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I'm a 19 year old who cannot be active in anyway in society. I can't leave the house without having a anxiety attack so i decided to try and get SSI I've had to try twice now and if i don't get it i need some help with getting it.
Also if you know of a way that i could know before hand the amount i would make a month that would be appreciated.
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If i need to give more info i can
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>>18026014
have you been diagnosed with anxiety from a psychiatrist if not in you're from the US you're gonna keep getting denied you'll have to be on meds but idk if you'd be fine with that
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>>18026078
I have severaly diagnoses for "mental illness"
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>be lonely beta fag shut-in whose never had a gf
>See QT3.14 in American Literature class
>Cute face, pale skin, short dark blonde hair, green eyes
>Carries a sack with books
>Doesn't talk much and seems kind of introverted
>I think about approaching her but keep postponing it because of severe case of social anxiety, and lack of social skills, and being just an all-around boring person
>Manage to read her full name off her notebook when she isn't looking
>Eventually work up the nerve to Google her
>Find her twitter and tumblr
>It's full of anti-Trump memes, a Bernie retweet, pro-LGBTQ stuff, Homestuck, and Adventure time shit ,also a bit of Spirited Away stuff, but it's mostly reblogs of generic tumblr "humor".
I still want her, but now I'm scared she'll find me boring, or have a boyfriend. I don't know how to approach her, how to ask her out, or even handle her rejection. The worst part is I always see her on the way to class.
HELP PLEASE I DONT WANT TO DIE ALONE
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Do you have anything in common with her, or just like her because she's cute?
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baka desu senpai
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>>18026011
you're in high school, right? if so, hold the fuck up. really take a step back and consider that she's going to go off to college somewhere and you're going to go through heartbreak. don't try and date this one anon. Try to be her friend at best until you know what she's doing with her life. But my advice would be to go straight text with this one. Find an in via social media. plan a hang out some other time outside of school, and just go from there. Anon, if there's one, there's others. You're young. Don't be an autist and so depressed about this type of stuff, if you're in school, you have your whole life full of these girls you're going to come across. Wait and see what else is out there. High school relationships, or eve college relationships are often guaranteed to fail. Really play this one with one foot already out the door, don't do anything dire. I wish you luck.
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Would it be unhealthy for me to get a body pillow and custom pillow cases (ex: pic related)?
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>>18025985
Why stop there, if you really care about your pokewaifu get a life size fuckable plush of her made for you to cuddle with.
Try this guy
bigsexyplush.com
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>>18025985
depends on the kidn of person you are. it doesn't sound like its healthy tho
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How would it be unhealthy? If you would like to have one, get one. Do whatever you want, anon, if you're worried about looking autistic or something then don't. Life is too short to be worried about what other people think.
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Did I do the right thing?
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Sorry a bit long, but please hear me out. For a long time I knew a female friends facebook password and read a lot of her messages. I read all her conversations, I read through her relationships and break ups, I read through all her bouts with mental illness, I read really personal things (a lot of those personal things she already told me). I read a lot of sensitive information, I even saw some of her nudes. Anyways this spanned from middle school through 12th grade. During high school we barely talked, and I really didn't consider her that good of a friend, more of a somebody that I used to know type thing, we were pretty close during middle school though. After high school I moved away and we started talking more and more through social media, kinda out of no where. We got really close via text, always planning to hang out sometime, but we talked near daily. One day I had a sudden overwhelming sense of guilt over what I did. I conspired for days trying to decide whether or not to tell her. I came to the conclusion that I would tell her, for various reasons. Nonetheless it was a very hard decision, it's still something I ponder about over a year later. Here's how I broke it down: I had gotten away with it, she never suspected a thing. The only reason I stopped in 12th grade was because she changed her password. I think the fact that I didn't stop on my own is a big factor for my guilt. I tried to put myself in her shoes, and asked myself, would I want her (or anyone) to tell me if they did that to me? Also, she's a born again christian, and I'm pretty agnostic, and during this deciding process I was going through some other life troubles and having a lot of existential thoughts. I thought "if there's a god, or if karma is real, or if the universe is trying to give me signs, or whatever, maybe this guilt is it trying to make me do the right thing and confess what I had done". Now this is what I did. BUT, the alternative speaks to me as well.
cont.
