How do I motivate myself to get to work everyday? Money doesn't really motivate me, I value time more than I do money/stuff, thus why I miss so much work.
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Do somethibg you enjoy for work
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>be newly 25
>Girl I like is 19 almost 20
We've been friends for a few months, she knows I like her, and I think she likes me. I believe she doesn't want to be my girlfriend or even take a chance is because of my age.
I've never been in this situation. I'm curious.
How can I get her to ignore my age and possibly date me? We get along wonderfully but I think she's just a little intimidated by it, which is silly to me.
Also no I'm not a sperg in the slightest.
Pls /adv/ wat do?
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Shameless bump
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>>16896632
Probe and find out what the feels are. You "believe"? Find out for sure. I don't think the age thing is a big deal.
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>>16897028
Let's assume that it is.. then what?
Is it worth it to try and just warm up to her and form a more trusting relationship or just bail out altogether?
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How do I talk about my feelings? I've always been really bad at it, but I'm soon going to have to admit my feelings to girl.
Tbh I don't know how she's put up with my autism thus far.
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AYO BABY YOU WANT SUM FUK?
no don't do that. also don't be a mushy cunt.
"hey, I like your personality/face/wayyoudropthatdundada/taste in music/*hobby thing she's doing*, would you wanna go grab a coffee together/check out *band*/grab a drink at this cool but quiet bar/netflix and chill
don't get too into it anon. do not tell her that every time you see her your heart skips a beat. do not tell her that every time you look into her eyes all the stress melts away and you feel like the world is fine. do not tell her that when she smiles it's like a flock of self playing harps fly over head and you lose all your words in the urge to kiss her.
you say that shit later, maybe never. some girls are reallll turned off by that mushy shit but almost all girls are turned off by that kind of confession regardless of how much they'll say that shit is sweet. different in the moment.
I've done it man. take the advice. I lost a girl that has a permanent place in the back of my mind by being far too soft.
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>>16896660
Would something along the lines of "I really like and want to know if you feel the same way" be too mushy? I've already spent time with her, but I'm getting mixed signals and just want to know, and I don't really see any way of finding out without showing my hand.
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>>16896693
What's the context of how you know each other? Hard to give advice with little details.
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My girlfriend and I have been dating since September last year. Her exes (only her two) have pretty much caused problems the whole way and I put up with it. Both of her exes are like her best guy friends. We are both in highschool but she lives 30 mins away. I've gotten to the point where I can't deal with the shit they cause. And I want to know how to like get rid of them. But the problems is that she wants to keep hanging out with them and having contact with them. While we are dating! I found it rude she keeps contact w/ them when her and I are dating. And I've told her it makes me feel uneasy and uncomfortable. But she wants to keep seeing them. I feel like she doesn't care about how I feel. And I love her a lot I'm lucky to have her, so what should I do? Do I tell her to stop having contact with them or give her an ultamatium?.
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>>16896602
>And I love her a lot I'm lucky to have her
>I love a person who doesn't give a shit about me
>I am lucky she doesn't give a shit about me
Try getting some perspective. You can have this one free of charge.
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>>16896602
Ultimatum
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>>16896641
So its me or her exes?.. Wouldn't she think I'm controlling?
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How the fuck do you get a job?
In college, I was a working student. I worked in my campus' safety/security area for two and a half years and started doing menial shit like patrolling the campus. They promoted me pretty quickly to doing employee evaluations and managing the call center and then again to doing HR stuff like interviewing, scheduling, on-boarding and maintaining records, etc. I don't really want to work in security so I've been applying to HR and Administrative roles without luck. I graduated in Aug 2015 and have been looking since without luck.
Some recruiters have contacted me recently but they just wanted me in their systems. There was one person who reached out to me for an internal role but after I called her back she acted as if she hadn't heard of me, so that was a wash. I've been going to temp agencies for the last four months and none of them have gotten me any roles.
My roommate did the same thing I did, except he stayed on campus until December 2015. He's been doing the same stuff I mentioned except for an additional 4 months and apparently he found a position as a recruiter or some shit. He hasn't started yet afaik. Naturally I'm fucking jealous since we both have similar grades and the same minor.
Am I shooting myself in the foot by answering the questions about my race? I'm black so I figured if people wanted a diversity hire I'd be a good pick, but it could be working against me and I wouldn't know.
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yikes, what major?
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Did you quit your job without having one lined up?
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>>16896618
I didn't quit because I wanted to. I had to leave because you can only work that job if you're a student and living on campus.
