Simple details,
He's my stepdads close friend, I'm gonna call him Mr.W.
Mr.W is about 23 roughly?
Went to pick stepdad up from work and Mr.W commented how hot I was
A year or two later my step dad and my mum married
Mr.W was there with his new but heavily pregnant girlfriend, we both go out to smoke.
He flirts, touching my leg and apparently his girlfriend is jealous of how he looks at me?
Fast forward a year, Mr?W send me his mobile number randomly.
Suddenly he is flirting non-stop sexually and in a general way.
Now it's a bit quieter texts me now and again with a small flirty message, his baby is 4 months now and he speaks about him.
My mum is good friends with Mr.W girlfriend and it's obvious the relationship isn't very good.
I always thought he was attractive, what do I do?
I have morals! I wouldn't let him cheat on her with me and I defo wouldnt wreck a family but there is feelings between us and i have got to the point where I want to see him and just chat to him when things are bad for me
I'm so stuck on what to do
Just ruin that family. It'll feel great, trust me.
>>16895013
>I have morals! I wouldn't let him cheat on her with me
Wanna bet on it?
>>16895013
Just remember by the 5th time you fuck him he'll be cheating on you and complaining to the new slut about what a bitch you are.
Relationship help thread....../RHT/
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ.....
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>>16894972
You've just copypasta'd the header from the "questions for the opposite gender" thread then reposted it with a different OP pic and some wierd title. Did you think you were te only persson here who has been on /adv/ more than once?
My sister has huge tits and I want to fuck her and she said we could but I don't know if I should. Please respond quickly my parents are out for the next 5 hours
>>16894971
G'day ausbro, you're up late with all this funposting
Do it and post pics
That's easy to figure out, just do the opposite of what the internet tells you.
Every single person I know I really don't care. Even family. I fake that I care. Also, birthdays, commemoration, holidays, conversation... Nothing makes sense. So I went into a psychologist. She said I don't have empathy. I can't fit in the society. Well, I can surelly fake it and live. But I will never be happy.
Really? I can't find happines? I mean, in movies and shit, love is always the answer. Building a family and et cetera. But for me this is retarded. I don't feel emotionally attracted to anyone. Only physically.
Can I be happy with only hobbies or... I don't even know. Help.
Do daytrading with someone else's money. Not like you care.
>>16895028
What?
We can't tell you what will make you happy because it's different for every person.
Go volunteer your time somewhere important. Make the happiness of others your priority. Whether you play with animals at the shelter or play dominoes with old people at an assisted living center, stop focusing on your own made up problems. Go get some perspective and quit boohooing.
Any of you guys ever bought a used car online?
I was talking with a private seller and this is what he told me:
The car is from year 2009, 90.000 Real Km. Engine is 2000 cm3 with 131 HP.
Full service history, everything was made only at OPEL garage.
The car is in perfect condition.
For the payment, we will use the shipping company for both our safety.
So after you give me your data and the delivery address the shipping company will send you the pre-contracts and after that you will deposit 50% from the total amount into the shipping company bank account. They will keep the money until you test and accept the car, and they will pay me only after you sign all the contracts and ownership transfer.
The price includes also the delivery so it won't be anything extra.
In order to begin the delivery you must give me this :
Name:
surname:
Town and country:
Zip Code:
Street and number:
Phone number:
I have doubts about this payment method, the seller is more than 2500km away (I've been looking in his country) do you think this is legit?
>>16894928
Sounds like a scam, to be honest.
I want to kill myself but IDK if I should stream it! Advice?
Don't kill yourself
This, but if you must, then of course stream it.
Make a razor wire noose, place it around your neck, secure it to a rafter or pipe. From there, superglue your hands to the sides of your head, and jump.
The wire will cut through your neck, and it will appear that you ripped your own head off.