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I thought; if i don't tell her, and just continue to be her friend and do right by her from now on, no one gets hurt. She still keeps a friend she values, I don't add to her life's series of unfortunate events which consists of mental illness and such, along with adding to her mistrust of men. The only downside is I keep my guilt, which can be seen as good as I'm the only one hurting by my mistake; but the only thing is, that's selfish. But what I did can be seen as selfish too, by telling her, I'm only ridding myself of guilt, while giving her a dilemma. I guess the real trade off is: I loose a friend, while she gains the truth; this is where I think what I did was the right thing. But idk. There's so many factors to consider, I'm not even sure if there was a right thing to do, but that's another question "what is right"? When I told her she stopped talking to me. She told me she felt hurt. I tried talking to her some more, but received nothing but silence. To which I said "can you at least tell me if you hate me?" She said "no, I'm just not ready to talk to you". I sent her some flowers when she came back home from a 6 month trip. I think she got them, idk. Either way, I told her I would have never told her if I didn't respect her, and that I hope we could still be friends someday. But that's another thing: I guess more than anything I thought she deserved to know because I didn't want her to be my friend is she didn't want to after what I did.
idk give me your thoughts. i apologize for the wall of text lol. thanks for reading.
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I'd be pretty spooked and uncomfortable if someone I knew and was close with was stalking my profile. If they were the opposite gender and saw my nudes, I wouldn't help but think what they were doing with them, using them for personal satisfaction or have them saved for blackmail if the friendship went south. I wouldn't want to talk to you either honestly, and I would have blocked you. But her saying she isn't ready to talk to you means you have some hope of talking again but I wouldn't hope for the friendship to be repaired immediately after. I would give her some space, tell her you really regret it (you seem to actually regret it) and that you're sorry and you'll be there when she's ready. Leave her alone as pestering her won't help, and hope for the best
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>>18025963
oh yeah, i'm aware how I look. But i did mention that all to her, and yeah all I can do is hope. she kept me on all social media accounts and still views my snap story every day, so there's that. but yeah i stopped messaging her. It should be up to her whether we remain friends or not, and that's all that's really important is that she get's what she deserves wants. thanks for replying anon.
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Is it considered a panic attack if you cry uncontrollably for 5 minutes (strong depressive and sudoku thoughts) and then you feel in shock and extremely tired the next day, then you still feel gone the following days, or is it regular depression?
I have lifelong depression problems but these attacks are new and destroy me for the following days.
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>>18025933
nah panic attacks are more anxiety related, crying isn't here nor there, its really more about how crazy your heart beats and shit.
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>>18025933
how often does this happen if it's a rare event then it's just a way of possibly relieving stress that is long overdue
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>>18025938
Once every 2 weeks on average.
Also it destroys me mentally and physically, the sudden realization that you will eventually kill yourself, that you are in the "sooner than later" phase, I end up in a literal state of shock, I am not even exagerating.
My problem is I am a stubborn and proud prick that hates psychiatrists. I would go to a shrink if it was cheap or free tho.
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How do I stop ruminating about the past?
It's been two years since she dumped me. It was only a brief thing but afterwards I tried to be friends as we had mutual friends. This was a mistake and I started seeing subtle remarks dropped about me or stuff to goad me in social media groups. It got to the stage were I said this was just making me more unhappy so I cut her and the mutual friends out of my life.
The stuff I think about now isn't about I want her back or anything like that. It's the shit she did and said. It just makes me feel angry and powerless. I feel like I was punished for dumping her but she dumped me.
I've done stuff like improving myself and making new friends. Generally I am happy but my mind does wander back to those months after being dumped and how shit I felt. I don't know if this is normal but I know I don't want anymore of my time wasted thinking about her especially since I can't change the past.
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>>18025930
Pick up your pieces and find someone new
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Sounds like you can't get over it even if you try, right? Maybe what you need is closure. Talk to her about it and ask why she acted like that, maybe you'll get an apology or maybe you'll figure out what made her act shitty.
