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I'm currently learning a lot of my problems are down to myself not having self discipline and lacking will power.

How can I improve?

Pic related, it's the shit I look at then forget about the next day.

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So this girl I've been interested in wants me to go to a concert with her. Here's the list of people going:

>her older brother
>her sister
>dude who also wants to date the girl
>me

What do?

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>Had a toxic relationship, gf stopped caring about me
>Went to the point were she said "I don't care if we try to fix stuff or not"
>I decided to break up, did it.
>She went full mad, saying she "doesn't understand"
>Ex now tries to talk with me again, she feels like she's the victim.
>Says she misses me as a boyfriend, but more as a friend.
>She's treating me with love again

I even went (and I keep going) to therapy with a psychologist. What she said (the psychologist)
>She's a manipulator
>I have to cut all communication
>She wants what I offered to her, and she will not let me go because she fills some needs with me.

I see her on a daily basis (college, same classroom), even if I avoid visual contact she says hi or make an attempt of communication somehow, everyday. And I can't pretend like i'm a stone and just say nothing like she doesn't exist.

I still have feelings for her, and I love her, but I understand love isn't about possession, and I can't be with someone that doesn't want to be with me.

Today she texted me, and I replied normally, like any other friend, it seems she didn't liked my "neutral, cold" responses, so she started to post stuff like "oh I deserve true love" and that shit.

Any advice? So far i'm trying to be "neutral", I haven't posted anything in FB since we broke up, I haven't talked with her friends about that, I pretend we're friends, I don't talk shit about her, no offenses, nothing.

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How can you tell anorexica is something you really have? My SO and I were having a drink and he was asking me what vegetables I like, to make a long story short I explained to him that I have an aversion to the act of eating. The mush in your mouth, big plates are overwhelming and when I get full (which usually doesn't take much) I hate it. The feeling is, how I would define, gross. I've never thrown up to lose weight though.

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I need to get a girlfriend who I can tieup/restrain and fuck.

She needs to be physically average, I don't mind mental health problems but no potatoes.

I am white(mostly + jew), 6'2, not fat and mildly autistic. I have little social skills and limited interests.

How do I do this?

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So i accidentally dropped orange juice on my "friend's" laptop and now he is asking me to pay 1650 CAD for the repairs which include the entire laptop which he overpriced on me and the additional fee for the stupid overpriced keyboard he bought so he wouldnt have to use the laptop's cause of "gaming purposes"

Can i be taken into court and land 6 months in jail for accidentally spilling the substance which he neglected to clean after a substantial amount of time?

Some additional information is this; me and other people informed him about the rice container trick to remove the moisture from the computer after turning it off which he declined to try out. Then we informed him of someone who would fix the entire laptop for free and even clean up the inside of it. Which he has neglected to do for several days now and at this point i want to tell him to fuck off.

If i get prosecuted for spilling orange juice it would looks something like this

"Local man Anon gets jail time for accidentally spilling orange juice on friend's laptop"

Can something like this actually happen? first of all i know that i can get charged with mischief but it would fall into mischief under since the property lost does not exceed over $5000 in damage repairs but please do educate me on this matter. can i be safe in telling him to fuck off and never talk to me again or do i have to pay him off to avoid any sort of charge? my career path would be devastated if i got a criminal offense on my record so this is rather serious to me.

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Hey, I'm a freshman in college, and there's only one thing that can get me to near tard level rage. I love my dad, but whenever he is around me, he grabs onto my hair and shakes my head. It usually messes up my hair if I got a pony tail or something, but that's not really a big deal. He does it kind of playfully but it makes me more angry than anything I've ever felt before. I seriously dont know whats wrong with me. I'm a really calm and quiet person but I feel like screaming in rage when he does it. I feel like swatting his hand out the air or something but I never do.

I've asked him to stop but he said I shouldn't be mad and it's not a big deal. What the hell do I do?

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>Help Me 2 Girls
>Be me, it's 2 months ago
>I am friendly with girl, get drunk flirt
>No sex, no kiss, no nothing
>Not actually interested in girl, tell girl this
>Girl is mad, girl is crazy
>Girl demands explanation beyond no
>Girl stalks me, and refuses to understand reason
>Meet new girl, all is well
>Actually like new girl, new girl likes me
>Crazy bitch finds out
>Me and crazy bitch have a sit down against my better judgement, mutual friend put me up to it
>Crazy bitch is crazier
>new girl doesn't know

Long story short. I have a crazy, mediocre looking stalker. We never dated, but she constantly uses phrases like, "We can never go back." I tried being friends. I want to avoid her, but her bitch ass friend keeps inviting her to events. She follows me, tries to touch me, and other shit. New girl is 10/10, but I cant bring her around due to this dumb bitch.

>She would be in jail if the roles were reversed. fml

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I recently started dating a girl, and in 6 months she is going away in an erasmus semester to another country for 5 months. Do long distance relationships work? I know I´m thinking way too much in advance, but I´ve never been in this type of situation, and I don´t know what is my best course of action when that time comes. I know myself and I know that I will be worried sick most days if we stay together, wondering what she might be doing, but on the other hand I don´t really want a free pass for both during those months. Maybe it´s better to just breakup ? Could I be overreacting?

