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>see a psychiatrist
>get on some antipsychotics
>apply for disability (SSI or SSDI, depending on your work history or lack thereof); get a lawyer

Schizophrenia sucks, but it's hardly a death sentence. Most schizophrenics can't work but they can definitely live and have meaningful relationships, and at least hobbies.

The chatroom I go on for mental health has a lot of schizophrenics. Most of them can't work, or can only work a limited amount of the time, but they still do things -- they have hobbies, spouses, children, whatever. Some paint, some are artists, some write, some just play video games all day, but they're alive and somewhat functional and doing their best to live with a disease.

>"If you can paint, why can't you work?"
Because relapse rates are really, really high for schizophrenics who work, due to the increased stress, and painting on occasion is very different from having an actual job.

The fact is, if you can't work, you still need something to fill your day with.

>>16779278
I play Starcraft all day, its not too bad. I'm more talking about a having a relationship with a girl, I've never had one and it is killing me. What kind of delusions do you have? I don't think I have full blown schizophrenia I probably have schitzoaffective disorder.
Ty for your post

>>16779278
Yes like me I live on disability support. I sit at home wishing I was dead with no interest in doing anything anymore except shit-posting on 4chan to piss off the country and the world that won't let me die because I'm not considered mentally fit to make that decision. I live in Canada btw.

Just take a deep breath and hit send really quick.

>>16779257
I know that feel. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Just act like texting her is not a big deal and no matter what she answers you can just pretend the texting didn't happen. Also if she doesn't like it, never say you're sorry for texting her, you'll look more like a man if you don't.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

Context mother fucker.

>how well do you know each other
>are you related
>your ages
>online or irl

Seriously. Fucking all the posts on this board provide no related information

>>16779238
Only if she realize that you are lying, if not, it's all good.

>>16779342
It's the other way around. I caught her in a lie. She hadn't replied to my text in awhile and I saw she was online on Facebook. She claimed her phone was on lock and she left Facebook open, but I went on her account and saw she searched two guys. So I called and asked if she was lying and she kept saying no, told her I saw she searched two guys and she got all pissed off that I went on her account although we both told each other our passwords close to a year ago because we had nothing to hide. I'm under the impression that lying about anything in an LDR is completely shitty since its a relationship built completely on trust and perseverance. I couldn't care less that they were guys, they could have even been females she was searching, but the fact of the matter is she got caught in a lie and claimed otherwise until I had proof.

We haven't talked in two days now and she changed her password.

>>16779238
>>16779389
It's completely unacceptable to lie about anything in a relationship. I would break up with my bf if I found out he was on Facebook and searched up some girls and lied to me about it. Same as you, its not the searching up the opposite sex. It's just the lying. I hate liars so much.

Is this your first time

>>16779237
Of what? I guess.. well I've played with fingers before. IMHO they feel somewhat better but are hard to reach and make for uncomfortable position.

>>16779261
Keep trying
Your body just isn't used to it
When I started it felt like I needed a shit too but it got better

>>16779141
I dunno man, maybe you need to realize there's a million other women out there and realize that maybe she doesn't like you

>>16779154
This. Don't chase her up. If she hasn't replied, that's pretty clear message

>>16779141
She didn't reply and she been online all day? Don't bother with her she's a bitch.

Anything you find on Google would be sufficient. Just pick a language, choose a project and start coding.

What modules are on the course? There's a lot of pieces involved. I guess if you want to get up on the coding side join HackerRank.

Also this https://www.google.co.uk/about/careers/students/guide-to-technical-development.html but it's missing stuff like CPUs, networks etc.

I'm sorry.
I'm feeling better now

>>16779107
This would give her power over you.

The only way she's ever going to have a slight chance to come back is if you stay silent to her and act like you don't care.

Hang in there friend. It gets better. You're at least better off than most others because you can in fact fuck other actual girls.

Its been a year for me. We havnt spoke for 6 months.
I still think about her every day, and it still hurts just as much.
The thought of her fucking her new boyfreind makes me want to vomit, Even though ive been with 5 girls since.
I hate her. But i still love her.
It doesnt get easier.
It wont ever be the same.

Remember this OP.

You probably fucked up in not developing a strong motivation to construct your own satisfying lifestyle. This is very common. It's just that most people enjoy the luxury of social lives to sort of cover up that mistake.

