I rode the zipper at the carnival in my hometown and since then I've felt a pain in my eye. I thought it was a rock lodged in there but its been 12 hours since and it still hurts. I'm pretty sure its a scratch on my eye and will be going to the hospital when it opens tomorrow morning.
Is there anything I can do to help my eye?
>>16777895
Keep it closed or a make a makeshift eye patch.
you do realize emergency rooms are 24 hours right?
you think people don't get sick or wounded in the middle of the night?
>>16777909
just suspected I might have a scratch and I'm waiting to get sober before I drive over there
I don't know if I should wait for a relationship/someone I actually care about or just fuck some random girl
>How important is it who your first fuck is with
not at all, sex is way more fun when you're experienced at it and the only way to get there is to do it
Sex is better with someone you feel an emotional connection too.
That said pop your cherry however the fuck you want.
I'd recommend at least going on a date with a one night stand tho. And not just picking up some chick at bar and fucking her that night.
I lost mine to a girl I figured would be a one-off then ended up dating for two years until this day.
Treat is all as experience and if you like the girl try keep her around.
For almost four years I’ve been in a relationship I’m not happy with. It all started because this girl, let’s call her X, (who is actually a great person, caring, very intelligent and supportive) was left alone and had nobody to help her and I felt I had to lend her a hand. She had told me she liked me before and I had said we could be friends, but I went to her and told her we should get together. We’ve had some fun times but at heart I’ve always felt unhappy and always looking for a way out, which I never found since things got worse and I’ve helped her trough a lot of things, and so, four years flew by. I’ve had a few chances to get with other girls, but I swear I’ve never actually cheated, not even hinted the possibility I might be interested in something beyond friendship with any other woman, I felt I owed loyalty to X and couldn’t do that to her even if I really wanted to be by myself. That was however, before I met this one girl whom I’ll call Y.
Y is an extremely sweet and sensitive girl I “met” through mutual friends last June, I say “met” because we had actually seen each other sometimes over…Jesus, 8 years I think, but never really talked. I always thought she was very pretty but for some reason thought she didn’t like me. We started talking a lot over Facebook and before I knew it we communicated most of the time we were awake and the conversation always flowed, we trusted a lot in each other and generally had a great time. Soon I started to develop real feelings for her and she reciprocated but we never really talked about it even if we were both practically shouting it through our actions.
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>>16777877
Then it all came down in the last few days, for the first time we went out together and it was awesome, we clicked in a way I had never done so with anyone else, we did all those little silly things teenagers do, you know, getting touchy with each other’s hair, laughing a lot and being too awkward to even give each other a hug, but plenty of physical contact, I don’t know, I just felt so alive, like I hadn’t in nearly a decade. Since that day things escalated to the point we couldn’t deny we wanted to be together and she told me yesterday how she felt, I could only reply I felt the same way and after a few more awkward lines she asked me to not to talk about it anymore. We haven’t spoken in roughly a day since. I’m afraid I hurt her, I can’t know for sure since I think I should give her some breathing room but I fucking hate to think I made her cry.
She doesn’t know the reason I’ve been with X for so long, but I really want to be with her, but I don’t think she would just accept me switching girlfriends, moreover, I’m pretty sure she couldn’t stand to think she destroyed a relationship, I can’t see a way out of this, I really want to be with Y, she’s literally the only thing that’s been on my mind for days, but I don’t know how to break-up with X without destroying her. I know there's no way I can come off as the good guy here, but I don't want to lose my friendship with Y or drift apart from her and I really don't want her to suffer over this, so what should I do? Should I just forget it all and continue with X? Break up and pray Y somehow accepts me? Sorry for the rant but I really had to get it out and thanks a lot in advance, anons.
Tl;dr
I’ve been 4 years with a girl out of a perceived moral obligation and now there’s a new girl I really like but I fear it’s all going to shit.
Its going to shit because youre cheating on someone. When you two started showing interest in each other you needed to break it of with the first girl. Now you fucked yourself out of two relationships.
>>16777888
If you want to try to salvage one of them I suggest using logic. You have a faithful girl for four years that adores you. You can keep that and forget about the savior role you put yourself into or risk what you have on an unknown.
What do about severe anxiety?
>>16777869
See a physician. I got perscribed atenolol, and it's great. I don't get the "flight or fight" reflex more often.
>>16777897
This end thread. Also if poorfag try st johns wort.
>>16777897
>atenolol
do you take on a schedule or as needed?
I'm a gay male grad student and there's a really cute undergrad (pic unrelated) in a mixed grad/undergrad course I'm taking. I'm not certain that he's gay/bi but I think he might be. We talk every day before class.
I really want to go out with him but I'm nervous that he won't be gay/bi and I'm nervous about the ensuing awkwardness if he isn't interested. I've never actually asked someone out except online, which was also the only date I had (along with two more with the same guy after). I mainly am just totally inexperienced and feel like I child and don't know what to do. If I should ask him out, I have no idea how to do so or to let him know that I'm interested.