Does anyone here have any experience with this type of situation?

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i've known this girl for about 4 months now, we have usually talked on Whatsapp and we've met about 3 times ever since, she was always the one texting me and it was very obvious she liked me.

so in Friday, i texted her and she seemed upset, i asker her what's wrong until but she denied it, but it was so obvious there was something wrong. So i kept insisting, she said "you know i love you, that's why i can't tell you". Now then, i am a native spanish speaker so let's put this more to context, she used the word "amar" that's translated as "love", BUT unlike you people, we don't use it so casually, when someone says it that person either meant "love" as in falling in love with someone, or to family. And she's no family of mine so she obviously meant it in THAT way

of course, i didn't want to get in a relationship, not like this, i mean really? propossing on Whatsapp? so i avoided the whole thing altogether and texted something else. Next day, she asked me if i was angry because she didn't tell me, i answered something like "nah don't worry about it, it's fine really" and she was insinuating again, she texted "you're in my heart" or something like that, but i didn't really care, avoided again. And we didn't text each other until yesterday

everything seemed fine, but she seemed a bit bored, or dissapointed, idk. She sended some voice notes and by the way she was speaking everything seemed REALLY fine, and then i asked her something.

She didn't fucking answer, she saw my message and DIDN'T ANSWER. You know the blue double arrow? yeah THAT'S WHAT HAPPENED

I am not texting her until she texts me and when she does i'm going to confront her, but we have a meeting this friday with some other people, yet no word from her yet, if this continues i'll have to be the one to text first and i FOR SURE will confront her about it because this shit NEVER HAPPENED before and i'm not going to stand idle about it.

so i come asking for help, WHAT COULD HAVE HAPPENED?

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Do I move forward?

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I constantly come on here and see guys, most of which are probably underage (which is regardless of the point), asking how to either ask out a girl or how to get a girlfriend. So, basically, general thread for all of you kiss less virgins wanting to know how to catch your first fish, because we've all been there and know how confusing it is, and would still to this day probably change one thing or another about it.

First off:
>I want to ask girl/guy out, how do I do it?
You already said it, just do it, chances are the other person is an actual human being too and probably wouldn't mind going on a date with someone.
>But what if (s)he doesn't like me, I'm not attractive/fit/etc.
You're definitely not as bad as you think, and if you're pretty sure you are, just tone down your standards a little bit.
>How do I get out of the friendzone?
You don't, find someone else, it'll be fine, trust me, other people are attractive too.

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I'm in a drama production at my high school (I'm a senior), and at the end of the process the entire cast makes compliments for each other and they're all put into little books.
I wrote all of mine in 30 minutes before school and ended up being 10 minutes late to my first class, so none of my compliments were very personalized or thoughtful.
Today we all got the books, and my girlfriend kept asking me to point out which compliment I wrote for her, and I finally gave in and pointed it out to her. She was not very pleased.
How do i respond to somethings like this?

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2 girls I know is have a bunch of cuts on their wrists. Girl 1's cuts are more like scars and shaped like "X"s. Girl 2's cuts look almost identical this picture and are red. I'm going explain the situation for each girl individually so that there is as little confusion as possible.

Girl 1:
I've known her for about a year now and we're not close friends but has talked to me about her some of depression and her home situation(from what I can tell its not good) but she never really gets into it and either just walks away from me, changes the subject completely or tries to make a sarcastic joke about. I've tied asking her about her scars on multiple occasions but she this weird shut down shit so just dropped it. Then out of nowhere today she runs up to me and says I have no clue how got these I used to think they were dirt. Shes odd and I really don't know what to think of her at this point.

Girl 2:
I never really notice her cuts either before because she also usually wears hoodie but the other day she wore a t-shirt. I asked her to pass me something for the project we were working on in class and saw the cuts. I looked away and didn't say anything to her about it because I'm aware she has some sort of social anxiety and probably didn't want my dumbass to blurt "yo, what the fuck is on your arm?". She in 3 of my classes and sits by me in all of them but act relatively normal with a pretty up beat personality. I think she may have body image issues but I never really thought about it until now. I mean shes no super model but really who the fuck is. She also has some sort stutter/lisp but I don't think anyone gives her a hard time about.

I'm really not sure what to do to help or if I even should. I think that if I don't at least try to help though they'll both go off the deep end and I'll feel fucking guilty. I never cut before so I don't know what their felling and can only guess.

What do?

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How do non-normies get gfs?
>19 at junior college
>Recently become decently attractive after losing some weight lots of acne
>Can tell girls are interested, saying hi to me, asking for my name, general flirting
>Always stumble and never get anywhere with them because robot autism
>Dont have any form of social media
>Literally only ever talk to girls when im face to face with them
Basically, my question is just how do I do it? Do people still go on actual dates? I feel so out of touch with everyone on tinder and snapchat, I think i will be seen as a creep If I cold approach some girl asking her to go on a date. Fuck, it's like I know i'm good looking enough to get a gf, but i'm still lost.