Hey /adv/. My first girlfriend (who is the absolute love of my life) of 4 months broke up with me on Thursday without giving a reason. I've left her to have some time to herself, last messaging her to say that I'm always there for her when she needs me and reassuring her that I'll always love her.
But... It's becoming increasingly hard to not message her (I've become so used to doing it), and I feel as if I want to legitimately end my life.
I've done everything I can to try and make myself feel better, but nothing is keeping my happy and makes me worse in the long run.
Any helpful advice? I don't want to feel this way anymore.
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Kinda seems like you've done all you can for now. At least you can say it didn't end that badly if you were able to end it on some positive words.
Some people are probably gonna tell you to go full no-contact and delete her out of your life. As someone who has done exactly that for a recent breakup, I can't tell you that it works or is the best thing to do, but I can say that if I did keep talking to my ex in the state of mind that I was in, I probably would've fallen even harder initially. I do wish I had said some words of apology when it was nearer the time, but I know at that time I wouldn't have been able to do it without coming across as embittered and angry.
There isn't really a way to conveniently side-step feeling shit in the long term if you really loved her. But if you can be self-aware of where you are in that process, you can stop feeling so pathetic about it. Just know that it will get better, gradually but not consistently.
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You have officially catched the KEK syndrome.
Congrats.
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>>18023174
Have you blocked her on social media and such?
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My best friend got an amazing job opportunity recently. It's for a web developer position. He skipped a few steps in the interview process, because the CTO of the company is "in love with him" (his words, not mine). He was given quite a simple task that he had to finish in a week, to determine his skill level and whether or not he got the job.
Unfortunately, he has next to no experience with web. Since I've been working with it for almost 6 years and have had an amazing job for a year now (straight outta college), I offered him my help. I told him I'd teach him as much as possible, and help him finish the tasks, but I wouldn't solve anything instead of him. He asked me a ton of questions, and I reviewed all of his code, giving him pointers on what he should fix and try to steer him away from bad practices. He finished the app, it worked, but his code was still pretty weird. He submitted it, and got a few positive reviews from the employees so far, but it looks like he's getting the job.
Now I'm a little salty. When he told me about the job, he said he'd be getting paid twice as much as I am. We both kind of agreed that if a company is paying him that much, there's no way he's getting the job with no experience, but he's got nothing to lose. Now that it looks like he's getting the job, I feel bad he'll be getting paid twice my paycheck, his work environment will be much better to learn - as opposed to mine, where there's no one that I could learn from. I'm still genuinely happy for him, but I don't know... When I got my job a year ago, I was so proud of having a better salary than both of my parents, and now he's getting twice that.
How do I not feel salty and support my friend? How is it fair that he'd getting such a great job but he didn't even have to apply? They contacted him first...
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Life just isnt fair. Better just come to terms with it. Doesn mean one should stop trying to succeed because some else gets it easy or undeserved. Just say fuck it, let the envy flow away and live on.
Or you could just fuck him over big time:)
But you will regret it.
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use this opportunity to work there. Wait a couple of weeks and then "Hey anon, where you work is awesome. Do you think they are looking for more eng? We can split the referral bonus." You end up with an interview easily, split the bonus so more money, have nicer job and environment. You only win from this, don't be pissed. You know you are technologically ok to join as you helped him. If you say exactly this during interview:
>his work environment will be much better to learn - as opposed to mine, where there's no one that I could learn from
I would hire you for sure, nothing better than someone showing he's willing to learn and take the long hours to do it.
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>>18023868
>use this opportunity to work there. Wait a couple of weeks and then "Hey anon, where you work is awesome. Do you think they are looking for more eng? We can split the referral bonus."
That places his friend in an awkward position where he has to ask his boss something that's really inappropriate for a newbie to ask
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Switch from film to computer science? 2017-02-05 04:31:24 Post No.18022997
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Switch from film to computer science?
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Basically I'm starting to worry about money, something I never really took into consideration before coming to uni and I fell for the do what you love meme.
