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>>16536343
Wait your boyfriend wants kids and you don't? Have you told him this?

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My little nieces are whip smart and fun to be around. My cousins' kids are lazy undisciplined dummies. Maybe you haven't met any good kids.

Kids aren't for everyone. Talk to your boyfriend about this and let him know you're not interested.

>>16536338
>Is a career change worth it?
Depends on what you mean by 'worth it'.

>>16536358
>Depends on what you mean by 'worth it'.
I don't know where to start with how I define "worth it". Give me something to start with.

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Do it by taking night classes.

I would heavily consider not saving yourself before marriage because the obvious major question is, what if you two are not sexually compatible in the least?

Not cumming is all about mental clarity and focus. Of course to practice for this you need to practice jerking off and you don't come off as a person who do that.

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>>16536220
>Saving it for marriage.

>>16536232
>>16536234
Oh boy here we go. You should have known not to say that on /adv/, OP.

>>16536159
wow, you two are fucking shit

>>16536161
Thanks!

You're using somebody for sexual gratification. Go fuck yourself.

If it bothers you that much, call her instead. You're half the problem here

>>16536133
annoying games.
I don't do those games, they send me insane.

>>16536141
What do you mean games? Like she does it on purpose?

>>16536067
depends what youre into and what kind of crowd youre associated with.

pale skin and dark hair is kind of the holy grail though isnt it? i guess not for everybody, but thats always been like top tier girl for me. and honestly this is the first time i've heard of someone not fawning over that type

>>16536067
No. My skin is really light in winter and naturally really tanned in summer. It's a huge difference and I used to hate my light skin because it made me look like a vampire junkie, but I realized women who use tanning beds regularly are usually very insecure and I didn't want to be like that. Also, if you have really fair skin, a tanning bed probably won't help. You might burn or end up with an ugly color. I can't really explain, but people who have more pinkish skin look weird when they tan, unlike people with yellowish/olive skin tones. Accept yourself as you are, fuck what your friends say. If they were real friends they wouldn't call you disgusting.

>>16536067
No, you shouldn't... cancer isn't sexy

I jack off a lot.

by owning people at online games, that's how i deal with it

>>16536046
i'm a good looking guy and in shape, but i have a urostomy and pee in a bag on my abdomen.
i'm 31, still a virgin, and will never get laid.

>>16536022
Goddamn those earmuffs!

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Holy shit you sound insufferable. People call you condescending, and they are "letting their emotions get in the way" because some part of either how you express your opinion (too much hyperbole, personal attacks etc) gives them the feeling that you're some kind of blowhard shitlord. You're also "seeking mutual understanding" and have "arguments where people won't admit they are wrong to me" both sound like instances where you don't know when shut up and to fucking drop the subject. You're like the four year old kid asking "Why?" all the time. So that's two strikes right there.

Now that I've gotten that out of my system, my advice is to stick with fairly neutral topics, which means no religion and definitely no politics. Don't talk about controversial subjects (gun control, abortion, terrorism) unless you want to get into an argument. Talk about books, movies, nature, etc. And for the love of God even if someone is wrong, quit badgering them. There is pretty much a zero chance that they will admit they are wrong to you, even if they are.

>>16536022
Depends on context a lot. I'm called argumentative, but I'm not really. I know when I'm right about something and people don't like it when I push it.

Example:

There's an annoying charity event at work for one of the employees. Her step-son is being sponsored to cycle all over Europe to raise money for cancer. I didn't want to put in, because it's not really for cancer. It's so he can tour the damn world under the pretense of raising money for cancer.

I start getting bugged to put in. I refuse. I get called ignorant by one of the other workers there. I correct her, saying that ignorance means lack of knowledge, and I don't see how that applies here just because I don't want to donate money. She insists that it isn't what ignorance means. I google her the dictionary meaning of it. Because she's wrong, it switches to how I can't let something drop and I'm argumentative.

I dropped both, not speaking to either until I left that job. I don't need to be pestered to give money, and as far as I'm aware, I'm not the one that came up to them calling them this or that or demanding money from them. It was them that did that to me. Yet, they would gossip amongst themselves I'm argumentative. My cousin has a go to where he says something, I counter what he's saying, and it's me being argumentative. Like people can't disagree with him otherwise they are considered argumentative.

People just don't like being called on their shit, when they talk shit, so they try to switch the blame onto you. It's their way of trying to outwit you. If you say anything different that opposes them, you're argumentative.

