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Men and women are different, period. Women give birth to kids, and have been the caretaker of children for thousands of years (because of a need to keep them close for breastfeeding). Men are stronger and have traditionally, for thousands of years been the physical protectors. If you deny the impact this has had on the differentiation between the sexes you are ignorant.

TL;DR: There has never once in history existed an: "environment without the ridiculous pressures to meet a stereotype".

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>>16894773
Would you be less scared of a female lion than you would a male lion?

Drinking is really a drug like any other. Of course it can have its uses, and it's ups / downs.
>a drug to make sloppy sex easier?
That's what it's generally used for, yes.
>a sizable amount of people I know act like it's a general situation enhancer.
That's a problem with society. Alcohol is the most normalized drug, and it kind of disgusts / worries me at how accepting people are of those kind of points of view on alcohol. I'm not the only one with this opinion, i'm sure.

>>16894584
So that's my perspective too, and it seems like one that holds up to scrutiny a little bit, I mean a PsyD told me the same thing.

However she was the Philly NPR type. Do you think alcohol does more for certain people than it does us? There are instances where it seems to be enhancing people's every day leisure, probably more than a placebo. Is this because they need to stop thinking in order to have fun? Maybe I'm the same way, but too emotionally labile to enjoy being drunk.

>Do you think alcohol does more for certain people than it does us?
Well, to be honest, i've never been drunk. I've only tasted alcohol at several ocassions. So i'm probably the wrong person to ask. However, different people certainly react differently to alcohol.
>Is this because they need to stop thinking in order to have fun?
Yes. It's a way to distract yourself. To take your mind off of other things.

>>16894430
honestly try tinder. youre a guy esp, most girls arent exactly the fuckboy type.

Going outside means you meet people. Some of those people will be female. That's how you meet girls

>>16894430
Going outside generally means stepping outside of your comfort zone and meeting new people, for example for someone it could mean going in to anime convention, work/interest/hobby related gathering (board game, book, fighting games, card games, figurines, D&D, Cosplay etc) in your area, events, festivals and literally anywhere you find comfortable meeting people preferably with similar interests to your own. Do not stress too much on meeting girls at first just think of it as networking and getting new friends and acquaintances. With new friends you'll eventually meet new people including girls.

Based on your picture I think you're at least somewhat interested in anime, manga and Japanese culture. That shit is a gold mine when it comes to girls and here where I live girls outnumber boys in conventions like 2-1.
So contrary to popular belief it's not really a hobby you should be too ashamed of.

Also there's nothing wrong with online dating and it has helped a ton of shy people to meet each other including me and my girlfriend. It's also great place to practicing talking to girls which might make it easier to realize that it's really no different from talking to men aside from different sets of interests.

Trust your instincts. It's as simple as that. Get close to her and if she doesn't show signs of being uncomfortable then go for it.

>>16894314
Bump

The universe rewards the brave. Think less, act more, and follow your instincts. Odin would want you not to be afraid of failure. Failure is just part of the learning process. No woman and or man is worth idling about. Your life is incredibly short and you owe it to yourself to make the most of it.

Just be brave, trust yourself and the universe. Trust that if the kiss doesn't work it is all for the best.

Real life isn't tumblr. I bet the vast majority of asian girls don't know or care what yellowfever or betas even are.

>>16894253

>is it ever okay

yes. there are plenty of weeb and fetishist asians. if shes not, wait to gauge how much she actually likes you. if she likes you she wont mind. if she is on the fence about you, getting weird isnt okay.

but there are asian girls who will like your weidness, or at the very least understand it

>>16894253
If that's the only reason you're dating she'll pick up on it faster than you can apologize in japanese to her korean ass.

>>16894115
Jerk off. That's ur male testosterone talking. Pretty sure u lazy as fuck but if u exercise and jerk off u will release excess hormones

>>16894145
I have a good job and I lift, so that part's covered.

It's true that I don't have that kind of thoughts for a few hours after I've had sex actually, so there might be something to that.

>>16894115
how old were you when you started thinking about killing people?

>>16893947
>>6 guys at 18
stopped reading there, not gf material, just a fuck n pass m8

>>16893947
>How do I get over my girlfriends sexual past?
I don't know how you can get over something like that, as I've never had to deal with the situation before. But for happiness, in general: Stop comparing yourself to other people. Your sex life isn't a race and quantity =/= happiness. Focus on quality.

