I'm going to a weeaboo convention soon and I want to make new weaboo friends but how do I do that?
I have ok social skills with people i already know but I don't really know how to talk to strangers. how do i get them into a conversation with me? maybe get a qt grill
If they're wearing a costume, it'll be super easy. "I love your costume! I'm Anon. Nice to meet you."
If they're not, you're already sharing a common interest by being at a weeaboo convention, so that's an INSTANT conversation starter, for guy friends and grills alike.
Just go for it man. If they hate you, you never have to see them again. If they like you, you've made a new friend. It's really not a bad situation.
get numbers and bond over shared interests
super easy to do at cons
anon keep in mind that socialization depends largely on the context, at least if you're bad at it
what I mean is that at something like a convention, a different level of sociability is assumed as compared to the workplace, the dmv, etc. if someone doesn't want to talk, move on. no big deal. just be mindful that your environment encourages it, so there's no need to feel self conscious
tl;dr Being social at a convention is normal and by not doing it, you can seem even more strange than by initiating random conversation
Almost 3 months now.
Still trying to get over her.
I don't want to send this text but I feel compelled to...
>still trying
How? What are you doing?
>>16897874
Nothing...to be honest. I got a fuck buddy for a while but it didn't really help.
>>16897852
Who broke up with who
So my girlfriend really wants to travel and I just don't.
I think it would be a waste of money and time off work, making money. Needless to say, i'm keen to do other stuff, like movies, dinner etc etc, more intimate stuff.
I've tried talking to her about it, telling her I don't mind if she wants to go travel, but she got offended and has been shitty at me since, saying things like "I always wanted to go travel Europe with my partner, I can't believe you want to go. "
Now I was straight up with her about the whole travel business since the start of our relationship. And i've tried to give it a go, we went on a cruise together and it was ok.
Guess I don't know what to do now. Got any advice, /adv/?
Watch Taken with her
Oh boy, i'm just like you. I think your dilemma is kind of a "warning example" for me. I share your opinion that travelling abroad to foreign countries just for leisure is a huge waste of money. The only advice i can give you is to break up. When i meet a partner, i intend to make it clear from the start that i'm not the kind of guy who wants to go on "vacations". I'm all up for leisure time, but financially there is a limit to how much i consider it reasonable to spend on such things.
>>16897860
We've watched it, no effect.
>>16897862
Yeah I think a lot from it stems form the fact that shes younger then me and still lives with her parents.
But even laying it out straight up with it, she thinks im being selfish and feels like im holding her back. When im like, go do these things then, I dont have to be there holding your hand every single second of every single day...
I suspect my roommate has been smoking cigarettes in our room so I've been half intentionally eating food he really dislikes the smell of to get back at him. Is this petty? I haven't directly asked him if he smokes in here because I kind of feel bad
I'm half basing this off of him being a Chinese international student and hearing from literally every friend of mine who has had one that they don't get that its not okay to smoke indoors. Since I'm a poc as well I get that its annoying af to be generalized against
Still, there have been 3 times when I've come back from class or work and get hit with a smell incredibly similar to cigarettes. I don't and have never smoked, so I could be wrong, but I'd say 70% of the people I hang out with smoke them so I've encountered the smell a ton.
I indirectly brought it up the last time he asked me about the food by asking if he's been making food that has a very smoky odor to it, something that would make people cough, but he seemed puzzled.
Is this kind of petty of me? He has other food that I don't really like the smell of but I just deal with it instead of feigning absolute disgust.
oh
>>16897826
beta uprising
>>16898022
is this actually such a beta thing to do
hey guys, kind of wondering what people mean when they say 'move on' and stuff.
I don't know if I'm doing it right. I still love all my exes. I really hope they have nice lives.
Strangest of all, I still have a lot of love and affection for my first girlfriend, who was (and most likely is) a terrible, horrible human being, but I still love her and want the best for her.
When I get a new girlfriend, I just treat her like my first girlfriend, same girl, different name?
Weird? I know, but no girls have ever called me out?
Sometimes I wake up and I don't know where I am or who's in the bed, so I just spoon with the stranger and pretend it's my first gf
Doesnt feel healthy, mentally
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Your one drake ass nigga
>>16897811
It's just to forget shit that you're not comfortable with. When I moved to the US when I used to be 11 and I hated it! People treat me with disrespect and I wanted to move on.
>>16898520
Consider suicide.
We've been sexually active for a few weeks now. He only wants to have unprotected sex, he says because using condoms isn't the same. I understand that but I am only 20 and a student and I really do not want to risk anything.
He says openly he wants to get me pregnant, wants to give me his DNA (as he words it), and he's always asking if he can cum inside me.
I like him, but I'm really scared of listening to him one day and actually getting pregnant.
