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>>16781785

YOUR LUCKY DAY ANON. I happen to be an expert in this kind of situation - I'll now teach you how two secret conversation techniques will solve your problem:

>Bro, would you mind if I asked your sister out?
>Not at all, bro! Go for it

>Hey, bro's sister, you wanna grab a bite somewhere next friday?
>Sure, anon.

Don't, you're going to lose a friend if so.

>>16782601
Yo I mean how to go about finding out if its worth it or not no lie he's kinda a dick and she has hinted at it but like beta fuck problems you know?

Take it in stride. If you really love her than you have loved her as friend in the past. Give yourself time and space. If it's too much being around her after giving yourself time ask yourself why you were friends with her in the first place.

If it was getting in her pants, break the friendship and move on. If it's loving her personality keep her as a close friend, move on for both your sakes. For all you know you might have a drunken fling in the future and something might come of it. Or nothing might.

Just don't do the typical guy thing that every guy does and freak out and break all contact. It will make her ultimately less trusting of guys and people in general.

>>16781775

Op nothing says "im a huge faggot" like attention-whoring "woe is me" text on black background.

That said, if she rejected you she does not like you. what that means is she wanted to let you down easy so instead of saying no she says yes but then gives an excuse as to why it cant happen. Dont fret though op there will be more girls in your life. Also stop putting women on pedestals

>i love her
>but we arent dating yet

This is bad

>>16781786

>dont cut contact

If you go to a car dealership and cant get the car you want do you continue to stay in touch with that dealership? No, you go to a different one that will give you the car you want.

If youre asking someone out regularly who youre interested in it is no longer a platonic relationship or never was and pretending otherwise is dumb and a waste of your time and a potential roadblock for future relationships "oh what youre still friends with some girl you wanted to bang but she turned you down?" Most people interested in you would be turned off by this

How do you even know its her number?

texting his beta, just call her and see whats up, ask her on a date, fastest way to know if she's intersted

ez pz

If she gave you her number she's interested. have some confidence dude.

I would recommend texting her first, say

"Hey it's Nick, we met at the party last week"

If she responds she is still interested, if not move on.

If she responds and she's interested she'll probably say something like "heyy"

Then you have the go ahead to say "What are you up to? Free to talk on the phone for a bit?"

Then call her and ask her about herself, but don't be boring. Be genuinely interested in her.

remember FORD: Family, Occupation, recreation, dreams. That's what you talk about.

>>16781779
Forgot to add that after you make some small talk on the phone ask her to meet up for a date that night or as soon as possible.

As long as you don't jack off your body will crave women.


I've found that if I jack off too much, I start to become bitter towards women. especially if I fap to porn.

Why would you chose to become bitter?

I've been single my entire life. I have never dated anyone seriously, yet I been treated pretty poorly by few men in my life, this also including my own father. Men generally aren't too interested in me, and I don't blame them, but this being said, in theory I had all the reasons to become an angry and bitter, fat feminist.

And I can't say I sometimes didn't want to, in a way. It would protect myself from the feelings of rejection I've felt so often and it would maybe help me to brain myself to think that I never even wanted to feel loved, because "all men are pigs" or something similar.

But anon, by doing that to yourself you'll only do harm to yourself. Women or other people won't care, they'll maybe just feel a bit sad for you at most.

There are good people out there, also women. There is no reason to distance yourself from all women or dating life totally or to let the negative things to get you. We all been there, feeling like we aren't good enough, that we are lonely, or that we'll never find anyone.

But the thing is anon, that love feels amazing. You should always be open for it and never let the bitterness to get you, cause it won't help you gain anything what so ever.

Sometimes you just gotta stop trying so hard. Focus on yourself and things that makes you happy, try to be social in a one way or another and sooner or later magic happens.

>>16782136
>Sometimes you just gotta stop trying so hard. Focus on yourself and things that makes you happy, try to be social in a one way or another and sooner or later magic happens.

Your post was decent up until this point. This is a cliche saying and completely untrue for the most part for males. Look, you need to think from the perspective of males here. Women expect you to take initiative. Things don't "just happen" for males. If I went out to socialize and sat waiting for a girl to pay interest in me, I'd be waiting a long time.

For females the saying may well hold up. Put themselves in enough social gatherings and one guy will show up that piques their interest to the point where she'd be interested in more. Of course, the guy needs to show he's interested and make the moves. For guys, this shit doesn't happen and if it does it's because the guy has the looks.

For males, nothing happens if you don't hunt for it. It's as simple as that.

To OP, I understand your frustration. I'm a 270lb guy who's bearded/bald. I get overlooked a lot, and I don't go for 9/10 slim females, I go for chubby girls as thats what I'm attracted to and feel comfortable with. They end up rejecting me for the more fitter guys. It's very hard not to get bitter, especially considering the double standard. If you find the answer, let me know. Because day by day I'm finding it difficult just to not outright swear off women. I wouldn't ever be an ass to females. But as it stands currently, my opinion of them in regards to dating is not very high.

