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>guy threatens to kick my ass
>I pop out a knife
>guy backs down

Now his friends are saying I escalated things even though nothing came out of it. Who's in the wrong here?

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>Live in Austria, Vienna
>B2 level German
>live in an apartment, got about €75 left
>too much free time on my hands, dying from heat
>can't get a job cuz not speaking perfect German (I guess this is their way of filterring immigrant scum like myself)

Should I just kill myself when money runs out? That's better than living on the street once I get kicked out.

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tl;dr Girlfriend has turned my friends against me because I have money, cut my loses and leave?

>parents were rich but died when I was young
>money left in a trust for me, haven't really touched it and live off the rent from properties
>went to uni and got a job just so i'd have something I enjoy to do
>used to be a fat nerd and so are my friends, but lost weight and got a gf
>2 years together, things are going well but she is terrible with money so don't mention a thing
>generous with my friends (I'll get a round in) but no more than a normal person
>starting to have doubts about friends as they are sort of dragging me down and only ever want to play video games and drink
>mention this to gf a few times and she agrees

>get sent a letter from my lawyer with an annual update about my trust
>gf opens it without telling me and find hows
>get into a huge argument where she claims I was hiding it from her and making her pay for everything (we share everything, rent and bills are split equally)
>told my friends about it

Should I just cut my loses here? I've been wanting to move for a while and find new friends but I'm a bit hurt at losing my GF. She's my first one and I really do love her, but it feels like a bond has been broken here.

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How can I not be an introvert?

It's ruining my fucking life and I feel like there's no hope. I'm 22 and my early 20's are being pissed away in isolation. I feel like I could be in prison and it wouldn't make a difference.

Before you say "omg just put yourself out there!" I recently moved to the other side of the world and have been trying constantly to change my life but now I'm stuck again in isolation but this time i don't even have my family

I'm fucking desperate

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I'm depressed, perhaps suicidal, have constant dreams of anxiety and nightmares and often bouts of insomnia. Mentally I'm in a bad state and don't know how to get out.

Someone recommended I try LSD or Shrooms (I can't remember which)?
As I understand it they reset some neuron connections in your head and can help alleviate some symptoms of depression.

Is this BS? Should I do it?

Honestly, I have nothing to lose.

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I want to spend my life traveling around.
I mean actually traveling and experiencing other places; not sleeping in hotels and visiting touristic sites.

Is this achievable? I'm currently 20 and studying computer science. What should my plan be?

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>Meet girl from work
>Hang out with her, she lives literally next door
>Eventually we fuck
>She told me she had a boyfriend but would end the relationship due to long distance so idgaf
>She doesn't want a relationship but she doesn't stop my advances so we keep having sex
>Tells me that she isn't over her ex she needs more time and she met me at a weird point of her life thus we can't be together
>Tells me that i need to find another girl
>She also tells me that she met a guy and they will go out
>I tell her that it's some bullshit that i was with her for 6 months with her telling me she isn't ready for a relationship just to go out with some random guy
>Eventually she grows more distant, stops calling me over, and now she doesn't even talk to me.

I normally wouldn't care but the fact that we had sex doesn't let me mind comprehend that i've been friendzoned. And also she lives next door so i dread for the day she'll bring another guy over and i'll listen to her have sex.

What can i do, i'm constantly angry about this shit. Can you be friendzoned even if you had sex? I haven't talked to her for days, in fact even our schedules didn't match this week. I don't wanna talk to her because im too proud for it, but just the thought i'll see her with another guy or even worse listen to them fills me with unimaginable rage. I went 10kg up my deadlift yesterday fueled by sheer rage.

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I'm a 26 year old woman and I am married.
I have an online friend. He's 8 years older than me and married as well. We began talking because he wanted to practice my native language, but we got along and became good friends. We've been talking for 3 years, met IRL twice while he was visiting my country (with our spouses).
My husband obviously knows about him, knows we talk on the phone (often late at night because of timezones).

I suffer from insomnia. I've been on sleeping pills for many years, but sometimes they don't work well.
I always found being read to sleep very soothing, it makes me fall asleep almost immediately. My husband doesn't enjoy doing it. I asked him a few times and he always refused. My online friend enjoys doing it. Sometimes, if I have trouble sleeping, he calls me on skype and reads to me till I fall asleep.
When it happens, I usually sleep on the couch to not bother my husband since I'm on the phone.

I mentioned it to my husband and he got upset and jealous. I feel like he has been extremely unreasonable.
Is there something I am not seeing?

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How do I make things go back to the normal and formal state? Some lines have been crossed and things have gradually become awkward and I don't mind a flirt or a sign of affection here and there but I'm mostly aroused by the authority of my superior and I would like to keep the relationship mostly formal and professional and not become too personal outside of work.

Any way to do this without fucking things up?

