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>>18378200
most likely the lens is different and distorts your face. phone cameras have to have really wide field of view due to being so small. it makes things look further away than they actually are. it makes your nose look big and your head look more round.

don't worry though, the mirror is how other people actually see you.

if you look really bad in selfies try using a camera instead of a phone. if you still can't get it right ask a friend who is a photographer.

source: I am a portrait photographer

>>18378225
Is this really true?

It's hard to admit but my confidence kind of takes a dive when I'm on pictures because it's so different from the mirror.

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>>18378239
yeah its true, not just gonna make that shit up for no reason. people ask this all the time

here's a picture to help you see what I mean

>>18378174
>"i nut and stuff"
How can you nut if you never hit puberty?

>>18378199
Don't feed the underage b&

Where's that guy who always says "YOU MUST BE 18 TO POST ON THIS WEBSITE!" when you need him?

Yea man you have nothing to worry about. You got to see her boobs, sweet. She wants to hang out, sweet. Have fun.

>>18378146

its not that the girls on tinder are bad but that there is no real connection. you both know the other is looking to date so there is no thrill. half the people have an outline for the proposed relationship on their account. it allows for no chemistry.

when you meet someone irl they seem attractive and you're curious. things are more cohesive in conversation and everything you learn is interesting.

>>18378153

Fuck you hit the nail right on the head, m8.

On Tinder I get decent matches but IRL I can pull 10s because I've practiced interacting with girls to the point where I can go up to them at a concert and form a connection almost instantly. I've stolen girls from richer, taller men just by using my words and energy.

On Tinder I'm definitely at a disadvantage because I have few good pictures of myself and don't want to spend so much time swiping through people. I think I'm just gonna stop using it but keep it installed and go back to focusing on real life. After a month goes by I'll probably delete Tinder.

Fuck Tinder, man...

>>18378183
>I've worked out so much on my legs that I'm running faster and jumping higher than most athletes, but it's awful that i can't do it even better with a clutch
Boo fucking hoo

Drink

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>>18378106
Kill yourself normie

>>18378106
Maybe stop casual sex. It obviously isnt for you when your dick is sliding in and out of pussy and you think about nonsence.

Try find wife material girl and actually date her to develop feelings.

Shameless bump

>>18378059

this is actually a good fine for me with an i7 PC... id have to upgrade the ram but not a bad price at all.

This is important, you lazy bags of dicks.

>>18377996
bump, anyone there?

All of that is fucking wrong.

>>18378077
how so? https://openparliament.ca/bills/42-1/C-16/
Canada passed a bill in Oct 2016 that says its a CRIME to call someone by the wrong pronoun. What the fuck! What if its an accident and I didnt know?

>>18377995
Age is actually not the issue, so dont get all fucky about it. Also its about sexual maturity. As for your approach, it really depends, if you've literally been with her as a friend, unless you're willing to be rejected and walk away. Then you should just ask her on a DATE.

Go like this: Hey, since you're single do you wanna go out on a date? Just for fun.

(Tell her if she wants to have FUN and get shit out of her mind. Do not make the conversation longer, just wanna date yes or no. Explain the situation WHEN you're at the date)

*at date, after going bowling, archery, gun shooting, skating, or doing some shit thats ACTIVE and PHYSICAL and FUN! Maybe even rock climbing.

Hey I've actually really really liked you for a while now. BUt I didnt say anything out of respect, but now that you're single I actually do want to give this a try, if not then thats fine too! We can still have fun!

^ Get rejected because of her current emotional situation a few days later.

Then say you're bummed out, but wanna catch some coffee some time later? Aite cya have fun! (Sound like you're unfazed, BE an emotional tank until you're in a relationship for at least 6 months).

When you're out having fun, and shes miserable getting over her ex bf she'll be thinking about that one date she had with you, and how it was so much fun. Women's feelings are like ovens, they bake and turn good over time.

Girl: Hey anon, is the offer still up?
Anon: haha I was actually beginning to get a little impatient before moving on (even if its not true, imply you have options, that makes you a lot more attractive because women always want the alpha male).
Girl: starts to grab your hand.

*Read a book called 3% man by Corey Wayne and never be a fucking cuck waiting in the back seat ever again.

>>18378033
Damn was not expecting that answer, thanks for the answer Anon

>>18378043
Yea no problem! Most importantly dude, I dont know a thing about this girl. For all we both know she could be the reason why her relationship went sour. Etc. Dont pry into her life details its not necessary. Just follow your gut instinct.