I can't tell if this is a fetish or??
>>16897765
You need to talk to him about it. That's pretty fucking weird.
Use female condoms. Male condoms suffocate your penis. It feels like shit. Its convenient but if hes that adamant about not having his dick suffocated just get tested and use birth control.
Uhhh.... I guess there IS an impregnation fetish... but uhhh... Yeah...
Maybe consider getting an IUD or Implant. Just be aware each comes with side effects (your first half year will probably be miserable), and that no contraceptive is 100% effective.
Depending on your income/country it could even be super cheap/free.
For the last two days I haven't responded to a single text or call from anyone I know. I am not mad at anyone or hiding I just don't feel like talking to anyone right now. Normally if I am stressed or even just busy I will tell people politely that I will talk to them when things calm down.
For some reason I have no interest in talking to anyone or responding to anything. I don't want to be mean to anyone and I know they care but I just feel like being alone and away for a while. Part of me wants to tell people this, but I don't want them to take it personally. I don't even know why I am doing it.
Should I worry about this? Does this mean anything? Have others experienced this before?
I do this randomly but it's because I gave asburgers try to fight it before u lose everyone like I did
>>16897716
You don't have to respond to anyone if you don't want to. Just because you have a phone doesn't mean you have to answer it when someone choose to send a message or call. Sometimes you just need time away from people.
I'm in a bit of a weird place with my girlfriend. I feel like she's only really pretending to be into the same shit that I'm into. Music, movies, hobbies, food, everything I enjoy she... I don't know, adopts the attitude of enjoying I guess. I guess it's kinda cute in a way, she's trying real hard to make sure we have common ground to build this relationship on, but it's annoying as fuck.
If we just had different interest, I would be more than fine with that. It's what I expected to be honest. It's gotten to the point that I don't mention what bands I'm into at the moment or what books I'm reading, because I know she'll wikipedia that shit and quote vague, general statements at me.
I've tried talking to her about it, told her that she really doesn't need to share all my interest, but she doesn't seem to have taken my words to heart. It's honestly gotten to the point that I'm considering breaking up with her.
Am I just being petty, or are my grievances legitimate?
>>16897713
Test her. Ask her for something she likes. Then shit on it. If she agrees then she's got no personality and I'd say dump her. Jesus I had a friend like that and it got to a point where they didn't have any boundaries. Idk how anyone can even stand dating someone like that. If I wanted an exact clone with myself I'd get a sex doll and tape a photo of myself to it.
Yeah i know just what you mean OP, i have a close friend who is very much like that, just not to the same extent. Honestly i don't know what i would do if my GF was acting like that, but i would probably consider breaking up.
I would be direct with her about it, let her know it's okay to not like the same things all the time.
> 5+ year relationship
> me, bf, bf's best friend have been talking about how cool it would be to travel somewhere cool together
> make plans to do so this summer
> suddenly bump it up to spring break
> my spring break doesn't match up with theirs
> asked bf if there was a reason the summer wouldn't have worked
> "idk i didn't ask best friend"
Am I really that bad to be around? What are some ways I can be more outgoing and less shy/awkward? I need to be more fun to be around so that I can come along next time.
another bump
Can't you still reschedule it for summer?
>>16897697
There's nothing wrong with you - your bf and his bff are just dicks. Jebus. No one cares if someone is shy/awkward, that's kind of cute in a girl anyways.
How do you approach a girl through normiebook?
I added this girl but didn't talk to her in a week.
>Hi, how you doing
If you dont receive an answer or she just doesnt try to work up from any of your attempts, then shes not interested.
Done.
He who hesitates has already lost
>>16897832
I'm still in the race tho, she is never online, I can say, "hey how are you doing, I never see you online", fixed..
my biological father and step father have both called me a faggot to my mother behind my back.
I'm currently 21 years old and have had a number of girlfriends that they've known about (various degrees of seriousness) since age 14, so what's the probable implication here? That my mannerisms are feminine?
Basically I don't care so much about their opinions of me, but because it makes me think this is how most people perceive me and that that will have a net negative impact on life.
>>16897687
If both of your fathers called you a faggot, then you probably are.
Be grateful because you have parents that will look down on you and probably let you know.
>>16897687
>called me a faggot
>had a number of girlfriends that they've knowm about
>what's the probable implication here?
That they both hang out on 4chan too much.
>>16897687
>my biological father and step father have both called me a faggot to my mother behind my back.
Your biological father and step father are pieces of shit.
>because it makes me think this is how most people perceive me and that that will have a net negative impact on life.
You live in a golden age, my friend. Unless you live in one of those bassackwards southern states no one gives a shit if your mannerisms are feminine.
I have a friend just like you and he pulls more tail than a fucking dog catcher.
