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Hey /adv/
Been having a period that has lasted 16 days now and it doesn't seem to want to stop. There's no pain anymore and the bleeding is not heavy either but it's still there. I also found some white dried up stuff on both of my nipples. First thing I thought was that I might be pregnant so I took a test but it came back negative. I'm going to the doctor on Monday but does anyone have an idea of what could be causing this?
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>>16777123
your uterus probably.
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Are you using an IUD?
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>>16777128
No I just take the pill.
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girl texts me
>hey i havent seen you in forever!
yeah haha its been a while
>so when are we chillen
how about this weekend
>ok cool what time?
sometime after 9
>ok ill talk to you then
now
>hey you still wanna chill?
yeah i just got off work
>ok whens the latest you can chill
whenever before 3am lol
>ok wanna come over to my place later
yeah sounds good
>what are we gunna do?
like oh my god why do the men have to decide every thing
what entertaining thing are we going to do for a few minutes before i make a move on her
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Oh nooooo oh gooooosh it must be such a burden to have a girl proactively reach out to you and your wiener.
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You know she has other options, right? Other options who are willing to come up with plans with her. You want her, you make plans.
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>>16777100
Just say "we'll wing it". She's inviting you over to her place, she wants to bone. Bring some wine if you have any.
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Hello,
I guess I am concerned. Lately I have been isolating myself from the world. Close friends have started to notice and I am apparently worrying them. I have been noticing behavioral changes in myself also.
I am not unhappy. I think I feel fine. Lately life just seems to loud and fast, I just want it to slow down. What should I do if I keep feeling this way? Should I see a therapist? I do have a history of depression and my insomnia is kicking in. The only sign of depression I am currently experiencing is loss of interest. May I please have some thoughts on this?
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>>16777088
ask your close friends that are worried and know you and are worried about you?
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>>16777088
or go on vacation
Been in relationship with boyfriend for almost 3 years
Been both the happiest and most terrifying time of my life.
He's a loving person who accepts me for who I am and loves spending time together.
But, has a short temper, is prone to aggresive outbursts and sometimes can't measure his own strenght.
Today I was at his place, I was in my phone when he signals me to come sit next to him in a playful way. I stand up and go next to him.
Before I can sit he jokingly pulls me from my arm to sit down.
Like I said, sometimes he can't measure his own strenght, plus I'm a weakling, so I let out a cry of pain because it hurt.
He then says he didn't pull that hard. I get angry because he often justifies instead of apologise, and then tell him its not up to him to say if it was painful or not and ask for an apology.
He apologizes begrudginly which I resent and go quiet.
Time passes and he tries to talk about what happened; again stating he didnt't mean to and it wasn't that painful.
Lose it and tell him how upset it makes me that he does the same justifications for similar situations instead of just apologizing.
Argument escalates and he gets furious punching the area around where I'm sitting as hard as he can.
I curl up and start crying because it scared me to death.
He stops but I remain in a curled up position hoping he'll calm down.
Then, he starts demanding a response from me about the same argument. Since I'm too scared to do anything he starts shouting and cussing at me for not replying to him.
Cry uncontrollably, too afraid to even move.
Time passes he cools down and apologizes, because I don't want to start another argument I accept his apology.
Although, I'm afraid I tell him I don't want to be in a relationship with him.
He starts crying and tries to hold me asking me to think about it and then reminds me how he's forgiven me for bad stuff too I did in the past.
I was about to walk away but didn't... I'm not even sure why...
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>>16776991
You're turned on by the fact that he doesn't care that much about you, that signals that he can get other women, which again turns you on.
No bigger way of saying "idgaf about you" by hitting someone. Same reason Rihanna hasn't dated anyone since Chris Brown whopped the piss out of her, no one can compare to the alpha male who has no qualms about hitting someone.
tl;dr Biology, you get turned on knowing he doesn't give a fuck about you.
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>>16776991
He'll abuse you for sure. It hasn't gotten there yet, but you're well along the path. Not all guys are like this, but this one is. From the inability to accept responsibility for his actions, to the inability to handle a basic conflict without going into a violent rage... please just SEE the red flags right in front of you, and don't ignore them. This guy is not the exception to the rule. If you stay together, worse things than this will happen.
