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If they're irrelevant to our daily lives, we just don't talk about them. Otherwise I think about how much it matters and break up if it's a big problem.

>>16777399
if you liked them before the dispute, chances are its not a huge difference in worldviews. However, you can still have the discussion as long as they are the kind of person who can handle debate. Otherwise its really just your own judgement call on if its worth the relationship and if you dont think they will change views.

>>16777399

It really shouldn't matter enough to ruin a relationship. You judge people by their actions, not their opinions, you'll find there are a lot of perfectly good people out there whose beliefs are very different from yours. And as you mentioned before, beliefs can change, a person's general nature and values and attitudes towards the relationship are much more important than what they have to say about today's current events.

Though these issues are weighty, you have to admit that most of our individual contributions are not. You're basically ruining a relationship over one individual vote. That's like dumping someone just because they really love Coldplay and you think Coldplay sucks. You might be able to convince yourself that you were right about Coldplay, but you're still alone

i dont think you know how many people are into BDSM and female domination lmao.

>>16777729
This, and >>16777396
Because you choose to, you can choose not to beat it to porn and not to distance yourself from women.

>>16777396
At least you don't want to be a girl

Why the fuck did you even call back

Dude you need to learn when you're getting played. She called because she's trying to fuck with you to feel better about herself. Jesus Christ.

>>16777401
She didn't even pick up so it doesn't matter, Its not like I'm sitting here trying to contact here over and over. She hasn't even tried talking to me since.

If she is trying to play me to feel better, for what fucking purpose? She never behaved like that before.

>>16777413
>She didn't even pick up so it doesn't matter
No, it does. You don't get to just wave it off like some Jedi mind trick. I know you did something stupid and I'm calling you out on it.

>for what fucking purpose?
>to feel better
I don't think you're even listening to yourself. I guess there's no hope that you'll hear me either.

I'm leaving this to warn other anons away from wasting their time. They're not going to tell you anything different anyway.

Sure.

>>16777387
Is it an older model? Newer model? Unplugging it and plugging it back in certainly wouldn't hurt.

Fuck that dryer. You should take a sledgemahher to it.

>>16777377

no, sorry

come back when you want advice

>>16777345
Have you checked up your butthole to see if the posts are there?

Last time I was looking for a post, I found it up my ass.

their it is...thanx guys

What's abusive in the relationship?

>>16777332
Basically has alienated her from all her friends, making her feel worthless, useless, inferior etc etc... the usual sort of stuff when you hear about this kind of thing... there was a couple of incidents where it got physical but not really bad as far as im aware... Im at a complete loss as to how to help because Ive never really encounteered this kind of situation before

I doubt it's illegal since fake accounts pop up pretty regularly, but it's pretty fucking weird dude.

i just want to have a internet persona pretend i live somewear els and am somebody els not person that exist either

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>>16777297
He's probably got some serious issues going on right now. I'd say that you should find a way to figure out what's wrong and try to help him or just give it time.

>>16777315

It's been about a year. He does have issues - he's raising his girlfriend's kid from another guy, and she broke up with him years prior.

He loves the kid now, but he's stuck, there's no escaping. I'd love to help, but he won't talk to me. A year seems like a lot of time to get things right, though.

Our friends say he's just projecting onto me because I'm free and happy, and he has all of these issues... but still, I wish I could be his buddy.

>>16777287
Sometimes you can't help how you feel. Don't lead the other guy on and tell him you're not ready to date so that guy can go meet someone who can give them 100%.

>>16777287
Relationships are drug addiction.
The love chemicals and hormones are like heroine, and when you break up you have withdrawals. Thats why you can be so fed up with someone youre used to and comfortable with, but once you leave suddenly they're the only thing you ever needed (Hung up)

Everything above is actual science..

Truth be told, sleeping with someone else is almost an instant cure, and dating someone new really helps a lot.. because theyre essentially going to signal your brain to continue the release (Plus a lot of better stuff that comes with new love).

What Im saying is if you do date him, you wont be hung up on your ex much longer at all..

The only foreseeable problem is this guy may not be as great as you think, you're not exactly thinking straight right now...