You're fine, just distance yourself from pieces of shit and you'll feel better about yourself. Associate with people that lift you up, not bring you down.
Hey guys, I think I'll see a therapist soon but for now you're all I've got.
For many years I've sort of struggled with this part of my identity and I only just recently have been able to pinpoint my issue and the cause(s).
The problem is I don't think I'm manly enough, I'm not really that masculine, nor that "alpha" if you want to go there. I think this is because my dad, although present in my childhood, didn't really _raise_ me, we never really bonded except sometimes sharing an interest in old muscle cars. I've been a "mama's boy" from a young age and when my parents split when I was 12 I lived with my mom, only seeing my dad once a week at most for a few hours for dinner and sometimes a movie or something.
I'm almost 19 now and living with my mom because I'm attending a local college for 2 years before transferring to a university so I have no need to get my own apartment yet. My mom's had a few relationships with guys in the past 7 years but only just recently did she get in a really serious one, and she's talked to me about him moving in and possible marriage down the line. He's a nice guy, I have no real issues with him, I just have never had to deal with actual men in my life, in the household, or just being around them in general. And by men I mean those who fish, shoot guns, can cook and supply for their family, bullshit with a few beers, etc. I was into masculine things when I was a kid, I loved playing with guns, destruction and war like lots of boys, and my best friend was a big outdoorsy type, but sometime in adolescence I switched to being on the computer more and my mom was more than happy to enable me in my passive, unchallenging and pressure-less lifestyle.
I guess my question is, if I want to fix this, where do I even start? I know my mom’s boyfriend has mentioned taking me shooting, it’d be a first step I guess. Do I just start doing things with this man who is essentially just a nice stranger? Thanks in advance guys.
I think I know how you feel. My dad is a blue collar worker, ex-military, grew up on a farm, son of a carpenter, amazing shot, fishes hunts and everything. I never was very masculine but its something you can become.
>>16897742
same guy here.
for starters try to hang out with people, men, and do the manly things, if you show a good spirit and are eager to learn they wont mind if you are new to it. also, you dont have to do a whole bunch of manly hobbies, just select a few you enjoy and concentrate on those.
>>16897748
I focus on guns, mostly rifles and handguns, I collect and shoot them and i am a pretty good shot. Also, being assertive is a great quality to have. If you give in to people all the time it takes you back, real men are strong mentally and physically. I also lift weights occasionally and do sports. I got a state medal in track and that helps you out a lot.
How do I meet girls in college? It seems harder to do it especially now since I am no longer in a dorm.
Also if a girl and I make eye contact while passing each other and she looks back at me, does that mean she thought I was good looking or maybe like I was creeping her out or something? Idk these things.
I live alone in a 1 bedroom apartment and so I'm in a similar situation.
I meet girls at church. A nice, attractive Christian girl is a huge turn on for me. I guess, though, like, a club or other social group at school is the same concept if you're not a religious guy.
Also, IM sports can be a lot of fun AND you meet folks there.
As for your eye contact question, the answer is if she smiles and lingers. If she just kinda smiles and looks away, then it's a no go. But hell, always try man. Don't miss an opportunity to talk to a girl. Even if it doesn't work out, if you're not a total creep, you might at least get a nice conversation or a friend out of it. Hell, I heard someone the other day say "What's so bad about the Friendzone? It's hard as fuck to make friends at that age, and you wanna be my friend? That's rad."
Good luck.
Volunteer work is always a good way to meet people. Worst case scenario, you go out and do some good deeds that'll look good on a resume.
When doing an interview is it a good idea to say things like
>i know we as a younger generation are known as lazy, but i have good work ethica because...
Would it be a good idea to in a way put others down to bring myself down? Or is that just too weird?
Also general interview thread
Too weird and counte-rproductive.
Make ALL of your speech positive.
No, it makes it sound like you're blatantly pandering and brown nosing. It also makes you sound like you're bad-mouthing your peers, which isn't a positive thing. No one wants to hire someone who'll shit on others to make themselves look good.
Bahahaha no don't do that.
Well, I posted here not long ago asking for advice on how to give my virgin boyfriend a blowjob (I'm also a virgin, female though). I tried today and I was so bad that he told me to use my hands, and when that didn't work we eventually gave up and he just jacked off. I feel like shit now. How am I supposed to get better?
What went wrong?
for real though you're both virgins, it takes practice. Next time just focus on staying calm, ask him to tell you what feels good
>>16897562
play with the balls a little
>>16897577
At first he seemed to really enjoy the feeling but after a while of sucking and locking he just got silent. 15 minutes went by and I asked him if he was close, he said no, maybe you should use your hand and not your mouth, but that didn't work either because I didn't know how to handle the foreskin.