If things go sour, and she really does reject you with no chance. Walk away. If you were to gather every woman in your life that you could be happy with for the rest of your life. There would be a room full of women.

Maybe you werent in hers, and vice versa. Try to think about the character of woman you want. Rather than falling for crushes from people you meet. Cause that way you set your emotions up for success through happiness rather than failure through dissapointment. Now go do yourself some fucking justice!

Tell him that you know you're unhealthily jealous and possessive. Tell him how you feel with the intention of getting past that, and apologize for losing your cool. Is his hobby at all an interest to you? Maybe you and this girl could become friends once you apologize to her, tell her you're dealing with being insecure because you're used to guys treating girls like shit so when your boyfriend was nice to her it put you in an unhealthy mindset but would like to work past that?

>>18377932>>18377971


Why are you are both larping and samefaging at the same time

>>18377971
That is some good advice, thanks. I am interested in his hobby but I'm not sure if it would be a good idea for me to join or to meet this girl again. I went way over the top with how crazy I was towards her. It doesn't sound like a horrible idea but I am worried about being humiliated if it goes badly. I'm going to work on getting past the unhealthy jealousy for sure that's something really important to me.

>>18377856
(2/2)
So while I know my job is shitty, I can't help but think that it's safe. I know of people who have left the job and eventually come back after a year or 10 because (in the case of this one guy) the factory that he worked at had massive layoffs from 900+ employees down to 45. Everything's going to robots, but plenty of people still need to buy food and shit.

GETTING TO THE POINT.
We recently got a letter in the mail from the landlord that after almost 30 years of owning rental properties they're going to be selling them all. The way it was worded made it sound like they were going to be sold as rental properties and whoever was going to buy them would continue the rent style. At least, apparently it's state law to honor the lease for a year. I guess that means that after that point, whoever the owner is can turn this fucker into a strip club for all they care in which case we simply get kicked out.
In any case, my gf (who has been looking at houses steadily for the past couple of months) sees this as the time to go all out and start actually looking and contacting places.

My problem is with getting a house, I'm afraid that means I'll be in this for the long haul. I've been growing increasingly more uncomfortable around her to no real fault of her own. Picture it like a George Costanza with the whole Susan thing where I guess the best way to describe it is that it's not BAD, but would feel bad just cutting ties/just in case scenario.

With an apartment, if things got sour and we broke up, as much as I don't want to hurt her, at least an apartment we can walk away from with little trouble. I don't know the first thing about houses and I'm afraid that it's impossible without losing a shitton of money.

I have 10k saved in my bank account, which I know isn't much, but it affords me the luxury of being able to not live "paycheck-to-paycheck". (shitfuck 2/3)

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>>18377887
(3/3)
And I know with a mortgage + taxes + insurance + utilities + internet, my monthly bill will be DOUBLE what I pay now. I don't make that much now and I know this would put me under. I can't be happy knowing that I can no longer spur-the-moment go out and get food spontaneously (especially when my gf works late).

I was riding fine trying not to rustle any feathers with this. Ride the wave as long as I can, George Costanza-style. But we went to look at this one house that's recently flipped, all new-conditioned house for $119K in an area where all the others are $120K+
Both parents, and my uncle who is a realtor and my gf and I all went to take a look at this house. Doesn't look bad at all, shouldn't have any problems for the foreseeable future, and all I'm thinking is how much I don't want to be locked into this relationship that I'm unsure of and questioning if it's wrong of me to break up with my gf of 6 years because I'd simply much rather be single.
Instead, I fucking mumble about putting in an offer. I figured $105k is extremely lowball and will likely be outbid so that will buy me some more time if anything. BUT, apparently to make a serious offer, you need to show the realtor/agent/broker a real check with real money for a deposit. So that's $1,000 right there I'd need to show my uncle. My gf is at work and right now I'm the one with the checkbook, so it rests on me to write a check and text a picture of it to my uncle.

I honestly feel like the walls are closing in around me. My safe space is crumbling all around me and I have to jump out of it now or fall with it.

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>>18377927
My next concern is my gf. If I break up with her, I know it'll break her heart. She's head-over-heels for me. Like legit, she's met the person of her dreams. When she looks at me, she'll do this smile that isn't just a passing one, but something that can only be sincere.
She's moved 400+ miles away from her family and friends to be with me, got a job at a grooming shop, went to an academy to work her way up in the pet salon to make more money.