>>16777293
so you're saying I should date him or just have sex with someone?

>>16777290
that makes sense I suppose

>>16777256
You don't. You threw away your last shot at gaining social relationships before entering the long, slow, lonely decay towards death known as adulthood.

>>16777269
People make plenty of friends in adulthood, You need to get out of your house though.

You know when people always say find a hobby and go out and meet people with the similar hobby? Yea that's how you make friends and be social and normal.

>>16777256
Why don't you stop being a faggot?

>>16777234
She sounds like she just wants dick. Nothing wrong with that. She's probably younger, thinks love and like are interchangeable. She just wants dick.

Her saying 'I love you' isn't a 'big red flag' you idiot. It's just what people say when they're thankful for something, like 'omg thank you I love you you're the best!!!!' She doesn't actually mean it. Not a red flag. Pay more attention to the way girls talk to each other.

Wait until she messages you again before trying to start another conversation.

Explain that when you got high with her, you had a small panic attack buy everything's all g now and you'd like to chill with her again.

>>16777230
No, I was the same way, I pined over a girl who basically shit on me (she was my first gf at age 21). And I was crazy for her for a long while, it wasn't worth it. She was shit, just focus on being a good man.

Yup cliche as fuck but the only thing that really helps with this shit is time

>>16777604
It's already been a fucking year, and it was better for a few months but it just got worse.

>>16777195
You kinda sound like a big jerk. Try talking to girls like you would talk to someone you actually give a shit about.

Or, like you think they might like, and fake it till you make it.

>>16777228
That's exactly what I do. I'm not being a jerk to these girls in any way, its like they've been tainted by getting hit up for nudes one too many times or something, and are super defensive, making it hard to talk to them without feeling like you're walking on eggshells.

>>16777239
In what way are they defensive? What questions are you asking that could be worded to even provoke a defensive response?

Post some convos or something, that doesn't make sense.

You can't dig half a hole, you can't have half a sibling. They're either your sibling or not, you either consider them family or not.

My mother is batshit insane. She's the only mother I have and I feel terrible for her general situation and blah blah blah, but for some bizarre reason instead of getting psychological help for her situation and recognising that she is in a bad place, she has turned to woo-woo spirituality and some kind of weird self-imposed martyrdom. It is causing real tension between her and the rest of the family members because she disrespects other family members and treats them rudely for not following the same viewpoint to life that she does.

My family is super fucked up right to the core and I kind of resent everyone.

Mom - Is dating a dude who beats her but won't leave, angrily denies that he ever hit her but we all know. When she tried to leave him once, he choked her to submission.

Stepmom - When she heard the above story, asked "Well hard did he choke her though" as if there's an acceptable level of being choked by your boyfriend. Awful person. Just the worst.

Dad - So whipped by my stepmom that when I really needed a place to crash (long story) and had nowhere to live, he said I couldn't stay at his place. Because stepmom wouldn't like it. If my sister hadn't stepped in, I would have been super fucked or in deep debt to a hotel or something. Also, he had a heart attack and almost died last year but he still won't stop eating the fried chicken.

Sister - Has acted cold and hostile ever since my dad was in the hospital and my work wouldn't give me time off to go see him. She probably thinks I didn't care even though I've yelled that it wasn't my fault to her about it a million times.

>>16777162
What about never even knowing of the sibling's existence until you're both young adults?
Half sibling as in one parent in common. Parents didn't keep in contact. I can't say they're siblings in the same way as the ones I grew up with. They're just people I talked to recently. Online only even. They are family, they are strangers, they are blood relatives to me.

And for you example of how I meant half siblings, you CAN did half a hole. If the hole is planned to be 4 feet deep and one person dug two, other dug 2 feet. Both dug half a hole.

Sucks about your mom. Never been diagnosed with anything? My mom would certainly need counseling. But she believes in Jesus and as long as she does, nothing she does matters because just saying "lol oopsie Jesus sry :(" makes everything she does perfect and godly. Everyone else is at fault. She'd overdraw on her card, then say it was dads fault for not sending enough money. Made tons of long distance calls, dad broke her phone by throwing through a wall.