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That's probably where I fucked up. I studied Linguistics expecting to go into forensics but i can't afford Grad School right now. I admit it's not an especially in demand BA unless I wanted to teach or to go into Speech pathology but it's the only thing that interested me
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How do I cut out my family? What kind of feels am I to expect?
Looking for advice from others that have gone through with it.
family members I'm cutting out:
>mother
>three sisters
>>their children & husbands
I have already cut my father out, but that was a lot easier as he had proved himself worthless from the get-go.
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By not talking to them anymore.
Other than that, everything depends on you personally/your situation.
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Dont cut out all family. You need a fall back plan somewhere. Who gonna get your ass if u end up in jail. Who gonna give you a place to sleep if you get framed and fired (dont tell me that wont happen because ive done that to someone) u think your friend is gonna have your back? You think your friend will have your back in 5 years? Thatd be a 5th of your life. Alot can cahnge.
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>>16896629
How black are you?
How come every single rapper in the "trap/drill" scene have a perfect hairline? Does being a trap nigga make you keep your hair?
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>>16896564
They go to the barbershop
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Haircuts can be addictive. Just thinking about it makes me want a fresh cut
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Yeah but they don't go bald at all
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How do I get an Asian gf and which Asian is best Asian? I dated a Filipino and after dating her and numerous other women i've realized Asian is masterrace for women. What's the cut-off income for mail order brides?
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Maybe you should try looking further than skin deep.
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>>16896573
it's not the skin, it's the culture and personalities. Very traditional and loyal.
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>>16896559
just be white and move to california
self-hating asian girls will flock to you in droves
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Hi. I should be getting ready for college but I can't get past highschool because I'm failing really hard and I can't study anymore.
Things keep getting worse and worse. I'm a third-worlder, ex-muslim and an autistic(great combo right?).
Year by year it only gets worse, I was turned to homeschooling because of mental health issues that affected learning capabilities, I have no friends, and I'm now extremely introverted, so deeply introverted that I have dangerously low levels of Vitamin D because of it and I can't walk properly. I'm a sociopath that can't get along with literally anyone. On the internet which is my only gateway to the world, I'm a social reject, a failure, i just can't .. people right.
Looking forward the situation isn't that nice because right now I should "hurry up and find a job" because I'm studying abroad in the gulf anyways. My country is so unbelievably shit, I would rather die than be forced to get back to it where I would just dream about what I could've been while probably dying of poverty.
I'm so depressed I can't do basic chores anymore, nothing is fun. The sexual frustration is incredible. There's nothing to do, no where to go, and I can't drink my sorrow away. I already tried killing myself 5 times, and failed every single one, my parents got deportation warnings twice because of the last two attempts and the third would get us booted.
.. What do I do? (not in crisis at the moment.)
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Have any of you purposefully ended your relationship with your family? (No, I'm not talking murder here.)
My family is toxic. I worry about not having family though, and am afraid I would feel like a shit-human if I went through with it.
I want to tell them what I think of them, but I don't know if explicitly saying, "I no longer want anything to do with you," is wise.
This will probably manifest in the form of a letter.
Any and all advice welcome. (I can tell 'my story' if need be.)
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>toxic
First of all: stop using buzzwords. If they're awful people they're awful people, if they're racist they're racist. All the word toxic serves to do is hide overreaction and make stuff sound worse than it is, while not at all being descriptive of the situation.
Second of all: Stop talking to them. If they try to invite you to sonething say you don't want to go. No need to be over dramatic about it. Just stop bending to their whims.
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Separate entirely and cut off forms of communication
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>>16897137
Stop telling me how to describe something you know nothing about.
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Pretty good video, OP.
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I like his brain...whoever he is.
I second Anon's sentiment...thanks a bundle.
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I'm not really sure if this is the right place to post this. Hopefully it won't look like bait.
Femanon here, I just found out that my ex slept with another woman before we ended our relationship about a month ago and has apparently begun to spread rumors about me having given him herpes, something I couldn't have possibly done as he was the first person I ever had sexual contact with, and if anything I would have contracted something from him.
I know this will sound childish and petty, but my group of friends suggested we spread rumors about him being a furry to get revenge on him. He's pretty fruity and socially awkward as is, a stoner degenerate that nearly became a NEET in our senior year of high school, and it wouldn't be a completely unbelievable lie. I don't think it would be that horrible of a rumor to spread in comparison to what he's said about me, and if it backfires we can always brand it as a joke. We were thinking of just making photo manips of him in a fursuit or spamming him with crap we find on FA. Should we go through with it?