Meanwhile, I've done nothing with my life. Worked at the same retail job for going on 14 years now where I have friends. I did move out of my parent's house to live in an apartment with her, but it's only like 4 miles away from my parents at most. Looking at it in writing, I feel like a piece of shit. But if you're in a comfort zone, why leave it to make yourself uncomfortable?
With all that's been going on though, I'm starting to realize that I simply can't work at this place for the rest of my life. But I don't want to be struggling. I'd like to cut back my hours so I can go to school and do something.

Other lingering thoughts are my car which is going on 17 years old now. It hasn't had any major problems yet at 100K miles but I can't help but think that any day now, transmissions going to go bad, wheels are going to fall off.

My bottom teeth are crooked and they're getting worse and worse, and as much as I've been putting off, I really want to get braces or something, and I know that shit's going to be expensive.

Fuck, life is hitting me all at once.

>>18377836
Your girlfriend is a male?

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>>18377836
>girlfriend's (male) sister (female)

I'm a guy in the middle of such a triangle. It's really fucking annoying. At some point, one of you is going to make a "it's me or them" ultimatum and I guarantee that he'll never talk to either of you.

Also, it's not that weird. I'm uncharismatic but it's stupid common for my "straight" friends to get super jealous of my girlfriends.

>>18377802
become a better human being

>>18377802

'getting over' something isn't some twelve step process. its literally one act, its self getting over it. asking how to get over osmething is like asking how to 'give up' on something. you literally just stop.

getting over something is not making peace with something. its not forgetting it so you feel fine. its just living with the facts as they currently stand, and all you can do is just live with them.

i feel your pain though, deeply. im long term single. i have flings and sex, but i dont see my self dating, the few times i do its with girls i know will be moving in a matter of months so i dont need to worry about feeling bad about breaking up.

but my friend started dating a girl and they just had their one year and its sad watching him slip away. at first it was awful

>we make plans for july 4th
>he decides to cancel two days before because his girlfriends mom invited him to a family gathering
>me: you're being a bad friend
>him: no, I'm being a good boyfriend

as if one wasn't causing the other. he also insisted that i move my birthday to an entirely different weekend because his gfs birthday was the same weekend. she and I had pre discussed everything for separate days but he insisted he wanted the whole weekend open because he hadnt figured out what he wanted to do with her yet and wanted all days open in case what he wants to do is on the day of my birthday. and no, he wasn't planning to take her on a multi day trip, which i could understand, as he was unemployed and broke, he literally just wanted me to change all of my plans to accomodate his inability to properly plan somethign for the gf.

maddening. after that we sat down and had a talk and i explained that I know over time I'm going to lose him to her, but if he could try to make an effort not to blatantly screw me over just to please her, that'd be nice.

cont.

You dumb shit, the receipt has a tracking number on it, even for first class.

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>>18377751

Not in Finland it doesn't.

Look at this. Does this prove anything? Please tell me this receipt will save my ass.

>>18377760

All you can do is submit it to Paypal. Even if it's an "honest mistake" and he simply hasn't gotten the phone yet, he's pulling a dick move. He should really know better at this point and I'm positive that he intends to scam you. Send out the paper trail now.

also right after I found out he met up with the girl, I ignored him for 3 days and he seemed quite sad, wrote shit like "please reply". I guess it played a part in this too.

First of all stop being a childish idiot ignoring people when they make you mad.

Second, pick up your phone, text him and explain to him that you like him you big fucking idiot. It's not as hard as you think. Like ripping a bandaid.

>>18377718

Fucking this. This is the best advice OP you stupid fucker. Just tell him what you told us.

>>18377608
*My question is if one is better than the other? If so, why?

Going out for birthday lunch for my mom but thanks in advance for any insightful replies.

bump?

Alright so paypal's reader will cost you 27 cents for every 10 dollars you sell if you swipe the card, if you enter it manually it's 35 cents + (0.15 * N) per every 10 dollars.

Square is 27.5 cents for every 10 dollars you sell if you swipe the card and entered manually it's the same as paypal's.

Paypal is marginally cheaper which if you ran a lot of money it would matter but at that point using a regular credit card system would be better.

What do you think is the cause of your difficulties?

>>18377562
I fucked up the class because I was completely unprepared for it. I should have dropped it when I had the chance. I also shouldn't have taken my major courses at my CC.

I just don't understand why 1 class has to fuck me over so badly and why they can't look at my overall GPA. Both the CC and 4 year uni I'm at are both in the same college system. That one class I fucked up is the only class I've ever taken there since I just transferred that semester. Not being able to get that job upsets me the most to be honest.

if your gpa is below 2.0 you fucked up more than one course boy