What define charisma ?voice ? clothes ? muscle ? natural leader ship ?
How to become charismatic ?
>>16879099
talk like obama
bump for interest
>>16879114
actually, once you realise his delivery pattern is to stand dead straight and bob his head from side to side like an oversized meerkat, the charisma evaporates.
predictability is the enemy of charisma.
What is the most fierce male name out there?
>>16878965
Bob.
Courage Wolf.
>>16878965
>fierce
lance
Hey, /adv/. I've noticed I'm becoming more self-deprecating, lonelier, more thoughts of suicide, creepier, and weirder.
I don't have many friends, since next to everybody at my college is an athlete-type, "supfamtbh" kind of guy. That's fine and all, but I just don't relate.
I've started talking to myself when I'm alone, but only when I feel like shit or remember one of the 9 million embarrassing things I've done, and even then it's mainly "Christ, I'm pathetic", "I should fucking kill myself" or "I want my skull caved in."
I can't interact with people, anymore. I don't have the confidence or social skills, and I feel like I always do at least one mild-to-moderately creepy thing per interaction. I'm a virgin, and I'm afraid I'll die one, even though I don't look bad, or wear fedoras, or anything.
I was abused my maternal figures growing up, was always alone and considered weird, and Depression is genetic in my family, so that might have something to do with it. I'm not really looking for a cause, though. I want some advice on how to pull my life together.
So what should I do? I feel like I'm broken.
Nobody? Alright, that's fine.
>>16879005
>depression is genetic
how to spot a dummy 101
>>16878961
Don't beat yourself up over pitty things. Be aware that EVERY single person you'll ever talk has had these moments.
Do you ever go out? I don't want to get you hooked on alcohol but it really can help you get over that initial insecurity. Also, you can be 100% that the people around you either don't care or don't remember how you were acting. Well, unless you harass someone in an alley or something extreme like that.
Women, explain this.
I thought this was a meme until I tried online dating.
>>16878752
>make profile
>reject 500 guys in a week
>omg where have all the good men gone FA girl here ;_;
>>16878752
Why continue to make bait threads like this? Why? /b/ is just over there, why ruin this board?
>>16878752
online dating is a trap if you're a man, you will never find a good girl
whoever you end up with will have their personality ruined by constant male attention and the knowledge that they can leave you at any time for another option
you have to date like 5 levels down instead of 1 or 2
date in the real world
I've had crushes on guys before but it's always been friends or acquaintances, not the guys I go on dates with.
I got tired of being alone and started online dating, but I've never been able to develop feelings for any of these guys. How do you artificially create a crush?
>>16878710
are you a huge slut? if you gave it away too many times you might have lost the ability to develop real relationships
>>16878712
No I have sex maybe a few times a year, and I still have the ability to develop crushes/feelings for guys, just not the ones I date
>>16878714
so why arent you dating the guys you have crushes on instead of randos online?
if they're in a relationship you might just be the kind of girl who can only want something you cant have
>parents are both an alcohol
>sexually abused as a child
>told older friend that I was sexually abused
>got abused by him afterwards
>all my childhood friends turned away from me because parents thought that I was shady
>never judged anybody
>always been nice to everybody
>still got treated like shit by everyone everywhere I went
>started to explore nature alone
>needed to apply first aid and call ambulance for my mother who layed in her own blood because she hit her head while she was drunk
>always had to link family together
>parents didnt believe that i was abused
>father says that he should have blown his load into a river instead of creating me
>get scolded for crying because first girlfriend left me after I told her about my situation
>years pass, I adapted and people started to like me as long as I didn't tell them anything personal
>started to become everybodies therapist
>got dumped by everybody after they got their shit together because they associated me with their past
>decided to start over and went to another city to study at a university after graduation
>got girlfriend, first time in my life i thought that i was understood
>after time went by, i got the sensation that something is not right in the relationship
>i asked her, but she refused to talk about it
>told me that she would figure it out by herself
>believed and trusted her
>all of a sudden she cheated on me
>after i told her that i forgive her, she left me for him
>said that she does not want to lose me though
>told her that she betrayed me as friend, partner and as a fellow human being and that it would hurt me if I continued to see her
>she replied that she just realized what an evil person i actually am and that it is my own fault that she left me
I had to deal my whole life being branded as shady, weird and evil. All I ever wanted was everybody to love each other. I really want to break but I can't. I just can't give up in believing in others, even though I get betrayed all the time.
>>16878662
What are your stories /adv/?
How do you people deal with being an abnormality?
Do you think that most of the people are incapable of love?
I hope you find long term happiness anon, you seem like a good person that has problems judging character and holding to tight to people.
Good luck, I think you will be a happy person soon and you will find someone who understands you.