>>16781734
nothings going to change if you dont

go up to a bitch and talk to her

>>16781734
Literally their worst fucking album
SHAKING F A M

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>>16781722
I I have dubs so you have to help me

That tank is garbage mate. Get something better, you wont regret it.

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>>16781722
Have you tried anal?

>>16781708
What's your reason for studying Spanish?

Which language do you think you would be using the most if you learned it?

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Korean women are hotter than japanese women

Korean food is better than japanese food

Korean language is easier to speak and read and write than japanese language (alphabet has 20 something characters, vs the thousands in japanese)

Korean music is not as good as japanese music (japanese have great rock bands, indie bands. Metal bands, etc., while koreans really only have kpop and kindie.)

Korean culture is all around superior to japanese imo. Japanese culture is very cheap, korean culture is more conservative but dignified. Koreans have better fashion

I say learn korean.

>>16781940
>Korean culture is dignified

How to spot someone who's never been

Why would I want to help you take down a good organizations website you fuckin edgelord?

>>16781704
Nigger.

>>16781704

>you'll see why its got good security
>literally impossible to see server-side security from a web-browser, at most you could fuck around with validation of forms or cross-site scripting

OP stop using words that you don't understand, you look like a retard when you do.

is there anything else you care about other than yourself.

You talk to a counselor is what you do. You need help, OP. This attempt at self-medication is clearly not working for you.

>>16781703
I've got news for you, friend. You've already flunked out.

Nah, keep it up.

Today's exciting edition of: Thing's that didn't happen, the thread

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Yet you're on 4chan with a bunch of losers and not abusing the stock market.

PT2... she a 10/10, totally mad on anime and games... loves music as much as I do (I am a musician and she is too)... needless to say I was really attracted to her so I guess I flirted a little bit... I didn't intend on it becoming anything... so over time she keeps coming back into the shop... we become pretty close friends, we end up talking on line for hours and hang out... anyway I started to realise I am not just infatuated with her... I am in love and I want to leave so damn badly... but I can't because everything will just suck so damn much... I could be homeless again... I have only been sober and clean a couple of years and this would be really devastating to my progress... so I say nothing... she was single all this time.. a few days ago she changed her relationship status... we were really close but there was no mention of somebody.. his friends commented something crude on the thread and I guess it really upset me... actually it cut like a fucking knife..

>>16781686

>in crippling debt
>shitty lifestyle
>substance abuser until recently
>romanticizing cheating on his partner with some random girl who hangs out at his place of work

Nigga you a 7/10 on the fucked-up scale. If you want to leave then leave but you're delusional if you think anyone will even give you the time of day once they figure out the truth about you.

the whole week I felt I really need to tell her how I feel... it seemed really important.. but I couldn't do it... the risk was two great... so I wasn't doing great anyway then a couple of days later I got a message from a friend of my mum... She fucking died..! I am still so angry and hurt about what happened... I could never forgive the woman.. so I told my sisters and went over to spend time with them... gf came along too... but nothing was a comfort... it all hurts so damn much.. I left my sisters on my own and went back to my place to be alone... then for some reason, I don't know what possessed me I went online and end up spilling my guts to the anime girl... she was drowning in uni work but still made time to talk with me... but I feel like such a horrible person.. :( a few days later i tried to tell her how I feel.. I said I love you very much but I was a dumb ass and followed up with but not in a divorce causing kind of way... :( my heart is broken

The only thing that cures it, and lets you let go, is time.
Only healthy way at least. Because there's also drugs, but that generally leaves you worse off in the long run.

Just because you don't like B, doesn't mean you can dictate what your roommate does

>>16781628
Don't pay for B.

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>>16781642
What are you even talking about?

>>16781609
I've heard that this type of shit is occasionally caused by blood flow problems, though I was talking to them about sweaty palms and feet so armpits might be different. I'd actually suggest exercise and a strong ANTIPERSPIRANT, not a deodorant.

>>16781615
I have tried a lot of different "strong" antiperspirants, nothing seems to work. as for the working out, I swim every day and play water polo three times a week, and occasionally surf

>>16781609
Have you looked at getting your sweat glands closed off or something like that? It might be an expensive process since I haven't really looked into it, but it's worth a shot.

As for temporary solutions, you could use talcum powder

Once you've truly messed up a relationship, you can never recover it completely - there's always that shadow hanging over things.

Think about expanding your circle of friends, perhaps by joining a club or taking up a new hobby. I recommend carpentry - fun to do as a pastime, but also with the potential to make a great career working with wood. You'll make great friends as you learn how to handle power tools and make beautiful and functional items for your home!