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>>16888013

>get a job
>use job to acquire money
>use money to acquire own living space
>spend copious amounts of time at local hangouts and hobby shop events that interest you

>>16888142
shit, that is not the one I meant to post, sorry. I think I might have the getting out of the basement one though, gonna keep looking.

>>16888142
>how to be a wageslave normalfag and subscribe to the dating skinner box

Twitter

>>16887985
Thought about that too, didn't really entertain the idea though.

https://twitter.com/mekasjonas

Not looking too good for me, is it?

>>16887996

Facebook, then. Or pick a different filmmaker. Hit up everyone you know and work the "six degrees of separation" angle.

Honestly, it sounds like half the point of the assignment is finding a way to contact these people, as that's a vital part of a real journalist's job. So figure it out. Improvise. Or fail.

What was the thing you had? Some kinda cool treasure?

>>16887791
It's not relevant to the advice I need, just pretend it's something.

>>16887793
It is relevant though.

>>16887751

sounds like your fantasy is coming true. enjoy it? im semi erect

>>16887751

>my boss is the creepy dude that has pictures of me full body in lingerie
>just to add to the creepyness he would send me pics of some of the pics I sent him photoshoped to look like a maxim poster
>I stopped talking to him abruptly, I called him an old faggot and blocked him

Dude it sounds like you did ALL of this of your own free will. They've done nothing, so far, that you haven't actively encouraged and participated in. Have they even threatened to "expose" you? Or is this all in your head?

You're really in no position to get all hostile and judgmental here. If they're creepy, you're equally creepy. If they're "faggots," so are you. The difference is that you were the one stupid enough to give them loads and loads of evidence and blackmail material.

It sounds like you're learning a very valuable lesson about the difference between fantasy and reality. There's nothing wrong with fetish play, but if you're not doing it with someone trustworthy, there are a thousand ways it could bite you in the ass.

Its 2016, who cares if he "exposes" you. Transvestism is 100% normal now.

Easy, by recording her and putting the footage on the internet (^:

Vocaroo for starters, drop a video camera in there later.

>>16887746

have you ever considered talk to her? i mean... she is your mother, its not like you're living with a roommate.

>>16887763
Have you ever talked to your mother about something like this?

"Oh, so hey, I noticed you're getting yourself off at literally every waking moment.. Good for you! But also guess what: I don't want to hear it"

>>16887167

yes, you bf is a bitch ass faggot, you're just wasting your time with him.

>>16887172
That was very eloquent. Thank you.

>>16887167
I mean, yes?
Sounds like you've been more than reasonable with him, and his shortcomings. It sounds like this is who he is now, as sad as it may sound.

You could take control over his internet, lock him out of sites that he frequents, but, honestly, you can't live together in that way. You're his partner, not his parent, you're not supposed to act like that, nor is he. Children lack self-control on this scale. He's a grown adult (Or not).

Relationships are supposed to be a reciprocal partnership, where you cherish your moments with your significant other. They're supposed to make you feel good about yourself, and each other, not highlight every flaw and fight constantly over... well, this.
That's not to say relationships don't have frequent issues, they do and that's healthy, but this doesn't sound like a typical problem. It's clear you've been over this more than twice.

At the end of the day, you made him an ultimatum. Now you need to honor it, or you lose all credibility. Maybe it's what he needs, before he can accept the need for change. Take some time apart, focus on you and your needs and wants. Don't fret over relationships for a while, you need to feel grounded for a bit first.
Either he'll come around, or you'll move on and find someone who has better control over themselves.

Well, we cannot help you if you wont make it more clear. What do you think isnt `okay`? Are you sad? More mature than others? Just a social outcast who prefers to sit at home than go socialize?

>>16887163

>Are you sad
I do feel like I'm a sadder person than I should be yes. But I think I feel shitty a lot because of whatever's "wrong" with me.


>Just a social outcast who prefers to sit at home than go socialize

I used to be really bad with this, now it just depends with my mood (but I guess that's normal).

I thought of a few more examples that could help.

I just can't approach women, like at all. I get extremely nervous and scared at the mere idea of it. For example:
>Go out to bar with friends last night
>Hotties everywhere, a few girls at a different table eyeing me up (according to a friend anyways)
>Couldn't bring myself to approach any of them, not even say hi or anything
>Ending up sitting with my friends hoping "the next drink" will be my liquid courage.

I always just get worried that ever reasonably attractive girl will consider me out of their league, especially if they appear to have an extremely active social life (It's really hard to explain, basically it just makes me feel like I have a lot to compete with).