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>>16776999
If by abuse you mean harming me physically he already has...
But, I kinda don't blame him... I hurt him really bad too.
We're just kinda unable to let eachother go.
After a couple aggressive encounters we took some time off and he asked me to get back together, that he'd control himself... I guess progress means hitting the area around me and not... me? idk
I really do feel strongly about him, and know this isn't him 100% of the time.
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How do I get better at life? By it I mean, motivation to do anything. Having ADD/memory problems doesn't help my situation(neither putting all the blame on it like I do), and staying at home all day, everyday just using PC, not working or studying leeching my parents isn't really something that I want to my life. Sometimes I feel really good and want to go out, meet people, study, work, try new things, but 100% of the times that I feel like that I just end up in front my PC thinking on "oh man, it would be really nice if I had a good memory, and a nice job to live alone in peace" and never do anything to change.
Looking at the past makes it even worse because I wasn't like this at all, and I had pretty good chances to get into the best university in my country and get a good job, but in the end I let myself in this never-ending circle of procrastination > depression > get motivated > procrastination, and I don't know how to end this. Now I'm 24, got kicked of university because low grades and too poor to pay one myself; I get kicked of every job that I try because I get demotivated in the middle way and stop going; never leave home and stay on internet all day doing nothing. I don't understand how I failed this hard to fuck up the last 6 years of my live, but I want to change this, I just don't know how.
TLDR: How to stop being a depressed NEET/leave the NEET depression circle, and actually try to be a human being.
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Have you considered a tag team combo of working a shit job 10-15 hours a week, paying your parents a small bit of rent, and using the rest to pay for therapy?
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>>16776998
That's what I want, but I can't stop thinking that I'll fail on another job before I actually get any progress on the treatment. And feels even worse because I don't get any support from my family on this as well, they think that I do this to live an easy life without responsibility/work, while its not true at all, I really miss the time when I wasn't like this.
Sometimes I just see myself as a kid whining for not being able to do things, instead of trying. But I don't know how to be anything else, what I need to do in order to change and be able to drive my own life.
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>>16776987
Your desire to "be better at life" has to be greater than all the bullshit you are currently doing. (Pc/wasting time, among other things I am sure) Understand that with most things in life it becomes harder to get going the longer you wait to do it. You do not get time and youth back, take advantage of it or forever regret it.
YOU MUST HAVE GOALS. These goals much also be specific, measureable and attainable.
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This is a bruise
I have to go to work tommorow
Tell me how to manage this pain so that I can walk and move easily I don't care what I have to do
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>>16776954
Are you the same guy that thought be broke is toejam?
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>>16776954
Wrap the bruised toe tightly with gauze bandage, or something similar that's going to stay put under your socks and shoes. Most of the pain comes from rubbing/pressing the bruise against your other toes, or the bottom of your shoe. If you can keep it wrapped and padded, you can insulate yourself significantly from the pain.
It's not a 100% solution or anything, but it's pretty much the best you can do without painkillers
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At pharmacies and such they sell sponge padding you put in between your toes and other areas, usually to prevent a corn or blister from rubbing up. Then you pop a few painkillers and make sure to wear shoes that are slightly larger so you have room.
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I have really bad anxiety. I can't focus on one thing. I'm always thinking about school and work and I can't get it out of my head. I spend most of the pacing and on the internet. When I'm browsing shit I have a bunch of tabs open and I just cycle through them over and over. I never get shit done. I've tried just sitting down and doing something like studying or maybe play music or draw but I just can't stop thinking about other stuff. Doing homework takes me way longer than it should.
Can someone give me advice?
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See a psychiatrist about your obvious anxiety issues. A therapist would help, too.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
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Anti anxiety medication can help.