You're 29. There's no reason why you shouldn't have every little detail of your personal life exactly how you like it. You should eat the foods you like, travel to the spots you enjoy, play the games and sports which interest you, etc. 24/7 your life should be "The OP Show." That's the whole point of having the freedom of adulthood.

Now I know that part of your show would include other people, and that's obviously missing right now as per your entire post. But at age 29, no one is going to stick around as a close friend unless you have a really developed life which they can be a part of. No one wants to just exist alongside you. They have their own show, you have yours, and friendship will be about guest appearances. Step up and start dictating the terms of your life. The people will follow closely behind.

I sympathize with your story because I feel like I am heading in your direction. I don't think you "fucked up", as life goes on friends often begin to drift apart, They come and go.

What do you do outside of work? Do you have hobbies or anything that have you going out and attempting to communicate with people outside of work?

Try not to worry to much, it's easy to feel like the rest of your life will be like this but nobody knows when you're going to find your next friend or partner. You could even try online dating if you're looking for someone. But you have to constantly be around other people with similar interests as you if you're to make friends.

>>16779581

I'm not really sure what you mean, honestly?

>>16779584

Most of my hobbies are more or less solo activities (writing/drawing/doing my own little programming projects) although as I said it's like I have no interest in those anymore. I do like to go for long walks in the forest, although that's not really something you meet people at. I'm not really sure what kind of activity or anything you can go to that wouldn't be weird just showing up alone by yourself.

I've never really needed a lot of friends - there have been points in my life where I only had maybe 2 or 3. It's just that having none at all is driving me out of it.

Right now dating is completely out of the question for me. I don't feel nearly stable enough at all for that kind thing.

putting out helps, to be honest

>>16779020
Make time or study together?

>>16778988
Not every relationship is a winner.

Keep at it until you find someone you love and lover you back.

Sounds like you may have an annoying trait that is not obvious right off the bat. But don't stress about it. Good relationship are build by people who are oblivious to their lovers annoying traits. Just keep at it.

dude, people are embroiled in their own lives. What they do is not usually about you. I wouldn't have any reason to doubt what she's telling you, both that she likes you and that she's not in a place for a relationship.

>which is basically code for

this is the phrase that should scream "the following statement is a massive projection of my own insecurities!"

>>16779027
you can't tell me you've never been on the receiving end of a hidden message like that. People do it all the time. They claim they do it to protect the feelings of the person they're saying it to, but in reality they just want to protect themselves from the backlash of being honest while technically accomplishing the same goal.

Anyone?

Why (are you being sent)

>>16778968
>>16779119
okay i guess OP's making coffee or taking a dump or something. i had 2 psych evals.

first one
> i'm from mid EU
> every man, after he turns 18, has to do 9 months of civilian service or 6 months of military service
> before that there's a physical exam and a psych eval
Psych eval was two parts; first you sit in a room, everyone's got a PC, there's questions, you answer. I literally just mashed the buttons (i was a rascal in my teens). Later there was a 2 minute segment where we talked our answers through with a psycholologist. I passed, I even scored higher on intelligence than most of the others (mind you i geniunely just mashed those buttons i have no idea how they score this shit).

second one
> be me, still
> doing my drivers licence
> fail the theoretical part 3 times (that must make me sound thick as fuck but i really just hate memorizing stuff, and i never drove before nor had much interest in cars and whatnot so i hadnt had much previous exposure to uh, the laws of the road, i guess)
So after that happened they made me do a psych eval to see if I was mentally challenged or something. I told him I just didnt study and he was like yeah okay just fuck off. That was it.

tl;dr - Psych evals are usually used by institutions processing a LARGE amount of customers / clients / applicants to check for and weed out mentally challenged people and dangerous nutjobs. They don't care if you are a grimdark sperg who wants to fistfuck his stepmom as long as you can shut up, say yes/no/thank you and do any extraordinarily stupid shit like walking into the psych eval with concealed firearms on your person or a "9/11 was an inside job" t-shirt.

>>16779199
>and do any extraordinarily stupid shit
*i meant "don't do", of course

>>16778951
>fine with my ego
define ego

>>16778974
Selfsteem

>>16778986
so, you realized that all you do is driven by making you feel good about yourself? yeah, that's normal and healthy