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Why do some people think it's acceptable to take so long to get ready? I've seen this more often in women than in men but it applies to both.

Like, they'll have already showered and washed everything but they still take an hour after that. And when you get sick of waiting for them and tell them no one needs over an hour to get ready after they've already showered, they get defensive and like they did nothing wrong by making you wait because they get ready at a pace of a small toddler. Do what you want but don't take forever when I'm waiting for you
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>>18452373
>showered and washed everything but they still take an hour after that
It is for make-up and choosing the right outfit you moron
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>>18452433
But if you're just going to the cinema or to eat why do you need to spend so much time on your appearence?
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>>18452521
Because women are generally insecure about their looks, stop being an autist.

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How do I improve my fish tank?
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>>18452370
buy more fish
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more plants? but honestly, i like it the way it is. i really dislike those tacky things you can put in (skulls, amphora's and such, you know what i mean).
you could incorporate some more stones with interesting forms and stock up the plants. maybe buy some that have different forms, grasses or pic related. i like it when there are lots of plants...

for interesting stuff to put in, maybe those tiny water frogs and some snails?
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Get a couple African dwarf frogs and some leafier, bulkier plants

I met this girl in college this year. She is 24 and I'm 29. 2 months before I met her her ex-boyfriend of 5 years dumped her to play the field. Because of this she suffers depression and is on medication for it and sees a counselor once a month. She said she likes me but is not ready to have her heart broken again and so she doesn't want a relationship right now. But she adds she can see being in a relationship with me in the future. I told her I'd wait for her. This was 3 months ago. Fast forward to now. We have hung out every once in a while and we have make out and hug but we have not had sex so far as she said she isn't ready, That's fine by me as I am used to going long periods without sex. However since the beginning of our "relationship" or friendship whatever you want to call it, I notice that she texts me less and less everyday now. It doesn't help that I work nights but these days I may only get 1 text from her a day, which I only reply to and ask a follow up question knowing that I'll have to wait another day for the response. I can feel her getting more and more distant and I don't want to accuse her of ignoring me or cheating as that may push her further away. She still says she sees a future with me as she's told me this as recently as last week. My question is do you think she's still actually interested in me or is she trying to let me down easy? As long as it's just the depression and I'm still the guy she wants I want to continue this relationship.
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OP why the fuck are you wasting your time with a mentally ill person. She'll end up killing your firstborn after getting a post partal depression.
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The thing is I have gone through depression before when I was in high school so I know what she is going through and because of that I think she feels I can relate to her a bit more. I'm not depressed anymore though so it is hard to relate sometimes as that was a long time ago for me. Also she doesn't want kids.
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>>18452366
she thinks ur ugly and has sex with you bc she misses her ex.

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How long after smoking pot until you are good to drive?
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>>18452356
two hundred years

or until you decide to use google

sage
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>>18452356
30mins
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>>18452356
people get high at work dude you shpuld be fine

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Any time I look for ways to kill myself I end in sites abut getting help and zero advise. I dont need help, I made up mi mind, but I need to be sure that if I try once its over forever, i want to die effectively while resting on my bed or bathtub
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>>18452345
Get some help anon
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>>18452345
>I've decided to do something that others consider to be a wrong choice
>why can't they just help me do it instead of telling me not to?
Spooky
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>>18452345
get a job u pussy

like is that even possible?
although i'm quite attractive and smart, i can't bond with 99% of people, because they seem like pawns to me, if that makes sense. My inferiority complex prevents me from having meaningful relationships.
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>>18452315
If you have an inferiority complex then that is your problem. Telling yourself that you must be a sociopath, or some other code for "bad, horrible, nasty, evil person" only makes the problem worse. Be nice to yourself. There's a bully in your head. Stand up to him. He's a dick. You don't deserve to be treated like that.

I mean that more literally than you might think. I have the same problem. The more I fight back against the negative thoughts the more I see what other people might like to me, and I can figure out how to play to my strengths.

There's nothing wrong with me.
There's nothing wrong with me.
Hey. Knock that off. There's nothing wrong with me.
Quit being a dick. I didn't do anything wrong.
Fuck off. I'm alright.
I don't care. I didn't mean to do anything bad.

That kind of self-talk will get you through your episodes. Just be careful not to become a douche.
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>>18452315
You're not a sociopath. If you were actually a sociopath you wouldn't even understand what love is let alone desire it.
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>>18452427
Actually, having researched the topic and experienced it several times, sociopaths do feel love albeit it's very superficial, which is my conundrum. I would like to stop seeing people as objects, this impedes me from bonding with people.