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>Be with boyfriend for 10 years
>Move to another country
>Get engaged to him
>Break up with him 4 months after
>Meet him 7 months later
>Tell him our relationship could have another go in the future if we were able to correct the things we did wrong the first time
>Long distance relationship is not longer acceptable
>Get an email from him one month later saying he's willing to sacrifice everything to be with me again
I still have feelings for him but I don't love him anymore. I spent the last 8 months re-discovering "single me" and I'm finally OK with that.
I do see myself with him in the long run, just not now. How do I explain all this to him without hurting him further?
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If you don't take him now you'll probably never see him again, so keep that in mind when making your decision.
If you do want to reject him, there's no way to do it without hurting him further. Just keep your head up and be honest.
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>>16776934
Have you been sleeping around since you broke up
If yes just tell him and he will understand. If hes still willing then he will wait.
If you reject him now but say you want to date him later than hes going to consider you a whore and let you go.
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>>16777004
That's exactly what I thought and what I am afraid of to some extent.
Sorry.
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How can i get over my fear of being crippled? I think my OCD is acting up, since i'm developing a reluctancy in making this thread just because i think i might get crippled by making it.
I fear going blind, mainly. I also fear losing a limb, dying. But mainly being blind or losing a limb. Then dying. How can i get over this? I've only known a single blind person in my life. I'm also a very careful person. Please help me get over this. Just seeing cases like this one or remembering i have such fear makes me nervous and afraid.
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I fear losing my imaginary boyfriend/host.
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>>16776925
I'm sorry to hear that.
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Hello
Today is Carnival (Mardi Gras) here in Brazil, for those unaware, one of the largest festivals in the world.
I rlly dont care if something considered primitive and outdated. I just like being able to kiss many girls, drink a lot and enjoy the famous bread and circuses for four days.
The problem is I have no friends and only now I realized that .. It is difficult to go out in a place with thousands of helpless people and no one to enjoy with you and chat while you aim a girl or something ..
Also I came to the conclusion that it is hard you enjoy being poor because they do not have travel options and people just appreciate you very much for your status ..
Now I'm kind of depressed because of the few friends I have, all are traveling or are at home playing league of legends and I'm sad here on the couch.
while 80% of the city is enjoying life, sex, and following festive blocks
Im 18 and this is the best time to do these thing
help me 4chan
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make more friends and get ready for next year
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>>16776840
>I'm 18 and this is the best time to do these things
No, when you're that young and poor, it's not the best time to do those things. But make friends and do it next year. If you can't get with girls solo, you can't do it with your buddies though.
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>>16776955
>op here
carnival = Thousands of street parties with Thousands of people and easy all the girls team
With friends any festival is more fun. There is no way to compare. There are many factors: fun, confidence, drink together, outside the protection if there is a general fight.
I regret miss it because it's a unique chance to get a lot of girls and live the famous carpe diem
It is sad to lose the best things of youth for being a nerd and not having money
and when they finally get money, status, and friends, you lose your youth and beauty
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Hey adv my girlfriend is having issues with her health.
She is 18 and regularly throws up for no apparent reason. I played tag with her the other day for about 2 mins, the light exercise made her puke.
She is gluten intolerant but we've cut it out of her diet. She just literately vomits for no reason... I have given her a little tickle at times and she vomits from that also. :s
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>>16776817
Sounds neurological, go to a doctor.
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We use to talk everyday, was called obsessive for wanting to talk everyday.
Everyone else likes talking to me everyday, I'm always doing something wrong somehow
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Who? What? Where?
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>>16776809
Bf, I thought he was playing that he didn't want to talk to me hardly ever cuz he jokes about cheating all the tinel, but his decided if I wanna even type a few sentences to him a day I'm being obsessive and threatens to dump me.
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Well after the initial euphoria of the relationship is over, peoples' flaws are going to start cropping up and yes, familiarity does breed contempt.
Now, as for your boyfriend, if he is the type to joke about cheating and then proceed to flip that shit on you for being "obssessive", then have you considered the idea that this gaslighting may perhaps be a precursor of things to come?
I recommend that you cut contact with him, move on without even telling him you moved on, and finding someone who is OK with constant contact. In all my relationships, the level of contact has never tapered off during the entirety of the relationship.
