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what you're going through right now is moving out of the infatuation or "honeymoon" stage in your relationship. before, it used to be nice and you couldnt get enough of each other, right? but now you're settling into normalcy.

if she says you're being a bit clingy, it's good to get space from each other to find yourselves again. the best thing you can do right now, if you think she isn't as interested, is talk to her. communicate with her and let her know your worries. show that you support her and you're still there for her. good luck

>>18450313
Thanks, that does sound about right for what's happening. This is my first actual relationship, so I'm still learning as I go.

Thing is these are all the signs a girl shows when she begins to lose (or has already lost) interest in you, usually because of another guy. Girls almost never brake it off in one go. They will slowly, steadily, and painfully break up with you. Hope this is not the case OP.

The nose gets bigger with age; not weight. So, no.

Sharper, but not smaller.

>>18450272
Nose is your least concern. Lose the fat first.

>>>/fit/ sticky

Go to class.
Stay on top of assignments.
Talk to people.
Get involved in other shit like clubs.
Get a part time job.

where anon?

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>>18450149
usf in tampa

>>18450075
I do this literally for everything I start.

They use to give me adderall which helped greatly. But they are faggots and stopped giving it to me for no-fucking-reason-at-all

>>18450075

sometimes you meet people who say they want to be a writer. then five years later they still say they want to be a writer. and in that time they will have written nothing but maybe a chapter of a book, and some fanfiction.

anytime you ask them how writing is going they will say 'oh i got writers block'. despite never even having a basic writing break through, they will claim writers block. despite them not knowing how to write, never actually writing anything, and hating it when they do write, they will insist that they are a writer.

you are the less obsessed version of that. You see something that LOOKS interesting, then you try it, and it isn't something you enjoy, so you leave. the writers i mentioned earlier are like you but they are obsessed with the idea because of the lifestyle it brings to their imagination. its almost like saying you are a youtuber. you just want to be looked up to for no real reason.

so you are at least one step ahead of the vapid people. and there isnt actually anything wrong with you per se, maybe something small, but ultimately if you don't enjoy something, and its not going to bring you something you really want, why do it? its okay to give up on things and just move from one thing to the next, cuz you're not 'giving up'. giving up implies some sort of commitment. imagine if any time you broke up with a girl that you didn't like you said you 'gave up'.

the only REAL issue here is that you might be giving up on things you WILL like or WILL give you something you want/need simply because you are used to instant gratification. working out isn't fun, no one really enjoys it per se, but people stick with it because of the results they get. even though running a marathon sounds stupid to me, to actually just set a goal and see it through can be beneficial in and of its self, and when someone like you is directionless, something as generic as a marathon might be what you need to realize your potential.

>>18450095

ultimately we cannot really tell you how to be motivated. its not a multi step process. even if it was, if you arent motivated to just work out, how would you find the motivation to do something to get you motivated to work out? its a flawed concept.

the best thing you can do is create some small goals and try to meet them, and build up to bigger goals. the high gets bigger with every accomplishment.

you can also try other systems that don't rely on SELF discipline. Slave system (like when you were younger, you did what you had to do in order to avoid punishment). Reward system, you give your self candy or ice cream or your favorite video game at the end of the day only when you accomplished your goals. Buddy system, where someone who also wants to do this or something else works with you and you work with him on each of your goals (this ones a bit flawed as you might just end up bringing the worst out of each other). then there's mentor system which is where you have someone who DOES run the marathon force you to get up every morning and run with him until you get there.

none of these require self discipline, there is motivation but it comes from external forces, and while it can help get you to the finish line and learn your real potential you will likely just fall back into your normal routine once that system is no longer in place.

the fun thing about self discipline is that everyone CAN have it, and its pretty literally just a choice. you can choose to do something. just because you CHOSE not to do it doesn't mean you can't do it. you literally can. but most people can't wrap their minds around the concept. they've convinced themselves they 'can't. simply because they 'won't'.

heres the thing though: you don't need to WANT to do something in order to do it. even if you hate doing it, you can just do it anyway.

thats how you find out who you really are.

>>18450060
Did you really think you could get away with not telling us what the fight was about?

>>18450068
It is very long and complex. Posted about it here a few days ago, no response. Likely because it was TL;DR

I can still post it though, maybe I won't be shot down this time

>>18450074
Maybe I can find it in the archive

Why not just apply for a new job?