The lectures and seminars for film aren't amazing but of course I like watching films and don't mind reading film theory/history.
My personality is very introverted (intp) which im starting to realize my be an issue if I wish to get into the industry and I definitely don't want to end up as a barista or working at a supeemarket.
So computer science seems like a decent escape. I like video games, have built my own PC in the past and don't mind spending a lot of time behind a desk. This course seems to provide safer job opportunities and seems more in lime with my personality. However I love films (people not so much) and know nothing about programming.
Changing would mean a waste of a year and £9k+. What should I do?
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Absolutely. Definitely do it. After you switch discipline yourself to keep putting in effort and get the grades you need. Do it you will be so much happier. It's the right decision.
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>>18023001
Wow, your reply is encouraging but may I ask how you are so sure its the right choice?
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>>18023026
It's not fucking film or arts lol. Gtfo you will definitely end up at starbucks.
I went into accounting and commercial law because i wanted money. My life is fucking awesome. If i tried to make my hobbies a career i would be fucked up and a miserable failure.
Just remember all courses have real boring times. You just have to make yourself study even when it's the last thing you want. All part of growing up. After 1st year isn't a bad time to realise this. Good on you OP. Also make academically focused friends and study with then
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I can't penetrate my girlfriend past the hymen, when I try to go harder my dock hurts. Tips? Do I need lube? Or is it that my dock slants downwards a bit?
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Try with lube and change the angle. Finger her with lube first and notice what you would assume to be a comfortable angle. Fuck her more up towards her belly button. Trial + error.
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>>18022989
Dude seriously what kinda marshmallow dick do you have that it hurts you instead of her?
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>>18023088
She's probably uncomfortable, making him uncomfortable. Use more lube and do some foreplay or whatever it's called and then you know, penetrate her.
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I don't know if I should keep on pursuing a guy who has been always hurting me emotionally. I'm at the bottom of his priorities, he hates commitments, and he also likes this girl (although the feelings are fading). He is somehow attracted to me, though, and that's the only thing that keeps me going. He's the only person who's making me feel alive, I have been feeling extra sad lately. Should I continue this?
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Gonna need more info than that.
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>>18022841
Does he live near you?
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>>18022862
what do you mean? (I'm new to this 4chan thing, sorry).
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How can I forgive myself? 2017-02-05 12:38:57 Post No.18022606
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How can I forgive myself?
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>be me
>go to a party with my BF of 2 years
>we have a good evening
>he drinks to much
>starts weaving
>bumps into someone on the way out
>gets beaten up by him and his friends
>it is really bad so I call an ambulance
>they bring him to the hospital but refuse to let me ride with it
>go back to the club to call a cab to go home
>guy who beat up my BF come to me and apologizes
>tell him it is not a big deal since my BF started it
>don't know how and why but somehow end up at his place
>don't have Sex but give hima blowjob
>he drops me of at the hospital in the morning
>feel really bad now I see my bruised up BF
I know it isn't my fault because I was drunk and my BF started the fight but I feel really bad about the whole thing. Leaving my BF is not an option because I live with him and he pays the rent but I feel guilty and don't know what to do and it is eating me up inside.
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No it IS your fault. People don't randomly start giving blowjobs to strangers that assault their significant others just because they're drunk.
You should tell him and break up. How is living with him a problem? You clearly don't give a shit about him so why should you deserve to live off of him
You're an awful person and you will have this guilt eat away at you for the rest of your relationship with your bf. And whilst I suspect this is bait, loose women like you do exist so who knows.
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you shouldn't forgive yourself, this is a really fucked up thing to do, your bf deserves so much better.
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>>18022606
You had me until "I know it is not my fault."
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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Girls:
Is it true that the good old dinner+movie date is considered a bad first date now?
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>>18022085
Did you hear that on 4chan? Because you heard it from other males who are unhappy and will do anything and everything to make everyone else just as unhappy.
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>>18022085
Not exactly. Dinner is a good idea since it involves conversation and you can get to know each other but you can't do any of that during a movie. A movie is a good date but just save it till you're a few dates in and know each other better.