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>>18025966
I tried before I cut her out of my life. Basically asked why she was being like this as she had tried to exclude me from events with mutual friends. She gaslight me, said she didn't want to talk about it anymore and that she couldn't be considerate of the feelings of anyone but the people closest to her.
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Been seeing girl from OKC for about a month now and we have been up front about any issue that gets brought up, but she tends to piss me off a lot. The thing that really has just rubbed me the wrong way is that, while I found it odd, she said she didn't wanna fuck before marriage. But she was still down for some other shit, so I went for it still. However she took awhile to suck my dick even though I was already going down on her, and that pissed me off and I told her. Then she eventually decided to suck my dick but literally afterwords she tells me she loves me and it was like only 3 weeks in. But whatever we've been up front okay. But we still never p in the v'd, and eventually the conversation about past experiences comes up. I find out eventually that she already P in the v'd with two of her previous boyfriends, so I was really pissed off. I find it as dishonesty to one self to decide you won't fuck before marriage if you previously fucked before marriage. I didn't necessarily believe that she never fucked before but I wasn't going to judge until I had solid evidence. But yeah pretty much if it wasn't a big deal to her and she was willing to fuck i wouldn't care if she fucked 40 dudes before, but not willing to fuck me until a legally binding contract in place when she's already fucked two dudes to me is just bullshit. It's an attempt to hold control over a sex life that is supposed to be a team effort. I like hanging out with her but she just pisses me off over stupid shit like this. Wat do?
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>>18025919
Stop being a beta provider for this whore and leave her for someone that wants to fuck you.
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>>18025919
never ever marry this woman
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>>18025919
Break up. You're both gonna make each other miserable if you drag this thing out.
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Is it cheating on my girlfriend if I masturbate to porn?
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no. but a lot of girls feel insecure about it so make sure to check to which category she belongs before letting her know what you watch
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Not really. I used to watch porn together with an exgf, and when we watched group porn we always asked who was our favourite actor or actress, it's just a movie after all. Or we would watch amateur porn to get ideas.
Some girls will say it is cheating but that just shows they are very insecure. A friend of mine was like that and it's obvious it was because of body image issues.
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No it's not cheating.
I watch porn, my girlfriend watches porn. It's just normal, people get horny, just, and this is the important bit, never watch porn INSTEAD of having sex, never blow her off to watch porn. It should never come between it.
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Hi /adv/. I found out that my roommate has been screwing me on the rent.
I got sick of living in my parent's house, so I was looking for an apartment last semester. We were in the same calc class, and he said he was looking for a roommate. He showed me the room, it was pretty nice. I asked him what I needed to do to make things official, and whether there was anything that I needed to sign, and he told me no, all I needed to do was move my stuff in and make sure that I paid my half of the rent (rent was $800, so I needed to pay $400).
That didn't seem right to me, because I was pretty sure that most apartments came with something or other that you had to sign, or were owned by someone you had to talk to, so I went with it. In retrospect, that really should have been my first warning. One day, I was pulling out of the parking lot and a dude stopped me, who turned out to be the landlord. After some discussion, he let me know that we both needed to sign an addendum to the lease, and it came out that the total rent was actually $560 dollars. I was furious, and a little shocked. My landlord told me that there was a possibility that my roommate had thought the rent would go back up to $800 if another person moved in, and that he would text me.
Well I got a text from my landlord confirming that only $560 had been paid for the previous month. When I asked my roommate how much I owed for rent, and he said $400. I haven't confronted him that I know he's bullshitting me yet.
How should I approach this? Just confront him when he gets home from work? I've never really had to deal with a situation where I'm actively getting fucked over.
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>>18025879
Are you paying any bills, or just the flat 400?
Doesn't sound like you're getting screwed fro here, even if he is self-taxing your rent rate a bit.
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>>18025879
There is no way this could end well.
You will have to outright say that you met the landlord by chance and you know what he has been doing.
He'll likely try to play dumb or immediately get defensive because you caught him in a lie.
This will likely be the end of your friendship.
If i were you, I'd look for another place to live first.
