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>>16896223

wait an entire fucking year, then figure out how to get there. no point in thinking 1.5 years ahead mate.

>>16896214

probably.

sexy tats tho.

I googled it and every post said it was normal for it being in such a sensitive spot and my tattooist having to stretch my skin. Guy who did it got scared because as soon as the ink entered i started to welt up and bruise on the spot

>>16896179

>100% socially autistic

if you are really autistic you should be talking to your therapist / psychiatrist about this, not strangers on a taiwanese peanutbutter recipe sharing pictograph forum. you can also look for local groups of special needs people (particularly autistic) who meet up to bond over their legitimate issues.

>>16896179
>>16896210
that being said, if you arent actually autistic then stop calling yourself autistic. its like saying you have anxeity or depression so you cant do something. all these labels do when they dont actually apply to you (and even often when they do apply to you) is hold you back.

autistic people are capable of making friends. i would know, im actually friends with an autist.

as for making friends, you go to local events, preferrably ones run by hobby shops that interest you. lets pretend for instance that you like books. go to a book store and ask about any local book clubs or book events etc. better to ask at non-chain type stores, but whatever. same goes for the local library. if they dont have any, ask if you can start a book club and leave some flyers in the store. they might call the manager to make sure this is okay, but ultimately they will say something like 'as long as you buy those books here we'd love to help you'. and then afterwards you can go around look at books and talk to people in aisles that interest you. strike something up. and ask if you can trade numbers and talk more books. i did this with a stranger on the bus last week. now im coming over to his place for a bbq and hottubbing. fun stuff.

and if oyu find absolutely no hobby shops that cater to you, go to meetup.com and look for interest groups there. it might be vague, like a general geek group (i managed to find a lonefag a geek meet up in israel even) but you can go there and looks for people who are fine tuned towards your own interests.

as for 'meaningful' and 'long lasting' there is no recipe for that. the way you meet people doesn't actually guarantee anything. you meet. you hang out. if you click and it goes well, then there you go. nothing lasts forever so enjoy whats happening while its happening and you'll make it to an old age with no regrets.

Major in Languages.

Become an Ambassador to the Country who's language you like most.

Sit and do nothing while making 6 figures per year.

Anything with high value really. If you're from the US you should go to a university in a different country (makes no sense to move *after* being financially butt-raped). If you're not from the first world you'll need a bit more tactics.

>>16896141
Move to Sweden, or any other Western European country. They're very multicultural and are proud that so many people of so many nationalities and cultures and language all live in their country.

You'll never have to leave the country to experience other nationalities ever again.

Little weird to be plucking someone's brows mid-conversation.

>>16896133

how did you meet her?

>>16896161
Isn't it "a little weird" to be in a house alone living with a guy, without even plucking his eyebrows? I mean, wouldn't that be kind of a turn-off for your dating mates?

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I have this issue where I suspect cheating a lot, especially with my current girlfriend who is very pretty.

She's given me no reason to not trust her. She's awesome and we have a great time together. When we're apart though, my mind races. For some reason I just have this feeling of her cheating on me. She'll say she's with a friend and I imagine they're messing around. She'll send me unsolicited nudes and I wonder who else received them.

A lot of this stems from the fact that she's a freak. Never been in a relationship before, so I'm her first. We initially met as fuck buddies. She's brought up before an open relationship before but mostly for me. Also wants to do a threesome with another girl (my gf is bi).

She also mentioned once how she used to be a sex worker by having sugar daddies. She won't use those words, but that's what it is. Thinly veiled prostitution. My feelings about her cheating first started when she told me an old sugar daddy propositioned her. She said it'd be a good way to make some side cash. I said no and if you want to see other people we can break up. She works multiple jobs but has lazy work ethic so I know she wants to go back to it.

