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>>18384452
Pop offers few models beyond Herb Alpert. But there are a host of major jazz trumpeters, from Armstrong on. Listen to some and see who you want to copy.

>>18384452
Get up and get a job loser. Then go to the beach and maybe buy a piece of ass for the night. Nobody gives a fuck about some loser flute. We are too mest up in our own shit . hole. I'm watching cop drama on TV but looking to switch it up to live PD

Learn some of the most used jazz scales, go out of your way to find others who also like jazz just improv your heart out with them.
-am jazz drummer this is how I got into it, now is job

>>18384433
Get life insurance first so your kid gets rich . Try getting killed by a cop so your family can sue too

>>18384433

Suicidal thoughts are a symptom of other issues. I know a thing or two about clinical psychology, as i was going to do it but dropped it in uni.

I cant help you but i know enough to say they aren't going to lock you in a hospital. They do that to teens who actually attempted suicides.

If you went to a family doctor (not even a psychologist) hed probably check your blood to see if its a thyroid issue or a missing mineral or vitamin, all possibilities.

If it is he fixes it. If not hell refer you to a psychologist.

The psychologist will also not lock you up or force you to see him. You go on your own will. They may subject you to some tests and scans to see if something in your brain isnt firing, but mostly theyll ask you a lot of questions and try to categorize you.

Humans are kind of repetitive and typical. They can isolate and diagnose a specific illness just by getting to know you. Then its either medication, or ideally if they determine its environmental, theyll help you manage your feelings and teach you thinking strategies and mental exercises you can do at home that will help rewire and fix it.


One thing is for sure, 7/10 suicides are men between the age of 30 and 50 (even with kids) and it is for the exact reason of *they dont go for help when they need it*.

I had a co worker and good friend shoot himself in the head when no one knew anything was even wrong. Do not become him.

This is a legitimate medical issue

>>18384443
There is one thing ill add while i hope you get this because i cant make this clear enough.

If youre suicidal and dont intend on committing suicide that is a huge flag for an underlying chemical medical issue. It could be a thyroid problem, or too much or too little of a specific hormone.

I swear if everyone must understand and accept one thing about psychology its this.

Suicidal thoughts are involuntary, and signals another problem. It doesnt mean you actually think you should die. It means something in your biochem is off!!

>>18384371
you on any medications?

>>18384371
Yeah that wasn't mdma. next time use a reagent testing kit

>>18384371
If you are on SSRIs or similar, they interfere with drugs like MDMA

basically they don't work
or you got ripped off, zombie doesn't sound like MDMA to me.
It should feel like the saturation has been turned up on life (like old tvs maximum colour saturation)

lol that shit doesn't matter.

Start thinking about the questions you'll be asked rather than the nipples popping out of your shirt.

We all have nipples and thats what they do.

>>18384331
Its my first ever interview and I won't lie, I am pretty damn nervous.

>>18384328
How the hell can they see tape under your shirt, is it transparent?

>>18384219
Maybe you guys just need some time apart from each other. I know when I'm constantly seeing the same friends over and over we get bored. Don't take it personally it's just how people are.

>>18384352
It's not that we're bored of each other. Everyone else in the group enjoys each others company it's just me that seems out of place among them and that some of them don't like.

>>18384382
Take some time off away from them. The more you exacerbate the issue the worse it's going to get. Trust me it'll work out if you do, don't you have other friends you can speak to or hobbies to hold your time so you don't have to constantly be with them?

Im going to tell you something that sounds counterproductive but trust me. Unless she's really not the love of your life she'll be ok.

Tell her what you're doing. Im not shitting you. Tell her. RIght now. Go do it. This lying and sneeking around is just to get your rocks off.

Discussing these issues shouldn't be taboo. We are all human and we all have urges. Jesus christ its been 5 years. Of course your mind wants to experience something new. Its our nature.

But being OPEN about that nature can be pretty freeing.

My girlfriend and I are pretty open about this. I've confided in her about a crush I had at work and it sucked the power out of it. Made me realize it was silly and I could move on after that. I was no long this magical momment only in my mind.

Get it out on the table or it's going to eat you up.

Will she understand? Hell if I know but you can't keep lying to the girl. She probably doesn't deserve that.

I get the same thing. Its from not enough intimacy, talking to a therapist could help but just try to inject more intimacy from you and your fiancee so you dont feel you need to go elsewhere for it. And stop talking to these girls inmediately, it is cheating.

>>18384133
I happen to agree with you anon on all points.

When people stray, even if it becomes physical, the most damaging part to the innocent party is the dishonesty and betrayal.