>>16894924
Make sure you have a stable internet connection, at least 100kbs
I need you guys help to make me feel better. about 3 weeks ago my first ever gf who had BPD broke up with me. This happen after a week where i cut off contact with her because she said she was confused about her feelings about me and she kept thinking about some other dude she had something with right before she met me( it lasted like a week, it was nothing they didnt even had sex and he was the one who broke it off). We had been together for 3 months and it was going great( or so i thought). During those 3 months she told me that she had never felt this strong about someone and that i was really special yada yada all that shit. So after that week went by where we didnt talked she texted me saying she was sorry that she hurt me, i texted her back and said i still loved her and i was willing to forgive her. That same day she had an appointment with her theraphist. After the appointment she texted me back and said that she organized her ideias and that she realized that she didnt loved me anymore and didnt wanted to with me and that she didnt even find me attractive anymore and she couldnt even tell why. I got super confused and asked to met her in person so that we could talk, she refused and she said that she wasnt ready for a relantionship and just wanted a fuck buddy. We havent spoke since. Can someone give me ideias about what the fuck went through her mind? How do say you love someone and in the same day you stop loving said person? Is this her BPD work, i hear about the "splitting", but i dont think quite understand. Please someone help me understand i dont want her back i just want to know what the fuck hapenned.
Btw we are both 19 year olds. This was my first relantionship and it was her second´s. She was the one who aproached me and asked for my number.
Thanks in advance.
>>16894897
BPD or not, people do this.
Just sounds like a young girl who cant make up her mind. Maybe wants to fuck someone else.
Stick your dick in crazy. Always a learning experience.
Why do people think that therapy is some kind of panacea for your issues? I've been in therapy for years and I still feel like shit. I've tried to fix things and I've tried to improve, but here I am, still feeling like the miserable piece of shit I was at the start.
Why does nothing help?
It's not a quick fix, you just have to stick at it.
Therapy is a tool to help you adjust, not a cure. Persistence is key.
Therapy can help with many things, maybe even most. Enough, at lease, that it deserves its place as first in line when it comes to mental health issues.
But it is not a cure-all; you're right about that. Sometimes it needs to be used in combination with other treatments. Rarely is it outright useless, but that happens sometimes too.
If therapy hasn't worked after some years, then perhaps it's time to consider broadening your tactics. Have you considered adding a psychiatrist to your mental health team?
So I'm depressed and stuff, yadda yadda, whine whine.
BUT,
I'm to fucking scared to do anything about it. Despite knowing that the correct thing to do would be to go talk to someone about it, I'm just unable to make myself do so.
I just end up procastrinating and tell myself the lie that I'm fine.
And I really do know that I should 'just do it', but therein lies the problem that I can't. I just evade it to do it later, where I just evade it again. Rinse and repeat.
What logic can snap me out of this self destructive loop of pretending there's no problem?
What do you think is putting you off going? Admitting there might be a legitimate problem? Shyness about talking to a therapist? The idea that taking action might break you out of this cycle and force you into an adult lifestyle?
>>16894914
I am really not sure.
Maby just scared of taking off the blindfolds to see how far I've dug myself into this hole.
>>16894925
You have two choices OP. You can either choose to get help and improve your life or live in a self destructive loop. By procrastinating you're picking the latter. Get yourself sorted and feel better.
I've been with my boyfriend for 7, almost 8 months, things were fantastic in the beginning he was really sweet and nice but ever since Christmas he's slumped into another wave of depression (He's clinically depressed/suicidal, and on meds+therapy already). I try my hardest to make him feel a little better but it's starting to wear me down especially when he points out my flaws and gets constantly annoyed at me over the stupidest things (he got mad because I hit the ball into the goal on rocket league). He's starting to get immature, getting angry at me because I'm messaging my friends, I already know he's jealous because I have a lot of guy friends, but he's still in contact with his ex girlfriends and uses that against me. We haven't had sex in two months and I can't remember the last time we did something romantic. He apologies constantly for his behavior, tells me he loves me. I'm probably the world's biggest idiot for staying but I like taking care of people, that and I adore him completely. Is there anything I can do to snap him out of this mood/make our relationship better again?
>>16894876
Why is he depressed? You can talk to him about it and try to seek help. I can relate to your bf because I can have a short temper about trivial things ( and I get easily stressed, Which doesn't help) and sometimes I go a while without taking her out or doing things. I just scheduled my first visit with a therapist, maybe you should talk to him about doing the same.
You're not an idiot for sticking with someone you love, but you also aren't going to be able to fix him without his help.