What a shitty friend
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>>18025879
the real question is where tf do you live where rent is that cheap? but another thing is does he provide you with utility, wifi, did he give you a bed or did you provide your own, is the electric gas and water bills included in the rent so many factors to tell if you're getting fucked or not
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Has anyone ever lost a best friend over a girl?
>be 21 and have a best friend i hangout with 24/7 for around (3 years)
>start failing studies and slowly turn into a NEET
>begin liking a girl that is friends with my friends
>best friend keeps questioning why im talking to her since she's a slut/cheater
>end up dating the chick and she does exactly that to me but by this point i lost my best friend due to not talking to him.
>3 years later i don't have a new best friend and realise how valuable friendships are.
>biggest regret in my life is losing that friendship.
>feelsbad.jpg
Now i got a job, finishing my studies, physically fit, confident and improved myself drastically. But when ever i've drunked alchohol i remember the times i spent with my old best friend and it saddens me, so i dont drink anymore.
Anyone else know this feel? Thinking back of it now i have no idea how i let myself do such stupid things in the past.
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Also i feel like if i had the friendship when i am who i am now, it would've lasted but back then i was a stupid NEET who lacked character. In the past when a female was involved logic was thrown out the door for me.
Which is no longer the issue now, after learning from many mistakes.
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>>18025825
sounds like you didn't lose him over a girl, it sounds like you lost him over yourself. big difference.
i had a friend who was starting to slip away while dating. we made plans for 4th of july, he cancelled last minute because her mom wanted them to go to a party. she and I have a birthday on the same weekend. i asked her if i could take saturday since her birthday was friday, but mentioned i was happy taking friday if she had plans for saturday. she agreed i should take saturday.
then HE insisted that i should just have my birthday in the middle of the week because he didn't have a plan yet and wanted the entire weekend just to be safe (even though he was /not/ planning to do a whole weekend long birthday thing or a trip or anything, he just wanted both days open for whatever idea he found).
I talked to him about it and it helped, but i thikn the real kicker was him seeing our third friend drift away. he moved in with a girl and we rarely see him and he cancels at the last minute all the time to spend time with gf. he didnt want to become /that/ and things have been ebtter ever since.
sometimes talking things out helps. so if you're potentially losing a friend, it doesn't hurt to speak out. worst case scenario: you lose them anyways. just make sure you approach it sympathetically instead of attacking.
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>>18025844
Yeah you're right, if i could go back in time i would have talked to my friend and listen to him and dump the girl i was with or just never talk to her in the first place.
But i was a NEET who really gave up on life at the time and took everything for granted. But once i lost everything and hit rock bottom it was like swallowing a red pill and realizing how much i took for granted.
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TL;DR: Should I talk with this girl 1-on-1 through social app (found her by chance), or should I talk to her in person despite her friends looking at me like they hate me
I study Korean, I'm intermediate level. In my country/city there are barely anybody who speaks/studies Korean. In my university there is always a few exchange Korean students, and when I meet ones I try to talk with them, usually they are pleasantly surprised and sometimes we plan something together.
This year I met 3 Koreans girls, by chance in front of my university by chance when going out. I said hi, asked from which University they come and for how long they've been there. One was nice talking with me and even asked me how I learnt Korean etc, but the other 2 seemed uncomfortable as fuck and didn't even look straight at me. Not in a shy way but in a "fuck off and get out" way.
I keep meeting them every once in a while. And the same thing happens, that one is always nice with me, ask me something and the others barely say anything and look badly at me. I kinda fancy physically the one that is nice with me, and would like to get to know her better.
I use an app to meet people for language exchange etc, and sorting through "nearest" I found two of them, including the nice one. I was thinking of texting her through there, as in person when we meet we're always busy going to different places and I feel too fucking uncomfortable with her friends. But I don't know if it'll be awkward, if I'll come up as creepy or something.
Tips? Do I text her through the app or do I try to somehow have a less awkward encounter in person? I would like to invite her out, so I guess that would be easier in a 1-on-1 texting instead of in person, I don't fucking know.
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>>18025819
Dude you ask her in person, guys sometimes "coincidentally" bump into a girl they like when she's alone.