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Grow the fuck up and walk away from this bull shit, you graduated high school already.
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This is going to be a relatively quick thread.
I'm autistic, severe anxiety, the meds help, but basically I have trouble expressing emotions and making facial expressions to match those emotions. Socialization is typically strange, and at times a painful experience.
With this said, I'm a cellist as well. There is one girl who I met who has continued being my friend despite my social short comings and general need for attention. I understand she has no romantic inclination towards me so far, but it would be a lie if I said I did not feel anything towards her. The first time I saw her, she had long hair and front cut bangs, a low waving dress-like skirt and a red shirt I believe. Something out a movie truly.
Is writing a symphony (yes, an entire symphony) for her "over board"? I wanted to capture our few years together in a beautiful piece. I've never written something as large as what I'm planning.
pic semi related
>tfw no carbon fiber cello
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>>16896476
>Autist in need of normans
Sorry, but this is a saxon board.
>Is writing a symphony (yes, an entire symphony) for her "over board"?
If you haven't already asked her out, then yes.
Actually, the problem isn't so much in writing the symphony, per se. The problem is hiding your feelings for long enough to write a symphony. Writing a symphony for your girlfriend is awesome. Writing a symphony for someone you're too scared to ask out is creepy.
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Chances are it would make her feel odd and alienate her.
On the bright side, it's an amazing footnote for a work of art.
Do it OP, nothing to lose.
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>>16896506
Thanks anon, see I don't know what "creepy" would be but its good to know now. Who knows, maybe if I shape up to be a person she is interested in I can tell her in the future.
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I'll make it about her but do it for myself. Footnote indeed anon. Thank you.
How do I move to somewhere like nyc or Miami from a shitty small town? I've never seen anyone here even visit Miami like Tampa is the farthest they get. It's like you're not allowed to touch one of the magical cities if you're from a small town unless you get really rich somehow which doesn't happen in small towns
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>>16896456
I live in NYC and i can't even find a fucking job to help my parents with the rent or myself with student loans, so I have to question your motives
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>>16896465
Want to produce music and live somewhere where there's no hillbillies
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>>16896456
>Find out how much everything costs in the city you are planning to move to
>get a job and try to save money
>save enough for all immediate expenses and a couple months rent/bills
>move there and then look for a new job
This is the safe way to do it. I know some people that just packed a bag and found some roommates without anything planned. Much more shit can go wrong with that approach though
I've been trying to get to know this girl I met at a debate tournament for the past couple months but it's been kind of weird. We'll have pretty good conversations about interesting stuff and then all of the sudden she'll
stop texting me. Then a month to
two months later I'll see her again at a debate tournament and she's super friendly and we talk and then later she'll text me and we'll start talking again. This has been an ongoing pattern for the past few months. It would be one thing if she weren't interested, but I see no indication of that because
1. If she weren't interested she wouldn't be the one to initiate conversations
2. Sometimes she'll say stupid shit just to make an effort to have a conversation. like one time she asked me about spirit week at my school which was fucking stupid question and an obvious effort to have a conversation
3. When we have conversations she's enthusiastic and gives thoughtful responses
4. Her responses make it seem like she cares. Like for example, one time we she told be her religious beliefs and I didn't respond for a few minutes and she started getting super self concious and asked me if I thought she was a freak
4. She's invited me to her church which is a weird thing to do if you're not interested in someone
So I'm not sure what the situation is. Maybe she's playing hard to get, but not texting someone for weeks at a time would be a retarded way to do that. What do you think is happening /adv/?
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>>16896449
She likes you, and how you make her feel, but after a couple weeks of not seeing you she will be texting some other dudes who actually see her. So then she doesn't need your attention anymore, you're chopped liver
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>>16896449
You're a debater, and it shows, you're too analytical, stop citing conversations as fact to a way she feels towards you. Nothing in human nature is that concrete.
When she stops texting you maybe push yourself past the uncomfortable point of resurrecting the conversation by initiating it yourself.
Inviting you to her church is not that odd of a thing. I've had a lot of invites to church from girls that I've taken knowing it was simply an invite to take part in their religion and just check it out.
I would say stop trying to read into her responses so much and don't build such a solid story of her from them.
And again initiate conversation with her more often.
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Ask her out in person. Maybe she just dosnt care about texting. I cant begin to tell you how little I care about texting and why its dumb. Next debate just say u think she is neato or something stupid and ask if she would like to meet in person.
Also if u want to get to know her go to her church and chat with her... fuck op how can u say u want to get to know her if she gives you the opportunity and u dont take it.