As I type this out I know the answer seems clear. Thing is these convos haven't happened for months. She has given me no reason to not trust her. I love her but these feelings are.. Annoying. And yes that's a good word for it. When I'm with her it's great, when I'm alone thinking about her it's great, when something tiny and insignificant happens it'll kick off the "cheating" thinking.

Really wish I could get this under control.

Unless you have hard evidence, or a real reason to suspect her, then most likely nothing's going on.

Paranoia is part of human nature, but try and distract yourself when you get these feelings. They're not good for you, and they won't be good for your relationship.

>>16896135


If I was you, and the thought of my girlfriend cheating on me freaked me out, I would be freaked out right now because my girlfriend is a prostitute and likes being passed around and treated like one. also dude wtf:

>Never been in a relationship before, so I'm her first.

You keep telling yourself that. More like 20th. If anything, dudes that just use her for sex count extra.

Get yourself a hobby or something, so you have a reason to excuse yourself if they ask you to hang out. Or just say you're busy with studying.

Alternatively, you could just be open with them, say you just want some alone time at the weekend. Good friends will understand.

That's how you make connections.
I want nothing more than to leave school, or work, or any other situation and just go be by myself. But thanks to social constructs I'm forced to go out for drinks, or parties or hanging out.

It's a few hours of your life that will drastically improve your social life, standing and connections. Stop being a pussy and bear with it, you'll thank yourself later.

>>16896124
I guess I could try, even though for some reason I find it extremely hard to refuse whenever they ask. I also don't want them to think I am being rude and dislike their company or something like that.

>>16896137
But they are not important people or anything, I am not making any connections with or through them. Every time time we go out I hardly ever talk and just tag along.

You're in college, all students are broke. Chances are there are 10,000 different events, concerts, and other time wasters that aren't school going on. Just ask her to one of those and when the time comes, push to go to her house, not yours.

>>16896086

ask her to do something free. most college peeps get their first dates to go with them to a campus party or a campus event.

for future dates you often do things like silly 'lets go on a picnic' shit.

but for the most part college dating is more akin to just 'hanging out'. Yes, some girls prefer to date guys with money, but you dont want to date these girls anyway, as unless you got the personality to back it up they will just use you for a few free meals then ditch.

for every girl that will only date a guy if he can afford to go out, there is a girl who just wants to hang out in the dorms and watch cheesy youtube videos (or what have you).

so ask her to a party. maybe coffee (you can spring for coffee anon).

Get a job

I was on Venlafaxine for about two and a half years, but had to discontinue it after I had a seizure while I was on it; what happened was, I was on the max dose of it and Wellbutrin, and I went off both of them for a week, before continuing them suddenly and at the full dose. This was a poor idea.

Anyway, keep on it for another week and the side-effects on your libido might go away; if it doesn't, talk to your psychiatrist about a med change if you find it really upsetting, or just deal with it if you can.

>>16896053
Ah, thanks, I think someone else from /adv/ told me to take it slow when I wanted to go off of it or it'd be not pleasant. That's really terrible what happened, I hope you're OK now. I'll make sure to remember it well.

I can deal with it since I don't get any kind of sexual urges so it's just whatever, I was just wondering if it's the meds or something unrelated, thanks a lot for answering me.

If he's really pissing you off, just distance yourself a little. You can still commute together, maybe just be a little quieter, make it clear you want some space.

Uh, explain yourself better. I have no idea what you're talking about but from what I gather you come to him with a problem or talking point or idea and he bounces a counter point off of you. You have no intelligent reply to send back and then end up feeling inferior because of it.
If I'm right, then you're getting pissy about having a normal conversation that's slightly aggressive on his end.
If I'm wrong, then explain yourself better. Because if you're in university and this is your best story telling ability then you better be in university in a third world country.

>>16896114
You're right - maybe It's just because I can't reply properly.

And this isn't my best story telling ability - you can blame it on my lack of speaking english properly.

Casual sex will most likely lead to you both having more serious feelings for one another again.