Hitting on thots is easy mode. This is my first time actually encountering a girl with similar interests to me, and I have no idea how to strike up a conversation the same way I would with most chicks.

What do?
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>>18452253
>Hitting on thots is easy mode.

Stop lying.
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>>18452253
this >>18452261

1. don't overthink (it's already too late now) just bc she seems to have similar interests.
2. realize this is still tinder and just a numbers game. no more no less
3. just write her as you would write to any other girl. maybe ask her about a pokemon or whatever if thatÄs what you're into to show you have something in common
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>>18452253
>Still waiting for someone to buy me...
into the trash it goes

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>tfw no social skills
>tfw no life, haven't had a friend in over a decade
>don't do anything outside of work, lifting and browsing the web
>coworkers are younger and getting promoted over me, even though I'm better at the job in terms of job-specific knowledge. but they have better people skills
how do i get friends and social skills?
how do i get an interesting life?

please respond
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>>18452202
Dear, realize that you arent doing these things simply because you dont want to. It is YOUR life. Only you have the power to change it.

Do you want friends? If you are out of school, your best bet are coworkers. And ofc gf who you marry and make family with.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

>interesting life
That is a meme. You do what YOU want. Not what others find interesting.

Try read books instead of lifting and get yourself on ALL online dating sites google finds you. Get gf.

Good luck!
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>>18452268
thanks for the advice
none of my coworkers really like me though

>You do what YOU want
i don't know what i want, nothing interests me that much desu. my coworkers don't do anything super interesting either, but they have friends, and so always have a story of something happening at a bar or party

i just want to be able to have things to say to people when I'm asked how my weekend was, or what's new in my life.., instead of just saying "i spent the weekend relaxing at home" and "nothing's really new"
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>>18452340
>coworkers dont like me
Because you dont give them any real reason to do so. Chat them up. Ask them about their lives. Everybody love to talk about stuff they do.

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I dated a girl that I worked with. Everyone told me she was a pos, but she played the pity card on me effectively and I went from being a distant acquaintance, to teaching her how to cook, spending too much time together, working on her car, all the boyfriend things. Well she did fuck all the entire time and started showing her retardedly drunken side more often, so I got annoyed and she'd get angry when I brought up the alcoholism. I felt unappreciated(She never even offered to take me out, but always claimed she loved me) and I did everything. Yet I was lonely and put up with it. In the end she got drunk with some dude, fucked him and told me to get lost. I was upset but held it together pretty well and let her go.

And this nearly cost me my job in the end, because we worked together and after asking her to do some things(which I did in the past with no problem) and not just her alone. She sent me a very angry text and told me that "it cannot continue" and that I need to be "professional". Upper management talked to her and her story changed to me being very aggressive towards her and slamming stuff. But when they grilled her about it, she finally backed down and told them to tell *me*, that she was sorry. Couldn't even do it herself. Then she went back to her "normal" behaviour and kept trying to make small talk with me and questioning things that I did. I gave her nothing to work with, ignored her texts and passes at me.

And professionalism? She eventually got "let go" for stealing high value items at work a few months later. So "yay!" I "won", "dodged a bullet". But then why do I feel so angry? When I found out about her fucking that guy, she told me she did it because she felt that I "didn't appreciate her" and all I could do was stare at her and wonder what she actually ever did. Not even one date she offered to take me out. AM I angry at myself for hurting myself? For wishing her well instead of telling her off? Why can't I be happy about this?
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>>18452151
Youre probably mad that she cheated on you after puttint up with her shit, and there was no acknowledgment of it after words.
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>>18452234
I don't get it man. Not even a "I'm thinking about you" or "I was wondering if we could have dinner together like we always do?" Or better yet, "can i take you out and cheer you up?"' Just nothing. I had to even call her before she'd tell me what was going on. And then she said that it was my fault. I don't get it.
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>>18452341
>I don't get it.
I guess she really was a piece of shit

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As a guy, will getting a nice body compensate for a 4/10 face?
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It will help for sure. You may not control the genetics of your face, but you can control the following:

>Hygiene
>Grooming
>Clothing
>Body figure
>Self-respect
>Social skills
>Not taking girls too seriously

If you can master all of that, you will be swimming in pussy.
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>>18452156
Thanks man, that gives me hope. I was feeling really hopeless the past few weeks but I'm gonna go lift hard as fuck, thanks for the motivation.
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>>18452175
Lifting will help you score pussy less than dressing nice.