Why's he depressed?
>feel only carnal desire for real women
>anime girls make my chest hurt
What do
>>16894874
Gensokyo is waiting for you in the other side of the door OP.
When it comes to learning how to deal with women and the pressures of sex, the best practice is to deal with women without those pressures. Get yourself some girl friends: women you're not interested in romantically, but genuinely enjoy hanging around with. As it happens, anime clubs are often good places to meet them.
U-u guise, I messed up.
So, I ride the train every day. Now I have to take an extra bag every now and again aside from the one I always have with me.
Last week I left one bag on the train. No biggy, they found it and I got it the next day.
I forgot the bag again today.
Making a mistake once is ok, but twice? In such a short time?
I could probably get the it back tomorrow at the lost property office but I'm too scared to go there again. Even though the guy was really nice..
Also, how do I stop being so clumsy and forgetful?
just go there. he might not even remember you.
easiest way is to keep the things you need to remember in sight or even touch them.
>>16894870
>I could probably get the it back tomorrow at the lost property office but I'm too scared to go there again
Are you friggin insane? You are human. This can happen to anyone.
>Also, how do I stop being so clumsy and forgetful?
Stop fucking worrying so much and relax, then you'll to get a healthy sleeping habits. If you sleep well, you'll get rid of your problems.
>>16894870
Just go in and get it. Laugh about your stupidity with him if he recognizes you. Remember the next time you fucking leave your stuff in public you might not be so lucky, so keep it with you.
I want to save up some money for the next 6 months and work somewhere. However, I don't want some shitty minimum wage job where I'm just idling and doing boring stuff.
I don't mind working a job that's a bit shitty or tough. The only thing that comes to mind is either waitering or construction, but I'm trying to look for other options as well, does anyone have any? PS: Is it hard to find a full time job as a waiter?
>>16894817
Apply to hospitals for janitor gigs. I only have a g.e.d., shit work experience but I got on there. Depending in what shift and day I work, I can make upwards to 21.75 an hour (WA state) normal days I make 17.75. Work is easy, every one is pretty chill.
Thanks for the reply, will consider it. Anyone else?
Dear /adv/, I'm sure you get these threads all the time but I guess I just wanted to confirm what I am doing and if you could give me tips.
Monday, I broke up with my girlfriend and we almost had a year. Currently she is in Asia for her exchange semester and breaking up through Skype was the only possible, normal, but shit, way.
We had small arguments that apparently could not be solved with our differences. I feel pretty shit today but I have an exam coming up on Monday that i need to pass.
Some things that I would like advice on:
- How to make the best of my studying for my exam now?
- In my mindset, i keep myself busy with work, friends, my master thesis and regular stuff that i do. Taking walks, reading, etc.
- I already booked my ticket to visit her in May. I'm not sure yet whether to go or not.
- Any general advice, perhaps?
Thanks for your time.
>>16894800
Well if it isn't somehow obvious, you should definitely NOT visit her in May. See what money you can salvage from your ticket. visiting her when you're on the path to moving on is only going to fuck you up.
>>16894831
Thanks. The ticket is booked and somehow i feel like i should go to Asia but have no contact at all, so just to spend 9 days on my own there.. I'm not sure about that. Could get bad if i would be in 'her' country and i keep thinking about things.
>>16894837
Where in Asia?
hi /adv/ so long story short i saved up about 7k that i can use to make more money. But i dont know what to do with it. Any tips or advice in using 7k to make me more money?
looking for legit ways or safe options to use money to make more money.
I feel like this is a joke, but perhaps stock exchange? That's at least better than using a bank, if you know what you're doing. Job training and schooling also become more money. Investment in your health becomes more money.
>>16894795
7k is a pittance FYI. Even investing it all the best you could do is like an extra $200 a year, and that's coming the risk of not being able to touch your own money in emergencies.
You could also use it as capital to start your own business, but you'd need business skills to start off with.
So yeah, my advice is just keep like 5k liquid and start buying up index funds with rest. I think now is a good time to start out actually. Come over to /biz/ and check /rgt/ if you're American.
Plan to keep putting money away and buy more funds during market down turns.