And for the record, if you have these issues, asking her personal questions like that will never yield the result you want. You'll never want to hear the answer because it's a reminder of your own personal "failings."

>>16893952
Don't know where you're from, but that's pretty common in the west. That's not to say you should settle, if that's not what you're looking for. If you think sexual count devalues a person, then more power to you for waiting on the right person.

Well you already fucked up by being a little bitch and cutting contact with her because she rejected you. So she probably thinks you're shit, but maybe you still have a chance at recovering whats left of that friendship if you admit to her that you were stupid. If she even wants to talk to you

>>16893928
alright that's really good advice, fucking hell why do I even come here

hang yourself you trip using mongoloid

>>16894012
she thinks you're a fucking autistic sperglord cunt now, which coincidentally is what you actually are.

It sounds cheesy, but I think with how you reacted it sounds like you really like and care for this girl. She must trust you a lot to tell you this too. It hurts a lot, I know, because I've been in then same spot. If you stick around, prepare for a lot of emotional ups and downs (not from her but just yourself). It was worth it to stick around in my opinion though.

>>16893749
Thanks man I really do love her a lot but this is just an actual nightmare come true and usually I would just leave but but thinking about my life without her and her being with someone else kills
Me but the thought of staying kills me also

>>16893716
>We've only been dating a month and only hung out once or twice.
how is this dating

>>16893677

And if you're a coworker? Hell no I'm not interested. You're just making my job harder. Stop fucking staring at me. Stop leaving me your number on napkins or to-go boxes. Stop with the thirsty texts. I don't care that you think my hair is cool, or I've got a cool personality. Back off. Look at all the other dudes I can talk with normally and take note.

I'm friends with a ton of guys in my life, I don't hate men. I've had some good relationships, I've had some regrettable ones. But let me tell you straight, not one dude I've dated picked me up at work. So leave me the fuck alone.

If you don't want to be ogled or hit on stay out of male centric hobbies then you cunt.

>airsoft stuff
You do realize that's basically a manchild magnet? You should have expected this

Just accept your failure m8.

>>16893656
No I have time to detox, but I do want to check my level's before officially going.

This is why you should always have back up pee store away.

Don't love her anymore. And don't post frogs anymore.

Find a way to make it appear that the person she slept with was related to you, like a fake family tree. Then tell her that because of this you can't imagine banging her cause its like banging your cousin or uncle. Break up with her. Bang cousin.

You get over yourself you selfish pig. Love is not quantified by how many people you fuck while not together. Be grateful that she's put up with your shit and talk to her about how you feel if you ever cared about her at all

>>16893293
Male
0 days
Its easy

Not to quibble but you might be better off asking how long people have gone without sex, if that's what you mean. "Relationship" is a subjective word.

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23 years, 9 months
I'm an unlikable faggot.

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>>16893278
Stop talking to her, watch some depressing movies, listen to some music, and let the rejection soak in. You'll become numb to this girls rejection in no time at all. Trying to pursue it further or attempting to going back to being friends is futile.

>>16893278
Start cutting her out of your life. Dont cut ties as people will tell you.
Demote her to an acquaintance though. This works for me 99% of the time. Basically show her that she cant have all of that 'fun' with you because thats something you should be giving to your gf. Hang out with other friends. Meet new people. Stop going to her and wait for her to go to you. Act distance. When she realizes that she cant just keep the status quo she'll reconsider you.
Thats the point of the friend zone. Its not that she sees you as just a friend. Women look for comfort and you made her comfortable as a friend. She has nothing to gain from dating you if you give it to her already.

>>16893289
>>16893292
This advice is actually really interesting. I like it. I've done things like this before I confessed and she actually took more interest in me than her friends. So it might just work out now.

I'm listening to some music now, I already feel the rejection. Looks like I got a journey to fulfill. Thanks guys

>>16893226
>And, before you say ''Just don't tell people'', i really want to start over, i don't want people to be able to track me
Why would they?

>>16893353
It's more of a self-reassurement thing. I want to make myself forget it as much as everyone else, and i know the first place to start is eliminating such ''risks'' as much as i can.

>>16893369
Well I hate to break it to you but you're not as important as you think. Just move to a major city in the US, preferably NYC or LA and no one will care at all about your background, believe me.