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>>16539871

You should have kept those feelings about the other girl to yourself. If you didn't act on them, it's no different than getting a boner for a chick you see in passing - nothing happened, no issue.

Since you threw yourself under the bus, though, you may as well have cheated. If you prefer less cynicism, I would just tell her exactly the above analogy and confirm your feelings for her before re-stating your commitment to the relationship.

You've told her about this other girl and catching feelings, yes? From her POV, how does she know that you haven't done anything with the other girl? You did the right thing by being faithful and not cheating, but the trust is gone in your relationship, and I don't know how you could salvage it.

I'll try to clarify the circumstance / justify the decision about talking about it to my gf a bit more.

I had been absolutely on friends only basis with the other girl until at a party which we attended together at our uni a guy came to ask me about 20 times if we were together with the girl and whether he could try to make a move.

At first I answered rather ambiguously taken off guard but he came to reconfirm like literally 20 times. It was killing me inside but I said no absolutely go ahead and even stepped out of my way to help the chap along a bit, why not make some friends by being a good chap to the br0?

Well the guy ended up kissing her very publicly and I was left in an utter mental mess. (They decided to just be friends the next weekend, whether or not because of me is up to debate, said girl does have strong feelings for me now though) . Initially I was just utterly shocked, I was supposed to be in a "perfect relationship" with a real soulmate so how could I be feeling so bad about "missing the opportunity with this girl".

I started feeling very guilty about my feelings until I had a good chat with one of my friends over skype and I came to the realization that I hadn't actually done anything wrong. Although to be honest I had set myself up in a rather stupid situation having had dinner etc. with said girl who lives in the same dorm. However we're also working _super intensely_ together foreseeable for the next 4 years. Due to this relationship I needed to sort out:

a) What I want to do in general options being i) stay with gf ii) split up iii) screw around
b) If I'm not acting on the new girl how do I maintain professional relations

At the same time I have to say our relationship was suffering from hardship due to the LDR, but maybe more about that in another post,.

I think therefore I am.

>>16539870
So if I die the world and everyone in it won't suffer?

>>16539870
Wrong. You have a sense that you are, therefore you can think.

This is out of the realm of 4chan 3rd rate advice, you need to see a professional to do an evaluation.

do you actually feel as if your two different people, or are there just different sides to your personality?

>>16539851
it is your minds struggle to find who you are... after the questionnaire id say subconsciously you have begun to question who it is yo really are, and as a result you see the the most predominant aspects of yourself manifest as what you might see as different personality. bring yourself to the center of your two selves and you will know where to go from there

>>16539802
Try thinking about how toxic it really is. Everyone uses Facebook to try and justify some irrelevant moment in time. They justify it by taking away your free time.

Block Facebook in your Browser until finals are over

FB is shit. It's a dick waving contest. Feed my ego.

>>16539608
I'd visit a lawyer. If you're paying rent you may have renters rights. If you don't want to 'take it that far', i mean, it's her house dude and she's your mom, fucking listen to her you brat.

>>16539608
Move out and get a roommate you shit. Then toke up all you want. Or keep living in your momma's basement like a bitch. Your choice.

>>16539617
We live in a apt and it's my apt just as much it is hers since I'm paying half the rent

Move on to someone who wants to make time for you.

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>>16539600
>Shoots down my ideas (Dinner and/or the park)
>Says "I don't know" when I ask her what she wants to do


You serious brah?

She isn't interested.

>>16539611
She gave me her number though.

BS concept. Don't fight for anyone, or you will set yourself up for a heartbreak. Get to know her, do things together, and decide if you want to spend more time with her or not.

>>16539372
If they're worth fighting for, you can bet your ass you're gonna have to fight other dudes for them. More often than not, you end up losing

Fight for to get her or fight for to protect her? The first, don't. The second, by being a man worth fighting for.

>>16539369

She's broadcasting a thousand red flags. You don't want her to sex you.

Frankly I'd delete her number and cut off all contact if I were you.

>>16539385
This.
Like, 10% of what she does would be enough for me to get the fuck out of there.
What the hell are you waiting for?!

>>16539401

Probably this is the closest OP got to pussy in the last 2 years.

>>16539322
I cry when I've lost something that I know is not coming back. I cry alone, in my bed, while reflecting on how things are changing.

I guess I could still, if I recall painful moments. Also if a movie is emotional I tend to shed some tears. But I wouldn't call it crying.

I wouldn't worry much about not crying in 3 years to be honest.

>>16539322
Just think about the Mother 3 ending.

Once was a man and he couldn't cry. Hadn't cried for years and years. Napalm babies and movie love stories could not produce tears. Johnny Cash.

Say something funny.

>>16539334
>"What's up with airline food? ;)"

>>16539343
lol

Bumping
My friend check "Dean guitars" site , they have real good for real low :)

>>16539242
/gg/ on /mu/ would help you a lot. My first was a Squier, which are very decent guitars. My tip is absolutely do not buy a sub-$200 guitar. It will play and sound so badly that you'll be turned off. i recommend anything in the Classic Vibe series by Squier if you're in to that sort of thing.

>>16539242
If you can go too a guitar shop or pawn shop and try try try before you buy even if its the same model slightly different try it if you can things too look out for weight if you wanna play standing up a 9 pound guitar on your shoulder is a bitch if you got a bad back, neck size small hands or big hands can make it that much harder too learn if a necks too small or big. Then theres shape find something that will be easy too play sitting down for example people say flying v's are hard too play sitting down. And watch out for neck dive if your planning on standing and playing

>>16539233
Hello, gf, you have a choice, me or the smokes. Give he an ultimatum if her smoking bugs you that much.

>>16539233
You either love her for who she it, or you don't really love her. Sounds to me like you don't really love her, and you just want to put the pressure of ending the relationship on her.

Trying not being an insufferable prick.

>>16539233
If you GF is a bitch like everyone elses she'll choose the smokes.

Have you ever had sex with a coffee pot?

>>16539191
Male friendliness is usually flirting. Unless they are homosexual.

>>16539191
Get a boyfriend, and drag him everywhere with you. Other guys won't hit on you in front of him, so anything they say would be platonic.

Make sure he knows how much you appreciate this by getting really good at giving head.

>>16539182
A picture might help.

>>16539187

I debated that but asking for medical advice on 4chan is a terrifying prospect. I'll probably come out of the thread believing I have AIDS, cancer, or both.

>>16539196
I know a good amount about skin problems
Send it
Also im a femanon if it makes ufee better or worse

>>16539148
Ask a cop. They usually know a lot of drug dealers.

>>16539148

Make friends with people in the service industry. Like chefs and shit. Usually the whole kitchen is on drugs because that's the only way that life can be tolerated.

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>>16539148
Look for the guys with pointy shoes and pencil mustaches.