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>>16780684
This is no small task. You'll need someone to keep you from relapsing, to see you through the withdrawal.
You can also alienate yourself from the people and places that enable your drug habit.

I was a meth addict for two years. I also did heroin regularly for a couple of months in those dark days.

I haven't done those in 5 years and the last hardest drug was ecstasy, and that was 6 months ago. I only smoke weed and drink beer occasionally( twice a week or less).

I also quit cigarettes and havent had one in 6 months (relapsed when rolling).

I dunno man. It certainly wasnt from having a strong will that I quit and being open minded and impulsive doesnt help.

I would say two things happened that turned my habits around: growing up and goals.

I took upon myself two goals: MMA training and getting a degree ( in chemistry). I realized that my partying habits were not conducive to a healthy life and it wasnt fun anymore. Those bad habits conflicted with the person I wanted to be and so I slowly got rid of those habits. If I relapsed, I tried again. I realized that my life didnt have much meaning partying all the time. I wanted to grow up and change. Change is possible. Have "faith" that you are capapble of change. Fuck, I'm just a normal guy with flaws and I changed completely to a guy with flaws still, but with goals and accomplisments under my belt.Best of luck.

i have been alcohol free for over 5 years. i drank daily for 5 years before that.

having a friend or a support network that isnt also drug addicts helps. sometimes AA/NA can help people but I personally do not recommend these things.

here is what I did:
to quit, i had to come to the conclusion that I wanted to quit. i had tried before but it was only when I wanted to quit solely for myself that it "stuck"

what I mean by this is you cant be doing it for someone else. none of this "my gf hates it when i drink so i dont!" bullshit. you need to need it for YOURSELF. for me, there is no "higher power" or anything. I am the ultimate thing in charge of myself, and until I truly wanted to better myself and really understood WHY i had to quit drinking it was just not possible for me otherwise. if this doesn't make sense to you, i recommend meditating on it, or just thinking about it, or whatever you gotta do.

i don't know exactly how to describe it, because it really didn't "click" with me until I reached some sort of higher understanding of myself and what I needed to do, for ME. real personal growth comes from within. i'm not a spiritual person at all, and I don't believe there is necessarily a spiritual component to this, but I will say that people who are spiritual might have a better idea of what I'm trying to convey even though I'm so bad at explaining it.

I will say that if you're doing anything about it, even posting here about it, that's a good sign. it means that you cared enough to ask for help and that if you did this completely of your own volition and weren't compelled into thoughts about quitting by another person or told you needed to ask someone, that's a good sign that personal growth is truly possible for you. i'll check this thread again later if you want to ask me any more questions and hopefully I can help. best of luck anon!

>>16780656
If it's friends you want, they're everywhere. Go where you see opportunity. Friends will come if you at least make an effort, not just sit in the back waiting for someone to talk to you.

>>16780656

Making friends gets harder as you get older. It's hard to avoid making friends in high school since you have so much time spent around people your age with whom you have much in common. Now you've got to actually make an effort to find people and connect with them. Try joining clubs, starting a sport, or otherwise doing something that involves being around people.

>>16780677
My CC has no clubs. Like actualy none.

I don't know any girl who'd actually want to receive something that big.

Just search on Amazon, anything above $40 with lots of good reviews should be what you're looking for

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>>16780664
>tfw am grill and would love a giant teddy
I'd cuddle with it all day and be the happiest bean.

OP, try this:
http://www.giantteddy.com/valentines-day-teddy-bears/
Or amazon. I dunno, you have a lot of options.
I think the panda is really cute.

>girl treats me like shit
>what do.
WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK?
Look, if someone is the kind of person to treat the people they supposedly love like shit even sometimes, that is not the kind of person you want to be with long term. That's bad character, that will never get better without self recognition and hard work.

If you're already in this deep with your other girl, you've already checked out.. Fuck it. Are you willing to tell your girlfriend she needs to change and sit there and see if she will even try. Fuck it..

>Tells people I beat her and I never even raised my voice to her.

If that's true she's either insane or sociopathic.

>>16780642
Leave her ASAP. Don't be such a spineless tool in the future.

>>16780637

Arrange to meet ASAP. Either coffee shop or bar or if they really seem thirsty and trusting your place or theirs. The more you talk without meeting the more likely they are to get bored.

>>16780637
Well, in order to keep a convo going, you gotta have some sort of depth or experience you can talk/use.

m8, if it's hookups, you do just that, hook up. Make a date and before you know it you're fucking the shit out of them and you didn't even finish your coffee

schizopenomia

Its driving me nuts and I dont know what to do.

