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>>18150685
Anyone?

>>18150685
if drinking is a big deal to you you probably shouldn't be with her, for her sake if not for yours. if it's not really a big thing (ie like you do not drink as an event, you just have a drink with dinner or on a special occasion). if you like to get hammered it's not going to work, or she will end up drinking

>>18151290
Nah, I'm 30. Well past the age of drinking being a whole thing. I may have a nightcap a few nights or week or have a drink when out with friends, but that's it.

Still, I have an ex who was an alcoholic who refused to acknowledge her drinking was a problem which ultimately was the downfall of the relationship. Someone who identifies as an alcoholic and actually actively avoids drinking is new territory for me.

Why do I try so hard to love someone and fail so much?

Got so close recently and it came crashing down like a ball of flame once I realized she was just average.

I just want to be free

>>18150672
>once I realized she was just average
It's you, man

Try to get sex off her.

>>18150755
Does it even seem like she's interested? Why would she send me a video of her and her bf?

>>18151024
Who cares. She doesn't respect relationships, so don't get involved with her, but wear a condom and get in the guts, what's the problem?

>>18150633
depends on whether it is getting in the way of things.

>>18150633
Name 1 (one, uno) person that is introvert and successful.

That's what I thought.

>>18150658
Mark Zuckerberg, or Bill Gates.

>>18150618
Stop giving her attention (subtly, don't go all autistic and ignore her, just be busy when she wants to hang out and take a long time to respond to her texts). If she increases attempts to make contact you still have a chance.

>>18150630
We're both in school, we never texted desu or hung out alone.

I did stop giving her attention completely and that was when she started to make the most eye contact and like small comments(e.g enjoy your meal, hello, whatever etc)

>>18150618
OP the same shit happend to me.
>2 years ago, meet this qt3.14
>back in high school we lived really close together, so hung out a lot
>after a year confess my feelings and i get rejected
>"haha ok"
>get home, start lifting and running to build confidence
>start slightly distancing myself from qt3.14,
>starts messaging ME to hang out
>tell her I cant as Im lifting/studying/working
>one day agree to hang out again, pick her up in my recently bought car
>by the end of the night shes being a cocktease and messing with me
>go full "no way fag" and keep it together
>on the ride home confesses she got feelings for me

Don't give up OP just work on improving yourself and girls will notice quickly

Navy here. Do you really want to spend months out at sea in blazing hot Persian gulf? Don't be one of those people who join and then say they don't want to go on a ship. If you are gonna choose a job, choose one that will allow you to bring something into the civy world. Something like HM (Corpsman) is good.

Most importantly you want to get the best ASVAB score you can, so you have more chances of them working with you to get the job you want. However they will do everything in their power to entice you to go nuke. DO NOT. They pay isn't worth it. Unless you have a indomitable spirit and can stand being absolutely miserable for years and years.

I was a QM in the Navy, absolutely loved it but if I could do it over again I'd join the coast guard instead. Their mission is much more focused on actually helping Americans and they get a much broader base of training. A navy sailor will learn absolutely everything there is to know about one gear in a machine, while a CG sailor wont know as much about that gear but will know how the machine works, if that makes sense.

>>18150639
Oh and seconding this advice not to go nuke, they'll promise you all sorts of shit just say no. Other jobs to avoid are BM ab and AO, they're real scut work. Don't go in to be a seal either.

>>18150583
You might actually be a sociopath. Give katawa shoujo a run if you don't feel anything after one run through you might actually be damaged.

>>18150583
could be depressed
could be schizoid, if you have no interest in people in general and don't care about it
could be antisocial, if you like torturing things
could be an autist, if you can't understand other people at all
could just be an internet whiner. it's not clear.

>>18150679
I tried playing Katawa Shoujo but I felt bad trying to date the blind girl since it would break up a friendship. Also I thought it was too gay considering I'm a woman.

>>18150769
Depression is when you have an emotional Rollercoaster. I have the opposite of that.
I was screened for personality disorders and I only got "high scores" in schizotypal. Which rules out psychopathy too.
Autists have feelings too. I'm friends with several and think some of them are way too sensitive and emotional.

>>18150563
Quit social media

It's a waste of time and life

Ask a lawyer.

>but that costs money!