>project management is the dullest most boring useless piece of shit career in the whole fucking world
tell us how you really feel? alright, so why's it dull and boring, how can you alleviate that?

>should I go homeless
fuck no

>fucking sluts
well stop doing that

>shitty friends
well stop surrounding yourself with shitty people

>easier to tell someone to die in a fire
very true, is it going to help you with your goals though? you have goals right?

what are your goals OP?

>>18449969
Seems like you have bigger problems than your job.

What is wrong?

>>18449966
Sometimes, when I feel like everything is pointless and it wouldn't be such a bad thing to be dead after all, I like to listen to some Alan Watts lecture. It cheers me up immensly.

>>18449966
Writing.
At the the end of the day or whenever you feel the need to , write down all your thoughts , literally every single word that is popping inside your mind.
I used to do that , still doing it and it helps me to read that stuff later , helps me figure out many things.

Economics: Larry Elder, Milton Friedman, Thomas Sowell,

Relationship: MGTOW

>>18449883
Dont go.

Easy. If you have constant diarethra for 3+ days, consider seeing doctor. You might die from dehydratation.

>>18450153
I'm already here.

Survived the night. Did not shit myself once. Hoping at least some of my bathroom trips will be blamed on the 2 other people sleeping in the room. Drinking lots of liquids.

>>18449883
go to cvs, walgreens, walmart, sams club, etc, get imodium or the store brand of "Loperamide" it'll help you.

You don't.
You either live with insecurities and regrets the rest of your life. Or you try to change it, or at least become a bit less beta.

>>18449889
I'm not insecure and I don't have many regrets (I'm pretty much a nihilist) it's just that people treat me differently. That is the part that bothers me.

>>18449837
jesus christ man yeah jump ship

>>18449837
nothing you can do will convince her there won't be a 37'th and you're number 26th...

Leave her anon unless you just want something to fuck.

>>18449837

35 dudes wow. lmao. anyways

if you want to fuck her do it, but it seems like whore character to me, so don't assume that the relationship will last longer than a month or so.

>>18449737
It's normal for recruiters to flake on you if they're the ones that initiated the communication.

Follow up with him once more in a few days, but don't expect anything to come out of it.

>>18449737
Just to clarify, did you send him your C.V? Recruiters as >>18449745 said flake out. Its normal, don't ever take it personally.

Asking if you're interested, he is asking "You look good, send me your C.V NOW!" Follow him up regardless and be sure to send him your C.V.

Good luck man.

>>18449745
>>18449778
Thanks, then I might wait until Sunday and send my CV. Actually it is already attached to my Linkedin, so I believe he saw it.

>>18449718

Sorry for what you went through anon. Your best bet would be therapy but shit's expensive. You can overcome this.

Therapy.

>>18449718
B8 right?

some of the greatest artists, writers and philosophers had this happen to them, and loved women all their lives as a result.

Protip: follow in their footsteps, become a genius.

>Thank you mom

>>18449717
Nope you're a dog, brothers stick with each other through the good and bad times. If you have a problem let him know or just have a break from hanging out for awhile, don't just discard him expecially after what the two of you have been through over 10+ years.

>>18449740
And how am I the dog? When the person in question has been toxic for a long time now

>>18449755
How long has he been toxic? you know exactley why? maybe he could be going through a rough stage with drug addiction and isn't in the right state of mind at the moment, or he is severally depressed and projecting. I've had mates like that and when you abandon them it makes it worse.

Move on bro. No need to torture yourself over this chick.

>>18449797
I'm struggling to do that. I've seen other people but the story and the effect it had on my life runs pretty deep.

>>18449939


Snap out of it bro. No reason to feel something for someone who feels nothing for you.

>>18449179
I don't know what to say, but I feel bad. why did they hate your dad?
why can't they honor their mom by giving her a proper funeral or burial???

>>18449261
They were all failures and druggies and he didn't want them bringing crack into his house, and really didn't like them trying to sell the shit to their own mother and bumming money off her all the time.

>>18449179
>Is there any way we could buy an empty grave or some sort of memorial for her?

I think so. I think at the very least you can get a headstone. Contact a funeral home.