Do yourself a favour. Find another crowd. There's a reason you're arguing with these people. It's most likely they are idiots, and don't like being called on it.

>>16536018
Huh, does kek filter to kek now?

>>16536018
>Meet now girlfriend a little over a month ago
>been living with her the last two weeks
You fucked up.

The problem isn't necessarily the guy, but your girlfriend. She isn't putting a stop to this because she secretly likes the attention. This is a huge red flag. If I find out that someone is really into me, and I don't reciprocate those feelings, I quickly put that shit to rest and distance myself from them. Letting them hang around, for whatever reason, is just stringing them along. She's given him false hope.

>>16536051
Sorry, I should have clarified. I was just supposed to stay at hers for four days initially because my car is in the mechanics and her house is much closer to work than mine. The mechanic has screwed me around and has taken two weeks instead of the four days he promised.

So we're not exactly living living together as such.

>>16536014
How old are you?

If her friends tell u she likes you, but things aren't moving fluidly she probably WOULD hook up/make out with you but doesn't want to commitedly attach herself to u bcuz ur not being a man.

Lay it on her, get her alone and ask her to kiss you... That's the first step anyway

Try to get a balloon n hit on her to use her for sex first,if u two work out n have strong connection don't use her n love her..if it's just friends fuck someone else or try to, just keep on trying, one out of thirty woman u approach will fuck u unless u are fugly, get heathy if u weirdo

The same thing happened to my boyfriend

>>16536000
>What are things you have learned from being cheated on?
While another person's actions are completely out of your hands, and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it, you should periodically step away to look for red flags. Don't pass over something just because you happen to really care for the person. And being nice =/= doormat. Don't be a doormat.

>>16536000
I now don't trust anyone at all. Learned isn't really a positive in my case.

>>16536000
49 year old disappointed in life, excuse my english.
>meet a lovely intelligent med student
>we date, get married
>she's kind of a bitch, but pretty straightforward and not manipulative
>have 2 kids
>some shit gets in me and I cheat on her
>she suspects, but couldn't prove
>almost get divorced when she was pregnant a second time
>cheat again with multiple women(nurses etc.)
>meet a cute 10 years younger kind submissive woman
>she treats me like a god
>divorce wife and leave her and kids
>get married to younger blonde, have a kid
>she gets fat and bitchy, spends my money
>turns out she was the manipulative bitch all the time

Fast forward 6 years
>fat bitch wife and a spoiled kid
>oldest daughter is 18, doing well in med school
>doesn't really want to see me anymore
>I'm too old for this all
>wasting my life here
>think I might be an alcoholic

I fucked up my life by being stupid and cheating around. Don't cheat. Don't put up with it. Control yourselves or break up.

Just start picking up your pizza there, eventually you will see her and if she still seems into you like before, make your move. You got this.

>>16536109
Alright bro, are you positive? I posted this thread before because it's eating me up that much, and they suggested that I do this, and now I'm seriously thinking about doing it. Just don't want to come off as a creep is all.

>>16535990
We had this same thread a while ago. Stop.

Try and explain best you can. If she keeps nagging, I'd suggest dumping her.

It sounds like you both want different things out of the relationship. I suggest talking to her about how you feel and her doing the same. That way you both understand what the other wants.

So you do everything and all she does is bitch and complain. A girlfriend should be compromising and understanding.

All she does is take advantage of you and whine like a kid. Talk to her on a one and one level privately and air out your problems anon

The sooner the better.

>>16535952
I think you should move on. She probably wants to focus on her new relationship and not complicate it with other guys who have feelings for her.

>>16535952
she's trying to spare you feelings

>>16535960
Yeah my romantic feeling have kind of diminished since then so I'm ready to move on. But I just feel like I'm leaving loose ends behind if I didnt try to patch things between us.

I don't believe you. Every line of your post screams "am I impressive yet?" and "PAY ATTENTION TO ME." I think you're childish and insecure.

Either way, a better question is, what kind of girl will be able to tolerate me? Because it might come as a shock, but you can't go to the store and peruse rows of girls like you can with a new bike, and somehow I doubt you're in a position to be choosy.

>>16535838
This.
>"Why would I do either of those things"
A bad relationship < being single. You don't get a gf you'll actually care about by actively searching for one. Make friends, if you start looking someone, go out.

Get a bitch just like yourself