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>>16779549
It's not a good sign, but there's still hope just because she did get back to you herself. There are plenty of girls who just like playing it safe and/or looking to their friends for feedback and second opinions.

I say you give it a shot and try to make a good impression. You also get a benefit out of this too. You get to spend time with her friend and see what kind of company your qt keeps. It's a very bad sign if a girl keeps bitches for friends, after all. So give it a shot. If you impress them both then push for a one-on-one thing next time.

>>16779549

Too early to tell.

>>16779559
Well I already know the girl she's bringing along (also from class), she's pretty cute

Craigslist

Trulia
Zillow
Forrent.com

Sometimes local real estate agencies will have properties listed to rent.

You haven't got renting/house buying sites like this?
http://www.zoopla.co.uk/for-sale/details/37469121?search_identifier=2bf567a3f9c507c0fe2d210a1a9cfb80
my countries full of them.

The sad truth isn't that creating the group is impossible. It's perfectly simple, in fact. The truth is that no one else is going to do it except you. Like you said, people are too busy with their own shit. You have to take complete charge of your social life if you want to have a good one. You have to set all the plans, meet all the people, make all of the decisions, etc.

>>16779528
Wow thank you for that because what you said didn't click until I read your post. It does get harder and I hadn't realized really why.

I do have to set all of the plans. I do have to be the organize if I want it to happen. In high school, people just new. Forced word of mouth through classes and grades. In college, people had classes together but also extra curricular groups that organized people - sports, frats, etc. Post graduation if a person gets into a large company, the other co workers and new analysts or what not serve as a buffer. The new city plus new co workers also can mix to make friends.

But if a person changes states for jobs after college or otherwise is isolated... the only groups of friends and contacts made are fragmented and splintered. Which means if I want anything to happen with anyone, I have to make it happen. No more automatic groups of people.... unless, by luck, I make friends with an existing group of people. Jesus just another thing to put work into if I want to make it happen.

But thank you.

>>16779546
>No more automatic groups of people.
Yes, you completely understand it. Good luck.

Contact the appropriate certifying authority in Oregon. I assume you know how to use Google right?

>>16779519
I have been cuntflap.

The long shot is if anyone on here has ever done indiana to Oregon specifically

I've done NREMT to indiana so I know how the process works but I know different states require you to take take a practical or not take one and I can't find a straight answer

>>16779510
>and I can't find a straight answer
What good news for everyone in Oregon. If they have an emergency, you might be the one who shows up. You don't even know how to find a straight answer on your own from the relevant authority. Is calling someone a cuntflap how you distract yourself from that embarrassment?

Slowly drift out of their lives.

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>>16779526
Please elaborate.

>>16779532
Say you're busy with something else and you have no time to hang out anymore.

If people look down on you for being single, it's because they're critical of the REASONS you're single.

In other words, you're not a fucking faggot for never being in a relationship. You're a fucking faggot and that's why you've been in a relationship. If you want respect then stop being a fucking faggot. A nice bonus is that you'll also find it easy to get into a relationship.

Grow a fucking spine. People aren't going to look down on you for being single half as much as they will for being crippling insecure and prepared to lead a girl on because you're scared of people judging you.

Any insight at all? I'm kinda lost. Being desperate for sex gave me stuff to do, beating that I've got like nothing to chase.

>are women likely to view it the same nonchalantly?
Some do, some don't.

>But how often does random nsa sex happen between buddies?
It varies. I can't quite put into words how you feel out a person's willingness or attitude toward it. You just "know."

>Is spark mutual
It should be. Especially now that you've realized how sex isn't a big deal, and can therefore have patience to enjoy it with shared enthusiasm.

>>16779547
Ty so much for replying.

What kind of work do you see yourself enjoying OP?

Dude it's a job, you're not gunna be there for the rest of your life

>>16779490
Anything that doesn't cater to wiping customers asses or holding their fucking hands for the most FUCKING RUDIMENTARY OF FUCKING THINGS. I just wanna die, I can't do this i'm so tired of supporting entitled dumbasses

>>16779502
time to an hero i guess

homeless shelter, there's tons of them in Seattle and the people there are cool too

a hotel

No. You should move in now.

>>16779439
What about you ask her for advices and for help to become fit again?
You'll get to spend time with her, to get back in her life, know more about her.
At the same time, she'll be the first witness to you getting more fit, and part of the reason you became more fit/sexy.
You'll get plenty of opportunities to thank her for her help by inviting her to whatever you want, that would turn into thinly veiled dates.
That's more than two birds for one stone.

>>16779467
That seems good I just feel like I don't look that attractive right now.

because your parents spent 19 years of love, sweat, tears, and effort to raise you and you'd be destroying everything they worked so hard for, toughed through their broken relationship for, and their hopes and dreams for the future. You ever play a videogame and die right near the end of a level? Multiply that feeling by like a billion.

You should be striving as hard as you can to succeed, make them proud, and help their lives be easier. Even if you fail, watching you try will make them happy.

See a psychiatrist, jeez. Suicidal thoughts are not a symptom of a healthy mind. You have a problem and it's not that you're a waste of space.

How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Dealing with suicidal thoughts: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

>>16779364
I get it, but I see how much they're struggling and how better things were before I was born. Right now me and my brothers are probably the only thing keeping our parent in contact, and they don't get along that well. It just pains me a lot to see them live their current lives. It's like they don't find it enjoyable anymore, it's all a matter of survival which seems pointless and a sad.

Obviously I have tried to make it less hard on them by at least trying to strive as a student, but that hasn't been working out too good. I'm pretty mediocre and overall I just don't see great prospects in the future.
Shit, everything's just hard and I hate it. Wish I'd never been born. Or, at least, not in this shit time. Everybody's depressed and so am I.

>>16779372
I'm not sure I can afford it, but I have thought about it. Nonetheless, thanks for the info.

Perhaps you should find people you have more in common with. In high school I had a lot of friends, but we had virtually nothing in common; they think I'm awesome (three years later), but I'm not that interested in hanging out with them because, like I said, we have nothing in common.

>>16779348
Where do I find people I have something in common with when I'm not really into anything?

I keep hanging out with this bunch of weeaboos because they're the only ones who don't look down on me. A bit pathetic, yes, but it's nice to have company you don't feel like a lesser in.

>>16779368
Maybe you should find some hobbies, then. Experiment with different things until you find something you really enjoy doing. Then find other people who also enjoy doing those things.

You could also find some kind of topic of interest, like philosophy or politics or religion, and find like-minded people that way.

No, you shouldn't date someone so tactless. The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you're capable of doing better.

>And that plastic surgery would be a waste and that I should focus on my personality/who I am inside?

This is a fucking great opinion that you should be listening to.

You could dump him for his lack of tact, but finding people who love you how you already are AND speak hard truth to you can be harder than you think. Comforting lies are nice, but they don't change how you look.

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>>16779320
Lol

>>16779312
What products?

>>16779799
dog food

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>>16779808
10/10 post

Why does someone fear losing something? Because they put too much value on it.

If your girlfriend is everything you have in your life, then naturally the fear of being cheated on will come.

It's fine to put values on the things we like, but it's also important to relax and realize that even if something goes wrong, you will still have another chance with somebody else.

>>16779282
I don't want to change who I am just because or forcefully though. I love her and she loves me back. She's definitely not everything in my life. I've got if things coming up with my career and that's would I place about anything.

I get what you mean but I don't like thinking of 'what if' we break up I can find someone else because I know I can but I don't see a point. Which is kind of ironic to say on my part because I this thread is about a what if