If you're both close, keep her as a friend, but don't do the casual sex thing, it'll only lead to feelings and the cycle will begin again. If you don't feel that close any more, then distance yourself gradually, and eventually cut yourself off from her.

>>16896044
I like and appreciate your opinion. Thank you.

>>16896027
>Hey so long story short.
>Left my gf for 6 months cuz she was hanging out with other people and I didn't feel important enough to her.

ok

>I was mean to her and a jerk.

no wonder why you werent important

>We both slept with people like 3 months ago

ok

>but now I just found out she fucked some guy like last week.

so?

>She says it was a mistake and I believe her.

why the fuck would you give a shit again??

>I just don't think things will ever be back to normal

what's "normal"? people going on about their lives?

>even though all I want to do is love her again.

WTF??

>We started hanging out last week (after she fucked this guy). And she says she felt used, and all she wants to be is loved.

by who? you???

>I just want your opinions on this, she just wants to start beings friends again and doesn't think we can be together again because we have different views on stuff.

then how the literal fuck do you come up with this love shit and muh jealousy?

>DO you guys think I would be dumb to try again with her?

yes i preety much am sure you would be that retarded cuck

>Should I just enjoy the casual sex as friends (she really liked our sex, and I did too)

ohh, so you CAN bang her!! good!! smash the shit out her cunt, m8

>...or should I just move on and not hurt myself or her anymore?

does sex hurt to you both? id take it doesnt coz you said you both like it, so no.

If you really like this girl, you don't have to cut her out of your life all together. Cutting down talking to her would probably be the best idea, but if you're the only one initiating conversation, she's not worth keeping around.

Most likely, things with this random guy will go sour (I mean, it's a random guy, what d'you expect?), so maybe just try and keep in contact so she's got a shoulder to cry on. Who knows, might lead to something more for you.

Well first off she never "tossed you aside." You "talked with her all the time and had good long conversations." I do that with a good 45% of the people I meet. What makes you special for it?

I'm calling b&. If you never asked her out, you have no reason to be this depressed unless you're well under the age of 16.

>>16896091
Never asked her out becuase im a virgin idiot who took way too long to make a move and lost his chance. And it was getting tossed aside what else would you call talking to me until she found a guy she really liked? Using me?

Should be "A fictional character"

Of course there isn't any return. Fictional characters aren't real.

>>16896036
I mean return to reality. I can't notice or like the personalities of real women because i'm infuated with a drawing

Do you want a legal way? Because there isn't one.

>>16896018
Sugar in the gas tank

>>16896018

Easy.

Leave a burning chunk of solid charcoal lighter on top of the back tires, near to the fuel tank.

>>16896000

is there a general seating area around where they are? if so, just go read a book and then transition into talking to them.

if not, simply take your dog and go for a little walk and be like 'oh hey, nice hammocks you got set up here?'

wait for their response. from there you do a casual but flirty 'they for everyone to use?

if they are REALLY into you they might even say 'sure, come take a seat with us!'

but they will likely just say 'yeah, help yourself' with the idea that you can come back later and use them. this is assuming they are in a more common area and not say, in their own backyard.

are you hot tho? post a pic

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>>16896007
>is there a general seating area around where they are?
Yes, but the two landscaper buys are sitting there.

>if not, simply take your dog and go for a little walk
My dog lives with my parents, and not with me.

Here's a drawing. How do I casually make my way over to the hammock?

Another little annoyance thrown into the mix: one of the landscapers now has a leaf blower going and it's super loud. I won't be able to have a conversation or they're probably gonna go inside soon.

>>16896031

you can wait it out with the landscapers. they might not be there long. the ladies might specifically be waiting for the landscapers to leave before they can 'really' enjoy.

theres no casual way about it. at best you can go down the path like you are going somewhere like the corner store, then on your way back just walk on up and talk about it. it'll be deliberate but a bit casual depending how you play it.

are you hot tho? be real, post a pic