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What the fuck is wrong with me
>best friend dies
>total my car a month later
>gf of 4 years leaves me
>friends introduce me to a new girl
Shes pretty awesome, drives me to be better- network etc
>buddy pulls me aside to warn me she has an std
Its controlable and i research it
>have date with girl
>we wine and dine
>have awesome night together
>we start getting physical
>slow down anon i need to tell you something important and its really hard for me to do but i have the std
>talk with her thoughtfully
>she seems happy i'm not repulsed
>admit i already knew
Wtf
She almost flips
>i explain my friend was only warning me because he thought i might be unstable because of all recent things and hes found a friend in a horrible state before like was gonna kill himself and was only trying to protect me from something similar
>she calms but says she wants fo be alone for a while
>we kiss a little more, talk a little more, she's mortified but i feel like i really pled the case as best i could. she gets dressed and calls a cab
How do i save this? I told my friend who gave me the heads up he was not pleased since they all work in the same industry. He says I need go tell the person who told him and damage control the fuck out of this. How do i make this work? I feel horrible.

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21 year old kissless virgin here.

I tried, I really did try.
From being scared shitless to talk to girls, I really did make an effort to do so.
I said hi, had casual conversations and banter. But it's always me who initiates the conversation. If I don't say hi, they (who know me) walk right past me without even bothering to say hi to me.

Maybe it's because I give off lonely/desperate/awkward vibes.

But then I tried to improve myself. I started hitting the gym and reading up on interesting stuff to bring up in conversations.

But still, no one took interest in me. It all felt like I was forcing the interaction.

I'm not ugly, I even went for girls below my league and it's still the same result.

No matter what I do, I see beta males and neck beards hanging out with girls while I'm all alone again.

Maybe some people aren't meant to be with other people.

Why is life like this?

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anyone else realize they somehow became giant manwhores through adolescence?

I had this weird idea hit me after talking to a lady friend. The mood was flirty and I made an advance and she made it clear she wouldnt sleep with me again. I said thanks for clearing that up for me and said good night, and went to this new task.

on a sheet of paper, I wrote down her name, and then just drew a line through it. It helped me cope with the weirdness of seeing her as 'jsut a friend' and not as a sexual target.

But then I started writing more and more names that came to mind, and eventually I went on facebook to help the recall. I wrote about a 120 names, crossing out each one. And I feel fucking amazing, I'm just wondering whether or not to burn this piece of paper now or fold it into an airplane and throw it off a cliff.

But ever since I was a little kid, I laid eyes on a pretty girl and thought wow, she could do anything to me if she wanted to. I am HERS. And every pretty girl I ran into I did this, until tonight I realized the baggage I racked up. And as I grew older, since society says men are to make the first move clearly, I began actually doing things to these girls but it wasn't me nailing chicks, it was actually me giving away a piece of myself to these girls to take.

I don't know what else to say. Right now I feel sorry that nobody taught me to value myself a little more. I feel sorry for my parents but they won't know I gave myself away to girls all the time. I feel bad for the girls I tried to date because I was giving myself away to other girls all the time while professing loyalty for eternity. I think they knew what they were dealing with, deep down, which is why a lot of them went a little bananas and broke up with me. That's also interesting, how I was never the one to break up. I was always dumped.

I don't really have a problem. I just want to hear someone who understands or something. I don't know if I can look at women the same anymore.

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Let me try and be brief on the situation, anyone needing more details can ask
>GF "falls in love" with someone in another country
>Met online through gaming
>Realistically will never be together
>Has known him like a month in total
>Broke up with me because her feelings for him ended up overshadowing her feelings for me, says all she knows now is she has feelings for him and doesnt know if she has feelings for me
>Our relationship had been cooler since we got out of the honeymoon phase but there was still passion between us, totally went away when she got feelings for this guy however
>Were together 5 1/2 years
>Told me that she couldnt be committed to me when she loves someone else and it prevented either of our needs from being fulfilled anymore
>Still believes I am the best friend she has ever had in her entire life and loves me so much she cant bear to think of actually losing me
>Also her only boyfriend ever and the only person she has ever had sex with or done more than kiss with
>Isn't intending on starting a relationship with him "immediately"

Assuming I want to get her back what is my immediate course of action, anons

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i've been dating this guy for a while now and we get along really well. we've been each other's first in a lot of aspects but lately during the summer, i feel like he doesn't want to see me or talk to me as much. we rarely get a chance to each other in person and when we do talk, it feels like there's very little discussed or i feel like i'm bothering him. we'll be texting and in the middle of a conversation, he'll read it and then not respond. am i boring him?

debating whether not i should talk to him about this and we're usually good at communicating things like this so i'm leaning towards asking about it. i just wouldn't know what to say or how to even begin. or am i just looking too deep into it?

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How do I cut my insane girlfriend out of my life once and for all? I'm sick of her bullshit and want her gone.

General tips for cutting someone who is both toxic and extremely alluring would be very helpful.