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yeah, it's called fatherhood.

>>16542232

No but I mean like, it's not as if were married or some shit

Can I just walk out of her life right now and not worry about it?

Child support. The knowledge that there's a kid out there that you abandoned. The knowledge that you're a degenerate.

bumping for much needed /adv/

>>16542187

Bruh,you don't need someone else to make life worthwhile. She's obviously moved on. You should actually give it a try

Anon, I know how you feel. It hurts every day. Eventually I put up a barrier to try to block thinking of her. I know how much you must miss her and how you must wonder what you could've done different, and how you don't want anything more than you want to have her back. But this is a cruel world, anon. I can't stop you from writing her, but I need you to understand what you're doing to yourself. You're reopening a wound, reigniting those feelings full-force if you do this. Any steps you've taken to move on or protect yourself from those feelings of hurt and longing are going to be obliterated the moment you see a message from her. You're opening yourself up to a world of heartache. Please don't do it, anon. You don't deserve to feel this pain anymore.

>>16542151
Death is the end, but its a lot better than never dying, magine existing forever, seeing alll you know die before you and existance becoming so boring and a torture. The best bit is that you wont know youre dead when you're dead

>>16542151

it's okay. everything is just going to be okay. just remember that.

Death IS the end anon.

Don't be sad about what's gone, be happy for what you had. It's gonna be hard no matter what. I wish I was dead, your father is in a better place now

>>16542124
It's possible, but it's going to be a lot of work. I'm going to college right now for music, and one of the best guitarists around started just a few years ago. He had no music background in high school, came to be a singer, but that wasn't working out. He stumbled upon guitar, and fell in love. About four years later, he's now in the top jazz band, and getting his master's in jazz pedagogy. Granted, he spent every waking minute of every hour of every day studying and practicing in some manner, but he's a phenomenal musician. I've played guitar for about 10 years as a side thing, but I can't hold a candle to this guy, he's put that much work into it.

Point is: no, it's not too late. If you want to catch up to the guys around you, you'll have to work harder than them. Much, much, harder. One tip I'll give you is to embrace the monotony of practice. You're going to practice really simple techniques, over, and over, and over, and over, and over again, sometimes for hours on end. There is nothing exciting or magical about practicing, especially when you're taking things at an incredibly slow pace, but you need to have that patience and extended focus to get better.

>>16542124
I started at 18 with a bass and I wish I had more time now and practiced more in the past.

If you have time, go on. Is the best thing in the world, except for reading.

>>16542124

I say start where five year olds start - learn to read music.

Older people tend to try and learn to play by ear, that is why they usually never get anywhere with music.

The things I'm addicted to are: junk food, internet browsing, videogames, porn+hentai. Also I have trouble with going to bed+waking up at healthy hours and doing physical activity.

I've even tried pavlovian methods but it didn't work.

Maybe I just need a little more willpower, but how?

>>16542006
Sounds like two different girls talking in the picture. Normal people don't do 180s like that.

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>>16542006

"All you gotta do is have confidence, work out, have good hygiene, and be yourself and girls will talk to you".

>People actually believe this.

kek

>>16542006
>How do women do it?
Living in fear of being raped helps.

Sadly you were legally their property at that time and because the law dosen't view circumcison as harmful they were fine to do it.

I also feel your pain. I've never confronted my parents about it though.

Just call them unchristian, it does the trick and you'll have your inheritance when they kill themselves.

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>women who decided to give their son a circumcision because it's "cool and hip" like you're a dog being used as a fashion accessory in a handbag on a retards arm rather than being treated like a human fucking being

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

lmao imagine how black the bathtub would then after he steps in it.

I remember you.

There IS something to the hygeine hypothesis (the idea that we've over-sterilized our environment to the point where we can no longer build up our immunity in some important ways). But the hygeine hypothesis has nothing to do with bathing. Your role model's longevity is more likely due to luck than anything else. And I question the idea that he looks 20 years younger: if anything, I would place him as being 10 years older.

tl;dr - Suck it up and take a bath.