Have fun with your problems then. We ain't fucking lawyers and we are not going to file papers or write letters to the right people on your behalf. You probably need the dude arrested, and if you can't figure that out on your own then why bother asking here? OPs here never listen to the advice they are given anyway.

> (Since I don't how to punch safely, and I have sent a guy to the hospital for punching him on the skull)

Punching safety tip: do not strike people on the sides or back of the head, unless you have a friend who specializes in disposing of corpses.

>>18150557
>>meet this woman on tinder. Pic related

OP here. OF COURSE NOT THAT SPECIFIC WOMAN
She is just that much good looking.

Stop dating for a few years, stay away from women all together. You are asking for too much and nobody is perfect. Stop jugding people and judge yourself first that you can see clearly to be able to judge them with fair justice. In other words, instead of kicking them out, you try to actually work at it with the aim of building the persons trust for you. Trust is earned. not so freely given.

>>18150600
Or you can just work on building trust and not considering people expendable.

>>18150550
It makes you want to be better than other people and makes you hold yourself to a higher standard in my experience.

>>18150550
>Does 4chan make you mentally tougher?

You fucking bet. Not in any edgy way either. I have legitimately learned to accept and appreciate my flaws because of years' worth of 4chan influence. It destroyed the majority of my insecurities.

>>18150550
I think it's the most truthful place on the internet despite the bait posts.
If you say something retarded, do something retarded, or act retarded. people are going to give you all the shit they can, and this helps you be a better person and take criticism.
It creates an environment where your mistakes are solely your fault and you are able to become a better person because of it.
so yes.

>>18150543
Maybe you come off as a fuckboy idk

>>18150543
Just me, but I stopped "going in for the kiss" after high school.

If it in any way feels like a gamble, I don't bother. You should know. You do the whole "brief moment of silence, look her right in her eyes and hold her gaze for a second or two, glance down to her lips and then slowly back up to her eyes," and if she's still looking into your eyes in eager silence, THEN you know she wants you to kiss her.

100% success rate for me at least.

>>18150589
An addendum to this:

And of course, you should be standing close enough to her to lean in for a kiss, which is a level of proximity she's absolutely going to be resisting if she's not wanting to kiss you. No one's going to comfortably stand that close to you unless they're into you.

It's all body language. There are all kinds of signals prior to actually attempting to kiss someone that tell you whether or not its a good idea.

>is X legal

we have no fucking clue where you are, just fucking google it

laws vary

>>18150509
>>18150509
yeah i see your point

I'm sure you can get public domain murmur audio with little effort.

Who knows.

Go find someone to make her jealous.

>>18150467
What? Why would I do that?

it means exactly what she said. she can't talk for a few days because she needs to think about things.

those things being her life and how your relationship factors in, otherwise she would have just explained herself.

Also I have been having recurrent dreams about her, from the times we weren't gross pieces of shit. It makes the insomnia worse, I'm afraid ot go to bed every night.

>>18150443
>>18150457

woof that was interesting. id say give your self a pass. inside every man is a monster, we are animals and we are violent, and men in particular are programmed to be controlling, because in the wild having a woman who doesn't do what you say can lead to you and your entire families deaths.

the important thing here is that you were drugged, and you still managed to stop yourself and reign the monster in. you are stronger than your demons, you've already proven this, even with the deck stacked against you.

you also now know not to invest in people when things go to shit, or to at least be proactive about it, and if they cant reciprocate then you back out,

if I were you I'd just reach out and apologize. she might reject it, ignore it, or get angry, but you dont apologize to gain a specific reaction, otherwise you arent REALLY apologizing. you apologize because its the right thing to do, regardless of outcome

>>18150465

Thank you for your reply, it really helps to let it out my chest.

However
>reach out and apologize
Sadly not an option anymore. I will ahve to see her next semester when I come back to my home country in order to finish my grade. Even trying to speak with her would end in either a public act or me getting deppressive again.

I thought about giving myself to the police, but I really don't want to do it since it'll probably ruin my life.

I also have considered suicide, but then again, I only have onle life and I'm only 22.

>>18150418

yes, they just tend not to be college educated.

>>18150418
Women tend not to have real opinions and they will usually just come to accept yours in the end

People who think politics is of any importance whatsoever are the reason the world is terrible.