You could start of by greeting her. Then maybe drop a few comments/compliment her and later on try to start a conversation.

Whenever I go to the skatepark I greet the others, unless they're hood rats. We usually throw a few comments back and forth talking about techniques, complimenting each other, just makes the atmosphere so much nicer.

>>18384068
Cheers mate ill try that next week. Although the problem is that its ice skating and theres little-no sense of community aside from a group of fuckboys who hockey skate so its harder to talk to people

>>18384074
I get that, just seem passionate about what you do and it won't seem weird.
Give her the impression that you're just some friendly guy that really likes ice skating.

Good luck!

>>18383996
somewhat stalkerish, but you're not a the instant view subscribed post level yet.

I get why you check it out, its hard when you crush on a girl like that.
The best way for you to stop is to meet other women. There are other cool cute girls out there, and some of the are single too!

>>18384001
ok i've been drinking.....

just ask her out
try to be a better bf in the moment if it happens

>>18383996
I used to do it before.

But now I've stopped once I realized how pathetic I was.

>>18383942
Sounds like a clinical depression .. go see doc and get professional help/medication. Best of luck OP!

>>18383942
Uhh, she's you're EX! Move on already, Jesus...

>>18383954
This.
>>18384020
Not therapeutic. OP pls ignore this cunt.

Every parent wants their child to achieve more in life than them. If you're doing fuck all with your life and you feel bad about it, get up off your ass and do something with it.

>>18383834
Why don't you ask him? I asked my dad and he was very nice to me, and helped me fix the things I didn't like in my life.
Having an open communication with your parents might actually help you.

I am smarter than my father, I achieved more in academical and intellectual sense
But he probably knows I am a virgin and as far as I can tell he used to be pretty successful with women, well, definitely better than me
And friends also
I think he is disappointed in this way

Okay. What would you want from your family??

>>18383797
You're lucky op. Sounds like my dream situation. I wish my family would leave me the fuck alone.

>>18383797
>nor am I unattractive
sure everyone in your family would love a daughter they can fuck while looking her in the eyes

You mentioned traumatic events and abuse having effects on your daily life, I'd suggest to go counseling, try session with mental health specialist first, but don't take the pills if it's not really necessary.

Appreciate more art in huge varieties, and eventually you become a unique work of art in life. What would you like to be more passionate about?

Can you give examples of the bad habits?

> How do I become a happy person who's full of life and soul?

https://youtu.be/LO1mTELoj6o

This is a good start (Interpret with reverse psychology, if that does not become clear)

Depends on why you want to quit. If it's something like more reasonable hours at the other job or poor management at the current job, then that's understandable. On the other hand, something like 'my friend works there' is a terrible reason.

>>18383597
I dont think future employers are going to frown on you jumping between low end jobs.

On that note, ive jumped between high end jobs. First off you can hide that shit by using a functional resume instead of a chronological. Not only that but if you job jumped a functional resume makes you look fucking kickass.

Secondly our generation already job changes a lot. We dont do life long careers anymore. Youll more likely look to a future employer like a well rounded and experienced employee who knows what he wants and theyll want to see what they can do to keep you.

>>18383597
I think most employer today won't be really sweat hard about thing most of time since jumping between jobs kinda become a normal occurence for today's generation, the trend of using freelancer/outsourcing also contribute to this.
Just to be on safe side, just write it in your resume that you quit because of rational or professional reasons like logistics, managements.

>>18383590

Save up some money and move to a country that doesn't suck ass

>>18383590
What do you have and how old are you. Psych here. Pretty possible youre creating a bigger problem than you have.

>>18383590
Drink cheap alcohol and masterbate furiously just like everyone else.

It's subjective, but I think real love is when you still enjoy being with your partner once the honeymoon phase wears off. A relationship that becomes a partnership where there is mutual respect and admiration for each other. Where disagreements can be calmly discussed and worked through without judgement or ill feelings. A safe and strong bond with someone you trust with your life.

>Is it unhealthy to think about other girls while in a relationship
Depends on what you mean by that. If you mean like a crush, it happens and it can be worked through. Lust is the instant gratification form of love, but like all things of that nature it's short lived and imo not worth throwing away love for.

If you mean things like checking out women on the street/hot coworkers/friends and thinking about how many places you want to jam your ham into, that is also normal. Just don't act on those feelings in most relationships.

Bumpperino

>>18383517

Its not unhealthy but it's not particularly a good sign if you find your self fantasising about other girls a lot of the time. It will happen occasionally that is normal but it should only be a passing thought.

Loving someone to me means wanting them to be happy no matter what even if it means losing them. Being "In love" is the same thing except with the added sexual attraction and intimacy.