Try to finish uni as soon as possible,
>>16878680
Thank you very much anon.
But I really hate to judge, because I don't believe that people are bad.
I can sense and point out bad character traits if necessary, but I consider them symptoms of their own suffering.
My goal is to show people that despite the fact that they have to walk their own path, thei dont necessarily have to feel lonely along the way.
Everybody seeks happiness and love, hatred, betrayal and fear are only results of denying those needs.
>make a tinder profile
>set location to my town (big european capital)
>litterally 0 matches per day or ugly as fuck girls that have high standards
>change location to korean / japan
>tons of matches with qts who are down to fuck
what the fuck ? is Asia easy mode for a white guy?
also how do you get more matches on tinder?
>>16878580
well yeah? duh? are you fucking kidding me you dont know about how hungry asians are for white dick? and they dont see ugliness in white men
>>16878580
yeah they all love the BWC
>>16878580
Yeah asia is easy mode if you are white.
Question to those who had dated psycho women
Lets say i want to get together with a girl with borderline personality disorder, but i just want to white knight her and put her on the pedestal and make her feel that im absolutely devoted to her, but the truth is im doing it all to compensate for my own ego.
How will the relationship work out?
Female wojak to atteact female posters too
Badly.
Borderline female answers also appreciated
>>16878350
I read that on forums on leddit and bpdfamily. ThE husband or boyfriend loses his self esteem and feels he isnt good enough anymore.
But im intrigued but something like this, how someone could utterly annihilate you to the point of becoming a shell of your former self.
I also read theyre master manipulators, as another person n the internet put it, bpd is the female version of the dark triads
I go into this with this intention. I want to see what its like, i will play the cuck, ill accept it, i will play the guy who seems like hell drag himself down to her level and be ensnared by her. Obviously shell be paranoid but she wont know what my true intentions are. All i have to do is affirm my love for her and keep telling her i need her. Thats the 'i hate you. Dont leave me' game right?
All the while being a game to me too
What if I'm non-gender specific? Who do I ask then, shitlord?
>>16878126
Do you have 3 chromosomes?
how do I become a sexy lady?
Mostly need help figuring out how to deal with this mess.
>My sister is keeping a friend's cat at our house for a few months.
>She's mentioned several times that her friend was paying her to keep the cat here.
>She never seems to be here to actually take care of said cat.
>The cat is really destructive (broken lamps, pots, a hamster cage WITH the hampers in it, ect.)
>Parents pay for the food and the litter.
>Sister's only chore is cleaning the litter.
>Litter gets so bad that there's more shit than litter.
>We ask her to clean it but she keeps "forgetting" or tries to guilt me into doing it.
>I'm the person who keeps the rest of the house clean!
So starts these texts. (pic related) the first four were from yesterday.
After the texts she calls me. I tell her she needs to give a cut to the parents for paying for the food and litter and letting the cat stay here. She starts claiming that she never agreed on getting money from her friend, which is a lie. Then she starts claiming that the cat isn't destructive, which is another huge lie.
now she's saying she told her friend that she's giving the money back.
At this point I don't care about my cut. I just want her to give some of that money to the parents for all of the shit the cat puts them through. This isn't her house. She should be contributing something if she wants to pull this crap. I gave the money to our dad to hold so I don't get coerced into giving it to her.
lol im a nice guy how come girls dont like me xD
why do i get the feeling you care more about the house than your parents and your sister. do they even know she gets money from her friend?
>>16877851
???
I live with my mother 50% of the time. My parents are divorced and both remarried, witch has never bothered me, but my mother continuously hits me an hurts me even 30 minutes after a fight, her and her husband show no care or respect towards me. We get in physical fights slot, and I'm not proud of it. I have tried being kinder to them but it never works, and they come up with arbitrary nicknames to call me EX: lanegina, or retard, or gay. But I am recently more fed up than usual, and have been having suicidal thoughts and actions. It isn't much better at school either.
I would like to change this, and live my life without these problems. Please help me /adv/
I honestly would like some advice, I don't know what to do
>>16877746
Are there any free counselors in your school you can see? Your mother is being abusive, and you should prioritize getting away from her. These are serious warning signs, not simply "issues." You need to take steps to protect yourself from your toxic home environment. It will get better, OP, and possibly soon, but you need to reach out to a helpline for domestic abuse and/or school/community counseling services ASAP.
I have gone to a counselor at my school, but my mother made me sound like I knew nothing, and in turn I was getting laughed at by the counselor
Everytime i see/hear mention of happy couples i get super bummed out. What do i do?
>>16877606
bumparooni
>>16877666
Make a gf out of cardboard?