>>16780568
Either take him to a psychiatrist or remove the energy burglars from your basement.

>>16780556
Nothing. Its not like you can be addicted to weed, so just go with out.

>>16780556
Abandon weed. It's a shitty, expensive habit anyway.

>>16780556
Holla @ me famalam if you wanna.

tiny bump

>>16780523
Is this band a fun thing for you or are you serious about it? If it's just for fun then go for it. If you're all serious about the band then I honestly can't tell you, man.

>>16780717
Thanks for the reply, I don't know, I wouldn't be against it although she is also like 5-6 years older than me. This is all just kinda speculation too, I can feel myself swooning, but no real feelings yet.

I don't really want to jeopardize the band, however I know what happens when I bottle it up and try to ignore it.

>>16780522
Start dickn other girlz

"I think about all the dicks." - OP

>>16780526
Pretty much
Just because you don't get pussy doesn't mean you should try to shame her if she's respectful to you

I have no answer, I just wanted to say how happy it made me to see my favourite game on /adv/. I will never get over how underrated it is.

>>16780488

Try /diy/, this board is for sad virgins and girls with shitty boyfriends.

>>16780497
In what way is it "underrated"? Everyone who knows about it praises it.

That said, enjoy your strong independant woman simulator 2016: Catalyst, looks like they completely missed why people liked the first one so much.

>>16780477

Well, since you've been so generous with context, I will be as well with an elaborate answer: talk on the phone to them for 15 minutes.

>>16780477
Get sidetracked from the main conversation with trivial topics and frivolities.

Yes, by all means call me. It's not the only information you've got your filthy hands on without permission. Fuck off! Find another victim.

>Grow a beard.
>Train yourself to live in the woods
>Become ripped
>Drink
>Just fuck the language and mumble everything
Your specialty and strength>Communication

>>16780445
Unless you're a native German speaker, that's good enough.

>>16780431

Leave them alone.

>>16780458

They won't leave me alone.

My dad thinks I'm mean for hanging up on them.

I don't wanna be a fuckin Mormon though

That depends. I assume that cute Mormon missionary girls are not a problem in and of themselves. So what is the problem you have with them?

>what is really the importance of compatibility? I can understand why it's of importance, especially during a long term, but are there any reasons that it wouldn't matter?
It wouldn't matter in cases of casual sex or FWB. An actual relationship isn't going to last long. Think of your friendships - how many of your long term friends would you say have drastically different views and values from you? Very few, if any, I'm willing to bed. It's the same thing in relationships - if you want it to last, being compatible is very important, otherwise points of disagreement will turn into fights and unhappiness

>Also I'm asking what to expect from a relationship
We really can't tell you, it really does depend on the people involved. I know people who have been together from your age for years, and I know people who have lasted mere days before breaking up. It might be great, it might not - we don't know.

>>16780425

What a relationship will feel like depends enormously on who you are and with whom you are dating. It should feel good, though. You should feel better with that person than alone. When they call you should feel some excitement to speak with them and hear what they have to say. You should look forward to seeing them. If you listen to and respect your own feelings you'll be fine.

Compatibility is critical for long-term stability, though it matters less for short-term relationships. Don't feel any pressure to focus on the long-term right now, you're young and still figuring yourself out. Your values at age 25 may be completely different than age 18. This is why so many young people get divorced: you change a *lot* from 18-25.

Statistically it matters a lot whether you respect your partner and share key values like religious and political alignments. Attractiveness is not correlated with long-term satisfaction in relationships. Anyway, good luck.

Honesty.
Loyalty.
Communication.
Trust.
Respect.
Companionship.

That's about it I think.

It means that the fillings need to be adjusted. Very common when you have that many done at the same time. There's no way you can tell at that time whether they are right due to all the numbness and trauma in 3 spots at once.

I had the same problem, sort of.

I have two cavities on either side of my mouth that were fixed when I was a kid. They started hurting out of nowhere, but only with certain foods. First it was one side, then it was the other. I had assumed it was because the fillings were damaged or fell out or something.

When I went to the dentist they said everything was a-ok and that I just had sensitive teeth. They told me to use a particular toothpaste every day and to come back in 4 months to see if its gotten better. One side has gotten better. The other still hurts but its better.

>>16780433

How do I tell where they need to be adjusted- or does the dentist do that? They definitely don't meet like they used to, but I can't really figure out by feel exactly where. I've been avoiding chewing back there, but it's like any pressure at all on those spots sends off twinges.