Any advice?
Not sure because I've never been in your shoes, but if I was, I'd hang out with him outside of class. Get to know him better. Easy to find out if he's open to dating guys. Plus you'll be closer to him. Two birds.
>>16777779
This quit being a faggot and ask that young lad out.
Does he know you're gay?
Like >>16777779 said, your best bet at this stage is just to get to know each other as friends. If you can establish that you enjoy each other's company and he's willing to intentionally spend time with you, you've at least got a chance, and if he's got a girlfriend or something it'll probably come up in conversation.
how do you tell you family that you probably have depression? I have taken many online tests to see if i have it and it is most likely i have minor depression.
>>16777735
Have you gone to a doctor yet? It might be best to do that and they could probably give you advice on how to break it to your parents.
I think you should consult a doctor first though, taking an online test is not that reliable
>>16777752
This desu ask your parents to see a therapist.
>>16777752
doctors are a while away, and i cant drive. so my parents will have to take me. and i dont want to do that.
>26
>Got my masters in health administration, already make $75k/year
>Have my own house, car all that good stuff
So I've only been here at this job for a year, and my pay is already due to increase quite significantly because of the field I'm in, I'm basically on starting salary where I work currently. Now my GF left me recently, and got with some wage slave swagfaggot "I'm on my workflowwww" kid that works at taco bell. Within a week she came back crawling, and I promptly told her to fuck off.
Now she is telling anybody that will listen that I kicked her out of my house without warning, and that I'm some kind of oppressive devil, and it was my fault we broke up. Sad thing is, people actually believe her, and some have turned on me on social media. I'm about to delete all social media, except for my work related stuff, but before I do that, I was wondering if I should try to defuse the situation, or just bail? People really seem to have their pitchforks and torches out already and are dead set against me, so I don't know if I should bother or not.
Also, girls instantly start trying to tie me down when they find out what I do for work, how do I find women who aren't blatant gold diggers?
Don't respond at all. Let it blow over.
And don't delete your social media it makes you look guilty.
Well, unless it somehow overflows into your work stuff.
>>16777702
Hmm. Okay.
And currently it is not overflowing into work stuff, I was just afraid it would.
I'm bad with girls 18yo virgin.
Too stupid to be successful , too smart to be happy.
Decent with math and basic lvl of c++ but I don't think I got what it takes to push forward.
An outsider , I feel like I don't belong anywhere . Shall I try to give a shallow meaning to my life or accept that there's none ? I feel more depressed with every day that passes , I got 4 more months till I'll finish high school and I honestly don't know what to do next.
And as a last note I also live in a poor european country , so the chances of me studying abroad are very low.
>>16777651
Get a job and save up to go study abroad or just go somewhere else to make a living. Give yourself the meaning to life, or go see a therapist first. Decide what you really want to do and if what you want to do is live a happy life, work towards it. Make goals
European girls are sluts bro once you get a good job and some money they are going to fuck believe me bro
>>16777651
>18yo virgin
That is normal
>18yo student who isn't a professional-grade programmer yet
That is also normal
>18yo who is questioning the meaning of life and feels depressed
Still completely normal
>18yo who is uncertain and worried about his future
Normal. You're fine, dude. You are every other 18-24 year-old guy, except for the happy, lucky idiots who just don't think about any of this stuff
I'm going to be transferring to a college an hour and a half away from my hometown to live with friends and continue pursuing my major. And to get out of my neighborhood a bit.
The only idea that fucks with me is that if something goes wrong, for whatever reason and I feel miserable, I can't just head home like I can living in my hometown. I'm worried about being homesick, and just overall lacking the conveniences of living at home. I honestly didn't think the idea of it would hit me this hard, but it has, and I'm stressing about it, and it's fucking hard with my anxiety. I'm guessing this is normal to stress about, but I'm one of those people that if I can't back into my "safety" corner, then I start to freak out. Am I really worrying about nothing?
>>16777628
Yes, it is a rather normal thing to worry about.
Moving, getting fired, and divorce are supposed to be the three most stressful things a person can go through.
But once you actually do move, it'll all be much easier. After a few days, you'll let your guard down in your new place. After a couple weeks, it'll feel like home.
And you'll always be able to call your family and old friends and even spend a weekend or two each month back at home. An hour and a half really isn't that far.
>>16777628
You've been given a blessing my friend. Enjoy it. I'm living at home at 21, and I'll likely be 23-24 before that can realistically change and I'm sick of it. Don't be like me.
I'm 24, male. I have trust issues.
I've never asked a girl out, but I've been asked out several times. I've declined most. I had a "relationship" that lasted a month before I broke it off. It's not just girls either, I generally have trouble trusting anybody. Relatives, friends (whatever's left of them), any strangers I just happen to meet. It's not like I'm always thinking everybody is out to get me, it's definitely not that. I just don't feel like people are being genuine with me. I'm too cynical.
Is there a way to fix this or at least make it less socially destructive?
What exactly will they get from you?
>>16777643
My trust.