>>16877679
i want a legit solution, im trying to be less of a fatty, but its gonna take time before i can be less fat. Do i just need to will my way through it?
Does ethnicity play a role in attracting women? Pic related is me and I have no gf and I've been getting rejected lately. Can't even get numbers. My personality isn't shit because people who know me say I'm nice.
>I'm nice.
Nice guys are the cancer of the single community. Don't be a "nice guy."
>>16877577
There is a difference between someone who is genuinely kind and the 'psychopathic nice guy' who thinks girls owe him sex because he bought them flowers.
>>16877574
>smartphone
>shit quality pic
You got cerebral palsy bro. Girls don't want to date someone with a disorder. It's kinda shallow but hey that's how it is sometimes.
What the fuck is confidence /adv/? I am positive I don't have any fucking confidence and I don't know how to get it.
I am 25 and dreadfully aware of situations. To me.. confidence is just blind belief in luck. You have NO IDEA what that woman will say to you if you just walk up and talk to her BUT you probably have a good idea of what she might say based on maybe your looks, what you have, what you can do etc.
How is it that people can even have high confidence with how unpredictable humans are? Like that girl could verbally maim you for you talking to her or she could be receptive.
ITS A FUCKING GAMBLE! Gambles to me are never good. EVER. Sure you could cash out but on the flip side, you could LOSE.
Help me understand confidence and what it is. It seems like the only confident people are people who aren't self aware, or don't give a fuck OR are sociopaths or are psychopaths. I have not met one sane CONFIDENT person ever. I can HONESTLY say that.
I don't know anyone who is confident AND sane. Help me understand. What the fuck is confidence and how do I get it>?
>>16877567
Confidence can take many different forms, but when you have it, you know it.
>Confidence is knowing that you can walk into any new experience or initially uncomfortable experience and become comfortable with it through earning and preparation.
>Confidence is knowing that personal insults by people shouldn't be taken to heart unless there is some meaning and substance behind them.
>Confidence is being able to speak up when you don't understand something as much as you want, even if people will think that you are stupid.
>Confidence is knowing that women will want you for what you can provide for them and what you can do to enrich their life.
>Confidence is being able to emphasize with people and act in a way you know is appropriate around them because of your experience.
>Confidence is knowing that you don't know everything, but knowing that you have the skills that you can learn what you want to.
>Confidence is being willing to take risks that will undoubtedly improve your situtation or enrich your life if it plays out the way you want it to.
>Confidence is accepting and being aware of your own limitations and working around them.
>Confidence is accepting and being comfortable with who you are, and not wishing to be someone else.
>Confidence js the willingness to take your own path, regardless of what people tell you.
>Confidence is the willingness to be open-minded to learning new things, and finding value in everything you do.
>Confidence is being willing to discover what you want to become based on your experiences.
>Confidence is not taking your mistakes to heart, and acting on gut feelings and reason rather than insecurities and doubts.
>Confidence is self-satisfaction, independence, and anticipation for the future.
>>16877567
If - Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
>>16877567
mm yes, it's like a gamble alright. but hey u are never gonna win if u never play.
Wife pretty much refuses to help out at all around the house. She has no job and won't look, and does no cleaning. She has depression and I get that, but I feel like I've been patient enough and have only been rewarded with having to work full-time and then come home to clean up after someone who is messy and not cleaning up after themselves. The most she'll do is take out the trash occasionally, if I harass her into doing it. At that point, it would be less effort to take the 5 minutes myself, so she's not really contributing at all. She's very stubborn, and I'm not okay with living life like this.
Told her I was overwhelmed and that I can't do everything for two. I told her to do the dishes, and they are all sitting there, days later. I don't think she's going to do them. I'm imagining I need to get a marriage counselor in on this to have a third party help here. Seeing as she's been going to bed silently the last few nights right after dinner, and I'm sleeping on the couch, the weekend seems like it might be kind of awkward. I'll have to suggest counseling at some point, which will make it more awkward.
What do I do for the weekend, /adv/? Spend lots of time out of the house? Seclude myself the whole time? Honestly I just want her to go stay with her mom, so I can clean up this pigsty and be alone in a clean house. I don't know what to do about it, though. She'll cry if I tell her to leave me alone for a week, and once she starts crying, the conversation is over and the conclusion is not clear.
Help me out, /adv/, I'm not sure how to move forward here.
>She has depression
Just an excuse to be a NEET. What next?
Give her the boot
>>16877524
She has a diagnosis and takes meds. But I feel like she's also using it as an excuse, particularly when I try to make her help. I consider myself understanding, but having depression doesn't mean that you get free rent and a maid.
Either way, my main question is what I should do for the next couple days since I'm not at work, so I'm not gone most of the day.
>>16877534
>>16877534
How long has this been going on?