My ex thinks I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I don't see how I can be narcissistic in any way if I assume the entire world around me is out of my league but here are her claims specifically.
>My sense of self-worth is way to high
>Feel absolutely devastated at the idea of having normal limitations
>Absolute lack of empathy for others

I'm not sure how accurate it is to how I really am (this is the first time I'm hearing it after all) and this conflicts with a lot of my personal observations of myself, but I suppose it's something to keep in mind.

cont.

>>16887163
cont.

This last one is a pretty big problem.... I just... can't figure out shit for myself. Not in terms of school or education (always done pretty well in school), more-so life challenges. The moment things don't start going my way I lose all sense of myself and my brain just freezes. I've become reliant on others to figure out my life because of it (pretty much what I'm doing right now).

for example, I feel into a deep deep depression after my first serious relationship ended because I just couldn't move on, I tried and tried but every day felt just like the day she left. It got so bad all my friends refused to talk about her with me because it got to the point where they had nothing else to say. I just couldn't figured out how to ease my pain so I had to live with it for way too long.

This isn't everything, it goes so much deeper, however this really is the only shit I know how to put into words as of right now. Actually having something to go off of for once feels amazing though..

You can't temporarily take out piercings (especially those in your mouth), unless you want infections and/or repierce it every day. If she wants it she should get it, it's her body. You can dislike it, she probably also has small things she doesn't like about your appearance. As long as you don't leave her over this or make it matter too much, you aren't being an oversensitive pussy.

>>16887051

Fair enough. To be honest though, I'm a bit concerned about being intimate with her if she has a smiley. It's not like a nose piercing or something, it's dangling right in front of your teeth. It would be impossible to avoid touching it one way or another.

>>16887068
You will feel it, but does it really matter?

>>16886807
I've been single for twenty years. Fuck off, normie.

Get some hobbies... pick up guitar, hit the gym, 4 weeling ext. I'm sure you'll find true love... just go have fun. She will come along. ;)

>>16886884
Back to retard9k bro
Anyway OP, 9 months isn't really THAT long in the scheme of life. Maybe try making new friends, picking up a hobby you've always wanted to try, use this opportunity to work on any projects or goals you've wanted to work toward. Use this time to reconnect with old friends, spend time with family, and learn how be alone with yourself.

Apologize and stop being such a cunt.

>>16886755
lololol good one. She called me ugly before I did that though. And she is in fact a mongoloid.

>>16886750
How do you know she" sicked a hacker" on you?

Are you allowed to match their threat level after they've done it to you?

become a cop

Sounds like Denmark laws.

Nothing you can do, besides call the police.

I have BPD. I had a father who put me down constantly because I was female. And he hated me because I looked like his mother. I was sensitive and he tried to desensitize me and it didn't work. My famiily tried to keep me a child so I would stay with them.

I have no confidence in myself. Every waking moment is yearning and searching for the love my father never gave me and never findng it.

>>16886393
However, I am somewhat social, in an odd way. I like to perform music. I am very comfortable and I slay on the mike. But I'm very very awkward at bars I look in the mirror and I see my father's face and eyes and I'm so ugly to me. But people have been drawn to me my whole life. People have been trying to fuck me my whole life.

>>16886398
YES. Thats the attraction ive read, bpd easily has people feeling strongly attracted to them. How do you do it? That's what im after. Pls explain

Why did you install the updates? You fool.

>>16885991
I don't think I downloaded it, I did sign up for it before it came out. chose not to cuz of new spy OS.

>>16885991
WTF! now I cant turn my pc off without updating

>>16885865
Be happy for your mom and get your friend a good Father's Day gift.

>>16885865
What's the story?
How did this all go down?

>>16885920
Fuck outta here
>>16885924
>"friend", little brother, and I sharing a bowl & playing Dark Souls II
>run to the store for beer and chips
>come back, bro apparently got sent outside
>think "Where's X?"
>hear gasping and yelling
>Go upstairs
>thisisn'thappening.jpg
>open door with card
>mom and "friend" stark naked, she's got her legs over his shoulders while he's just pounding away to his heart's content
>get told to GTFO while they scramble for cover
>throw up in backyard
>they've been "together" for almost a year
>I'm beside myself with rage
>crack him in the jaw, mom tells me to fuck off and cool it
>return, he apologizes
>she says not to
>they leave
>I drive lil bro home from his friend's house
>staying at gf's right now

This is fucking disgusting, I feel like a goddamned metaphysical cuckold or something

>>16885850
You can't and you two will certainly break up. I pregrieve every relationship.

>>16885850
unfortunately you cant really prevent something like that. all you can do is trust them and hope for the best. treat them right and they should do the same in return and if not the relationship wasnt worth keeping anyway

>>16885939
That's been my plan so far but I feel like I'm going to look stupid if I trust someone like just get cheated on and everyone knows but me type shit