>>16541955
Good goyim, yes, stop taking baths and stop wasting water

you change yourself

>>16541937
You fake it until you make it. Ive been faking it for years and noone can tell the difference.

>>16541984
i can

>>16541850
Is she actively telling you that she's stressed to where it seems like she's being open and honest with you or is it a situation where she's obviously trying to ignore you?

>>16541856
There are shades of both, really. She openly tells me how much work she has planned and that's basically a LOT. Then she has a ton of appointments on a regular basis. They're things like business, medical, that kind of thing. She doesn't go too in-depth about them for obvious reasons, but they take up a lot of time.

Occasionally when I hit her up over text, she tells me how she isn't feeling well. This happens especially over the past few days. She gives me single-word responses and generally doesn't give me much to work with. Then I see her in person, the first time in ages, and she barely pays me any mind, instead being all laughs and smiles towards her classmate, asking him to stick around until her next break so she won't have to spend it alone or they can rehearse homework or whatever. I don't know, I was just an outsider.

It bothers me.

>>16541887
Sounds like she may be interested in the other guy at the moment. If that's the case let him have his 5 minutes but be there for her if she needs anything. Eventually she'll adjust.

If she does like him you're kinda being forced to take the back seat for a bit. She'll want to focus on him.

If I'm totally wrong and she has no feelings for him then she may be going through a rough patch at the moment and just spending time with new people to try to distract herself.

Also there's not enough time to lose any dramatic amount of weight (leaving on the 17th)

No one has any advice?

Any thyroid problem?

study in the evenings? find a cheaper room? stop lying? don't worry about bad things in the past too much, look for good positive changes, starting with little things.

>>16541805
>get a roommate
>manipulate/swoon some chick into moving in with you
>fake your death
>get another job

>>16541805
You might give us a little more information. What exactly is your immediate problem?

>>16541793
What, if anything, are you talking about?

Stop, take a deep breath, and try real hard to be coherent.

What is "all of it"? What is "that thing"? What exactly are you so upset about?

"all of it" is like the things that happened at work or locally where people did really bad things that damaged me. But it could always keep going on as it was pretended that it wasn't happening.

I'm sure it did,

it's so sad, that was my life, if it hadn't have happened I wouldn't be like this probably.

for years and years and years I trudged to a building at work where they hacked the hell out of my head all day, then trudged home to a town that was turned against me to a situation where I was being played, gleefully sometimes.

then after I tried to take my life, which was quite a full on experience it carried on. my mates taking the piss, being really horrible,

people turning up outside my home to shout they were going to kill me (they're still here I guess)

then being ferried off 200 miles with people making out I was Ian Huntley and having a really good time of it, then forcing themselves on me in bed then hating me

then trying to get a degree to get out of the situation , re-build things, then getting jumped on at their 'do' (I swear they knew things about me) and then all that hard work through my illness collapsing

uh, I worked so hard for it

and doing these drawings while people were playing me and conspiring to do weird things to me

when I lost my cousin, I couldn't bare it, he died before I could fix it, I screamed and screamed,

then the whole fascist overseas nut job bullshit which was re-enforced by people in my head so I don't even know...

then another year, another year

it's all rubbish throw it away

then not being able to go places because I don't fit in "NOT IN HERE!" you're putting off the customer they don't like it

how many years is that?

I really tried, now I'm in pain every day and none of it worked. another year...

to do it all again


I know it's a long whinge fest but jesus christ that was a bit much, wouldn't you say. Any one would struggle under all that.

So that's nearly two decades

"you seem to have mental health problems" yeah, amazingly

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I drew this handy chart to explain my issue better.

Does bloodletting help?

How about smoking?

>>16541726
Show more if an interest in her. Start a conversation, kiss her, tell her you love her. Just generally suck up.

>>16541738

I do that all the time. In fact she seems to be more talkative and forthcoming when I'm being a moody marvin.

Be decisive and assertive. Women like it when you show them what you want. While at the same time respecting her personal boundaries but they are pretty good at saying no generally, take it with a grain of salt