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Help me choose a career 2017-02-05 01:48:41 Post No.18021477
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29 and NEET here. I fucked up a lot over the past 10 years, and have had some simple bad luck. I'm hoping to have my life set in the right direction career-wise before I turn 30, and I would appreciate any suggestions or constructive criticism you guys might have for a guy in my position. I'm not looking to achieve great things, I just want to learn a skill and eventually earn a middle-class income. I'm already a university dropout and I have no intention of going back,so I'm looking to enroll in a program at the local trade school/community college. I have narrowed it down to these choices:
>Electrician
I've actually enrolled in this program already, but I'm still keeping my options open. The work sounds interesting, it pays well once you get licensed, but the apprenticeship scares the fuck out of me. It's extremely difficult to get hired as an apprentice unless you know someone, and trying to get hired as a 30 year old loser might be impossible.
>Cook
There's lots of work in this and I am naturally talented, but the pay is extremely low.
>Trucker
I like trucks and I think I have the right personality for this job (I'm not a complete autist but I am introverted and certainly don't mind being alone for long periods of time). The problem is that I have a DUI on my record. It happened a long time ago and I am insurable, but it could still make getting a job difficult. I also hear that truck drivers are treated like total shit by their employers.
What do you guys think I should do? And do you have any other suggestions about careers I should be looking into or steps I could be taking to make myself more employable?
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>>18021477
>apprenticeship
I took an IT degree, but I just googled for local companies and sent an unsolicited email directly to the lead IT person at the company.
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any trades is good
eletrician
plumber
hvac
roofing
concrete
tiling
general contractor
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>>18021486
Trades are great when you have a license, but contractors don't seem to hire unlicensed apprentices unless it's someone they know.
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Is it normal if I'm only turned on by old women?
I literally can't get excitedby younger girls or girls my age.
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>>18021021
Just find a cougar. Nothing wrong with liking MILFs.
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>>18021021
milk is one of the most popular porn terms searched by men. If anything your "Fetish" is extremely vanilla/common/normal just by statistics.
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>>18021032
Are there really any of them who would date somebody my age?
And how do I meet them?
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first time I had girl over and blew it 2017-02-04 02:42:14 Post No.18019011
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Ok, my girlfriend (19) and I (18) decided to hang out at my house. My brother (13) was there too, and St first we were having fun playing games and joking around. Then we played smash. My brother borrowed her 3ds and something told me I was going to lose, and I lost. I lost my shit. After 2 more losses and one win I threw my 3ds (which I bought last week) twice and cracked it a bit. I then threw it in his face. I then cursed him out and threatened to beat his ass IRL. My girlfriend got scared and played a game in the next room. I was so angry part of me wanted to put him in a coma. Eventually she decided to leave because she had to go home on time. I realized I messed up after talking with my parents. Now my first time having a girl over will be this to remember. How do I accept that this shit will forever be on my mind?
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lol you're a retard
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You don't even care about your brother? Its all about pussy for you guys.
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>>18019011
dude you have some anger issues go talk to a therapist that is not normal behavior
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How the fuck am I supposed to choose a major?
I have no idea what I would enjoy doing for the rest of my life because I've never had any experience in any career field.
I'm currently a freshman and my intended major is mechanical engineering.
I have no fucking clue what the typical mechanical engineering major does for a job.
I only chose it because I was fairly good at math and sciences through high school, but now I realize I'm not.
I'm already struggling through precalc and I need A LOT more math classes.
I also don't want to live my entire life unhappy because I blew $80,000 on a degree that I hate.
I can feel myself losing motivation to do well because I don't know what I want when I'm done with college.
What do?
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>>18024321
>can't do math
>getting a major worth going into to debt for
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Not OP, but just like him I'm shit at math. What major would you recommend to someone like me?
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Id go business. Make sure you specialize though, a general business degree or an mba means little these days unless you have a niche to fill. The only problem is the job market is extremely saturated with business majors, so do some research on specific strands like marketing and then commit to maintaining a high GPA.
