him in his car last night

>>18025468
Surely you can't be serious?

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>>18025468
I really want to fill that tub with boiling water and throw them in there until they start howling in agony.

>>18025409

Re-send the message? Do you have any mutual friends? Tell them to tell him.

>>18025409

Keep playing games and never be direct with your intentions. So if he rejects you you can always pretend you were never really interested in the first place. Whatever you do don't try to talk to him like a normal person.

ah yes another episode of women not being shallow

>>18025371
what about asking her?

>>18025371
Fall asleep with your laptop on. Make sure to have 50 tabs open of attractive girls with hairy bushes.

>>18025371
"honey, why don't you let your bush grow out? It would be a big turn-on for me."

>>18025369
Go to /r9k/ and you'll see a bunch of those guys

>>18025369
You'd be surprised by how many guys that actually are like this.

There's no way of knowing at this point. Do you have anything to lose? If not, give it a shot.

>>18025369
You had a good time.
He had a good time.
You said Let's get together again.
He said Sure.

Wherein lies your problem?