Meaning, try and track her down when she's alone then pretend to "accidentally" bump into her then try ask for her on a date or to hangout (while getting her number). Do this only. Otherwise u lose.
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>>18025846
It seems like she lives together and share the same classes with one of her friends, everytime I've met them together. And it's been pretty far in between, I haven't seen a pattern of when can I meet her by chance and so on.
Fuck, I really should have asked her number today, but I feel so awkward with the friend, and if I invite her out in front of the friend I feel she will want to tag her along/will reject me for sure.
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Technically, the best thing to do is to befriend her friends too (Saying hi to them; being diplomatic etc). Then they see that you're not a creep, and then 'let' their girlfriend (your girl) go with you.
But this is theory I learned from a non-sleazy pua course. I haven't tried it myself. Makes a lot of sense though.
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One of my teeth is chipped. When I run my tongue over it it scratches a bit, but not as bad as pic related just kind of like a flake from the front broke off. Is there a way to fix/prevent more of this from happening?
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>>18025817
Have you heard of dentists? They usually fix anything teeth related.
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>>18025824
It's not noticeable, just annoying
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Over time it'll wear down and won't be so scratchy. Also if you have acid reflux make sure you keep it under control or the acid will destroy your enamel making your teeth more prone to future chipping.
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I accidentally walked in on my mom pegging my stepmom with a strap-on. Not only did I get a boner, it was one of those adamantium boners that don't go down easily plus I couldn't get the image out of my head, so I ended up rubbing one out. I've never felt more filthy and ashamed than how I felt afterwards.
Is it possible to get over this and look at them the same way again? The event keeps popping up in my mind since last night and it almost makes my skin crawl that there's a part of me that is aroused by it. I don't know if they plan on bringing it up or how I'd even react when I'm not sure I can look them in the eyes right now.
Pic semi-related, I guess.
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>>18025745
Thats bullshit but I believe it
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>>18025745
just throw it under the bridge, it's not the end of the fucking wolrd.
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i am pretty sure this is bait, but if not, that's rather traumatic
guess you will just get over it with time. maybe ask to be included next time
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I play in a fairly well known band. We've got a good thing going in the US and can support big tours across the country, but recently the other two guys in the band have expressed a serious interest in touring Europe in some capacity. I think the idea of that on paper looks great, and Europe would be an amazing place to go, but seeing all the terrorism going on has placed Europe as one of the last places I want to go right now. What do I do? I don't want to disappoint them but I'm honestly afraid of dying.
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Dude I talked to a lot of people from Europe at Maryland Deathfest last year, and I asked them if they felt safer in Europe or America. And it was unanimously Europe. Your more likely to get shot dead or stabbed in America than bombed in Europe. I wouldn't worry man.
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>>18025735
That is pretty unlikely, OP.
Anyway, how well known is your fairly well known band?
Queen tier?
Neutral Milk Hotel tier?
Andrew Jackson Jihad tier?
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>>18025748
Probably two more tiers down from AJJ - well known enough to make a living and have a good time, not well known enough to be on TV
>>18025747
Alright fair enough. Most of what has happened has been isolated to a couple major urban areas, which should be comforting I suppose
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has anyone here been molested at a very young age? what impact did that have on you? can you remember how you experienced it?
i hope this isn't rude, but i'm writing a book and one of the characters has been abused as a child and i need to know what genuine reactions would be to such an incident.
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>>18025721
My dad touched my peep when i was 12. Just a quick grab over the pants when he was drunk. I repressed it for a long time, and i don't think it really affected me at all other than making me feel disgusted when I think about it. I quit talking to my dad a few years before I recalled the incident.
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>>18025743
what went trough your mind when he did this?
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>>18025721
My babsitter used to make me suck on her boobs when I was probably no older than 7. I honestly have no idea whether it affected me and I did not have any memory of it until I was about 20 and talked to someone else about how they were sexually abused as a kid.
For the record I am male, and I have no memory at all of whether she was doing it to get off or as part of like 'maternal instinct'. She did it multiple times, I would say at least 10, because I remember it being a thing that I came to expect.