>>16777608
Even if you don't trust people you can still interact with them.. If you expect them to break your trust when they actually prove you wrong you'll begin to build up trust with them.
Let me start this off by saying I love my sister..but sometimes I get mad. Me and my sister will get into arguments and she will say something that really strikes a nerve and I get physical with her. I don't mean it and I try to promise myself I won't do it again but I do. One strange thing is when she cries it makes me furoius at her ,I want to hit her I don't know why honestly . She still thinks of me as her babay brother so she doesn't tell anyone but I don't know what to do.
>>16777556
You know who hits their family? Autists and trailer trash.
See a therapist. These kinds of anger problems mean you need therapy, especially if you want to be the kind of person who doesn't hit people when they get upset.
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Don't do it. Since she's family, it would actually count as domestic violence instead of regular assault. DV charges will affect you forever. Remember that.
Need to sleep but roommates are loud as fuck. The rent is cheap so I don't want to move out (I'm a college student btw, the school year gonna end and I will find a new house with new roommates). Any comfy ear plug or something to block the noise so I can sleep/study?
>>16777533
Noise cancelling earphones and play some ambient noises
>>16777533
I've taken to using earplugs almost nightly for at least the last year or so. They're a godsend. The hospital variety are best - steal them from there. Just cut yourself or something so you have a reason to be admitted.
>>16777533
Buy the cheapest kind in a drugstore. If they don't work, try another cheap brand. They're not all the same, but there's not a whole lot of difference.
(19, m), interested in anal play for awhile. Only problem is that i feel that Im causing internal trauma from it. It used to go fine, but now literally every time I try to use a toy, or something similar, I begin to bleed heavily, but only for a few minutes. Pic is of one of those theme park plastic bottles that I lubed up. After four thrusts and NO pain, i pull it out and see this. This isn't just for non-dick shaped objects. Anything besides pooping does this. Should I simply ignore my fetish?
>>16777510
ANALY BLUDGEONED (GONE SEXUAL) IN THE HOOD 2K16
you should go to the fucking doctor asap. Bleeding out of your ass is not normal so you definitely did something, you could get serious infection so gtfo to the doctor, tell him exactly what happened, they get similar stuff so don't worry. Many people fuck up when they masturbate. If you still think this would be awkward then know that bleeding is not awkward at all it's pretty serious thing, going to the doc with "lost" dildo is awkward and it fucking happens more often than you think.
>>16777510
Jesus fucking Christ you're not supposed to stick plastic bottles and shit up your ass. That is disturbing as fuck. What the fuck is wrong with you, this is like cutting your wrists or something. If you like anal play, get yourself a proper dildo or butt-plug and put a condom on it. You can order that shit on Amazon if you're too chicken to go to a sex shop. Why the fuck are you doing crazy shit like this to yourself?
It said this post was too long so im going to finish it in the response below.
I was bestfriends with this girl for about two years and she introduced me to this guy. Eventually him and I started dating and things were perfect. A few months into my relationship with him, I ended up cutting off my friend due to a lot of bs drama that I didnt feel like dealing with. About two weeks later, i was on his laptop and of course, out of curiosity, i started snooping. I came across a bunch of folders, those of which were titled with girls' names and filled with pictures of girls I knew. Girls who harassed me, my friends, including my now ex bestfriend. I felt awful and it took a hit on my self esteem as I was having sex with him 5 times a day and that didnt seem to fulfill him. I cried about it to him so often and begged him to understand me and to just delete them but he refused and was so adimant about keeping them, calling me stupid and saying im overreacting because "every guy does this." I stayed for about a year, i know im kind of stupid, until i went back on again to see that he added at least 200 new pictures of girls, including his exes. I knew it was time to dump his ass, and it was then where he finally deleted all of the pictures and changed for the better. But i think its too late because i'm so jaded and resentful toward him now. I finally then reconnected with my bestfriend, but its hard because im so close to both of them but i try my hardest to keep them away from eachother. When i look at her i sometimes have to try hard to not imagine him jerking off to her. It amplifies my insecurities in bed, even to this day.
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I know some of you may think i'm overreacting but just keep in mind that I was naive and had never had a clue that guys did this. It still eats at me a lot and now I really question whether i should be with him or not. I feel like it really fucked me up, like I wont trust a guy around any woman ever again. I know he never actually pursued them, but i cant help but think that by fantasizing SO much about other people and having SO many pictures of them, that has to equate to some type of desire. Its extremely hard for me to stomach. Please, anyone, give me your insight and experiences.
>>16777454
It's not normal for guys to do that. We usually have folders of porn starts or type of porn, but not for individual girls we know.
You made the right choice.
Picture related. I'm taking a shit and she is still sleeping.
The girl made her choice it seems, so congrats.
if they're true bros, they'll back off.
>>16777450
Tell them you're dating, FFS it's not hard. She flirted with you, you asked her out. No problem.
>>16777450
Get your dick fixed, tell your bros you're going out. This shit is not complicated.