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Is anyone ever actually content and happy forever? Can you reach a point in your life where you say "Yep, I've done it, this is great!" and you can coast forever?
I feel like even if you became a trillionaire and lived your life in a private island the size of Hawaii with a beautiful woman who you love and who loves you, with countless servants and random concubines constantly wanting to please you in every way possible (this is just a random example) that even then this person probably wouldn't be thinking "Yep this is the life!" forever and would eventually get used to it
I don't know. Anyone know what I'm talking about? Are we as humans ever satisfied?
We currently live lives better than kings from centuries ago, even if we're poor today. They didn't have cars, they couldn't possible imagine them.
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Poor pople definitely don't live better than kings. They have to spend at least half their waking hrs working a shit job constantly getting disrespected.
Yeah get a good life and you will be content. I am. Still have things I want. Don't eat myself up about it though.
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>>18024233
Let's be honest. Happiness is just lack of boredom while depression is perpetual boredom. The only way to be truly happy is to always have something fun to do. Fortunately, the world is filled with billions of things to do, so go out there and get things done
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people think they get happiness from achieving things. the truth is you get it from setting a goal and working towards it. When you achieve your goal, you're happy for a little bit, and then you start to look for something else.
We're built to strive for things. not to sit around and wallow in undeserved pleasure.
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Kind of a long story, but ill sum it up the best I can. I had a girlfriend for the past 4-5 years. It was a long distance relationship and we talked everyday for hours. I thought I knew a lot about her but maybe not.
About two months ago right before Christmas, she started to distance herself from me and never message me unless I did first. I brought up how I felt like I was being pushed away and then just like that, Poof.
I haven't heard a word from her since. Life has been a lot more lonely and I've been pretty down in the dumps. I stalked her a little to know she wasn't dead, but i'm blocked on almost everything.
The reason i'm here now is because recently I have come to find I was probably cat fished. I just kinda want to hear the truth but i'll never get it.
What should I do? I thought she was the perfect girl and no matter how much I compare others, it's just not the same.
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>>18024141
Wait a minute, did you never even meet up once in 5 years?
Wtf mate.
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>>18024168
Nope.
If what she said was true about where she lived. She would currently be in SE Scotland across the ocean from me.
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>>18024196
Pathetic, she wasn't your gf.
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Tips for good conversation?
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How do I keep someone's attention without leaving large awkward pauses while I'm thinking for what to say next. I'm a terrible communicator and I think i'm too blunt because most of my replies are too short and I have trouble feigning interest whenever someone tells me a story. Naturally because of my shit verbal skills I don't really have any real friends outside of school, which I'm fine with, but there's this cute girl who I want to ask out but I have no idea how to approach her without seeming desperate.
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>>18024126
Just ask a million questions and throw in some made up anecdotes, stories of stuff your drunk friend did, while you were on holiday in europe.
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>>18024151
It'd get caught immediately if I started making shit up shit on the spot, I don't know the first thing about Europe.
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>>18024174
That was more or less a joke. Ask questions until you get to a topic where you actually have a short story to tell about. It helps, if you actually are an interesting person that does a lot of stuff and knows a lot.
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I think I could get with women but I'm really insecure about my uncut cock. I keep it very clean but I'm afraid when I take my pants off, the girl I'm with will either laugh or be grossed out. I'm not insecure about my size, I'm 6" and that seems fine to me but I'm 20 years old and still haven't had sex due to this fear. I live in the USA btw.
Am I worried over nothing?
Do girls care about uncut cocks?
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Where I'm from circumcision is rare
Personally I prefer uncut as it looks nicer, think it feels nicer to play with
i dont think girls really care though, if they rejected based off of that you dont wanna be fuckin them anyway
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>>18024108
Is this a real thing in the US? I just asked my gf if she would prefer cut and she said fuck no that's a fucking stupid question.
Nobody cares. Are you in a super religious state or something?
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Girls in the US don't care. If they do, pull your pants up and leave. You don't deserve that and it would teach them a lesson.