Compare months of lifting to few hours spent shopping with somebody who knows fashion.

Stop being retarded /fit/izen and invest more skill points into confidence and conversation skills.
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

>dumb frogposter

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Is it even worth the time using this website if you are a average dude( or black)? I consider myself pretty average but I am also a black guy open to dating most kinds of female.

I am just having zero luck though. I have been on OkCupid for 4 years now. No dates.

Is there some secret I am missing? It's fucked when your mailbox is 90 percent full but it's all from messages I sent with no response. Fuck...

Is online dating even worth?
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Nump
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>>18452135
>4 years
Whatever have you been doing is not working. Use head of your and change strategy. More or less aggresive, chatting up uggos, changing selfies, dating in real life...
>did you know you can type online dating into google and try something else?
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>>18452204
I thought about trying other sites... but OkCupid seems to be the least fucked up. Is badoo a good one?

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So I gave this girl really fucking bad stubble burn while making out with her, I shaved less than an hour before we started, and her chin has gone all red and started scabbing over. Like pic but much worse. It looks like it will take a week or so to heal. My facial hair grows really quickly and is really tough, I've been shaving against the grain and everything, but it grows back within a couple of hours every time. Any other anons have the same problem? Do I just have to wax my chin or grow it out to a proper beard?
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Try conditioner
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>>18452130
Grow a beard. 11/10 make-outs. So soft.
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>>18452140
The issue is there's almost nothing to condition.
>>18452141
I can, but it's not a good look on me

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I'm not a shut-in. I'm really depressed. I can't even bring myself to write my stories or watch movies on the laptop. There are a few things I want to get up and do, but I don't have the money to do them right now, because I am only sluggishly looking for a job. The gym is not an option, because membership money and grocery money to cover the increased caloritic intake ran out months ago.

I'm stuck in bed. I didn't know what to do, except the occasional government bullshit to make sure that I have funds for school this fall.

Please help. =(
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>>18452086
download this this and give it a try: http://www.mediafire.com/file/stl5ctg1ptogszt/MWTD.zip
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>>18452086
Im in the same situation man.
I want to get out into the world and have a good time but i dont have the money to do that and i don't have a job so i just have to sit in my flat so i can still afford rent.
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>>18452115
Gotta open this on my laptop. Will do.

>>18452170
I want to try temp agencies. My friend told me a yogurt shop is hiring: I haven't done either of those things. I did apply to a hardware store, though.

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>female intern
>work in a program for adults with aspergers
>one guy in the program has a crush on me
>repeatedly asks me my age, for my phone number, talks about dating, complains about being single
>always brush him off and redirect to instructors who talk to him
>he freaked out yesterday, complaining that there was no point to us talking
>said the dirt on his shoe is worth more than me
>said over and over he wouldn't talk to me anymore because I'll be a memory after the program is over
>instructors heard all of this and pulled him aside
>won't stop saying same things as before with "sorry I won't talk to you anymore" and "I was just being honest" added
>also has hepatitis B and won't stop picking his scabs and offering fist bumps/hand shakes

What should I do in this situation? I'm dreading going back on Monday because I know he'll keep freaking out at me and he just CLINGS to me unlike the other participants. I've been using a lot of hand sanitizer and avoiding contact with him but he doesn't respond well to social cues. Apparently they are going to email his mom but how should I handle this? I'm afraid it will do nothing like the million other times they've talked to him.
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>>18451907
Not much you can do expect avoid him.
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>>18451907
Talk to the instructors and tell them you fear for your safety also get some pepper spray. This dude seems off edge.
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You do realize there's a vaccine for Hep b, right?

Go get it.

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Just had to shoot a pit bull mauling my neighbor in my yard. What should I do.
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>>18451868
Don't tell anyone because it's against the law, you could possibly face charges for discharging a firearm in city limits and also animal cruelty.
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>>18451997
Don't listen to this idiot. You can shoot a dog if it's attacking you or someone else. Tell us more about the situation please. And call the cops
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>>18451997
Coming from someone with experience, being terrified of the law or being afraid of being wrongfully charged is not the way to go in life. You will get no where fast. You really should report shit when it happens for your own wellbeing in the future.

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