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I think it might be slowly coming to hate my wife. A bit of backstory:
>Be of mixed race
>Raised by my blue collar family
>Smart, so went to an Ivy League on scholarship
>Met future wife there
>She's from a rich family
>After a while our sex life went from vanilla to kink
>She's REALLY fucking kinky
>Married her recently after a three year relationship
>Living with her I'm starting to make a mental link between her masochism/submissiveness and my blue collar background and racial heritage
>She might actually view me as lower class, and believe that submitting to me sexually sullies her in a way that she finds arousing enough to marry me
This is slowly tearing me apart. The fucked up thing is that I'm way smarter than her, and if she weren't a double legacy and didn't have rich parents she might be totally fucked in life. I think the worst part is that I could ALMOST live with it, but the idea of having children by a woman who will view them as inferior because of their bloodline sickens me. How do I
1. Determine whether or not this is truly the case.
2. Cope with it assuming that it is or that I am unable to determine the above.
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>>16776795
How does she treat you in private? Does she listen to you, learn things about you, take you seriously?
How does she treat you around her friends? Around her family?
It sounds like you are way, way overthinking this, and the real problem is your own insecurity about your differences in background. If your relationship is otherwise good, you are shooting yourself in the foot.
EVERYONE is fucked-up in the head to some degree, especially when it comes to sexual preferences, and if you really try to break down and psychoanalyze someone's kinks the way you're doing, I'm sure you could make it sound pretty unsavory.
So yeah, it's possible that you happen to fit some of her fetish checklists, as well as her "marriage material" checklists. They can be two separate things. It's okay if you're a bit of a sex object in the bedroom, as long as she's treating you like a person and an equal in the other parts of your relationship.
If I really wanted to dig, I could make very similar accusations about your own interests in a rich submissive white girl. Are you only fucking her because you see her as higher status than you? Are you not objectifying her in exactly the same way as she is you? Or are these stupid fucking questions, and not even worth thinking about as long as you're having fun and treating each other well?
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Gawd, I hope this is bait...
So you've got a hot wife and and good life, but you are fucking it up because you are imagining things to be true that may or may not be really the case, right?
Well Sparky, how about trying this out...
Make up another story in your head where she likes the really hot sex with you because you're a complete Stud and she can't wait to have your children because she loves you and will treat them like gold because they are living expressions of the love she has for you.
Isn't that a nice story, OP?
Why don't you run with that one for a while and see how it works before you fuck up the really good thing that it sounds like you've got going?
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A man who has a hammer in his hands will see EVERYTHING as a nail. The problem in your situation is your perceived inferiority, not determining whatever she thinks.
I am sure your wife lived a very privileged life in many respects and is blind to the casual acts of ignorance or privilege assertion that causes you to feel that she thinks you are inferior to her. I am sure your wife also lived a very SHELTERED life in many respects and her being really fucking kinky is a byproduct of that repression.
If you feel certain behaviours, attitudes or situation statements/actions by your wife causes you to feel she is hurtful and discriminatory towards you, you should discuss these issues firsthand with your wife. However, be aware and note that her probable tonedeaf response is not actually a deep-seated derision towards you. Also, give credit to your wife where it's due, being a double legacy only gets you into Ivy League. It doesn't let you graduate. She has made her own internal soul-searching and calculations on what she feels for you and thinks for you and what makes her believe this relationship would work. If she truly saw you as inferior and a drag, she would not have married you.
hey /adv/ i'm a student in a slight bit of trouble basically i got a bit ahead of myself partying and smoking (i'm an idiot i know) as i had a bit more money than usual. I'm 700 pounds short on my rent, i've got a job but i only get 70 a week as i can't work more due to lessons and i need that for food and travel, I just need a way to make more money even if i can just pay part of it weekly and pay the rest with my next loan (i get a spare 300 after the terms rent) can you recommend something for me to do? Thank you in advance
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>>16776792
>700 pounds
Gotta lose some weight boiii
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>>16776792
Get a loan, donate plasma are your best offers.
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Pay your rent with your credit card. You're welcome.